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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I have been on here for a we while now. However one of the big things stopping me getting properly into it is the thought that someone I know could spot me. I’m reluctant to add any more pics etc

Anyone else have this worry ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have been on here for a we while now. However one of the big things stopping me getting properly into it is the thought that someone I know could spot me. I’m reluctant to add any more pics etc

Anyone else have this worry ? "

Why ??

What are you scared off?

We're all adults nothing to be ashamed about.

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere

Initially I did yea. But if you do come across someone you know, they're using the site too.

Depending on your situation obviously, try to not let being 'found out' ruin your experience of the site

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

More so thinking of career and other activities I do that this could be frowned upon etc. Although I do see the point of if they spot me then they must be on it also lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More so thinking of career and other activities I do that this could be frowned upon etc. Although I do see the point of if they spot me then they must be on it also lol "

If your boss spots you on here, guess what, she's also on here.

Technically anyone who spots you on here and shames you for it is shaming themselves in the process

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to keep my top on in work etc... so Im safe enough.. it doesnt worry me too much that I will come across someone I kbow

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"More so thinking of career and other activities I do that this could be frowned upon etc. Although I do see the point of if they spot me then they must be on it also lol "

Ok, so you're in NI which is a small place.

Just don't go too local and you will be fine. As you become more confident in the site and so more confident, reduce your catch radius to smaller.

Never thought I would use the term "catch radius" on a fab post.

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By *urious4lifeCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Depends on your job. If you’re a nun or priest, things may get awkward if found out

I assume the majority people who like the most discretion probably do so for personal reasons and not professional. Married, attached, kids etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tattoo is something that a person can identified by..just a thought if you need to be careful on here..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your job. If you’re a nun or priest, things may get awkward if found out

I assume the majority people who like the most discretion probably do so for personal reasons and not professional. Married, attached, kids etc. "

This.. However I was in my local lately and and a couple or friends were very quick to point out a localish couple who appeared on a trashy news paper article about swingers.. Their faces were disguised but it was clear it was them,Mortifying really and the talk of a small minded town until something else comes along

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

No, I don't give a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my face up on a regular basis. So what if someone finds out (happened a few times now)

I'm not a celebrity and I'm not doing anything morally wrong or illegal. People who judge you for who they think you are are generally judging you for their own mentality and actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excellent and oh so true observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't care I'm sure ifthere here they signed up too what can they say they seen u on a site there on haha come on n most here would agree what goes in fab stays in fab n should be kept that way n anyone that drinks someone's personal life to public gallery should be ousted n chased down with pitch forks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's my take on it don't know if anyone might agree but someone's personal life should be there personal life n not to be judged by a public gallery

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

We are all here for same reasons to have lots of fun now i await all the messages lol ive met people i know so it doesnt bother me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy tried that once.

Didnt work out well for him.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I laugh in there faces if they tryed that with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're on Fab, they're on Fab. But it is disconcerting when you're in a small town .. welcome to NI! Social hello's - not in the tiny local. Keep it out and about. And, good lord, close the windows if you wanna scream .. they'll still be asking about strange cars parked outside your house. Don't give them Live audio!!

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By *urlyloverMan
over a year ago

n Ireland

When your in work in a factory with about 100 employees and not in built up area,and you do search,who’s near on mobile at lunchtime and you always are finding a lady on the search list only a 2 minute walk from you.

Gets you thinking lol

It happens me most days

Has to be in factory

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By *hors.HammerMan
over a year ago

Newbridge

Only reason you would worry is if you have something to hide.

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By *lay2018Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Don't really care if people reconise us. We've reconised quite a few people we know on here yet haven't mentioned it to anyone and hope it's the same when people reconise us. YOLO so why care what others think or say. Just wouldn't want people starting all the small talk then our kids finding out.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Yep found out around 6 years ago with previous profile on different site, but worked out well at the started playing with couple on and off for good few months.. Until he showed me pictures he took with his wife.. Then the looking for money started or else etc etc.. "

He wanted to to pay him because he had pictures of you with his wife? Am I reading that right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it came out we would have to emigrate

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Well sure alot of us male an female married on here playing without partners knowledge i find .so prob best not being found out in that situ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are afraid to be spotted it might not be the scene for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More so thinking of career and other activities I do that this could be frowned upon etc. Although I do see the point of if they spot me then they must be on it also lol

If your boss spots you on here, guess what, she's also on here.

