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"Is real life dating really tough? I clearly haven’t dated in forever but speaking to a single friend (who is simply amazing, beautiful, accomplished, great fun, the whole package) it just seems to be really hard. I understand lads on here rightly or wrongly producing dick pix and suggesting all sorts from the outset but this seems to happen in real life dating and it just seems bizarre to me. And nobody seems to want commitment. I’d be really interested in hearing what it’s like out there in the wild!" I have tried couple of online dating sites and the first message or do it's grand than it's just like here, want to exchange numbers and than get the dick pic. Rejoined tinder this week I've matched with 4 guys - all looking for casual fun. When go out at night people don't mix anymore everyone to busy on their phones. Was out in letterkenny and Derry a few weeks alone and purposely left phone in bag not one guy or gal approached. So I think the whole dating scene has changed. | |||
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"Yes stephinboots i agree with you people dont mix anymore when out we r all too busy on our phones personally i think phones should be taken off people when they go into a resturant or pub then people would be forced to chat to each other gone are the days when you used to go to a disco and spend all nite chatting to people in the hope that you would click with someone before the slow songs came on near the end of the nite the dating game is impossible lol" Bring back the slow set  | |||
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"Yes stephinboots i agree with you people dont mix anymore when out we r all too busy on our phones personally i think phones should be taken off people when they go into a resturant or pub then people would be forced to chat to each other gone are the days when you used to go to a disco and spend all nite chatting to people in the hope that you would click with someone before the slow songs came on near the end of the nite the dating game is impossible lol Bring back the slow set "Hell yeah  | |||
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"God I lived for the slow set! Loved going to clubs. The night started in the pub checking out who was out, then on to the club, bit more scoping to see who had turned in, lots of chatting and having the craic and hoping to hell the right guy made a move and then the delicious closeness of the slow set culminating in serious smooching and on to some dark corner to continue!!! Best nights ever!!" Oh smooching to a slow set mmm | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here?" As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into!" Don't bother. Even though most guys say they would date someone from here if they clicked I think it's bullshit but like the guys who post about bbws fine to shag but not dating material | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into!" Does she have hobbies and interests? They can be used to make connetions..... | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Don't bother. Even though most guys say they would date someone from here if they clicked I think it's bullshit but like the guys who post about bbws fine to shag but not dating material " Maybe not for you, people meet and end up married from here. I get you have some awful tomes on here but thats not everyones experience | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Does she have hobbies and interests? They can be used to make connetions....." Yes and yes and still same outcome... | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Don't bother. Even though most guys say they would date someone from here if they clicked I think it's bullshit but like the guys who post about bbws fine to shag but not dating material Maybe not for you, people meet and end up married from here. I get you have some awful tomes on here but thats not everyones experience" Ah don't worry I know some people have met here and are happy out. I'm just been my crank disillusioned self  | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Does she have hobbies and interests? They can be used to make connetions..... Yes and yes and still same outcome..." Jesus dick pics at tag rugby? | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Does she have hobbies and interests? They can be used to make connetions..... Yes and yes and still same outcome..." I have friends that are single and lovely women lots going for them. Plenty of hobbies and interests and same outcome. It's like oh let's just not pay you much attention in case something better or prettier comes along. Watched one friend fleet through date after date and still single but than she's 30 and is mad to settle down before she gets old and is left on the shelf | |||
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"Anything involving a screen is going to scew how people behave so dating apps are not the way to go if you dont want explicit behaviour. Fab might be better because at least because its somewhat expected. There are better ways to meet people than apps or bars... She might find someone worth dating on here? As good a chance as any but then I’d have to tell her about here and that’s not a conversation I want to get into! Does she have hobbies and interests? They can be used to make connetions..... Yes and yes and still same outcome... Jesus dick pics at tag rugby? " Not quite but she wants to a relationship, the lads want sex | |||
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"I find it hard due to a combo of reasons, phones obviously play a bad part, or heard someone describe it as (un)social media" Listened to a podcast recently and this was discussed. For example at concerts everyone is so busy recording it on their phone they are not actually taking in the moment | |||
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"I find it hard due to a combo of reasons, phones obviously play a bad part, or heard someone describe it as (un)social media Listened to a podcast recently and this was discussed. For example at concerts everyone is so busy recording it on their phone they are not actually taking in the moment " Your idea of putting the phone away is a very good one. Something I need to try and do, maybe one day a week detox. Need to be more confident and social too so I'm out of my comfort zone | |||
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"I find it hard due to a combo of reasons, phones obviously play a bad part, or heard someone describe it as (un)social media Listened to a podcast recently and this was discussed. For example at concerts everyone is so busy recording it on their phone they are not actually taking in the moment " Some gigs are bringing in a no phone policy... you get a bag to put your phone in, it’s sealed and given back to you. It’s unsealed in the way out. Works brilliantly | |||
