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By *urlylover OP   Man
over a year ago

n Ireland

I remember when fab first came online.It was a great spot.

Everyone then was a potential meet as they where more honest and serious about it.

Nowadays the lifestyle has become to common which spells the fun as in my opinion the more descreet a subject is kept the more of a turn on it is.

Plus there was less bisexuality,more straight guys who could hold a descent conversation without the filth .

Just like to know your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soooooo the gays have ruined fab?

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The site gets more popular and it brings more people.I dont think bisexuality has anything to do with it. The site has something for everyone if you people choose to find it.Yes you will always have some messers etc but there is still a solid site here thats worth being part of. I just think its alot busier now than a few years ago and so brings with it more people and more choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always see men/women talk about when fab used to be good. I’m here just under a year and it has been fun, but there’s also been drama from the get go! Trolls.. fake profiles targeting friends and myself, as recent as yesterday! All photos and veris have to be hidden.. again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont see how the number of people in the lifestyle has any impact on one's personal pleasures, what others are doing in their own time is largely irrelevant to me.

Nor do I see how greater openness on the part of others with different orientation impacts on me personally, surely people being more comfortable with their sexuality and not feeling they need to live a life which is at odds with their own being is a good thing?

As in "real life", you choose your company.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I dont see how the number of people in the lifestyle has any impact on one's personal pleasures, what others are doing in their own time is largely irrelevant to me.

Nor do I see how greater openness on the part of others with different orientation impacts on me personally, surely people being more comfortable with their sexuality and not feeling they need to live a life which is at odds with their own being is a good thing?

As in "real life", you choose your company."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like it here. The craic is good and there’s plenty of meets to be had. It’s all good

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By *humper22Woman
over a year ago

waterford

I have met some lovely people on here. Some eas just a coffee/drink a a few that led to a fun meet. We cant all be everyone's cup of tea

As for gay straight or bi what's the harm it's more acceptable now and people dont have to hide like years ago and in my opinion that is a good thing.

As for Messrs time wasters and stuff your going to get that nature of the site I guess but you learn quickly how to spot them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

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By *humper22Woman
over a year ago

waterford


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed? "

Good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

Good idea"

Sign me up.... but how would we keep the pesky genuines out....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We like it here. The craic is good and there’s plenty of meets to be had. It’s all good "

Well said

Tis immense craic altogether

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is what you make of it yourself

You have filters so use them if you rather men didn't message you

Simple

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I've been here since 2012 and I think it's more or less the same and I enjoyed it.

It might be boring now as it is no longer new to you OP?

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

Good idea

Sign me up.... but how would we keep the pesky genuines out...."

Yep!... That whole segregation business always ends well!

But what if you're only part time messer, for example I'm rock solid genius on weekends but half assed messer on weekdays?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

Good idea

Sign me up.... but how would we keep the pesky genuines out....

Yep!... That whole segregation business always ends well!

But what if you're only part time messer, for example I'm rock solid genius on weekends but half assed messer on weekdays? "

So your bi-commitual? Sorry its the likes of you ruining fab.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what you mean. There are far more people that are playing about rather than wanting to meet but there are still lots of nice genuine people, you just have to try a bit harder to find them.

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

Good idea

Sign me up.... but how would we keep the pesky genuines out....

Yep!... That whole segregation business always ends well!

But what if you're only part time messer, for example I'm rock solid genius on weekends but half assed messer on weekdays?

So your bi-commitual? Sorry its the likes of you ruining fab....."

I'm ruining fab!... I'm not the one using three syllable words on a Saturday morning at 9.30am!!!

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By *urlylover OP   Man
over a year ago

n Ireland

I do still enjoy it and have success.I have met some folk on here over the years and I always stay in contact with them even though some of them I don't meet anymore.

I think people who keep disappearing and coming back with new profiles under new names etc is a problem.

What other sites are better

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"I understand what you mean. There are far more people that are playing about rather than wanting to meet but there are still lots of nice genuine people, you just have to try a bit harder to find them."

Totally agree... Chit chat to get laid is a very serious business!

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Look hey way more people internet savy nowadays .just sour grapes on your part me thinks that more an more men keep joining u not getting laid as easily as before .

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By *anKinkyMan
over a year ago

Carrick on Shannon

Maybe so but nothing to do with sexual orientation. I think when the Celtic Tiger arrived it came with an EGO which still lingers on.So it's not Fab that has changed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder would the messers be happier if they had their own subsection where only messers were allowed?

Good idea

Sign me up.... but how would we keep the pesky genuines out....

Yep!... That whole segregation business always ends well!

But what if you're only part time messer, for example I'm rock solid genius on weekends but half assed messer on weekdays?