Technically anyone who spots you on here and shames you for it is shaming themselves in the process"

Not technically... a mutual friend is on it and tells them and they raised it, so no they may not and heard through the grapevine.

The grapevine is far reaching especially in Ireland.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Ah the excitment an danger is a buzz .loads male an female in my position on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only reason you would worry is if you have something to hide. "

This isn't true. I've kids. I wouldn't want them to find out what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only reason you would worry is if you have something to hide.

This isn't true. I've kids. I wouldn't want them to find out what I do. "

God my kids would be mortified if they knew I was on this site.

The first day I joined here I blocked everyone living close by. It's a small enough town so not that many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only reason you would worry is if you have something to hide.

This isn't true. I've kids. I wouldn't want them to find out what I do.

God my kids would be mortified if they knew I was on this site.

The first day I joined here I blocked everyone living close by. It's a small enough town so not that many.

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Imagine the sitting would get from there friends and others.

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

Couldn't care less who knows I've nothing to hide, my employers know and never batted an eyelid

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

I like to be discreet I’ve a busy job and 2 kids so I’d rather my neighbors or friends didn’t know my business if some wants a face pic no problem at all,but not every is comfortable put public pic up,everybody has different reasons

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By *outhbelMan
over a year ago

Near Carryduff

Small town, small country, all true! there is every posiblility there is people on here you might know from near by.

It is a worry for some professions I guess, Dr's, Garda etc. you just have to hope for the best.

I have sent a face pic once or twice and got a "OH I know you" followed by an instant block, now that is very uncomfortable . . .

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

You respect others

If you do know someone

Just leave it at that there here for same reason

They hardly want the drama any more than you do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve come across many I know from the real world and still happy to chat, as are they. It’s the ones who go out of their way to cause drama, make fake profiles & spread rumours I worry about. Especially if they’re going to go far enough as to try and find out personal information and find face pictures to expose you. I’ve had my real name posted on someone’s status by a fake profile that then just disappeared.

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By *eckycd41TV/TS
over a year ago

Navan

All the time but being exposed as a trannie would be worse

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By *outhbelMan
over a year ago

Near Carryduff


"I’ve come across many I know from the real world and still happy to chat, as are they. It’s the ones who go out of their way to cause drama, make fake profiles & spread rumours I worry about. Especially if they’re going to go far enough as to try and find out personal information and find face pictures to expose you. I’ve had my real name posted on someone’s status by a fake profile that then just disappeared. "

So disrespectful, no-one should have to go through that

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By *artinaAndrewCouple
over a year ago

mountmellick

We would be mortified if family or friends knew about our fab lifestyle so hopefully they don't lol. Discretion is very important to us but if we do happen to meet someone we know at least we will all be in the same situation, embarrassed but value each others privacy too. And it's cool knowing there are a few other like minded people around too

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

No not at all.

In fact anyone who knows me well knows I do this.

But then I'm single with no kids so it's easy to be open about it.

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By *scouple07Couple
over a year ago

louth, Ireland

We had a close call when we found out sister in law is on site too, had to make sure she couldn't tell it was us from our pictures

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"We had a close call when we found out sister in law is on site too, had to make sure she couldn't tell it was us from our pictures "
how did you know it was your sister in law , Did she have face pictures up or did you recognise her bedroom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We had a close call when we found out sister in law is on site too, had to make sure she couldn't tell it was us from our pictures how did you know it was your sister in law , Did she have face pictures up or did you recognise her bedroom? "

I was curious too ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I have been on here for a we while now. However one of the big things stopping me getting properly into it is the thought that someone I know could spot me. I’m reluctant to add any more pics etc

Anyone else have this worry ? "

Literally never. R u worried people will find out you enjoy sex??? Cos that's all that being on fab means.

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