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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin

why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys .

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

No petrol in the Honda 50

Mammy would not let him out after the anglus

did not know it was that day

Got lost on the M50

Please add

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

Nerves get the better of them.

They talked the talk but couldn't walk the walk.

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By *00fumonlyMan
over a year ago

Blackrock


"Nerves get the better of them.

They talked the talk but couldn't walk the walk. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently a lot of workplaces require lads to work at the last minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys . "

Someone let you down man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nerves get the better of them.

They talked the talk but couldn't walk the walk. "

As far as I can see over years I've been on, that's 100% right.

Talk themselves up so much to get the meet then the day comes and and their balls drop.

It seems to be the better looking or more high profile of the girl or couple, the more likely it is to happen.

And yes it gives a bad impression for other guys.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

Cause they have no respect

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

I’ve had 1 meet not in my area either and it was a lovely meet,I’d never let anybody down on a meet,so ladies I’m always around and willing to travel

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

Tbh I found myself nervous my first few single meets with a girl, compared to meeting couples as a couple.

Then meeting a couples as a single guy is worse again.

But it's always been worthwhile.

I imagine it's worse for a girl though.

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys .

Someone let you down man? "

Still annoying ya ha

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

In other words there Muppets

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys . "

Why is some other guy ruining my meets?

All my meets have been wonderful

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here.

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin

i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here."

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin


"In other words there Muppets "

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin


"Cause they have no respect "

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin


"Apparently a lot of workplaces require lads to work at the last minute "

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

Chatting to a guy constantly over last year and he seems genuine and very respectful, keeps looking for a meet from time to time. But we decline, he was very honest and said "if one day we said yes" he would feel like a dog chasing a car, when the car stops the dog would not know what to do. And walks away confused"

Sounds apt we think.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent . "

A lady and a couple? So not a single guy then??

Well done to everyone that jumped on the single guy bashing bandwagon again. Will they all say the same about who the OP was actually taking about?

And to the 'ruins it for all of us' brigade - noone ruins anything for you only yourself

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense. "

This ^^^,I've heard this so many times and always wondered how it ruins it for other guys ?

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense. "

Yup, exactly.

People not turning up doesn't ruin it for other guys.

Those who mess us about we just dismiss as time wasters or idiots but we judge each person on their own merits not on the actions of someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense.

Yup, exactly.

People not turning up doesn't ruin it for other guys.

Those who mess us about we just dismiss as time wasters or idiots but we judge each person on their own merits not on the actions of someone else."

It wasn't even a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably just have a Tommy tank before they leave the house, and realise there's beer in the fridge and there's a match on TV..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense.

Yup, exactly.

People not turning up doesn't ruin it for other guys.

Those who mess us about we just dismiss as time wasters or idiots but we judge each person on their own merits not on the actions of someone else."

Agree completely. Got messed around Monday. Blocked all single guys as a result but with the view of we contact the ones we want to play with rather then have them contacting us. Has made it a lot more peaceful to boot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense.

Yup, exactly.

People not turning up doesn't ruin it for other guys.

Those who mess us about we just dismiss as time wasters or idiots but we judge each person on their own merits not on the actions of someone else.

Agree completely. Got messed around Monday. Blocked all single guys as a result but with the view of we contact the ones we want to play with rather then have them contacting us. Has made it a lot more peaceful to boot"

If is was in a couple or a women here this is what I would do! The amount of messages you get would make me leave before I even got to the time wasters haha!

Unfortunately any online platform is going to have muppets. I guess it’s all down to wether you think the reward of meeting the good ones is worth the hassle of being let down by time wasters?

Fortunately for us genuine guys although there is a lot of competition I find when you do arrange a meet that you come across very few women/couple time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Appreciate the ratio of men to women on here will probably mean that men are mostly the ones who don’t turn up its not just them. When on here before I had two meets canceled at last minute by women. One was lunch meet and other coffee. The first only cancelled when I messaged her just as I was on my way, her excuse, she forgot suppose she was honest at least

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

No other single guy has ever ruined fab for me in fact the more gobshites there are the better for the rest of us. Remember cream rises to the top

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

The only ones they ruin it for is themselves . Jaysos!!

