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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does rough sex mean? I don’t know how often I’ve been asked If I’m into it but to be honest I don’t know what the general consensus as to what rough means is. One persons idea might be very very different to another’s. Any explainers?

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By *s24u!Couple
over a year ago

Limerick

I suppose it is more raw fuckin than making sweet love. Then throw in a little soft BDSM as required

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I think varies from person to person. It generally tends to vary too from mild to extreme so best to have and honest conversation about boundaries before. For some its and matter of hair pulling and hard penetration and others can go towards being thrown down and held while being roughly penetrated. This may also involve some spanking, biting and slapping. As I said it's subjective so disguss it first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that needs to be determined between u and ur meet. Have a conversation about likes/dislikes boundaries. What one person might like another may find extreme x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boundaries and communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suppose it is more raw fuckin than making sweet love. Then throw in a little soft BDSM as required "

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

yeah, I dunno, I know what passionate means though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a conversation you need to have with your meet before you ever meet.. not here petal x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m happy enough to deal with the question myself when asked, I’m just curious in general as to what people consider rough as meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A conversation or two beforehand is definitely required as is an agreed and totally understood safe word. For example, it's gonna be a rough day today and that just means windy and wet: ya certainly don't want to be meeting anyone windy!

Or, maybe you do. There's all sorts about. And I don't mean the sweets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rough for means hard spanking as in where he leaves very red hand marks. Holding me down. Fucking me really hard. It generally means I am feeling some sort of pain but in a good way.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Interesting topic OP

A female friend of mine once described it as being thrown around like a ragdoll I like that description, as it's quite evocative, but obviously 'rough sex' is a matter of perspective and won't mean the same for all.

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By *laveishMan
over a year ago

kildare

Up against a pebble dashed wall. It won’t get much rougher than that !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

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What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That’s the thing, everyone’s idea is different and I would think it’s better to be cautious as “rough” is a concept that is easier to dial up than try to dial down.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go at her like a days work (unless you work for the council) then you just take Tae 50 times a day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic? "

That’s way too rough!

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"That’s the thing, everyone’s idea is different and I would think it’s better to be cautious as “rough” is a concept that is easier to dial up than try to dial down. "

It's a question I've had on fab recently in relation to timing. Does someone prefer to be"thrown around like a rag doll" as soon as they meet or is it about"dialing up" as the meet progresses?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic?

That’s way too rough! "

Well obviously after establishing hard limits and discussing it in depth....

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic?

That’s way too rough!

Well obviously after establishing hard limits and discussing it in depth...."

Obvs! Like is one twang enough or should you go for both sides? *nods sagely*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic?

That’s way too rough!

Well obviously after establishing hard limits and discussing it in depth....

Obvs! Like is one twang enough or should you go for both sides? *nods sagely*"

Does consent for knicker twanging imply a bra snap is ok.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does rough sex mean? I don’t know how often I’ve been asked If I’m into it but to be honest I don’t know what the general consensus as to what rough means is. One persons idea might be very very different to another’s. Any explainers?"

Depends on the person I would say. One persons rough is another's soft.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"What does rough sex mean? I don’t know how often I’ve been asked If I’m into it but to be honest I don’t know what the general consensus as to what rough means is. One persons idea might be very very different to another’s. Any explainers?

Depends on the person I would say. One persons rough is another's soft. "

Yup it's different from person to person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand it’s different from person to person I’m just curious as to everyone’s personal definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand it’s different from person to person I’m just curious as to everyone’s personal definition."

Its not the easist thing to define...

I was trying to think of how to phrase it.

Best I could come up with was anything physical interaction suring sex that I felt I would need to be sure was ok to do before hand... so not kissing but yes for biting.. not for holding hamds yes for grabbing their wrists... no for holding their head yes for hair pulling etc....

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I think my idea of rough sex would be alot tamer than others... such a broad range I guess.

What... Like twanging someone's knicker elastic?

That’s way too rough!

Well obviously after establishing hard limits and discussing it in depth....

Obvs! Like is one twang enough or should you go for both sides? *nods sagely*

Does consent for knicker twanging imply a bra snap is ok....."

Only if you want a wedgie in return.

Consent is a minefield in itself. I've had a couple of interesting conversations on that topic recently with non-fabbers following some recent cases in the news, that may set precedents that will affect those who are a bit 'economical with the truth' on Fab. But that's a topic for a different day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand it’s different from person to person I’m just curious as to everyone’s personal definition."

So hard to define, for example we know people who would say a hard fuck, some face slapping and a few slaps on the ass as rough but would also know people who consider bruises and bleeding after a session as rough sex. It comes down to the person and their limits at the end of the day. Our own definition involves red asses, bruising, choking, hard fucking as well numerous other things until dee is a Blisses out puddle

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

biting isnt rough to me, either is hair pulling, holding someone against the wall.

Rough stuff is slapping her face as she gasps for air after you pulled her throat off your cock.

but for most guys it just means they shove their little willy in and out of you as fast as they can and limp wrist slap your ass, so they can feel like a porn star.

And for some guys its basically treating you like shit, and excusing it as bdsm/rough stuff.

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