FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So this morning a guy that was on my friends list, hot list and had sent messages to seems to have completely disappeared from all. So I guess I'm blocked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos"

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely his loss

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If all your messages are gone he has probably left the site. They dissappear when someone leaves if you were blocked they would still be there you just couldn't answer any.

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By *obbym522000Man
over a year ago

Galway

hi steph

can i replace him lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?"

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile"

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one"

Nah I'm done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

Nah I'm done. "

Cool, best if luck with it so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I'm done. "

Ah steph, forget about him... shur if I got worried every time I got blocked or scared a lad off the site I’d have given up long ago. Onward and upward xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I'm done.

Ah steph, forget about him... shur if I got worried every time I got blocked or scared a lad off the site I’d have given up long ago. Onward and upward xxx"

The site isnt for everyone though and if someone isnt enjoying it then leave. Its easy enough to come back and have another go if you want down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah I'm done.

Ah steph, forget about him... shur if I got worried every time I got blocked or scared a lad off the site I’d have given up long ago. Onward and upward xxx"

this, why assume that someone left the site because of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

Nah I'm done. "

His leaving may had nothing to do with you. Maybe he was married and felt guilty about his actions or something in his personal life made him leave.

Obviously he could have sent a text explaining his actions first but he didn't. That more of a reflection on him rather than you.

Sometimes women have a tendency to take on fault just shrug it off the next guy could be more thoughful.

Take Care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

Nah I'm done. "
don't you be goin anywer lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

Nah I'm done.

His leaving may had nothing to do with you. Maybe he was married and felt guilty about his actions or something in his personal life made him leave.

Obviously he could have sent a text explaining his actions first but he didn't. That more of a reflection on him rather than you.

Sometimes women have a tendency to take on fault just shrug it off the next guy could be more thoughful.

Take Care x"

If only that easy.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Steph, you should really learn not to take everything too personal. It's nsa. If he's gone he's gone. Why should it have anything do with you at all? Maybe his hamster died in the early morning hours or he realised nsa isn't for him or maybe he's just a chicken.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Steph, you should really learn not to take everything too personal. It's nsa. If he's gone he's gone. Why should it have anything do with you at all? Maybe his hamster died in the early morning hours or he realised nsa isn't for him or maybe he's just a chicken.

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

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By *xperimental CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Fab

Yea that is a bit rude.

Maybe message someone and get them to see if he's gone all togeather.

May be s guilty conscience, but fab is what it is, u fiber nothing wrong

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone."

But that's the nature of the site, many men are here simply to dip their wick or cheat on a partner. They don't feel they owe you anything and if they behave poorly it's really a reflection on their own lack of spine not on you. People behave as they do for their own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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she's just a sensitive soul our Steph but in fairness I don't think I'd have the courage to tell people I'm leaving you all would miss me too much couldn't do that on yall would break my heart

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

Guilt on his part maybe, is he married and now he himself can't handle it?. Total loser if he is and best he is gone now, sounds like you need a hug so a virtual hug is on its way to you now Steph. Mwah.

xxxx

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By *iheelloverMan
over a year ago

Cork / Dublin / Galway

Steph , all I can see is it’s his loss for sure and some genuine guys gain for sure

don’t let it get to you , he is not worth it !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!"
smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

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By *edro50Man
over a year ago

enniskillen

Steph I hope you take this as true as its being s written! You are a wonderful lady with all the qualities any genuine men would be lucky to meet! You met a man who used you but that doesn't mean everyone on here is like that. Rise above and enjoy the people you have made positive connections with on here and enjoy! P xxxx

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By *aura66Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

If he had previous veris and if you can remember any , you can check via those.

Who knows what goes on in folks heads on here. But that was a shitty thing to do.

I’m with others , maybe he’s attached? Maybe the mrs got suspicious?

Whatever it was , it’s more a reflection on him than you.