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By *hocko87 OP   Man
over a year ago

dublin


"No other single guy has ever ruined fab for me in fact the more gobshites there are the better for the rest of us. Remember cream rises to the top "

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

A large portion of the single men on here are chicken shits. They don’t even talk a good game for the most part, it’s the usual benal drivel - even from many of the verified men.

A website that has an invite only setup, even just a forum, would be good and very easy to set up but they are slow to build up membership to.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"A large portion of the single men on here are chicken shits."

Yep, a few weekends ago my partner and I invited four guys around. This was after they had messaged us first in response to a status we had put up.

Not one of them turned up. They all talk the talk and then nothing.

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By *enguin1Man
over a year ago

The sticks

Or when you're invited to meet someone at a particular time and then when you're waiting they tell you they'll be an hour late....... headwrecking and discourteous.

I know we're all here for fun but common courtesy never goes amiss.

I might need to chill a bit on my punctuality obsession

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A large portion of the single men on here are chicken shits.

Yep, a few weekends ago my partner and I invited four guys around. This was after they had messaged us first in response to a status we had put up.

Not one of them turned up. They all talk the talk and then nothing."

I agree with this - they are taking the opportunity out of someone else’s hands that shall genuinely turn up and have fun.

We find it really hard to find gents that will back up their words with actions.

Not bashing the gents but when we have organised with females or couples there has been no problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or when you're invited to meet someone at a particular time and then when you're waiting they tell you they'll be an hour late....... headwrecking and discourteous.

I know we're all here for fun but common courtesy never goes amiss.

I might need to chill a bit on my punctuality obsession "

Did they turn up?

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre


"No other single guy has ever ruined fab for me in fact the more gobshites there are the better for the rest of us. Remember cream rises to the top "

So true so many hot, genuine and sexy guys on here and the time wasters don't ruin it for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A large portion of the single men on here are chicken shits.

Yep, a few weekends ago my partner and I invited four guys around. This was after they had messaged us first in response to a status we had put up.

Not one of them turned up. They all talk the talk and then nothing.

I agree with this - they are taking the opportunity out of someone else’s hands that shall genuinely turn up and have fun.

We find it really hard to find gents that will back up their words with actions.

Not bashing the gents but when we have organised with females or couples there has been no problem. "

How true is that!

Now we haven't really invited anyone to straight up play meets as it's not what we're after, but even getting a social with a new guy is next to impossible. All of a sudden sixty thousand excuses pop up 30mins before the meet. All ranging from unexpected relatives turning up to family deaths...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent . "

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all a trust thing. I mean that both ways. Some will let nerves get the better of them. There is a reason for that. I believe it's becuase they do not trust the sitiation enough. Loads of reasons for that but i'd say the main reason is that there hasn't been enough communication before hand to build enough trust up. I intend to have a social with everyone and anyone i intend to meet, before any play time.

Bottom line. Both parties are responsible for a meet not happening. Bar the odd occasion were someone is just being a prick.

There's also the horn factor. It masks and suppresses any negativity. You have a good chat, horny, bit of flirting. You decide to meet. Then, in that period of time between message and meet. That's when logic kicks in. Then the questions start. I don't know this person/these people, who else have they invited, why dod i have that wank after the mesaages? Now i ain't horny anymore.

There are loads of reasons but i would say that the brealdown of any meet is a result of both parties, but not for the obvioys reasons that many complain about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do they ruin it for other guys? That's just nonsense.

Yup, exactly.

People not turning up doesn't ruin it for other guys.

Those who mess us about we just dismiss as time wasters or idiots but we judge each person on their own merits not on the actions of someone else.

Agree completely. Got messed around Monday. Blocked all single guys as a result but with the view of we contact the ones we want to play with rather then have them contacting us. Has made it a lot more peaceful to boot"

You completely agree but blocked all single guys cause 1 messed you around? That's completely disagreeing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys . "

How the hell does one guy not turning up ruin anything for another guy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile "

I don't think I bashed any single guys in this thread but yet been stood up 8 times over the time I've been here.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

I had a woman cancel our meet 5 minutes before she was due to arrive. Just move on.

