FabSwingers.com forum: Amusing agony aunt letter

By *Belfast_Fella OP Man
over a year ago

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From today's The Sun:

"DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife and I have been swinging for years, joining like-minded couples who go for the same kind of fun. It was great?.?.?.?until we ran into our daughter and our son-in-law at a swingers’ party.

I’m 51 and my wife is 53. We are proud of our three fantastic children — two sons in their twenties and a beautiful daughter who is 30 and married.

Last month, we went to another swingers’ party, as we have many times in the past.

We went to the kitchen and kicked off with some drinks with some people we already knew.

Then we moved to the lounge, where some others were flirting, joking and getting relaxed.

It was the dress I noticed first. I thought: “That’s just like the dress our daughter wore when we saw her last week.”

She and her husband had treated themselves to a well-earned night out to celebrate their third wedding anniversary.

We live just around the corner and they had dropped in on their way into town. It took me a moment or two to realise it was her.

She was there with her husband, at ease with her hand on another man’s leg. I told my wife we should leave but then my daughter looked up and saw us.

I will never forget the expression of shock and dismay on her face. We left straight away and have never been back to that place. It has ruined our relationship with them both.

We used to meet up for a drink or a meal at weekends but now our daughter won’t take our calls. It has hit my wife especially hard, as they had a very close relationship.

We haven’t tried going direct to their door, as we just couldn’t cope if they turned us away. I am totally stuck as to what to do next.

It has completely ruined our relationship with them"

(Wait for Deidre's first line of her reply!)

DEIDRE SAYS: That was very bad luck. Your daughter may have picked up on your taste for swinging – kids are very sensitive to any clues – but it is not a side of life any of you want to share with the other generation.

She probably feels horribly embarrassed. What of her husband? Could you get in touch for a drink and a chat, man to man? Say you will never refer to that night if that is what your daughter would prefer.

Given your interests in common, she should know she is not being judged – but she is perhaps worried you might see her differently now.

I am sure she is missing both you and your wife and I feel sure you will soon see her again. The next time you meet may feel awkward at first, but she will soon see nothing has changed.

She is still your little girl but also an adult who has her own life. One day you all may even laugh about this."

Very bad luck indeed, no shit Sherlock! But maybe they will all laugh one day...