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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan

Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

After birth of second child, her libido fell off a cliff.

Have tried many things and despite occasional recurrences of passion it just doesn't seem to be maintained.

I'm summarising considerably here but you have the gist of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???"

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people drift apart

dont enjoy sex with their partner

for those that met & married in pre 90's Ireland, living together was not common, pre marital sex not too common, experience of sex with someone other than the person you were marrying, also not to common...so many entering marriage were sexually inexperienced, knew little about what to do or what they enjoyed...for many women those early marriage sex fumbles, followed by pregnancy, often resulted in a dislike of sex...many women only discovering an enjoyment & love of sex in their later years & with a new partner.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault. "

wise words from one so young

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Mungret


"Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault. "

This would be so true. Its like leaving with your "sister" under one roof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault. "

As above, plus some people just cheat because they can (e.g.frequent hotel stays for work) and others cheat because they get a kick or some form of passive aggressive revenge from deceiving their other half. For individuals who lack empathy, doing as they wish without giving a thought for others is a way of life.

It's not always the case that sex is lacking at home, and it's not always men that are straying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relationships are complex.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

My research says it's about 70% married/in relationship on here.

There's endless reasons why the lipido disappears. Not everyone is enjoying sex as much as peeps on here and not everyone on here is a great shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" not everyone on here is a great shag."

Off topic but ^^^ is so true!

As to the married people playing away as others have said there’s a myriad of reasons, some perhaps more understandable than others. Though it’s not my place to judge the truth is I understand better why people play away from home if they are in a sexless marriage but stay together for the children better than I do the people who play away for kicks because in that instance their partner (male or female) probably thinks everything is grand when in truth their other half is totally cheating on them.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"My research says it's about 70% married/in relationship on here.

There's endless reasons why the lipido disappears. Not everyone is enjoying sex as much as peeps on here and not everyone on here is a great shag."

I told u it was an off dat ffs no need to tell the world

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"My research says it's about 70% married/in relationship on here.

There's endless reasons why the lipido disappears. Not everyone is enjoying sex as much as peeps on here and not everyone on here is a great shag.

I told u it was an off dat ffs no need to tell the world "

I'm not taking about premature cuming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" not everyone on here is a great shag.

Off topic but ^^^ is so true!

As to the married people playing away as others have said there’s a myriad of reasons, some perhaps more understandable than others. Though it’s not my place to judge the truth is I understand better why people play away from home if they are in a sexless marriage but stay together for the children better than I do the people who play away for kicks because in that instance their partner (male or female) probably thinks everything is grand when in truth their other half is totally cheating on them. "

Trouble is, you only ever get one version of the story on here

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"My research says it's about 70% married/in relationship on here.

There's endless reasons why the lipido disappears. Not everyone is enjoying sex as much as peeps on here and not everyone on here is a great shag.

I told u it was an off dat ffs no need to tell the world

I'm not taking about premature cuming. "

Ooopppssss

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Mungret


"My research says it's about 70% married/in relationship on here.

There's endless reasons why the lipido disappears. Not everyone is enjoying sex as much as peeps on here and not everyone on here is a great shag."

If you are with someone for 10+ years or whatever...one of two always knows what the other half is up to, what they will do etc, libido is low and all ads up... . I guess we all are looking for perfect libido match.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor


"Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault.

wise words from one so young"

Lol I try

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with."

Perhaps, perhaps not, we always have choices though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???"

90%......how did you log that specific metric 8)

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By *rezMan
over a year ago

Mungret


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

90%......how did you log that specific metric 8)"

No one knows, but it is provocative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with."

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships."

Some people are happier in an open relationship or a polyamorous one, that doesn't mean they're less committed or have lower values, unless you only accept the traditional values based on the orthodox relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships."

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can be one of a hundred things, never as black and white as it seems..money problems, stress, depression, kids, can all have an effect on sex drives.

Factor into that people just lose interest in each other.

Then married couples can try to ignore their relationship breakdown bf try to ride it out "for the sake of the kids"

They agree to take a break but neither can afford to move out. Can't seem the house because of negative equity.

Ladies crave love, men crave lust. Women can go without longer and their sex drive sometimes dies down, men who have to abstain go looking elsewhere.

So is the question why isn't she having sex with her husband or why is he looking elsewhere? Either or probably both are at fault. "

Men can crave love just as much as women can crave lust... bit of a generalisation here. Not everything in life is 'black or white'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons... "

I think using ones differing taste in music to sex in a relationship is a rather pithy comparison to make. Relationship is the key that most overlook. It's a two way thing and sex is part of a relationship, music isn't and has little or no bearing generally. Music certainly doesn't have the same impact of consequences as the sex in a relationship.