It's easy to spot the genuine ones from the ones living in fantasy land just looking to have a wank while reading the messages, but they lose the bottle when it comes to actually following through.

This can be the case with both sexes It happens, people will have a different persona online. With some being shy in person.

But let's he honest the real reason is they have talked a good game but know they can't live up to what they said in anyway.

This is why it pays to be yourself and don't lie about what you can, can't, or are willing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile

I don't think I bashed any single guys in this thread but yet been stood up 8 times over the time I've been here. "

No you haven't, in your defense you haven't bashed anyone!

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile "

The original post said "why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys ." so that is what I started to discuss.


"the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile "

I'm assuming that was in reference to myself. It has nothing to do with me wanting people to know I am part of a couple profile.

This single profile happens to be the one I have always used for browsing the forums and commenting on them; and has been in effect since way before the couple profile was created.

I only mention the couple profile if it is relevant to a topic of discussion in that the dynamics of a couple profile greatly differs from a single male one.

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By *aider190Man
over a year ago

swords

I suppose this is the value of verifications especially if you receive them from couples ...does tend to week out the fakes and non genuine guys...I would never not turn up for a meet ....especially as it is so difficult for couples to get some fun time....with family responsiblI ties and other non fab commitments

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"No petrol in the Honda 50

Mammy would not let him out after the anglus

did not know it was that day

Got lost on the M50

Please add"

Had a wank while fantasising about the upcoming meet and is now spent and snoring.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge


"No petrol in the Honda 50

Mammy would not let him out after the anglus

did not know it was that day

Got lost on the M50

Please add

Had a wank while fantasising about the upcoming meet and is now spent and snoring. "

The vibrations of the Honda 50 gave him a missfire and he blew a gasket.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys . "
choco you took the words outa my mouth with that smooth operating, rascals they are they should castrated and banished back to the real world I think we should start some sort of protest or something, wat do we want.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why oh why do guys not turn up for meets .?? they ruin it for other guys . "
How it ruin it for other guys.Its every man for himself and God for us all.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Look hey it is what it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Remember cream rises to the top "
So does poo with to much fat content.

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown


"How it ruin it for other guys.Its every man for himself and God for us all."

If a couple arranged over the course of a year to meet 10 men and two couples and out of this 8 men are no shows and the couples both show up (not by any stretch of the imagination an unlikely situation) then the couple might logically stop meeting single men altogether, or at least stop welcoming the invitations of men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How it ruin it for other guys.Its every man for himself and God for us all.

If a couple arranged over the course of a year to meet 10 men and two couples and out of this 8 men are no shows and the couples both show up (not by any stretch of the imagination an unlikely situation) then the couple might logically stop meeting single men altogether, or at least stop welcoming the invitations of men."
But as the op said a couple also not show up how that the fault of single male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here."

Agree. From our recent experience when we have been on holidays it seems that men after coffee meet disappeared

I've asked my husband what's wrong is with me? His answer was: they are Muppets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here.

Agree. From our recent experience when we have been on holidays it seems that men after coffee meet disappeared

I've asked my husband what's wrong is with me? His answer was: they are Muppets"
But was be not also a single male before he become couple.Was he also a Muppet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Despite women and couples frequently letting me down, I still soldier on regardless. One time ; lots of chat, pics exchanged; bring a bottle of wine; address given; on way in taxi to get a text saying sorry she couldn’t meet me as another fabber had got there first. Double booked ( maybe triple booked or more ). Take it with a pinch of salt. I don’t think men are anymore unreliable than women or couples. On the contrary, women and couples have much more choice so can be more choosy. So if men get texts saying ; “ I want to meet you “ they would have to a bit dim to fuck it up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here.

Agree. From our recent experience when we have been on holidays it seems that men after coffee meet disappeared

I've asked my husband what's wrong is with me? His answer was: they are Muppets But was be not also a single male before he become couple.Was he also a Muppet?"
He Not be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here.

Agree. From our recent experience when we have been on holidays it seems that men after coffee meet disappeared

I've asked my husband what's wrong is with me? His answer was: they are Muppets But was be not also a single male before he become couple.Was he also a Muppet?"