Chin up .... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off"

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

My meet was suffering from whiskey dick but I was totally fine with it. These things happens. He wakes me up at 6am for five minutes of pretty terrible sex. He makes his excuses to go to the bathroom. Next thing I hear a car start and reverse out my drive at high speed. I was left waiting wondering was he gone to get us coffee or condoms. Tried to message him but I was blocked.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Steph I hope you take this as true as its being s written! You are a wonderful lady with all the qualities any genuine men would be lucky to meet! You met a man who used you but that doesn't mean everyone on here is like that. Rise above and enjoy the people you have made positive connections with on here and enjoy! P xxxx"

"Used you"? It was consensual sex between two adults. Surely we've moved on from sex being something men have to dupe women into?

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

He might feel like he's gotten what he wanted and scratched that itch and so he's gone.

He might have had a fantasy about nostrings sex, but it turned out he was looking for something more in reality.

He might feel he's just had the absolute best sex of his life and it couldn't possibly get better and so he should stop.

He might have been gay and wanted to try it once with a woman.

He might have developed feeling for you, but isn't ready for a relationship.

Don't assume the reasons reflect badly on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson."

Holy shit, what the hell goes on in people’s heads?

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By *ehallMan
over a year ago

dublin 24

Is it yourself your talking about lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson."

Men ffs

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

If he has your phone number or kik, he might not have felt the need to tell you he was deleting off here or that you would even notice. He may have just decided to delete last night for a million personal reasons and felt it was too late an hour to contact you to let you know... He'll probably be in touch through another platform later today. I have friends whom I've met who do this from time to time for all kinds of reasons, but if they have an alternative means of keeping in touch they rarely tell me they're deleting off here. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully you had a good meet and had fun..Focus on that and try and put the why did he leave without saying anything questions out of your head, as whatever the reasons, you can do nothing about it. Give yourself a few days to get your shit together and then move on..Don't forgo chance of great NSA just because of this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson.

Holy shit, what the hell goes on in people’s heads?"

Yeah I know right I was totally mortified to be treated like a unpaid sex worker. But I then realised it was nothing to do with me and I shouldn't be ashamed. He was the douche bag who thought he could treat a lady like that. My biggest regret is that I didn't put the padlock on my gate like I normally do. That would have being priceless

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson.

Bloody hell that was harsh.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Probably married an feeling the guilt but will want more an be back in a few days .keep us updated .best of luck girl

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Ah Steph, don’t take it personal.. I’d say he stayed on until he got what he wanted then promptly scarpered.

Most likely married and now terrified he’ll be caught... so deleted everything.. he’ll probably be back once his wank bank is empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is his account still active? Sounds more like he is unlos

When I search it can't find it but if he has me blocked I wouldn't be able to find it either?

No I think it would still come up.. you should be able to see forum posts too if he ever posted. Could juat of deleted his profile

God I'm that bad, met with him last night and this morning he has left the site ffs

I'm done.

Ah he might have just blocked you....

I wouldnt stress it onto the next one

Nah I'm done. "

Oh dear

He just couldn't bring himself to sleep with another woman from the site after meeting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson.

Holy shit, what the hell goes on in people’s heads?

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion"

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson."

That to me sounds like someone mortified by his own performance issues and feeling like the best he could do was to beat a hasty retreat...

I had a similar experience a couple of years ago where I had to put an inebriated whisky drinker I had met to bed (he did wave vaguely at his crotch and mumble at me to climb on board, but for some reason I passed on the offer and opted to tuck him in instead). I didn't even get the 5 minutes of terrible sex next morning... I spent it going 'there, there' and passing him sips of water as he vomited copiously in the hotel ensuite. To add insult to injury, as we parted ways at the train station, he gave me a hug and murmured into my ear that he'd had an amaaaaaaaazing night... Best sex ever!! The fecker couldn't remember a thing and tried to blag his way out of it!

I did my best to keep a straight face and told him he was fantastic, incredible stamina and such an imaginative lover.. But I couldn't keep up the charade and 10 minutes later texted him from the train to tell him nothing had happened

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Totally agree ginger. He must ave made a good impression all the same ..he'll b back lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has happened to me 4 times. Great meets then they left the site . No idea why. It’s a funny place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?"
oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe I know the guy you’re talking about , he’s a real cutie . Don’t take it personally . He’s not on very often and he deleted his profile shortly after we met last October so there’s a trend .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson."

