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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How’s it going everyone. Advice for a “newbie” would be much appreciated.

I’ve been lurking here for a long time however I’ve only recently started to get my profile established in the fab community. F + MF would be my target audience however i’m finding it quite difficult to lock down a social, never mind anything further. Vicious circle as you generally can’t seek invites to events without being verified. I’m never sleezy and would like to think I come across well. In danger of coming off as desperate here and opening myself up for potential ridicule , however any constructive feedback appreciated on my profile.

#notacreep

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By *aked69Man
over a year ago

South


"How’s it going everyone. Advice for a “newbie” would be much appreciated.

I’ve been lurking here for a long time however I’ve only recently started to get my profile established in the fab community. F + MF would be my target audience however i’m finding it quite difficult to lock down a social, never mind anything further. Vicious circle as you generally can’t seek invites to events without being verified. I’m never sleezy and would like to think I come across well. In danger of coming off as desperate here and opening myself up for potential ridicule , however any constructive feedback appreciated on my profile.

#notacreep "

I was in the same boat a good few years ago and all I can say is just stick with it be nice and respectful and you will get chatting to some nice people. I stupidly get bored leave the site and lose my verifications and work commitments don’t give me a lot of time but when you do eventually get to a social you will meet extremely nice normal down to earth people... it will happen when you least expect it but don’t turn nasty because someone doesn’t message back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was closer I'd meet you for coffee to give you a veri. Hopefully you get sorted soon.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

Copied from a previous post

Quick summary for any newbies or people who struggle to get a meet/responses.

First of all women here want to be treated like real human beings with actual feelings, and needs so sentences like "I want to fuck your Mrs" or "I want my cock in you" or "come take my load" are just a sign of bad taste.

Also - anyone who wants to invite a stranger into their bed will invite a relaxed, easy going and experienced person before they would even look into trying their luck with someone who's new, nervous and shaky.

All of us here are adults, with families, jobs and read lives. most couples require a lot of preparation for such evenings (mindset, baby sitters, work adjustments etc.) so they wouldn't want to compromise their night that took so much time and effort to prepare for with inviting someone who may chicken out and be a no show or just be unable to do anything due to nerves or just simply not be good in bed.

Don't ever approach anyone saying anything like "playing with a couple is on my bucket list" - we are live people, not some fairy tale walking experiences for you to tick off.

Try to mentally walk in womans or couples shoes and see things from their perspective - it'll be easier to understand and not be so hard on yourself or them.

If someone is kind enough to reply with a "no thanks" - respect their choice and don't ask why not or try to convince them that you're worth giving a chance. That kind of behaviour will put them off replying to anyone all together.

Don't attach your cock shots unless someone actually asks you to do so (should be common sense).

Read people's profiles - takes 45 seconds at most. 45 seconds that will indicate weather you're a suitable candidate, if so - will increase your chances of matching with someone and reduce the frustration of constant no replies.

Don't copy paste your messages - be personal. If we will ever consider inviting you to our bed - we'd like to think that it matters to you as much as it matters to us.

Hope that helps.

Happy fabbing.

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By * peas in a podCouple
over a year ago

Ireland, Cork, East

If you ever find yourself in Cork, we'd be happy to meet for a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@Naked69 - thanks. Yeah that was my downfall over the past year too, didn’t stick with fab consistently (didn’t have any verifications to lose though!). Agreed 100% on being respectful and mindful of people’s wishes - I’m never one to turn nasty to a nope, a no thanks or an ignore!

@stephinboots - cheers I appreciate that!!

@MrandMrsRight - that’s very helpful thank you, appreciated. A lot of it is common sense for the genuine and mature user however from some of the frustrated messages I see especially single F put up as updates on Fab, common sense isn’t generally used on many approaches! There are nice points within that post too to bear in mind. Thanks again

@_ peas in a pod - thanks very much, appreciate the invite. Will of course if I end up in the People’s Rep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same if your ever desperate enough to go to laois I'll meet ya for a cuppa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We where all newbies at one stage.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Keep posting and contributing to the forums.

It will show that there's a personality behind the profile and who knows, you might be lucky enough to click with someone.