So your bi-commitual? Sorry its the likes of you ruining fab.....

I'm ruining fab!... I'm not the one using three syllable words on a Saturday morning at 9.30am!!!"

But! You just did! Didntnt you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I did too!

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"See I did too!"

Not the way I pronounce it!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

The lifestyle isn't more common... It has just evolved.

Once upon a time swinging was a very discreet pursuit. People advertised in the back of Irelands Own and unless you all went to the same party, nobody knew who swung with who. Swinging was a cheeky little secret you shared only with those you met. The advent of online swinging sites changed that. Profiles meant that swingers could now peruse a vast catalogue of potential meets. People they would never otherwise be aware of, people in different places even, and a little bit of that secrecy died. People stumbled across the sites. People who had never considered swinging but thought 'naked people!! let's see what this is all about' and so came the era of the timewasters and pic hunters. This lead to questions about who was a genuine swinger or not, and lo! The verification was born.... and yet another delicate tendril of secrecy withered and died. Cams, chatrooms and even forums followed... And secrecy shrivelled to a husk. That secret smile you once shared with those you had met faded into obscurity as a nation of swingers became aware of your existence and activities through profiles, photos, verifications and updates. Through cams and chatrooms and forums and gossip.

The site hasn't changed. We have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nostalgia just isn't the same anymore!

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By *auljulietCouple
over a year ago

south sligo

When we started "swinging" there was no FAB or sites as such, it was all done throw the back pages of Buy & Sell, maybe 2 pages for the hole of Ireland.

But if you arranged to meet it was unheard of not to turn up or pretend to be a couple when single. Fake profiles destroy it for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we started "swinging" there was no FAB or sites as such, it was all done throw the back pages of Buy & Sell, maybe 2 pages for the hole of Ireland.

But if you arranged to meet it was unheard of not to turn up or pretend to be a couple when single. Fake profiles destroy it for others. "

Lol @ "hole of Ireland"

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

Belfast

Been on 5/6years and it’s still the same, you get wee waves of fake profiles, abuse or good meets and good craic. Just take the rough with the smooth, try not to take it too serious and enjoy yourself

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By *andomCaptainMan
over a year ago

side you


"When we started "swinging" there was no FAB or sites as such, it was all done throw the back pages of Buy & Sell, maybe 2 pages for the hole of Ireland.

But if you arranged to meet it was unheard of not to turn up or pretend to be a couple when single. Fake profiles destroy it for others.

Lol @ "hole of Ireland""

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

I blame the sneaky milfs. The whole place went to hell when they turned up and their covert operations: infiltrating threads, posting damn fine pics, being good craic generally and getting laid with impunity.

Goddamn sneaky milfs: you've brought down fab..!!

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"I blame the sneaky milfs. The whole place went to hell when they turned up and their covert operations: infiltrating threads, posting damn fine pics, being good craic generally and getting laid with impunity.

Goddamn sneaky milfs: you've brought down fab..!! "

Can’t trust them sneaky milfs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I blame the sneaky milfs. The whole place went to hell when they turned up and their covert operations: infiltrating threads, posting damn fine pics, being good craic generally and getting laid with impunity.

Goddamn sneaky milfs: you've brought down fab..!! "

Sure it's an absolute disgrace having all these sneaky Sexy Mammies infiltrate this fine establishment. Now would anyone like any Milf and cookies to cheer themselves up

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"I blame the sneaky milfs. The whole place went to hell when they turned up and their covert operations: infiltrating threads, posting damn fine pics, being good craic generally and getting laid with impunity.

Goddamn sneaky milfs: you've brought down fab..!!

Sure it's an absolute disgrace having all these sneaky Sexy Mammies infiltrate this fine establishment. Now would anyone like any Milf and cookies to cheer themselves up "

Brilliant..!

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"I blame the sneaky milfs. The whole place went to hell when they turned up and their covert operations: infiltrating threads, posting damn fine pics, being good craic generally and getting laid with impunity.

Goddamn sneaky milfs: you've brought down fab..!!

Sure it's an absolute disgrace having all these sneaky Sexy Mammies infiltrate this fine establishment. Now would anyone like any Milf and cookies to cheer themselves up "

Cookies?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I can see how more competition with men in their prime may have ruined it for some.

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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"I remember when fab first came online.It was a great spot.

Everyone then was a potential meet as they where more honest and serious about it.

Nowadays the lifestyle has become to common which spells the fun as in my opinion the more descreet a subject is kept the more of a turn on it is.

Plus there was less bisexuality,more straight guys who could hold a descent conversation without the filth .

Just like to know your thoughts."