I haven't said I understand why one does it. I was making an observation of possible consequences of ones actions.

If there's consentual acceptance of outside partners then it doesn't raise any issues does it, so that not what is being referred to in the thread. Cheating is wrong, simple, irrespective of reasons whether understandable if not. People often do wrong things and we may understand why they do it, it doesn't change the fact of something being right or wrong, it just changes its acceptance for doing wrong for some. Some may argue it's not wrong but if the other partner found out, then by law it's grounds for divorce, why then is it grounds for divorce if it's not wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

Some people are happier in an open relationship or a polyamorous one, that doesn't mean they're less committed or have lower values, unless you only accept the traditional values based on the orthodox relationship. "

That's not the issue being discussed as you well know if you follow the main gist of the thread. If they both agree with poly, then of course there is no issue and that isn't the issue here. One may argue they aren't monogamous, then discuss it with the partner, if they don't agree, get out and don't cheat and leave potenty carnage behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons...

I think using ones differing taste in music to sex in a relationship is a rather pithy comparison to make. Relationship is the key that most overlook. It's a two way thing and sex is part of a relationship, music isn't and has little or no bearing generally. Music certainly doesn't have the same impact of consequences as the sex in a relationship.

I haven't said I understand why one does it. I was making an observation of possible consequences of ones actions.

If there's consentual acceptance of outside partners then it doesn't raise any issues does it, so that not what is being referred to in the thread. Cheating is wrong, simple, irrespective of reasons whether understandable if not. People often do wrong things and we may understand why they do it, it doesn't change the fact of something being right or wrong, it just changes its acceptance for doing wrong for some. Some may argue it's not wrong but if the other partner found out, then by law it's grounds for divorce, why then is it grounds for divorce if it's not wrong?"

First of, me saying “monogamy is not for everyone” doesn’t mean I condone cheating. Cheating is wrong regardless of how you paint it. My point here is that some people get into relationships when they shouldn’t. I’m not an advocate of having an open relationship but I know one or two people that has used it’s to their advantage and it works for them. Just like monogamous relationship is not for everyone, same goes for polygamous relationship as long as there is no cheating involve and everyone involve understand and accept the situation.

Secondly and finally, one rules don’t fit all.

Now, I really need to get back to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons...

I think using ones differing taste in music to sex in a relationship is a rather pithy comparison to make. Relationship is the key that most overlook. It's a two way thing and sex is part of a relationship, music isn't and has little or no bearing generally. Music certainly doesn't have the same impact of consequences as the sex in a relationship.

I haven't said I understand why one does it. I was making an observation of possible consequences of ones actions.

If there's consentual acceptance of outside partners then it doesn't raise any issues does it, so that not what is being referred to in the thread. Cheating is wrong, simple, irrespective of reasons whether understandable if not. People often do wrong things and we may understand why they do it, it doesn't change the fact of something being right or wrong, it just changes its acceptance for doing wrong for some. Some may argue it's not wrong but if the other partner found out, then by law it's grounds for divorce, why then is it grounds for divorce if it's not wrong?

First of, me saying “monogamy is not for everyone” doesn’t mean I condone cheating. Cheating is wrong regardless of how you paint it. My point here is that some people get into relationships when they shouldn’t. I’m not an advocate of having an open relationship but I know one or two people that has used it’s to their advantage and it works for them. Just like monogamous relationship is not for everyone, same goes for polygamous relationship as long as there is no cheating involve and everyone involve understand and accept the situation.

Secondly and finally, one rules don’t fit all.

Now, I really need to get back to work "

We're not disagreeing on any points then when explained like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons...

I think using ones differing taste in music to sex in a relationship is a rather pithy comparison to make. Relationship is the key that most overlook. It's a two way thing and sex is part of a relationship, music isn't and has little or no bearing generally. Music certainly doesn't have the same impact of consequences as the sex in a relationship.

I haven't said I understand why one does it. I was making an observation of possible consequences of ones actions.

If there's consentual acceptance of outside partners then it doesn't raise any issues does it, so that not what is being referred to in the thread. Cheating is wrong, simple, irrespective of reasons whether understandable if not. People often do wrong things and we may understand why they do it, it doesn't change the fact of something being right or wrong, it just changes its acceptance for doing wrong for some. Some may argue it's not wrong but if the other partner found out, then by law it's grounds for divorce, why then is it grounds for divorce if it's not wrong?"

