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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?"

Nope ..not at all..have messaged ladies that caught my attention with a very nice text....l got either a straight delete or a no reply..some even blocked me but hey .it's a jungle out here ..but l would never be intimidated of not getting a reply..on the contrary..l'm well conditioned to it but it certainly don't stop me from sending them ..what's the worst they can do ..oh yeah..delete straight away..not reply..or block...other than that l'm still breathing and alive so not getting a reply doesn't bother me in the least...l just keep knocking on the doors...and if one opens ..great ..if not ...no harm done...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?

Nope ..not at all..have messaged ladies that caught my attention with a very nice text....l got either a straight delete or a no reply..some even blocked me but hey .it's a jungle out here ..but l would never be intimidated of not getting a reply..on the contrary..l'm well conditioned to it but it certainly don't stop me from sending them ..what's the worst they can do ..oh yeah..delete straight away..not reply..or block...other than that l'm still breathing and alive so not getting a reply doesn't bother me in the least...l just keep knocking on the doors...and if one opens ..great ..if not ...no harm done..."

I thought it was jus me lol

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?"

Send one message.. Wait to be struck dead.. No. Send another, and another, see what happens, if only out of curiosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing "

I thought that but when everyone doesn’t reply kinda get disheartening lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing

I thought that but when everyone doesn’t reply kinda get disheartening lol"

Stick with it. There is some decent ladies here.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

As they say in love island "It is what it is"..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing

I thought that but when everyone doesn’t reply kinda get disheartening lol

Stick with it. There is some decent ladies here. "

I’m on it long enough wit not much success. Only so much sticking around I can do lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As they say in love island "It is what it is"..

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Haha I don’t watch that so wouldn’t know

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By *ORDERMANMan
over a year ago

wrexham

When on the pitch and you have the ball... Do you feel intimidated by those lining up to tackle you...?

I doubt you do.... Same as on here... If you don't message you don't get a reply... Yes many of your messages may well be ignored but eventually someone will reply..

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By *aisedByWolvesMan
over a year ago

Dublin City

Id be more intimidated by actually getting a response

But seriously if you find rejection hard to deal with Fab is not the place for you!

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Definitly not... if they dont get back to me its not the end of the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?

Nope ..not at all..have messaged ladies that caught my attention with a very nice text....l got either a straight delete or a no reply..some even blocked me but hey .it's a jungle out here ..but l would never be intimidated of not getting a reply..on the contrary..l'm well conditioned to it but it certainly don't stop me from sending them ..what's the worst they can do ..oh yeah..delete straight away..not reply..or block...other than that l'm still breathing and alive so not getting a reply doesn't bother me in the least...l just keep knocking on the doors...and if one opens ..great ..if not ...no harm done..."
what he says

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Fear is a strong word. If you read the hundreds of threads complaining about not getting a reply you should know it's part and parcel of fab life.

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By *ka ..Agent k ..Man
over a year ago

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.. not at all" if you don't stick your neck out you'll never get it broke..

There a friendly bunch ear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?"
There are definitely people here that try to intimidate others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response? There are definitely people here that try to intimidate others."

Are there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?"

I have completely stopped sending a first message since returning with this profile. It's not stopped meeting, but it has stopped having any messages ignored and deleted and as such has helped filter out those not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response? There are definitely people here that try to intimidate others.

Are there?"
Simply answer yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To echo other posters, many women in particular are receiving dozens of unwanted messages each day. I wouldn’t let it put you off though OP! I have even received unwanted messages from users, and they are usually very unimaginative altogether, usually just a “hi, want fun?” Which I probably wouldn’t reply to even if I was interested

Have a read of their profile and be original. Has worked well for me so far for chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To echo other posters, many women in particular are receiving dozens of unwanted messages each day. I wouldn’t let it put you off though OP! I have even received unwanted messages from users, and they are usually very unimaginative altogether, usually just a “hi, want fun?” Which I probably wouldn’t reply to even if I was interested

Have a read of their profile and be original. Has worked well for me so far for chatting "
Why are you here I take it's for fun so what's wrong with a Hi want fun message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To echo other posters, many women in particular are receiving dozens of unwanted messages each day. I wouldn’t let it put you off though OP! I have even received unwanted messages from users, and they are usually very unimaginative altogether, usually just a “hi, want fun?” Which I probably wouldn’t reply to even if I was interested

Have a read of their profile and be original. Has worked well for me so far for chatting Why are you here I take it's for fun so what's wrong with a Hi want fun message."

