FabSwingers.com forum: When it's not what you thought

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had a meet where it quickly turned into the Escape from Alcatraz. Funny when I look back at it now, Not so funny when I think of the nerves leading up to it. I suppose I should ask has anybody else, had that problem? I just wanted to vaguely share that story.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

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By *adrarfjordr VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Waterford

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean."

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean."
I purposely didn't go into details. But the question is easy, have you ever went to meet that you wanted to get out of as soon as?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

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I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.I purposely didn't go into details. But the question is easy, have you ever went to meet that you wanted to get out of as soon as? "

Ok, I get what you mean now

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

And No, I haven't experienced similar, fortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba. "

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on."

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

It is what it is...lol

Enjoy your holiday

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

It is what it is...lol

Enjoy your holiday

Thanks

I'll be teasingly close to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

It is what it is...lol

Enjoy your holiday

Thanks

I'll be teasingly close to you

Really lol

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

It is what it is...lol

Enjoy your holiday

Thanks

I'll be teasingly close to you

Really lol

Hook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on.

Love Island?

If I steal lines from that, I must have watched it in my sleep

It is what it is...lol

Enjoy your holiday

Thanks

I'll be teasingly close to you

Really lol

Hook"

Line and Lighthouse lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe if you explain it a little more.

Very hard to understand what you mean.

You know he ended up in a federal institution and either drowned trying to escape or fled to South America depending what you believe

I got attacked by a shark, I punched it in the nose and fled to Cuba.

Lol

Obviously at times you wont click/spark with the other person but both of you have taken time out of your schedules to meet each other. You both have Fab in common so chat be pleasant.

Steal some lines from First Dates or Love Island about being friends and move on."
If it was only that simple, I know context would go along way here but by saying the problem I feel it would be like naming the person. And if I ever spoke about love island, it would be bad mouthing it, i never watched one episode but its not hard to know what it's about and what sort of people be in it,ha, but each to their own.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I was waiting to meet someone and then seen them approach in their car. When they seen me they sped up and headed right for me, and i thought "This is it, this is how I die, how do I escape"

And I must have died and went to heaven, cause thats what the rest of the meet felt like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there have been occasions when I thought "not quite as advertised" but then they may also have been thinking the same thing ... but we chat & my penis brain says " they turned up, what's keeping you, hurry up & fuck" ... sure I have 2 minutes I can spare ... its sex, not friendship or relationship ... so although sometimes tempted I have never walked out on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a bad meet, either as a couple on fab or as singles before we met. We are very selective and make no apologies for it.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I've met many where the spark just wasn't there in person. Still glad I met them, just didn't follow it up with play. Wouldn't call them bad meets and would hate to think anyone ever used me as the any holes a goal type sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've met many where the spark just wasn't there in person. Still glad I met them, just didn't follow it up with play. Wouldn't call them bad meets and would hate to think anyone ever used me as the any holes a goal type sex.

I've given the OP the benefit of the doubt here and assumed he's referring to someone who turned out to be positively creepy or dangerous, as opposed to someone he just didn't want to shag. But he hasn't given us much to go on...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

A few years ago I walked out on one meet, the spark was just not there and when the naughty mind isn't turned on the pussy doesn't get wet. It wasn't pleasant to do so and I actually felt sorry for the guy but I just can't force myself.

Anyhow what I learned through this is to do my homework more carefully. I never had to walk out since.

OP, as you left us all guessing what turned your meet into one from hell, all I can say: There's always a way out, you just have to be brave enough. Also learn from your mistake so that at least something positive comes from it.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Fortunately I’ve never had this situation, but then I don’t meet easily, only after chatting a good bit on here, so generally we know what each other are about

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By *angtasticallyMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Well it can happen I had that experience not nice but if your honest about it it usually turn out ok...but some ppl dont lije rejection and can over react...but u usual can tell from a meeting before hand weather it safe are not

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Yes... Met someone for a drink once in my early days on Fab and was bored to tears by him moaning about his job and workmates. He had also lied about his age and looked 15-20 years older than the face pic he had sent me. If it happened now I would just leave, but back then I felt I had to sit, nod and smile for at least an hour before fleeing the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been lucky anyone I have met has been great.....

It helps that I normally take an age to arrange a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been lucky anyone I have met has been great.....

It helps that I normally take an age to arrange a meet"

Who are ya tellin'

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin

"A few years ago I walked out on one meet, the spark was just not there and when the naughty mind isn't turned on the pussy doesn't get wet. It wasn't pleasant to do so and I actually felt sorry for the guy but I just can't force myself.

Anyhow what I learned through this is to do my homework more carefully. I never had to walk out since.

It has happened to me once so far.

I've met someone for a coffee, but God I was in for a very unpleasant experience.

But I am a gentleman and kept my cool and even dropped her back home.