Rosey I do love your optimism.... tyres screeching away.. and your sitting there thinking I am sure he will be back with bagels and lube

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks again for the support and the few who have messaged me. It stung this morning as the meet was great. Will take a few days to dust myself off though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the virtual hugs and the pull yourself together girl comments.

Nature of Fab I guess dip your wick and feck off

I totally feel your pain. It happened to me only worse. I can laugh about it now but at the time I was terribly upset.

It took me a while to dust myself off and get over that. But I did it just taught me a very hard lesson.

Rosey I do love your optimism.... tyres screeching away.. and your sitting there thinking I am sure he will be back with bagels and lube

A total optimistic outlook I have on life. I am such a nice Mammy he was going to get the breakfast in bed. Ah well it was more sausages for me because he left

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone."

sounds like he is married

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Thanks again for the support and the few who have messaged me. It stung this morning as the meet was great. Will take a few days to dust myself off though.

Steph, keep that chin up. You can't just make the assumption you are the reason he left. Him leaving after meeting you is most likely just pure coincidence. It could be for any one of a multitude of reasons. People come and go from this site all the time and often without any kind of notice or explanation.

You can't be leaving, at least not yet.

1. You haven't met me yet and staying on for that reason alone is worth it cause I'm just that awesome.

2. The forums will not be the same without you. The amount of replies you have gotten on this thread in such a short space of time shows just how popular you are.

3. See 1 again.

Anyhow, I shall see you at the upcoming meet and greet and I'll give you one of them shoulder thingies that people like to plant their head on. I'll have a bucket ready for our cries.

Or alternatively we can have drinks and banter then you can roll around on the ground laughing at my ridiculous dance attempts which probably looks something like a headless chicken attempting to take off.

Keep smiling and we'll all be smiling with you. xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks again for the support and the few who have messaged me. It stung this morning as the meet was great. Will take a few days to dust myself off though.

You can't be leaving, at least not yet.

1. You haven't met me yet and staying on for that reason alone is worth it cause I'm just that awesome.

2. The forums will not be the same without you. The amount of replies you have gotten on this thread in such a short space of time shows just how popular you are.

3. See 1 again.

Anyhow, I shall see you at the upcoming meet and greet and I'll give you one of them shoulder thingies that people like to plant their head on. I'll have a bucket ready for our cries.

Keep smiling and we'll all be smiling with you. xx"

Ah that made me smile and laugh. Lots of dancing and banter at the meet and greet that's a promise x

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

I know exactly what you need Steph.

Go out and hire a hot tub for a few days relax and all your woes will soak away.

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

" could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button "

That just made me chuckle lol

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

You ruffled my feathers. Re read our posts. Was it not your intention to ruffle my feathers? You had question marks in your reply to my post, did you not want an answer? And in answer to your latest question, no I wouldn't message every "guy" I ever met that I was leaving, but I would tell those I was actively chatting to. That said I don't expect anyone to tell be anthing they din't want. And once again, I never implied anywhere that such a notification was required or expected. Feathers tucked back in.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

This means a lot of women on here were ignored after sex, and to save their own feelings lied to themselves to say that it was okay. However if they spot its going to happen before they have sex, they avoid the person at all costs.

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way."

Exactly.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way."

totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way."

So you don't think he was rude? We have been chatting non stop for over a week and a half. Even talked about plans for next week. When I left last night said he wanted to meet again. Yes I get it's a sex site and it's nsa but after a week of chatting not just about sex and fab to then completely vanish I'm sorry is just rude. If he wasn't interested in meeting again could have just said I'm a big gal I can take it but too literally just vanish that's a fecking cop out an too many men think it's ok.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand.

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand. "

No he was saying it was rude and there was no need for the rudeness of his behavior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand. "

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

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Or I read it wrong

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

The guy should have said he was leaving unless aliens abducted him after he left

Then again he could be one of the profiles the keep appearing and disappearing usually a different name same location ish

So he will be back

But either way keep the faith girl

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand. "

I read this as he was saying it was rude. And it was. I may have misread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand.

