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Ladies wear lingerie but what do men wear???

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By *he Gent 2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

I’ve been asking my lady to wear lingerie and she point blank refuses to - (she’s not on Fab and not very sexual). She counters with the argument why should she have to make the effort and why don’t I wear something instead.

When I ask what she just kills the conversation. I’m open to it but baffled and lost too.

So does anyone know or have ideas about what a bloke should do to dress up in bed for the ladies (and not in a CD/TV way - not my scene And no disrespect to those that do)???

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville

Go onto lovehoney or eBay and search for kinky men's clubwear.

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By *he Gent 2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

That could be dangerous as I’ve just been paid lol. Worth a shot I suppose. Do you ask your men to dress in any particular way?

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

A smile is sufficient

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By *he Gent 2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

Haha I wish it was that simple. I’ve a smashing smirk lol

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Socks generally go down a treat

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Depends on who you are dressing for. If you're dressing for your partner try find out what she likes. Most of the time tight white well fitting jocks will do it. You could buy her a small piece of lingerie to start with . Nothing OTT though.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

It honestly sounds like she doesn't feel comfortable to wear it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think instead of asking her to dress for your gratification that you should try see how you can please her.

Sometimes little gestures lead to the greatest pleasures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Socks generally go down a treat"

Bahahaha.. Very true

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By *lippery-when-wet-180Woman
over a year ago

South Dub

A uniform

Garda, army, navy, fireman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Buy her an apron and rubber gloves. If shes not into much fun and many arent you might as well get her cleaning.

In fact, buy them for each of you. Who knows, sha_ed time cleaning should bring you closer. Make sure the bath is on if you have one and then when cleaning finished suggest ye might as well share a bath/shower together. Put on the music and light a few candles, produce the bubbly and Bo

b's your uncle!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I am ten thousand per cent certain that she doesn't actually want you to dress up - she's just making a point. Sounds like she feels like you're not making enough effort and I guarantee you she doesn't mean in bed. Something else going on here OP, lingerie isn't gonna resolve this.

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By *he Gent 2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

Let’s put it this way - I’m on Fab for a reason. It can’t be ten thousand percent all my fault surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not bring her for a night away in a nice hotel. Go for dinner and a few drinks to relax. Maybe buy a vibrator online and when you are back in the room use it on her and spoil her rather than asking her to wear lingerie. Make her feel sexy and then she will explore herself and want to do it..

Maybe I'm talking horseshite

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By *he Gent 2018 OP   Man
over a year ago

Cork

So maybe I haven’t or can’t explain the whole situation properly as it’s easy to make assumptions right or wrong on either party. So let’s just hold to the topic of what can a guy wear for a lady in the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So maybe I haven’t or can’t explain the whole situation properly as it’s easy to make assumptions right or wrong on either party. So let’s just hold to the topic of what can a guy wear for a lady in the bedroom"

Smooth up and down, smell nice, a big smile and... Striptease! Believe me or not but this worked for years even when I was pregnant or absolutely zombie after 12 or 14 hrs in the office working all week on the project. Try it! And Good Luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been asking my lady to wear lingerie and she point blank refuses to - (she’s not on Fab and not very sexual). She counters with the argument why should she have to make the effort and why don’t I wear something instead.

When I ask what she just kills the conversation. I’m open to it but baffled and lost too.

So does anyone know or have ideas about what a bloke should do to dress up in bed for the ladies (and not in a CD/TV way - not my scene And no disrespect to those that do)???"

I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

cuffs from a shirt with cufflinks, a little dickybow, nice pair of suspender socks.

It lets her know you're down for some business.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

If she's a fan of The Red Hot Chilli Peppers, then just wearing a sock on it will give her a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Latex is pretty amazing and with oil can enhance the experience, would suggest make sure it has a sheath. leather and chains can also be appealing. But all depends what she in into- and only you can answer that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wear a hat, nothing more, nothing less.

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By *thena400Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Let’s put it this way - I’m on Fab for a reason. It can’t be ten thousand percent all my fault surely "

It could still be somewhat your fault...but I agree with others that there is nothing ‘sexy’ for men to wear with women. Women aren’t always taught to develop kinky fantasies that revolve around men’s clothing. That said, if she actually wants you to make an effort sexually, ask her what she wants from you. Maybe it’s really just more foreplay!

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"That could be dangerous as I’ve just been paid lol. Worth a shot I suppose. Do you ask your men to dress in any particular way?"

I don't have any men nor want any lol. I've found confidence in your body can be the best thing to wear for women.

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By *he one and only Mr GreyMan
over a year ago

cork

Just be careful lol

I took my ex away for a weekend away and had a male g-string on when we went back to the bedroom, she told me take it off as it was a major turn off.. you just can’t win.. but yes I still got my bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been asking my lady to wear lingerie and she point blank refuses to - (she’s not on Fab and not very sexual). She counters with the argument why should she have to make the effort and why don’t I wear something instead.

When I ask what she just kills the conversation. I’m open to it but baffled and lost too.

So does anyone know or have ideas about what a bloke should do to dress up in bed for the ladies (and not in a CD/TV way - not my scene And no disrespect to those that do)???

I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out"

Seriously?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been asking my lady to wear lingerie and she point blank refuses to - (she’s not on Fab and not very sexual). She counters with the argument why should she have to make the effort and why don’t I wear something instead.

When I ask what she just kills the conversation. I’m open to it but baffled and lost too.

So does anyone know or have ideas about what a bloke should do to dress up in bed for the ladies (and not in a CD/TV way - not my scene And no disrespect to those that do)???

I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out

Seriously? "

Seriously!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been asking my lady to wear lingerie and she point blank refuses to - (she’s not on Fab and not very sexual). She counters with the argument why should she have to make the effort and why don’t I wear something instead.

When I ask what she just kills the conversation. I’m open to it but baffled and lost too.

So does anyone know or have ideas about what a bloke should do to dress up in bed for the ladies (and not in a CD/TV way - not my scene And no disrespect to those that do)???

I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out

Seriously?

Seriously! "

Oh I actually spat my coffee out when I read that and theught Maybe he wanted to re-enact the spider man porn parody"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out

Seriously?

Seriously!

Oh I actually spat my coffee out when I read that and theught Maybe he wanted to re-enact the spider man porn parody" "

He was just utterly clueless, poor lad. He had the last laugh though, he does pretty well as a cosplayer now as far as I'm aware!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once ghosted a guy (bad I know) but when I had to explain sexy lingerie to him and he offe_ed to wear his Spider-Man outfit for me I just clocked out

Seriously?

Seriously!

Oh I actually spat my coffee out when I read that and theught Maybe he wanted to re-enact the spider man porn parody"

He was just utterly clueless, poor lad. He had the last laugh though, he does pretty well as a cosplayer now as far as I'm aware!"

Every cloud has a sliver lining or a web lining in this case I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tempt her...

Tease her...

Make her feel special, beautiful and sexy.

Arrange a sex night

Get the house to yourselves for the night

Dont tell her whats going to happen but leave her clues via notes or a text message

Leave a sexy outfit wrapped on the bed beside her favourite dress

You dress in your suit

Go out to dinner

Flirt, tease, a few glasses of wine

Go home and put music on, a bit of dancing

Make it special for both her and you

Have a "date" night once a month

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By *eliciouslyWoman
over a year ago

Mallow

A nice white and tight pair of boxers... Mmmmm

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Lingerie can be cheap and nasty and beautiful and irresistible..

Make sure it's the latter.

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

or

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