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"I find it hard due to a combo of reasons, phones obviously play a bad part, or heard someone describe it as (un)social media Listened to a podcast recently and this was discussed. For example at concerts everyone is so busy recording it on their phone they are not actually taking in the moment Your idea of putting the phone away is a very good one. Something I need to try and do, maybe one day a week detox. Need to be more confident and social too so I'm out of my comfort zone " I love live music and the night I was in Derry the band I went to see were brill. Over 2 hrs of music and I enjoyed every bit of it. Dont go out much but I'm trying to be more social and leave the phone away | |||
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"Is real life dating really tough? I clearly haven’t dated in forever but speaking to a single friend (who is simply amazing, beautiful, accomplished, great fun, the whole package) it just seems to be really hard. I understand lads on here rightly or wrongly producing dick pix and suggesting all sorts from the outset but this seems to happen in real life dating and it just seems bizarre to me. And nobody seems to want commitment. I’d be really interested in hearing what it’s like out there in the wild! I have tried couple of online dating sites and the first message or do it's grand than it's just like here, want to exchange numbers and than get the dick pic. Rejoined tinder this week I've matched with 4 guys - all looking for casual fun. When go out at night people don't mix anymore everyone to busy on their phones. Was out in letterkenny and Derry a few weeks alone and purposely left phone in bag not one guy or gal approached. So I think the whole dating scene has changed. " you lucky tho..i had join for few dating site couple yrs.. almost get 20+ message from fake profile..in dating site just so many fake profile and scammed..that why i decided join fab at least can meet more real person than dating site.. | |||
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"Dont go out much but I'm trying to be more social and leave the phone away " That's me summed up in a few words really  | |||
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"Is real life dating really tough? I clearly haven’t dated in forever but speaking to a single friend (who is simply amazing, beautiful, accomplished, great fun, the whole package) it just seems to be really hard. I understand lads on here rightly or wrongly producing dick pix and suggesting all sorts from the outset but this seems to happen in real life dating and it just seems bizarre to me. And nobody seems to want commitment. I’d be really interested in hearing what it’s like out there in the wild!" Give her my email and I'll show her what dating should be, no dick pics and holding hands stuff | |||
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"It's no secret that I'd like to be in a relationship and honestly, I'm finding it difficult to find guys that want the same (that I'm attracted to and connect with). I do findvas I get older though there are less and less places to meet anyone. Throw a party and ask everyone to bring one single friend with them. "Definitely agree with that as you get older but yet go onto any of the dating apps loads of single guys and women on it. Maybe the art of chatting to someone is gone completely. | |||
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"It's a mine field of head fucks and arseholes. Posers and people out to just get as many people to swipe on them without any want to actually date. Also full of Hypocrites. " Hard to get to know a person just by swiping right. And no one reads the bios on the sites either. | |||
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"Yes stephinboots i agree with you people dont mix anymore when out we r all too busy on our phones personally i think phones should be taken off people when they go into a resturant or pub then people would be forced to chat to each other gone are the days when you used to go to a disco and spend all nite chatting to people in the hope that you would click with someone before the slow songs came on near the end of the nite the dating game is impossible lol Bring back the slow set "Still have the slow set down here | |||
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"It's a mine field of head fucks and arseholes. Posers and people out to just get as many people to swipe on them without any want to actually date. Also full of Hypocrites. Hard to get to know a person just by swiping right. And no one reads the bios on the sites either. " Also hard to show some of the qualities people have in a bio or from a few messages | |||
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"It's a mine field of head fucks and arseholes. Posers and people out to just get as many people to swipe on them without any want to actually date. Also full of Hypocrites. Hard to get to know a person just by swiping right. And no one reads the bios on the sites either. " I always read bios here and on other sites. Half of the bios are dribble or add my Instagram. | |||
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"It's a mine field of head fucks and arseholes. Posers and people out to just get as many people to swipe on them without any want to actually date. Also full of Hypocrites. Hard to get to know a person just by swiping right. And no one reads the bios on the sites either. I always read bios here and on other sites. Half of the bios are dribble or add my Instagram. " Don't get the add Instagram thing at all. | |||
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"It's a mine field of head fucks and arseholes. Posers and people out to just get as many people to swipe on them without any want to actually date. Also full of Hypocrites. Hard to get to know a person just by swiping right. And no one reads the bios on the sites either. I always read bios here and on other sites. Half of the bios are dribble or add my Instagram. Don't get the add Instagram thing at all. "Purely looking to grow their following. | |||
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"Maybe we should put up a dating thread with our bios lol " It'll be more women than men I'd say | |||
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"It's no secret that I'd like to be in a relationship and honestly, I'm finding it difficult to find guys that want the same (that I'm attracted to and connect with). I do findvas I get older though there are less and less places to meet anyone. Throw a party and ask everyone to bring one single friend with them.