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal


"If you ever find yourself in Cork, we'd be happy to meet for a cuppa "

Sure we would come along too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not meet verified yet and to be be honast I've no interest in meet and greets at the moment, but chatting in the forum here and there just letting people see your some what normal is a start... Its certainly keeping me busy at the moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@louise74123 - it’s a small isle, you never know!! Haha thank you

@GP_80 - cheers, yes good advice. I could probably interact a bit more here communally. Sometimes a couple of PM ignores kills the confidence slightly and you’re thinking ohhh not sure I’m fitting in here! Temporary feeling though.

@Datenite - I’m glad my post has facilitated this introduction for you guys haha

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By *amsuzieCouple
over a year ago

newtownards

As Sam and I agree , this is not the be all and end all

We all have lives and that does get in the way , but this is only a bit of fun and spice

Stick in there !

We , ourselves are in the mature for want of a word , age bracket

Meetings are not always easy , but don’t expect too much , remember treat people how you want to be treated and enjoy

Best of luck to you and hopefully maybe our paths will cross

Suzie

X

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"If I was closer I'd meet you for coffee to give you a veri. Hopefully you get sorted soon."

She'd roofy you and leave you on beezies Island.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I was closer I'd meet you for coffee to give you a veri. Hopefully you get sorted soon.

She'd roofy you and leave you on beezies Island. "

Ssh you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile looks good op and great ass , as others have said get involved in the forums and get your personality across. I'm sure there will be plenty of coffee offers going around come September

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your profile

I like your bum too

I’m available next Friday in Dublin for a social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant see you having any issues to be honest.

Profile is very good as a few above said keep interacting here and you will get a few offers, you will see meet and greet socials posted here too that I am sure you will be welcomed to.

Enjoy the ride

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

I'm free this weekend if you wanted to meet somewhere halfway.

Otherwise your doing just fine, I can see even from your replies on the Forums that you seem like a decent guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are stuck I can meet you in Kildare Village for a coffee. Heading there later on this afternoon to help a new male get their first verify anyways.

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By *leasure Inc.Man
over a year ago

Cork

A queue for you.....can see a flood of males trying to copy your profile and do as you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Stephinboots, I would love a coffee meet for verification sometime .

Thanks

S

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By *leasure Inc.Man
over a year ago

Cork


"Hi Stephinboots, I would love a coffee meet for verification sometime .

Thanks

S"
That's the start of it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A queue for you.....can see a flood of males trying to copy your profile and do as you lol"

Why didn't I think of this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi Stephinboots, I would love a coffee meet for verification sometime .

Thanks

S"

You are already verified and out of my age range. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A queue for you.....can see a flood of males trying to copy your profile and do as you lol

Why didn't I think of this lol"

I did this a while ago, and didn’t get anything like as much interest. Kudos, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow thanks everyone for the input on this, really wasn’t expecting such a strong response at all!! Some really nice people on here have rescheduled out to me

@Jacksnow - yeah there’s nothing wrong with that. Immerse yourself in it and get to know the community!

@samzuzie - Suzie thanks for your input there and yeah I agree with you 100%, Fab for most (myself included) is looked to for a bit of fun outside of the normal daily grind. Fingers crossed!!

@_xyzptlk088

@stephinboots2 I like your style above haha

@up4fun82 - ah thank you for that . Now there’s a compliment hehe. Agreed I will try to be more active and hopefully get more established as time goes on!

@LivingMyBestLifexxx - I’m glad you do, on both fronts! Thanks for the message, that’s plenty of notice and works for me too I’ll message

@short_shlong_silver - thanks man, appreciate the positive feedback there!! Fingers crossed it’s onwards & upwards

@_exydownunder - thanks for reaching out with that message, you’re too kind! This weekend outside of Dublin might be difficult for me but you never know our paths might cross again

@rosyredlips - thanks for that message. It’s nice that you are going out of your way for single guys on here. I’ll have the same as the above with outside Dub this weekend with a couple of things here but please keep me in mind if you are up here again

@liveone2

@beardedvillian

@jorgybear

- not the intention nor the way I’m interpreting the responses. I think everyone has given some very good input here on the social side without going any further which is cool. A very respectful response to the post but yes undoubtedly it’s nice to get a strong response!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You come across very well in your profile and on this thread OP, hopefully your patience will pay off soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To fuck meeting someone off here haha.