The point l was making in general was that cheating can occur when one partner ( male or female )

decides that because they have no Interest in something the other partner has and therefore the one that wants to do stuff or go places can't because the other partner has no interest...the music part was only an example of such ...there are a ton of different reasons similar ...but the bottom line is cheating can occur when one loses interest in the other partner for various reasons...

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

How does the OP k ow that 90% of men on here are married/attached

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

Some people are happier in an open relationship or a polyamorous one, that doesn't mean they're less committed or have lower values, unless you only accept the traditional values based on the orthodox relationship.

That's not the issue being discussed as you well know if you follow the main gist of the thread. If they both agree with poly, then of course there is no issue and that isn't the issue here. One may argue they aren't monogamous, then discuss it with the partner, if they don't agree, get out and don't cheat and leave potenty carnage behind."

The op's question is why women stop craving sex with their partner and it drifted off into the usual cheating discussion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's alot of married women on here playing away from home too.

Swings and roundabouts and all that crap.

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"There's alot of married women on here playing away from home too.

Swings and roundabouts and all that crap."

Yes undoubtedly and they will likely have similar various reasons, of which we are not the judges.

Just here for safe fun

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

every body is here for thr same reason thats to enjoy themselfs . feic the begrudgers .

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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"..."
I’m asking why married women don’t want sex with their husband

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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

I wouldn't fully agree that the message to kids that " it's acceptable to cheat " ...I think there could be a situation where either male or female has lost ,for whatever reason ,the desire to have sex , and because of that , one realises that because one has no interest is not gonna mean that the other goes without ...as in "..Well ,I'm not interested in sex so that means you won't be getting it ..and that's your lot now as well "...so if that situation was there .. for either party...well then either of them isn't going to go without sex if they love it ..it's kinda like..." I don't like the music you listen to so l don't want to go see them in concert so you're not going either "..ya right ....how far would you think that'd go ???.. some people like to dictate how the other person's life should be lived...do l condone cheating ?? Good question...not cheating for cheatings sake....but l can understand situations why it happens ??? And if it happens for understandable reasons... "

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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan


"How does the OP k ow that 90% of men on here are married/attached "
I don’t know but why else would men swing single men use tinder

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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan


"monogamy is not for everyone.

Some people are not built to be with just one person regardless of who they are with.

That's the easy option and the easy answer to justify non committal. It can say a lot about an individual on their response, behaviour and values too. To say it's we don't know the true story is also an easy cop out. We often forget the consequences, they're there in front of us but we like to overlook them. One of them is the message it gives to our kids, 'its acceptable to cheat'. Some will take this on into their own relationships.

Some people are happier in an open relationship or a polyamorous one, that doesn't mean they're less committed or have lower values, unless you only accept the traditional values based on the orthodox relationship.

That's not the issue being discussed as you well know if you follow the main gist of the thread. If they both agree with poly, then of course there is no issue and that isn't the issue here. One may argue they aren't monogamous, then discuss it with the partner, if they don't agree, get out and don't cheat and leave potenty carnage behind.

The op's question is why women stop craving sex with their partner and it drifted off into the usual cheating discussion. "

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"How does the OP k ow that 90% of men on here are married/attached I don’t know but why else would men swing single men use tinder"

Perhaps for the group scenario and general bonhomie of Fab?

Not necessarily me but it's a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"... I’m asking why married women don’t want sex with their husband "

Ahhh ok...well l think there is a number of reasons

1. Shes sick to the teeth of him watching the soccer on TV everytime instead of screwing her.

2.he prefers going to the pub rather than taking her out

3. He's let himself go..makes no effort to physically stay some bit in shape.

4.she gets no compliments at all from him

5.everything in the house is left for her to do .

6. He'd rather stay up and watch a movie than go to bed earlier with her...goes when she's asleep.

7.he forgets birthdays.. anniversaries.. important dates etc

8.dont put the bins out

9.hes messy and untidy in the house

10.unable to have a decent conversation with her.

11. She's lonely in the marriage.

12. Basically has no interest in him anymore.

.....so there's a few reasons why l think married women don't have sex with their husbands. Now remember all the listed above are constantly repeated day in day out for a certain time ..it wouldn't take that long to finally make a woman realize that she doesn't want to have sex with her husband...that it gets old very fast ..my thoughts on it anyway

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By *anggirllouth OP   Woman
over a year ago

monaghan


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"... I’m asking why married women don’t want sex with their husband

Ahhh ok...well l think there is a number of reasons

1. Shes sick to the teeth of him watching the soccer on TV everytime instead of screwing her.

2.he prefers going to the pub rather than taking her out

3. He's let himself go..makes no effort to physically stay some bit in shape.

4.she gets no compliments at all from him

5.everything in the house is left for her to do .