I am here for fun yes, and that was the least explicit example i was going to use. More of it was along the lines of being offered money to let guys suck me off, no bueno lol

I just think a bit of effort in a first message goes a long way, like

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people can be ignorant on here. I’m not complaining even when it sounds like I am. I can handle rejection not a problem there at all. When I do send a message and it’s not answered or jus deleted doesn’t put me off in the slightest and I’ll message others that interest me But when people do delete the messages etc it can be intimidating waiting for a reply, it’s crazy maybe I think I’m doing something wrong. I think of all the times I’ve messaged someone here Iv had one person recently that messaged me back to say they weren’t meeting and it was actually nice to get a response even if it was a rejection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

message all the time ..if I got 1 in 10 with a delete or reply I'll be amazed

one couple blocked me because i didn't think the female was my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never intimidated on here by anyone!.. Why would I be,getting rejected or ignored by people I've never met is like being terrified of being struck down by God if I commit a sin! ...as it happens I sent him loads of messages when I was young!...never got a reply,so guess he wasn't interested either!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Some people can be ignorant on here. I’m not complaining even when it sounds like I am. I can handle rejection not a problem there at all. When I do send a message and it’s not answered or jus deleted doesn’t put me off in the slightest and I’ll message others that interest me But when people do delete the messages etc it can be intimidating waiting for a reply, it’s crazy maybe I think I’m doing something wrong. I think of all the times I’ve messaged someone here Iv had one person recently that messaged me back to say they weren’t meeting and it was actually nice to get a response even if it was a rejection "

I don't even check to see if they have read it usually.

If they reply, they do and conversation may flow from there depending upon their response.

If they don't I continue on my merry way, enjoying the forums mostly, perving the pics and having a rare, once a year M&G.

Personally, I get a lot more craic out of the forums, with the odd conversation being an exception, which I'm kinda happy with.

I'm a slow burner though and happy to develop a friendship over time.

Maybe try a similar approach?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone else intimidated to message people from here in fear of not getting a response?"

I read their profiles and if they have an arsey attitude, which a lot have, then fuck them. Why be intimidated? Says more about you, than them. Try looking at profiles that are open to convo's and remember most women on here say 'No single males' because all blokes are lobbing a thousand dick pics at them. Offer something different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people can be ignorant on here. I’m not complaining even when it sounds like I am. I can handle rejection not a problem there at all. When I do send a message and it’s not answered or jus deleted doesn’t put me off in the slightest and I’ll message others that interest me But when people do delete the messages etc it can be intimidating waiting for a reply, it’s crazy maybe I think I’m doing something wrong. I think of all the times I’ve messaged someone here Iv had one person recently that messaged me back to say they weren’t meeting and it was actually nice to get a response even if it was a rejection

Yeah ur dead right. Jus I suppose swinging isn’t as common over here then it would be in the uk so it jus extremely slow for me lol not that I mind cos I do like the occasional chat and very often perv on other pics lol

I don't even check to see if they have read it usually.

If they reply, they do and conversation may flow from there depending upon their response.

If they don't I continue on my merry way, enjoying the forums mostly, perving the pics and having a rare, once a year M&G.

Personally, I get a lot more craic out of the forums, with the odd conversation being an exception, which I'm kinda happy with.

I'm a slow burner though and happy to develop a friendship over time.

Maybe try a similar approach? "

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Some people can be ignorant on here. I’m not complaining even when it sounds like I am. I can handle rejection not a problem there at all. When I do send a message and it’s not answered or jus deleted doesn’t put me off in the slightest and I’ll message others that interest me But when people do delete the messages etc it can be intimidating waiting for a reply, it’s crazy maybe I think I’m doing something wrong. I think of all the times I’ve messaged someone here Iv had one person recently that messaged me back to say they weren’t meeting and it was actually nice to get a response even if it was a rejection

Yeah ur dead right. Jus I suppose swinging isn’t as common over here then it would be in the uk so it jus extremely slow for me lol not that I mind cos I do like the occasional chat and very often perv on other pics lol

I don't even check to see if they have read it usually.

If they reply, they do and conversation may flow from there depending upon their response.

If they don't I continue on my merry way, enjoying the forums mostly, perving the pics and having a rare, once a year M&G.

Personally, I get a lot more craic out of the forums, with the odd conversation being an exception, which I'm kinda happy with.

I'm a slow burner though and happy to develop a friendship over time.

Maybe try a similar approach? "

Que?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never intimidated on here by anyone!.. Why would I be,getting rejected or ignored by people I've never met is like being terrified of being struck down by God if I commit a sin! ...as it happens I sent him loads of messages when I was young!...never got a reply,so guess he wasn't interested either! "
not exact similarities but I get wer you wer trying to go but just less dramatic, I once saw a female on here who I was always lost for something to say that hasn't been said a thousand times, I msgd her anyway cant remember wat id said but she gave a reply and my worst fear came true, R.E.J.E.C.T.E.D or ghosted wat ever the name is for it now, to this day my finger trembles the second before I hit that send button.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor


"You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing

I thought that but when everyone doesn’t reply kinda get disheartening lol

Stick with it. There is some decent ladies here.

Do you realise there are over 30 single males on here to every single girl? Unfortunately the odds aren't stacked in your favour. I do try to reply to most messages even if it is just a polite "no thank you x" but if I'm not on here for a day or two the inbox is crazy so have to filter out the what from the chaff in afraid.

Keep your head up, if it Happens it Happens, no harm done if not

I’m on it long enough wit not much success. Only so much sticking around I can do lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You shouldn't feel intimidated. Worse someone can say is no, and if they do just move on. Happy fabbing "

Much the same with going to a Club, social or M&G for some but for some it's very difficult.

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