Op you'd be better off trying to expand on your social life in order to meet people for sex.

See the way you use "community"? That's all bollocks. Yeah sure theres a tiny amount who go to socials like that swingers club on here. But there's a thousand guys to every woman. And for most people being on this website is not an openly shared thing. People just want random sex. There is no community (0.5 percent of users who go to socials don't make a community)

So just focus on the real world. This is all bollocks. Women and couples can develop egos and a 'kid in a candy shop' mentality due to the sheer amount of messages from guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me there would be alot of people on here that would just meet anybody....like really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to me there would be alot of people on here that would just meet anybody....like really "

What you basing this on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To fuck meeting someone off here haha.

Op you'd be better off trying to expand on your social life in order to meet people for sex.

See the way you use "community"? That's all bollocks. Yeah sure theres a tiny amount who go to socials like that swingers club on here. But there's a thousand guys to every woman. And for most people being on this website is not an openly shared thing. People just want random sex. There is no community (0.5 percent of users who go to socials don't make a community)

So just focus on the real world. This is all bollocks. Women and couples can develop egos and a 'kid in a candy shop' mentality due to the sheer amount of messages from guys.

"

Generalise much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame "

Where's the shame in a coffee and chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a coffee shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Where's the shame in a coffee and chat? "

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember people do put veris up ..boy can this girl suck ...is not a coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Generalise much? "

Living in your own bubble much?

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By *asterIrelandMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Be nice to people and attend parties and socials if you can

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By *leasure Inc.Man
over a year ago

Cork


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Where's the shame in a coffee and chat?

100%"
True but not a general opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not meet verified yet and to be be honast I've no interest in meet and greets at the moment, but chatting in the forum here and there just letting people see your some what normal is a start... Its certainly keeping me busy at the moment "

The forums work pretty well . People have a look at what you chat about and make their own opinion. Have a look at the bottom of my bio on advice for single guys. If you copy and paste it will help your profile .The rest is down to you. Happy Fabbing guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To fuck meeting someone off here haha.

Op you'd be better off trying to expand on your social life in order to meet people for sex.

See the way you use "community"? That's all bollocks. Yeah sure theres a tiny amount who go to socials like that swingers club on here. But there's a thousand guys to every woman. And for most people being on this website is not an openly shared thing. People just want random sex. There is no community (0.5 percent of users who go to socials don't make a community)

So just focus on the real world. This is all bollocks. Women and couples can develop egos and a 'kid in a candy shop' mentality due to the sheer amount of messages from guys.

"

Id normally not bite but its wet and there isnt much to do so fuck it.

Some people will struggle badly to get meets there is no doubt..........the problem rarely tends to be everybody else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Id normally not bite but its wet and there isnt much to do so fuck it.

Some people will struggle badly to get meets there is no doubt..........the problem rarely tends to be everybody else"

For the record I am not trolling as you implied. It's my opinion. If you don't agree with it. That's fine. All too often online people try to pull the trolling card. It's petty.

But as for what you said I'd agree. Not everyone has the same experiences. But I will say that what sexual organ you have can be an indication to how much success you have

More guys than women. I've accepted that. Let's call a spade a spade tho.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame "

People were very kind to me when I started. So I like to give back where I can and have a coffee and give a few pointers on Fab. It's very overwhelming as a newbie. It would be a nicer world if people showed a bit of kindness every now and then. Yes it's a swinging site but you can still help people out without fucking them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Id normally not bite but its wet and there isnt much to do so fuck it.

Some people will struggle badly to get meets there is no doubt..........the problem rarely tends to be everybody else

For the record I am not trolling as you implied. It's my opinion. If you don't agree with it. That's fine. All too often online people try to pull the trolling card. It's petty.

But as for what you said I'd agree. Not everyone has the same experiences. But I will say that what sexual organ you have can be an indication to how much success you have

More guys than women. I've accepted that. Let's call a spade a spade tho. "

I dont think your trolling I think you probably do believe what your saying

But you told the OP forget abkut fab and concentrate on the real world, when from what he has shown so far O doubt he will have too many issues getting meets unlike some people on here.

Yip its easier for women to get meets, same goes for the real world because those lads that would get up on anyone, they wpuld do the same in the realworld.