I read this as he was saying it was rude. And it was. I may have misread."

I reread it and got that the second time but anywho big girl pants are on and I'm good to go

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By *edro50Man
over a year ago

enniskillen

Mmmmm big girl pants yummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

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yea sort of don't need to tell anyone anything though he had sex he deleted his account it's a site where couples singles meet for sex not date If it had of been a guy write the post would have been a completely different outcome as we all know get over it etc, the op is a friend so I'm not just disagreeing with her I'm disagreeing with the fact people don't have to or need to tell anyone what they do or don't do or when they leave, just usual guys agreeing with anything a female says for a few browney points with the females, anyhoo good day madam

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

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Brownie points as if

It's just being supportive

Its easier for guys to just move on

It's the way we are wired for the most part

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over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

yea sort of don't need to tell anyone anything though he had sex he deleted his account it's a site where couples singles meet for sex not date If it had of been a guy write the post would have been a completely different outcome as we all know get over it etc, the op is a friend so I'm not just disagreeing with her I'm disagreeing with the fact people don't have to or need to tell anyone what they do or don't do or when they leave, just usual guys agreeing with anything a female says for a few browney points with the females, anyhoo good day madam

Was going to say something similar yesterday but held my finger. Glad a guy has spoken on this and couldn't agree more that if it was a guy who raised this it would certainly have been a different result and he'd been told very different things.

It's not a nice thing but it is a sex site for NSA mostly and all sexes use it for that.

If it's difficult to come to terms with then one needs to question if this is the place for you OP or ask if you're attracting the wrong type and if so why? It's something you've raised a few times since joining.

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over a year ago

Got to agree with the above comment.

A guy writing a post like this would be ripped to shreds. Speaking to someone for a week and a half; having sex the morning after? What does he owe you?

I’ve known fab people for upwards of a year who suddenly and without warning disappear. They owe me no explanation;

likewise this guy after 10 days of flirting and a one night/morning stand owes you no explanation.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"When a woman says she was ignored socially during an akward moment, and asks how to get over it and meet the guy again. Flooded with "lucky escape", "why would you want to?"

When a woman gets through the social, has sex, and is then ignored, the response becomes the opposite "What did you expect?", "It's NSA", "Its the nature of swinging".

People need to be honest with themselves. NSA does not mean rudeness. It happens, it hurts when it happens, its wrong, and men and women will lie to get sex and say they wont act this way.

At this rate I actually think it's easier and simpler to meet with married guys who have it on their profile because at least you know where you stand.

I read this as he was saying it was rude. And it was. I may have misread.

I reread it and got that the second time but anywho big girl pants are on and I'm good to go

That's the girl.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

It's not a nice thing but it is a sex site for NSA mostly and all sexes use it for that.

Where in any of my posts did I say anyone was intitled to anything? Infact I stated that nobody has to tell anyone anything. So what exactly in my post are ye disagreeing with?

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By *leasureGuy17Man
over a year ago

City Center

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone."

Sounds like Guilt, that’s his issue, nothing to do with you.

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over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

It's not a nice thing but it is a sex site for NSA mostly and all sexes use it for that.

And yes Everytime I meet I ask myself is here the place for me. And noone is entitled to an explanation of on why they decide to leave it ghost someone or not contact. And yes we chatted and flirted for 10 days and we both got we wanted. As for attracting the wrong type what's the right type? I don't meet at a drop of a hat, I'm very clear on my profile about how I look, when I'm chatting to someone I'm very clear what I'm here for. At end of day Been here long enough to know how this place works. It stung this morning this afternoon not so much.

On another point why does every thread in end "oh if s guy posted" or "people looking for brownie points" .

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By *obbym522000Man
over a year ago

Galway

don't be worrying about it steph

no one died

close the chapter and move on eh...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"don't be worrying about it steph

no one died

close the chapter and move on eh..."

I have

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over a year ago

Hard to not take personal when we met last night and had fun and this morning he's gone.