Definitely agree with that as you get older but yet go onto any of the dating apps loads of single guys and women on it. Maybe the art of chatting to someone is gone completely. "Maybe we should look into sorting a singles night out. | |||
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"Maybe we should put up a dating thread with our bios lol It'll be more women than men I'd say" You might be surprised | |||
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"Haha ah stop. Off to search tinder for ya "I've ran out of people close to me lol | |||
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"Is real life dating really tough? I clearly haven’t dated in forever but speaking to a single friend (who is simply amazing, beautiful, accomplished, great fun, the whole package) it just seems to be really hard. I understand lads on here rightly or wrongly producing dick pix and suggesting all sorts from the outset but this seems to happen in real life dating and it just seems bizarre to me. And nobody seems to want commitment. I’d be really interested in hearing what it’s like out there in the wild!" I find dating hard and guys on dating sites are worse than here. Dick pics and sex requests in the first message. The ones who don't usually meet the once. If you don't out out then they are gone. If you put out then they are gone. That's just my experience | |||
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"It's no secret that I'd like to be in a relationship and honestly, I'm finding it difficult to find guys that want the same (that I'm attracted to and connect with). I do findvas I get older though there are less and less places to meet anyone. Throw a party and ask everyone to bring one single friend with them.
Definitely agree with that as you get older but yet go onto any of the dating apps loads of single guys and women on it. Maybe the art of chatting to someone is gone completely.
Maybe we should look into sorting a singles night out. "YES | |||
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"I find it hard due to a combo of reasons, phones obviously play a bad part, or heard someone describe it as (un)social media Listened to a podcast recently and this was discussed. For example at concerts everyone is so busy recording it on their phone they are not actually taking in the moment Some gigs are bringing in a no phone policy... you get a bag to put your phone in, it’s sealed and given back to you. It’s unsealed in the way out. Works brilliantly " This is a great idea. A group of us were at pink this yr all but 3 of us recorded the whole show for Snapchat. They were so busy looking through their phone they missed out on the whole atmosphere and an amazing show... | |||
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"Out of interest. Do they still do Speed Dating, or did that die a death." Fab style would be fun | |||
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"Out of interest. Do they still do Speed Dating, or did that die a death." Think it's dead. There's a facebk page that organises events all over country but no idea if they successful or not | |||
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"Out of interest. Do they still do Speed Dating, or did that die a death." Yes they do but it’s limited | |||
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"I haven't been dating for ages as I've no interest in dating but what I don't understand why people are relying on the internet dating only despite being aware of the pitfalls such as screen addiction. What's wrong with following your interests/hobbies and take it from that angle. Also haven't noticed any changes in being chatted up in the pub or club, quite contrary I'm normally hiding behind my beer to have my piece of quiet. Anyhow the thing with the going out chatting up, it normally doesn't lead to anything more than one night stands. " Not everyones hobbies or interests involve opportunities for meeting people. But we could all go sit near you in a bar and intercept all the unwanted attention you get. | |||
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"Out of interest. Do they still do Speed Dating, or did that die a death. Fab style would be fun" 100# | |||
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"I haven't been dating for ages as I've no interest in dating but what I don't understand why people are relying on the internet dating only despite being aware of the pitfalls such as screen addiction. What's wrong with following your interests/hobbies and take it from that angle. Also haven't noticed any changes in being chatted up in the pub or club, quite contrary I'm normally hiding behind my beer to have my piece of quiet. Anyhow the thing with the going out chatting up, it normally doesn't lead to anything more than one night stands. Not everyones hobbies or interests involve opportunities for meeting people. But we could all go sit near you in a bar and intercept all the unwanted attention you get. "Good idea we can pick up the scraps I like it | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? " I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all" Might want to hold blindfold till date 3 | |||
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"Steph i agree totally with what your saying about dating. It can be frustrating but i also know im guilty of doing the same by times. Recently during the fleadh though the humans came alive, I've never spoken, flirted, laughed with so many. Guess all we need to do is organise a week long festival, close down a town, make having a drink on the street legal and pile 60000 people into a smallish area....simples "Great idea x | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all Might want to hold blindfold till date 3 " I will do, noted  | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all" I see you made it to the forums | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all I see you made it to the forums "Good things come to those who wait haha | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? I'll volunteer, have the blindfold and all I see you made it to the forums
Good things come to those who wait haha"They sure do. Enjoy!! | |||
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"I still think Lisdoonvarna is a great idea "Good craic for sure | |||
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"Bash can you set her up on a blind date? " I’m going to put my thinking hat on but I know very few single lads! | |||
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"I still think Lisdoonvarna is a great idea "We'd scare the locals | |||
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"I still think Lisdoonvarna is a great idea
We'd scare the locals"Be fun tho | |||
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"I still think Lisdoonvarna is a great idea
We'd scare the locals
Be fun tho "Very fun. | |||
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