Couples were couples. We met them too on nude beach so all seen

Single guys were just chickens. That's all

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most common reason given to the couple profile I am on:

'Something came up'. No elaborations given. Just simply 'Something came up'.

Second most common one is that they got called into work.

Funny how after a lot of those guys got called into work or something came up, you then see their online status the rest of the night. Clearly couldn't be that busy if they have time to be on Fab the rest of the night.

Some guys just like the idea of a meet and sit wanking thinking about it but when the crunch comes to the crunch they have no balls.

The one thing that really bothers me though is not the ones who say they can't make it and give some half assed excuse because at least you know they aren't coming; but it's the ones who just go completely silent then contact you a few days later saying they got called into work, or something came up or whatever.

Ok, let's play devil's advocate. Sometimes things do genuinely crop up, but what? You can't take 30 seconds to send a message or text to someone to let them know? Get the f**k outta here.

Agree. From our recent experience when we have been on holidays it seems that men after coffee meet disappeared

I've asked my husband what's wrong is with me? His answer was: they are Muppets But was be not also a single male before he become couple.Was he also a Muppet?

Couples were couples. We met them too on nude beach so all seen

Single guys were just chickens. That's all

Mrs"
I not understand how when single men are Muppets but in couple they the bee's knees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day - put the nerves to one side. Turn up and have a chat and a laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up"

But..... could end up being a Court date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up

But..... could end up being a Court date. "

Not those kind of handcuffs dear

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up

But..... could end up being a Court date.

Not those kind of handcuffs dear"

Spoilsport

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up"
You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile "

It just demonstrates that few read and think about what is, but most use it as an opportunity to talk about what is on their mind rather than what the other person is trying to say. Passive listening is a list skill in communication and conversation.

Interesting reading through some couples responses about they find that it's harder to get single guy. Maybe look at why rather than a generic blame on the single male as if being a single male must be the reason.

If it's happening a lot is it the single guys fault or could it something some single guys see in you and collectively they are sending a message?

As a straight guy I wouldn't play with a couple so If I'd been approached I would be polite in conversation but show no interest. Maybe if the guy in a couple is bi it may give concern to a guy who isn't.

Maybe during the exchange of conversation they may have changed their mind.

Maybe, God forbid they simply changed their mind, I know as single guys we're not allowed to do that on here or we're quickly branded a no shower.

My experience on here before was that many ladies didn't show. They're given the get out of jail card by being told that it was probably a guy pretending to be a female. I don't buy that there are that many verified female profiles that are in fact masquerading as males.

Maybe it's more to do with what vibes we give out on forums or in PM's that result in no shows. It's easy for all of us to blame others, but it may have something to do with ourselves too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel."

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse"
But everyone is different in someway so you can only talk for yourself.So you don't know how others are feeling do you.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse"

There’s a number of self proclaimed virgins on here...whether they are or not is anyone’s guess.

People back out of arrangements for various reasons. Guys do it, women do it, couples do it. The ratios on fab mean that it’s possibly more men but if we looked at percentages, it might not be all that different. Maybe I should put my lab coat back on

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By *amien88Man
over a year ago

wicklow

Not once have I let anyone down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse

There’s a number of self proclaimed virgins on here...whether they are or not is anyone’s guess.

People back out of arrangements for various reasons. Guys do it, women do it, couples do it. The ratios on fab mean that it’s possibly more men but if we looked at percentages, it might not be all that different. Maybe I should put my lab coat back on "

fully agree with you. Just slowly move your hips and let slip that lab coat to the floor and keep moving slowly...

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I have never had anyone cancel last minute, but then again I am selective.

I have also never been told by someone I am interested in that other single males mean they can never meet me.

Actually the only refusals I get are unsolicited refusals, people who think they can refuse me in first message, sent to me, unsolicited, having never spoken or interacted with them before. I'm always polite about it, but wonder what is going through their heads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse But everyone is different in someway so you can only talk for yourself.So you don't know how others are feeling do you. "

Of course everyone is different but in my opinion someone not showing for a meet is not due to nerves getting the better of them, people like that tend to cancel in advance but yes its an opinion like yours and how sluts dress so I guess the same advice you gave when quized

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse

There’s a number of self proclaimed virgins on here...whether they are or not is anyone’s guess.