But getting a meet on here is not the impossible task, that some who do not have the social skills to do so, make out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I do believe what I am saying. As you believe what you're saying.

Haha. Bit of a silly thing to say isn't it lol.

But I know what you were doing. By saying so it implies I am so far up my own backside and my view is so unrealistic Yadda Yadda.

Very petty. Come on man you can do better... Or can you? (See what I did there lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. I do believe what I am saying. As you believe what you're saying.

Haha. Bit of a silly thing to say isn't it lol.

But I know what you were doing. By saying so it implies I am so far up my own backside and my view is so unrealistic Yadda Yadda.

Very petty. Come on man you can do better... Or can you? (See what I did there lol) "

I did better probably why you didnt quote the reply.

The site isnt just bollox and mem can quite easily get meets, just some cannot seem to, there is no need to blame ratios (most of the ladies will meet more than one guy strangely enough) or other peoples opinions of themselves just a little honest reflection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop "

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

@Dublinjock - why are you here then? Would you be not better off taking your own little frustrations elsewhere? My social life and sex life is just fine thanks and I stand by what I mean as a community here. Yes it’s a site with a specific purpose however most people develop and mature past the point of a simple ‘fuck’ and your sexual maturity/interests is normally reached though past experience and the people you’ve shared that with. For the most part people are quite liberal on this site and have particular interests - exploring some of those interests isn’t as easy as meeting a potential partner in a bar or on tinder and asking for instance “so DP, thoughts?!”. A lot of people in the Fab community are on the same level in respect of the above and it’s sometimes easier to reach out on this platform to explore. The only thing bollocks around here is your attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple to pu from a single guy profile ( whom was verified , this is second time around ) just keep swimming . Put in the time and effort in a polite respectful manner and meets will happen

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By *allyWally19Woman
over a year ago

The Road to Nowhere


"It's very overwhelming as a newbie. "

This...100% While I'm not seasoned, in the first few weeks of having my profile, I came so close to deleting it! But it was nice, decent people that kept me here.

OP, if you're ever in the Tipp/Waterford vicinity, give me a shout!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame "

Well I first time I have offered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat."

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Well I first time I have offered "

What you mean ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Well I first time I have offered

What you mean ?"

It's first time on a post I have offered to meet an unverified guy and reason been the guy was completely polite, no moaning or whining.

I give an unverified guy a chance before and he left me standing in middle of coffee shop after looking me up and down saying " oh your not for me". At end of day it was a coffee and chat.

And yes some people no interest in coffee and a chat and quite happy to rock up to a stranger's house or hotel and fuck them. Good luck to them but not a chance I'm willing to take.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Well I first time I have offered

What you mean ?

It's first time on a post I have offered to meet an unverified guy and reason been the guy was completely polite, no moaning or whining.

I give an unverified guy a chance before and he left me standing in middle of coffee shop after looking me up and down saying " oh your not for me". At end of day it was a coffee and chat.

And yes some people no interest in coffee and a chat and quite happy to rock up to a stranger's house or hotel and fuck them. Good luck to them but not a chance I'm willing to take."

Well you said you would meet me so not the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Well I first time I have offered

What you mean ?

It's first time on a post I have offered to meet an unverified guy and reason been the guy was completely polite, no moaning or whining.

I give an unverified guy a chance before and he left me standing in middle of coffee shop after looking me up and down saying " oh your not for me". At end of day it was a coffee and chat.

And yes some people no interest in coffee and a chat and quite happy to rock up to a stranger's house or hotel and fuck them. Good luck to them but not a chance I'm willing to take.

Well you said you would meet me so not the first time "

We have been chatting privately.

You just had a go at the few women who offered to help a guy out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The same girls that comment I'd meet you too everyone on different posts lol no shame

Well I first time I have offered

What you mean ?

It's first time on a post I have offered to meet an unverified guy and reason been the guy was completely polite, no moaning or whining.

I give an unverified guy a chance before and he left me standing in middle of coffee shop after looking me up and down saying " oh your not for me". At end of day it was a coffee and chat.

And yes some people no interest in coffee and a chat and quite happy to rock up to a stranger's house or hotel and fuck them. Good luck to them but not a chance I'm willing to take.