I've been ghosted a few times here and while initially it smarts a bit and certainly dints the old ego, ultimately it says more about them. Dust yourself down put your big girl pants on and move on. There are plenty of lovely people and I'm certain you'll not be short of attention. Hugs!smart? Dust yourself down? Where they married? Just because you meet someone on here doesn't mean your obligated to tell them why your leaving it's not pof, ghosting is another word for lost interest/rejection in my opinion

Smart"s", old fashioned term for hurts. Dust yourself down another phrase regularly used for getting over anything unpleasant. Married? What has that to do with anything. Correct in ghosting but can you only be ghosted on pof? I said I was ghosted and I was. I was simply being supportive to a fellow female and letting her know we've all felt bad at some point but we get over it and try not to take it personally. Also never said anywhere that anyone was entitled to anything. So what in my post has irked you so?oooh who ruffled your feathers lol I appreciate that your helping a fellow Fabette get over this horrible ordil and can only show solidarity and support to her myself, it's a horrible situation but in fairness would you txt every guy you met from here to explain why your leaving? The guy left he doesn't owe anyone anything, he could have planned this days ago one last meet, could have been married as said, could have slipped on a banana skin and bumped his head directly onto the deactivation button who know just hope everyone gets through this

It's not a nice thing but it is a sex site for NSA mostly and all sexes use it for that.

On another point why does every thread in end "oh if s guy posted" or "people looking for brownie points" . "

I was make some observations, that's kinda what forums are for. One can take them or leave them. Just trying to be helpful so not having a go at all.

As far as your last question, one might need to ask but it think the frequency of the comments reflect the frequency in the forums of what they are referring to. It's not just here but in the lounge and other forums too. Yes depending on what's between ones legs, one gets a very different reaction to posts similar to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't be worrying about it steph

no one died

close the chapter and move on eh...

I have

Good.

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By *ehallMan
over a year ago

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Sometimes i hit the block key by mistake so give him time he may have doe that if he ment to block you then his loss i say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was blocked once on my single account for not answering in about 15min! Joke. So don't worry miss. You can either try to write a message to him. It should be in your sent even if he blocked you and then you will see or send me pm with his fab name and I can check it for you, xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was blocked once on my single account for not answering in about 15min! Joke. So don't worry miss. You can either try to write a message to him. It should be in your sent even if he blocked you and then you will see or send me pm with his fab name and I can check it for you, xx"

His profile is gone. His loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably one of those ejits looking for a last shag before they marry fidelma from the village , or worse still join a seminary to enter the priesthood .theres plenty of them on here . If I were you I’d tell myself he knew he’s had the best shag he will ever get here and pulled the proverbial plug . Nothing to do with you personally , and he’d planned to do it anyway . Hugs to you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably one of those ejits looking for a last shag before they marry fidelma from the village , or worse still join a seminary to enter the priesthood .theres plenty of them on here . If I were you I’d tell myself he knew he’s had the best shag he will ever get here and pulled the proverbial plug . Nothing to do with you personally , and he’d planned to do it anyway . Hugs to you xxx"

Thanks xx

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

This is all a ruse so you have a back story!

Tell the truth Steph.

You shagged him to death and are just pretending to lament his disappearance whilst you contemplate what to do with the cadaver

Lime works a treat, I'm told

Or perhaps he passed on his return home and his wife caught your scent!

She's currently not allowing anyone in her upstairs bathroom whilst the lime does its work and has deleted any online accounts he had

It's a wicked world we weave

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over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"This is all a ruse so you have a back story!

Tell the truth Steph.

You shagged him to death and are just pretending to lament his disappearance whilst you contemplate what to do with the cadaver

Lime works a treat, I'm told

Or perhaps he passed on his return home and his wife caught your scent!

She's currently not allowing anyone in her upstairs bathroom whilst the lime does its work and has deleted any online accounts he had

It's a wicked world we weave

Apologies.

I meant Lye.

Otherwise you'd be squeezing and juicing fruitlessly

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

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If it was in construction a block is very popular

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