We weren't here for the start but from what you say it sounds like it started in 1930s chatolic Ireland. The bi guys girls and everyone inbetween make the site as popular as it is. As for conversation, I suppose every one thinks the can quote the scholars and entertain a crowd until they are told otherwise.

Filth, personally we do love a bit

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I've been here 4 years, definately has changed, I rarely bother meeting new people now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The lifestyle isn't more common... It has just evolved.

Once upon a time swinging was a very discreet pursuit. People advertised in the back of Irelands Own and unless you all went to the same party, nobody knew who swung with who. Swinging was a cheeky little secret you shared only with those you met. The advent of online swinging sites changed that. Profiles meant that swingers could now peruse a vast catalogue of potential meets. People they would never otherwise be aware of, people in different places even, and a little bit of that secrecy died. People stumbled across the sites. People who had never considered swinging but thought 'naked people!! let's see what this is all about' and so came the era of the timewasters and pic hunters. This lead to questions about who was a genuine swinger or not, and lo! The verification was born.... and yet another delicate tendril of secrecy withered and died. Cams, chatrooms and even forums followed... And secrecy shrivelled to a husk. That secret smile you once shared with those you had met faded into obscurity as a nation of swingers became aware of your existence and activities through profiles, photos, verifications and updates. Through cams and chatrooms and forums and gossip.

The site hasn't changed. We have. "

Absolutely brilliant perception fantastically described.

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By *ezzer1234Man
over a year ago

Liverpool

Fabswingers is a good site,been here four years. ... .Great for form chats and club and party scene meets and socials. A great place to chat and meet like minded folk xxxx Fez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is good. I have had great fun. Stop moaning and put your energy in getting to socials and meeting people.

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

We’ve only been here for a year and we think it’s great - met the most amazing people who we can now call friends and meeting new people all the time . Also love that people who complain that ‘bisexuality’ is ruining fab have no problem messaging us

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County


"I remember when fab first came online.It was a great spot.

Everyone then was a potential meet as they where more honest and serious about it.

Nowadays the lifestyle has become to common which spells the fun as in my opinion the more descreet a subject is kept the more of a turn on it is.

Plus there was less bisexuality,more straight guys who could hold a descent conversation without the filth .

Just like to know your thoughts."

I assume this is trolling

But none the less

Frankie Boyle is hit and miss for me but he has a routine about "the good old days" which might be quite relevant to your post

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Everything has its highs and lows.

I still believe its who you know.

The swinging community is there.

You just have to find it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like the tide it ebbs and flows, Sometimes calm sometimes rough,

Often fun and occasionally tough,

You can always leave if you've had enough.

But in that event just hide your profile,

And come back again when you're feeling virile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think maybe like life itself OP it’s the expectations you have from the site and the stage of life your at yourself I’d say you were a youngfella full of beans when you first started using it and in a lot of peoples age preferences

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soooooo the gays have ruined fab? "

Damn gays at it again

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"there was less bisexuality, more straight guys who could hold a descent conversation without the filth .

Just like to know your thoughts."

My initial thoughts are that this is a very odd thing to say. The suggestion being that bi guys can't hold a conversation without being filthy... or that filthy talk, or guys finding you attractive is a bad thing? If someone hits on you who isn't your cuppa tea (male or female) then just say no. Plus I'm really not sure that bisexuality is anything new. Discuss.

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By *urlylover OP   Man
over a year ago

n Ireland

Perhaps it is a very odd thing to say but I find it to be true.Its not that it is bothering me as I think most of them do not have the guts to meet anyway and just sit at home,sex text and get off on it.

I was just passing a comment

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"Perhaps it is a very odd thing to say but I find it to be true.Its not that it is bothering me as I think most of them do not have the guts to meet anyway and just sit at home,sex text and get off on it.

I was just passing a comment "

Same goes for most straight guys. Sexuality doesn't come into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely changed, less genuine people on it, lots of fakes,sneaky trolling profiles and time wasters. Fab isn't a non profit making concern and should do more to out fake profiles and trolls. What do "on over a year", non pic verified, non site supporter, no meet, one line profiles, actually contribute to Fab. Wake up Fab and do something to improve things!!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"It's definitely changed, less genuine people on it, lots of fakes,sneaky trolling profiles and time wasters. Fab isn't a non profit making concern and should do more to out fake profiles and trolls. What do "on over a year", non pic verified, non site supporter, no meet, one line profiles, actually contribute to Fab. Wake up Fab and do something to improve things!!"

Do you report these fake profiles and trolls? If people don't report bad behaviour then how are fab supposed to know.