Well you said you would meet me so not the first time

We have been chatting privately.

You just had a go at the few women who offered to help a guy out. "

Who did I have a go at ? I'm saying what people are like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol "

Whether or which, it’s hardly warrants the “no shame” comment directed at women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol

Whether or which, it’s hardly warrants the “no shame” comment directed at women."

But some don't you seen some the profiles a new veri everyday with a new guy and all sexual so....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should read my post about Seining being a couples lifestyle. Some of the guys in here prove my point about treating dab like a meat market. Lustre seems genuine for meets and not just for a quick fuck. He has taken time to be honest and respectful. Some of the comments by guys on this post highlights the struggle couples and women have in trusting single men on here and why the site has lost its touch. If the fake profiles and meat market hunters left the site it would be easier to trust the true members of the site and the genuine single men would stand a better chance of being noticed.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off. "
luck

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over a year ago


"If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off. luck"

You can see from one decent post the OP has already gotten some coffee offers right?

Its not that hard it really isnt...

Great if you prefer meeting women in other ways, stick to that.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off. luck

You can see from one decent post the OP has already gotten some coffee offers right?

Its not that hard it really isnt...

Great if you prefer meeting women in other ways, stick to that."
that's great. It's upto himself if they're his cup of tea and wants to meet. It's lovely to get out and mingle when you're free .

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Stop using the word "lurking"

especially in your profile

Michael Jackson used the same word

in the song THRILLER & look what happened him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Stop using the word "lurking"

especially in your profile

Michael Jackson used the same word

in the song THRILLER & look what happened him "

I’ll let you away with that, as presumably you’re only Teasing!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for the feedback on this thread and for all who messaged me,

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"@Dublinjock - why are you here then? Would you be not better off taking your own little frustrations elsewhere? My social life and sex life is just fine thanks and I stand by what I mean as a community here. Yes it’s a site with a specific purpose however most people develop and mature past the point of a simple ‘fuck’ and your sexual maturity/interests is normally reached though past experience and the people you’ve shared that with. For the most part people are quite liberal on this site and have particular interests - exploring some of those interests isn’t as easy as meeting a potential partner in a bar or on tinder and asking for instance “so DP, thoughts?!”. A lot of people in the Fab community are on the same level in respect of the above and it’s sometimes easier to reach out on this platform to explore. The only thing bollocks around here is your attitude

"

This. And there is very much a community if you care to involve yourself in it. Enjoy your journey OP.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off. luck

You can see from one decent post the OP has already gotten some coffee offers right?

Its not that hard it really isnt...

Great if you prefer meeting women in other ways, stick to that.that's great. It's upto himself if they're his cup of tea and wants to meet. It's lovely to get out and mingle when you're free . "

It's August ya know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol

Whether or which, it’s hardly warrants the “no shame” comment directed at women.

But some don't you seen some the profiles a new veri everyday with a new guy and all sexual so...."

God you would be surprised how many men manage to keep their dicks in their pants for a one hour coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol

Whether or which, it’s hardly warrants the “no shame” comment directed at women.

But some don't you seen some the profiles a new veri everyday with a new guy and all sexual so....

God you would be surprised how many men manage to keep their dicks in their pants for a one hour coffee.

"

Or are really good at hiding it under the table

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not a coffee shop

True it’s not a coffee shop but it’s hard for single lads to get a look in and a veri can help to at least show that you are vaguely similar to what you say in your profile and maybe that you come across as a sane person!

I don’t pretend to be an arbiter of morality but last time I checked there was no shame in a coffee and chat.

Aye but if you read the comment after you will see what I'm getting at ....and how many guys expect just a coffee there obv hoping the get more lol

Whether or which, it’s hardly warrants the “no shame” comment directed at women.

But some don't you seen some the profiles a new veri everyday with a new guy and all sexual so....

God you would be surprised how many men manage to keep their dicks in their pants for a one hour coffee.