6. He'd rather stay up and watch a movie than go to bed earlier with her...goes when she's asleep.

7.he forgets birthdays.. anniversaries.. important dates etc

8.dont put the bins out

9.hes messy and untidy in the house

10.unable to have a decent conversation with her.

11. She's lonely in the marriage.

12. Basically has no interest in him anymore.

.....so there's a few reasons why l think married women don't have sex with their husbands. Now remember all the listed above are constantly repeated day in day out for a certain time ..it wouldn't take that long to finally make a woman realize that she doesn't want to have sex with her husband...that it gets old very fast ..my thoughts on it anyway"
brilliant ??

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"... I’m asking why married women don’t want sex with their husband

Ahhh ok...well l think there is a number of reasons

1. Shes sick to the teeth of him watching the soccer on TV everytime instead of screwing her.

2.he prefers going to the pub rather than taking her out

3. He's let himself go..makes no effort to physically stay some bit in shape.

4.she gets no compliments at all from him

5.everything in the house is left for her to do .

6. He'd rather stay up and watch a movie than go to bed earlier with her...goes when she's asleep.

7.he forgets birthdays.. anniversaries.. important dates etc

8.dont put the bins out

9.hes messy and untidy in the house

10.unable to have a decent conversation with her.

11. She's lonely in the marriage.

12. Basically has no interest in him anymore.

.....so there's a few reasons why l think married women don't have sex with their husbands. Now remember all the listed above are constantly repeated day in day out for a certain time ..it wouldn't take that long to finally make a woman realize that she doesn't want to have sex with her husband...that it gets old very fast ..my thoughts on it anyway brilliant ?? "

I am the opposite of at least 8 points there so, not brilliant

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Just reasearch

Ok 90% of men here are married or with partner why do they not want sex or intimacy???

As in sexy ?... Are you asking why the men dont want sex with their wives or partners ? Or why their wives partners don't want to have sex with them ?...a married lady ( l know the couple ) once told me that she wanted sex ..she just didn't want it with her husband...as in NOT with her husband...she wasn't " emotionally connected " with her husband to want to have sex with him ...poor fucker huh ?... I really felt for the guy ..why the fuck did he marry her if that was the case ..so l asked him ..his answer ?? .. she should've said before he married her ..weird huh ?... so everyone has a story in their lives...some good...some bad ..some " WTF ???"... I’m asking why married women don’t want sex with their husband

Ahhh ok...well l think there is a number of reasons

1. Shes sick to the teeth of him watching the soccer on TV everytime instead of screwing her.

2.he prefers going to the pub rather than taking her out

3. He's let himself go..makes no effort to physically stay some bit in shape.

4.she gets no compliments at all from him

5.everything in the house is left for her to do .

6. He'd rather stay up and watch a movie than go to bed earlier with her...goes when she's asleep.

7.he forgets birthdays.. anniversaries.. important dates etc

8.dont put the bins out

9.hes messy and untidy in the house

10.unable to have a decent conversation with her.

11. She's lonely in the marriage.

12. Basically has no interest in him anymore.

.....so there's a few reasons why l think married women don't have sex with their husbands. Now remember all the listed above are constantly repeated day in day out for a certain time ..it wouldn't take that long to finally make a woman realize that she doesn't want to have sex with her husband...that it gets old very fast ..my thoughts on it anyway brilliant ??

I am the opposite of at least 8 points there so, not brilliant "

Before some smart arse says it, yeah, work on the other 4

It's a two way street remember and there's as many points, of a similar nature, from the other side

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Basically she put on all her makeup, put on heels, got a fake tan.

He gelled up his hair, put on aftershave, and put on his best clothes.

They dated like this for ages, each telling the other the absolute best they could think of themselves.

They move in together and they try hold onto this, and they think this is as good as it gets so they get married.

but it slips away, the dreams they had were bullshit to begin with, their shared interests were never shared to begin with and annoy each other, their real interests do not involve the other person they lied to spend time together, they sit around in lounge clothes and drink too much and fart too much.

And they never even discussed how important sex was to them, if the guy who cheated simply said at the start "Sex is important to me, if we stop having it then I will have sex with other people", then she would have either accepted this meaning he never had to cheat, or married someone else, and he never would have had to cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every case is a unique and separate case, each side of the story will be told by just one side without trying to humbly understand the other side.

Sex based marriage can fail, love based mature marriage can succeed... It all depends on the maturity of both, and how each understand each other without any expectations in return, simple as... Why am I here? Just to add some spicy in our times, even though my love and I don't really need this site at all... At least we don't cheat each other and we talk about everything...

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