This place has ALWAYS been full of fakes. We have had literally hundreds of meets over the years and have only once had a noshow.its easy enough to out the timewasters. If you are struggling to get a meet or are getting constantly stood up, then you're doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What u get out of here normally correlates with what you put in. Fab is no different, always has been. Make the effort to connect with people takes effort especially at the start but if you want to keep experiencing things you have to keep making the effort to engage, that’s always been the case on here in my opinion. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's definitely changed, less genuine people on it, lots of fakes,sneaky trolling profiles and time wasters. Fab isn't a non profit making concern and should do more to out fake profiles and trolls. What do "on over a year", non pic verified, non site supporter, no meet, one line profiles, actually contribute to Fab. Wake up Fab and do something to improve things!!

Do you report these fake profiles and trolls? If people don't report bad behaviour then how are fab supposed to know.

This place has ALWAYS been full of fakes. We have had literally hundreds of meets over the years and have only once had a noshow.its easy enough to out the timewasters. If you are struggling to get a meet or are getting constantly stood up, then you're doing something wrong. "

Really? lol

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By *edro50Man
over a year ago

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By *edro50Man
over a year ago

enniskillen

I'm saddened by this thread, unfortunately we can't fix everything on fab to suit our own needs,its not online shopping. What I do not want ever to go from fab or anywhere is diversity, I mean if you are looking beautiful, straight people with no hangups!fab will never be for you!diversity from life is what makes this place great,we get to play with like minded people who have the same wants and desires as we do!so if you don't mind the small annoying things that are easily sorted.fab is still fab for all it's diversity.

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork


"It's definitely changed, less genuine people on it, lots of fakes,sneaky trolling profiles and time wasters. Fab isn't a non profit making concern and should do more to out fake profiles and trolls. What do "on over a year", non pic verified, non site supporter, no meet, one line profiles, actually contribute to Fab. Wake up Fab and do something to improve things!!

Do you report these fake profiles and trolls? If people don't report bad behaviour then how are fab supposed to know.

This place has ALWAYS been full of fakes. We have had literally hundreds of meets over the years and have only once had a noshow.its easy enough to out the timewasters. If you are struggling to get a meet or are getting constantly stood up, then you're doing something wrong.

Really? lol"

Really really. As a couple (like you) who isn't fugly, we could meet on a weekly basis if we wanted. You could too. It's easy enough. Just mailfilter unverifieds, only meet we'll verified people, out the weirdos, trust your instincts. Have coffee meets. Accept party invitations. Go to meet and greets. Its not that hard.

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By *ransBoiTV/TS
over a year ago

Somewhere


"The lifestyle isn't more common... It has just evolved.

Once upon a time swinging was a very discreet pursuit. People advertised in the back of Irelands Own and unless you all went to the same party, nobody knew who swung with who. Swinging was a cheeky little secret you shared only with those you met. The advent of online swinging sites changed that. Profiles meant that swingers could now peruse a vast catalogue of potential meets. People they would never otherwise be aware of, people in different places even, and a little bit of that secrecy died. People stumbled across the sites. People who had never considered swinging but thought 'naked people!! let's see what this is all about' and so came the era of the timewasters and pic hunters. This lead to questions about who was a genuine swinger or not, and lo! The verification was born.... and yet another delicate tendril of secrecy withered and died. Cams, chatrooms and even forums followed... And secrecy shrivelled to a husk. That secret smile you once shared with those you had met faded into obscurity as a nation of swingers became aware of your existence and activities through profiles, photos, verifications and updates. Through cams and chatrooms and forums and gossip.

The site hasn't changed. We have. "

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By *he James gangCouple
over a year ago

NEWTOWNABBEY


"The lifestyle isn't more common... It has just evolved.

Once upon a time swinging was a very discreet pursuit. People advertised in the back of Irelands Own and unless you all went to the same party, nobody knew who swung with who. Swinging was a cheeky little secret you shared only with those you met. The advent of online swinging sites changed that. Profiles meant that swingers could now peruse a vast catalogue of potential meets. People they would never otherwise be aware of, people in different places even, and a little bit of that secrecy died. People stumbled across the sites. People who had never considered swinging but thought 'naked people!! let's see what this is all about' and so came the era of the timewasters and pic hunters. This lead to questions about who was a genuine swinger or not, and lo! The verification was born.... and yet another delicate tendril of secrecy withered and died. Cams, chatrooms and even forums followed... And secrecy shrivelled to a husk. That secret smile you once shared with those you had met faded into obscurity as a nation of swingers became aware of your existence and activities through profiles, photos, verifications and updates. Through cams and chatrooms and forums and gossip.

The site hasn't changed. We have. "

Now that is what I call a very well put summary of swinging past to present. My hat off to you! F

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