Or are really good at hiding it under the table "

Ah I was wondering what was nudging my knee

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you put enough effort in your look more then likely will change. I have no doubt alot of lads use this as a little extra and obtain most of their fun from real life. If you set up a nice profile, genuinely try hard and get nowhere, I can understand the frustration.. the numbers difference is huge. A woman might not even see your mail in amongst a bundle of others. It's a bank hol weekend. If you have nothing to do tonight or tomorrow get out and mingle. Everywhere will be busy and I guarentee you'll get chatting to some delicious ladies where you have face to face interaction from the off. luck

You can see from one decent post the OP has already gotten some coffee offers right?

Its not that hard it really isnt...

Great if you prefer meeting women in other ways, stick to that.that's great. It's upto himself if they're his cup of tea and wants to meet. It's lovely to get out and mingle when you're free .

It's August ya know! "
so I can see on the calendar.

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By *cean1963Man
over a year ago

n6

I am sailing the same boat . I have been polite and respectful one of two nay reply then they don't continue. Sure is difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@Dublinjock - why are you here then? Would you be not better off taking your own little frustrations elsewhere? My social life and sex life is just fine thanks and I stand by what I mean as a community here. Yes it’s a site with a specific purpose however most people develop and mature past the point of a simple ‘fuck’ and your sexual maturity/interests is normally reached though past experience and the people you’ve shared that with. For the most part people are quite liberal on this site and have particular interests - exploring some of those interests isn’t as easy as meeting a potential partner in a bar or on tinder and asking for instance “so DP, thoughts?!”. A lot of people in the Fab community are on the same level in respect of the above and it’s sometimes easier to reach out on this platform to explore. The only thing bollocks around here is your attitude

"

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Stop using the word "lurking"

especially in your profile

Michael Jackson used the same word

in the song THRILLER & look what happened him "

I was thinking this thread was getting a little out of hand. Then you go and reference Micheal Jackson. Not quite the requirement for Godwin’s law, but pretty close I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seen some great advice on this fair play.. struggling my self to get to grips with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen some great advice on this fair play.. struggling my self to get to grips with this "

1. Lose your face pic

2. Write something in your bio

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen some great advice on this fair play.. struggling my self to get to grips with this

1. Lose your face pic

2. Write something in your bio"

Not that there’s anything wrong with your face

Face pics as profile pics just make me uneasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen some great advice on this fair play.. struggling my self to get to grips with this

1. Lose your face pic

2. Write something in your bio

Not that there’s anything wrong with your face

Totally agree with you.. new to this great advice

Face pics as profile pics just make me uneasy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seen some great advice on this fair play.. struggling my self to get to grips with this

1. Lose your face pic

2. Write something in your bio

Not that there’s anything wrong with your face

Face pics as profile pics just make me uneasy"

Blank profiles make me uneasy.

There's something for everyone and if one decides to show their face - fair play to them for having balls and not hiding behind anonymous profile.

I often have my face pic out on mine and only thing that ever came out of it - people who ever message me tend to treat me with more respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"@Dublinjock - why are you here then? Would you be not better off taking your own little frustrations elsewhere? My social life and sex life is just fine thanks and I stand by what I mean as a community here. Yes it’s a site with a specific purpose however most people develop and mature past the point of a simple ‘fuck’ and your sexual maturity/interests is normally reached though past experience and the people you’ve shared that with. For the most part people are quite liberal on this site and have particular interests - exploring some of those interests isn’t as easy as meeting a potential partner in a bar or on tinder and asking for instance “so DP, thoughts?!”. A lot of people in the Fab community are on the same level in respect of the above and it’s sometimes easier to reach out on this platform to explore. The only thing bollocks around here is your attitude

"

Frustrations? No.

Simply sharing my view. My opinion. Am I not allowed?

Maybe I should have started my own thread. Would be a welcome change from men who white knight on this forum - you know, when a guy thinks using the forum will generate a few meets. they usually post some crap about how to fix my profile, how do I get into the community *cough cough* etc etc usually doesn't change shite sadly. Luck of the draw or right place right time they say.

But then again what do I know?

It's not like, as of writing this, I put the status (which you will surely take down after reading) of "bi mmf wanted" - even tho your profile, again as of writing this, says straight?

Don't tell me... You'll say next how if you say bi on this website it decreases your chances?

Yet so many say just be honest with people on here. Be respectful and the meets will happen.

But again, am sure you will get back saying what do I know or something to that effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And your status was cleared. Not updated. But cleared.

Read the thread I see.

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