People back out of arrangements for various reasons. Guys do it, women do it, couples do it. The ratios on fab mean that it’s possibly more men but if we looked at percentages, it might not be all that different. Maybe I should put my lab coat back on "

There is a tiny amout of profiles that claim to be virgins compared to the amout of no shows, and I am not sure what the relevance of the gender and ratios has?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i got let down bye a lady and a couple . Just seen a couple got let down bye guys . If you get a meet you show up like a gent .

Has anyone actually read this post from the OP??? A lady and a couple didn't show. He's a single guy, he showed. So in this particular instance, what the op started the thread for

100% of couples - no show

100% of single ladies - no show

100% of single guys - showed up

But the whole thread is bashing single guys??? Even single guys are, but only the 'genuine' ones or the ones that want us to know they have a couple profile

It just demonstrates that few read and think about what is, but most use it as an opportunity to talk about what is on their mind rather than what the other person is trying to say. Passive listening is a list skill in communication and conversation.

Interesting reading through some couples responses about they find that it's harder to get single guy. Maybe look at why rather than a generic blame on the single male as if being a single male must be the reason.

If it's happening a lot is it the single guys fault or could it something some single guys see in you and collectively they are sending a message?

As a straight guy I wouldn't play with a couple so If I'd been approached I would be polite in conversation but show no interest. Maybe if the guy in a couple is bi it may give concern to a guy who isn't.

Maybe during the exchange of conversation they may have changed their mind.

Maybe, God forbid they simply changed their mind, I know as single guys we're not allowed to do that on here or we're quickly branded a no shower.

My experience on here before was that many ladies didn't show. They're given the get out of jail card by being told that it was probably a guy pretending to be a female. I don't buy that there are that many verified female profiles that are in fact masquerading as males.

Maybe it's more to do with what vibes we give out on forums or in PM's that result in no shows. It's easy for all of us to blame others, but it may have something to do with ourselves too."

We are a couple and even after a social meet I'm still suspicious, we send a short text that we aren't interested.

We have been tricked a few times by couples here before. It isn't nice and rude to no show up. Looking for excuses is another issue and mostly for people whom are just keyboard warriors but chickens to meet in person.

I had been nervous every time before any social meet. It cost me lots of unnecessary stress and that's why we quit. We came back and see what happens.

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse

There’s a number of self proclaimed virgins on here...whether they are or not is anyone’s guess.

People back out of arrangements for various reasons. Guys do it, women do it, couples do it. The ratios on fab mean that it’s possibly more men but if we looked at percentages, it might not be all that different. Maybe I should put my lab coat back on

There is a tiny amout of profiles that claim to be virgins compared to the amout of no shows, and I am not sure what the relevance of the gender and ratios has?"

Only the first half of my comment was in response to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The whole nerves excuse as far as I can see is complete shite...

Yip meets create a nervous excitment but come on its sex or coffee not a court date.

People who do no shows either got better offers, lost there window if attached or were never going to show and just wanted the thrill of the build up You talking from your own experience or just guessing.Because you can never tell how others feel.

My own experiances obviously how else do we form opinions?

Be come on its sex and its no ones first time having it on here...

I dont buy the I was too nervous to go have some sexy time excuse

There’s a number of self proclaimed virgins on here...whether they are or not is anyone’s guess.

People back out of arrangements for various reasons. Guys do it, women do it, couples do it. The ratios on fab mean that it’s possibly more men but if we looked at percentages, it might not be all that different. Maybe I should put my lab coat back on

There is a tiny amout of profiles that claim to be virgins compared to the amout of no shows, and I am not sure what the relevance of the gender and ratios has?

Only the first half of my comment was in response to you "

Sorry I just assume I am at tge forefront of peoples thoughts at all times

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By *uietcpl2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin City

We don't meet single guys but we have had lots of no shows or last minute excuses where they cant turn up so when planning a meeting (be it with couples ) we always get the girls to chat on the phone to ensure they are ready to make the meet.

Then again this is no fool proof either and late minute cancellations are just part of Fab we are afraid to say.

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