The only time I would not write someone a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had one date where as soon as he walked up to me I wanted to run. He was disgusting. Like everything about him. Horrible outfit, really loud and obnoxious, didn't smell nice and then when he went in for a kiss I actually thought I would vomit.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"I have been lucky anyone I have met has been great.....

It helps that I normally take an age to arrange a meet

Who are ya tellin'

I lol'd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had one date where as soon as he walked up to me I wanted to run. He was disgusting. Like everything about him. Horrible outfit, really loud and obnoxious, didn't smell nice and then when he went in for a kiss I actually thought I would vomit. "

God I didn't know my ex husband joined Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We booked a hotel and met the guy in the bar, told him drinks and see where it goes. We had planned on him coming upstairs but a lot of what he said in person didn't match what he said over text, he was more loose lipped after a few drinks. I (male) got a really bad vibe off him and the alarm bells were ringing in my head, told him we were going up just to have a quick chat first and we would text him the room number if we wanted him to come up, we didn't. We said we didn't feel a spark in person, he didn't take it well and had a little tantrum. He text S the next day and told her if she ever wanted to meet alone without me knowing to let him know. Always trust your gut

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By *urydiceRisingWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"It has happened to me once so far.

I've met someone for a coffee, but God I was in for a very unpleasant experience.

But I am a gentleman and kept my cool and even dropped her back home.

The only time I would not write someone a verification. "

Since that was me, and this is a very rare circumstance, I'm jumping in.

We don't get along. There's nothing wrong with that. It was unpleasant, but there wasn't much that could be done about that. I was also as gracious as I could be considering the conversation. I thank you for dropping me home, I thought refusing your offer would have been way to combative considering how confrontational the whole conversation was. It happens. Neither of us are scarred for life. And hopefully, this proves we can exist in the same spaces without a detriment to ourselves and others. Like all experiments, finding out what doesn't work is just as important as finding out what does.

That being said, to the others reading this, meeting from a site like this isn't a mandate for sex. Meeting from a site like this really just means you can skip the vanilla Q & A and you can somewhat assume that the person opposite isn't considering what colour the wedding invites should be. Other than that, it's the same as meeting anyone from anywhere - and sometimes people completely clash - as we did. It's why the assumption in a lot of profiles that state 'I'm just looking for like minded people,' makes me laugh. We may both like being slathered in grape jelly and flogged with bread sticks that does not mean we are like minded by any stretch of the imagination.

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

belfast

My worst meet was few months ago, got contacted by a lady who I had meet before as part of a couple, asking if I’d like to meet again, same as last time, husband just watches. Fine by me I’d meet them both a few times before about a year previous, was actually there first meet!

Anyway rock up the house and she opens door, I step inside, she’s in sexy wee bra and pants, leads me into the livingroom. This is where it turns sour! The hubby starts shouting that she wasn’t to meet me anymore, she starts shouting back for him to get over himself! I just walk my boner back out the door and leave!

Still don’t know what happened or how I pissed them off or why she invited me knowing hubby would react that way! Hubby seemed fine the year before and he actually was the one who originally contacted me! Anyway they blocked me and are still on here! So if your reading this “hi again”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I didn't know my ex husband joined Fab

Fairly cruel comment, why did you marry such a man if he was so revolting & further more this is the same man with whom you had kids. Maybe he is a shit dad, there are loads of them, maybe you are just a bitter woman, there are loads of them also. No doubt I will now be a target for the man bashers but generally it takes 2 people to make a relationship & 2 people to break it also.

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By *razy-88Man
over a year ago

belfast

God I didn't know my ex husband joined Fab

Think she was just takin the piss!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I didn't know my ex husband joined Fab

It takes two people to make a relationship, it definitely doesn't take two people to break it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My very first meet on fab and I made the mistake of saying ok, I’m meet you on the ground floor of my hotel, directly in front of the lifts. He agreed he’d be holding a bottle of Evian water. No joke. He was nothing like his pics. At least 15 years older. 5’3 not 6’3. Fat not ‘well built ‘. Orange coloured not tanned. I took one look and kept on walking...

Learnt my lesson to check and check again before a meet. You learnt yours now OP?

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Well one thing you can do to cut down on being surprised is to meet at a cafe that overlooks an intersection and you can say to meet at the intersection, and watch out. If they match up a simple "I'm in the cafe" text will bring them into you.

Although I know most on here the first time they see each other is in a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well one thing you can do to cut down on being surprised is to meet at a cafe that overlooks an intersection and you can say to meet at the intersection, and watch out. If they match up a simple "I'm in the cafe" text will bring them into you.

Although I know most on here the first time they see each other is in a hotel."
. You’re so sensible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been lucky anyone I have met has been great.....

It helps that I normally take an age to arrange a meet

Who are ya tellin'

And then some just never take the hint....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I didn't know my ex husband joined Fab

Hahaha

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