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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Ignore them

My friends list is very short but block list is endless

Keep your mind busy with people worthwhile to meet and spend your time with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he thinks it's incredibly rude, he's never messaged us

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Always reply 'no thankyou' so if your being rude then so am i

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text.

Ignore them

My friends list is very short but block list is endless

Keep your mind busy with people worthwhile to meet and spend your time with them "

Thank God for the block button best feature on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If he thinks it's incredibly rude, he's never messaged us "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always reply 'no thankyou' so if your being rude then so am i "

Good at least I am not the only one

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

A simple no is not rude its final and at least its a reply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say thanks but not interested. Or to the want to fuck or want to cam messages I just say No thanks.

My block list is longer than my hot list and friends list together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text.

Ignore them

My friends list is very short but block list is endless

Keep your mind busy with people worthwhile to meet and spend your time with them

Thank God for the block button best feature on Fab. "

There should be an extra one for a really rude and stupid people and should be connected to a separate app: electric shock button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always appreciate the “thanks but no thanks” messages. I know I’m not everyone ‘s cup of tea, and the ladies here get so many messages, it must be damn near impossible to reply to them all. If someone’s taking the time to acknowledge my message, I always reply to thank them for doing so.

If only someone would reply “yes please”...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one bit...as was said you replied and they know your not interested....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "
. O. Omg!..you turned down a meet with a cold heartless " No thanks "| ,and you hadn't the decency to meet him face to face with this devastating news!...can you imagine how hurt he must feel to be brushed off like this with an unemotional text! ...Of course he blocked you!.. He was upset and it was probably just a knee jerk reaction!...I'm sure given a few days he'll get over it...he may even give you a second chance! ....if he does,don't hesitate be grateful that someone found you attractive enough to want to meet you!...seriously you ladies need to up your game if you want to have some success on this site!

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Just tell them time and place to show up later or else you get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing worse in getting instantly message deleted without a reason. Bad manners, it doesn't take two mins and say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Well ..l hope you didn't lose sleep over being blocked Nancy .. Seriously though...you were polite and kind enough to reply( as always )..some guys just can't handle a no ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm amune to it by this stage.i say thanks but not interested and get blocked

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Just don't reply. Oh wait that's rude too. Fuck em - or not. Easier to just block.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Nothing worse in getting instantly message deleted without a reason. Bad manners, it doesn't take two mins and say no thanks.

"

Have you read the OP??? This is exactly why some ladies don't reply even no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. . O. Omg!..you turned down a meet with a cold heartless " No thanks "| ,and you hadn't the decency to meet him face to face with this devastating news!...can you imagine how hurt he must feel to be brushed off like this with an unemotional text! ...Of course he blocked you!.. He was upset and it was probably just a knee jerk reaction!...I'm sure given a few days he'll get over it...he may even give you a second chance! ....if he does,don't hesitate be grateful that someone found you attractive enough to want to meet you!...seriously you ladies need to up your game if you want to have some success on this site! "

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them."

Why they are strangers it shouldnt matter if your not their type on a profile. That's all we have to go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them.

Why they are strangers it shouldnt matter if your not their type on a profile. That's all we have to go on. "

That's if they have a profile explaining there tyoe lol.

I dunno when you put it like that seems better.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them."

Best to read the FAQ section. No reply is no thanks. If you struggle with that then maybe this is not a good place for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them.

Best to read the FAQ section. No reply is no thanks. If you struggle with that then maybe this is not a good place for you."

Never said I was struggling, I was expressing a thought.

FAQ section is just a FAQ doesn't mean you do not have any feelings regarding it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In all fairness as a single guy even the reply alone is good manners be it "No thanks" or "no"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least you replied to him, every message I have sent over the last 3 weeks has not even been read.. LOL

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By *adforit1304Man
over a year ago

Limerick/Clare

Straight to the point short & sweet

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

And moaning on this thread is not gonna get you replies either. Time to build a bridge and get over it. Everyone gets unread messages deleted at some stage but don't come on the forums and moan about it. If a stranger not replying to your messages hurts your feelings then it's time to rethink fab. It's clearly not the place for you.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

Site actually states no reply is not interested so the fact sometime has said no thank you is manners and not being rude .most of the time if you start engaging than it ends in what wont you meet me......

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Its not rude at all. I really dont know what some men want its very frustrating. We never message back yet when i reply im not interested i can get 3/4 messages back trying to change my mind. I find that incredibly rude. Im intelligent, i know my own mind, if i say not interested i mean it. The bemoaning on this site is a pain in the arse. If its frustrating and all the women are arseholes leave it and have a wank instead

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"Its not rude at all. I really dont know what some men want its very frustrating. We never message back yet when i reply im not interested i can get 3/4 messages back trying to change my mind. I find that incredibly rude. Im intelligent, i know my own mind, if i say not interested i mean it. The bemoaning on this site is a pain in the arse. If its frustrating and all the women are arseholes leave it and have a wank instead "

Can I use your hand for that wank?

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"Its not rude at all. I really dont know what some men want its very frustrating. We never message back yet when i reply im not interested i can get 3/4 messages back trying to change my mind. I find that incredibly rude. Im intelligent, i know my own mind, if i say not interested i mean it. The bemoaning on this site is a pain in the arse. If its frustrating and all the women are arseholes leave it and have a wank instead

Can I use your hand for that wank? "

Ohhh all right then

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By *irtypair00Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Nope that not rude at all

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By *ildmovementMan
over a year ago

Dublin

The persistent ass holes are the ones that get talked about the most on these threads! When they get an audience on hear they sit back with a smile at their notoriety!

When any walk of life is out numbered like the women to men ratio on here, then add in the fact that it completely free to join then the attitudes on here are completely normal.

OP if it helps just imagine replies like that are from a 14 year old spotted face boy who has gotten round their parent parental blocks on their tablet and have no idea what the site is about. You shouldn’t question if your reply was rude, you are all ways right in your reply as it about what you want! Not what they want.

Just my opinion it won’t be everyone’s. But that’s life.

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By *onzo1880Man
over a year ago

Tyrone, Ireland


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Absolutely nothing wrong with your response! The issue is with him.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"Yes,I have, but, also can make ppl parnoid wondering what's wrong with them.

Best to read the FAQ section. No reply is no thanks. If you struggle with that then maybe this is not a good place for you.

Never said I was struggling, I was expressing a thought.

FAQ section is just a FAQ doesn't mean you do not have any feelings regarding it. "

Your issue to deal with.

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By *ereus3Couple
over a year ago

Dundalk


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

We get them all the time and now just delete and block

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text.

Ignore them

My friends list is very short but block list is endless

Keep your mind busy with people worthwhile to meet and spend your time with them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply no thanks if not interested but like urself 9 times out of 10 got abuse back, now I don't bother answering at all, I have it clearly stated on my profile if I'm not interested I won't reply

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I think you can answer that question yourself, op.

This is fab after all and some stuff on here just doesn't make any sense. I normally laugh off those fab quirks or safe them as little treasures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they thought that was rude god help them if they ever messaged us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete now as it seems some get a bit aggressive with a no thanks

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By *hesexaddictMan
over a year ago

Dublin 24

Lots of them ignorant people here, you have like with OP case, also there’s the topical user that keep messaging until they get blocked, also have people that send me winks, I delete the wink but 30 min later I have another, I got 6 winks from the same guy yesterday. You also have the guys that couple of days after you said NO or ignored they create another account with same pics or create multiple accounts, they upload different pics to each account but all taken on the same bed, sofa or wherever they take them.

I feel the pain the women here suffer, i’m a male that doesn’t get a lot of messages but 75% are from ignorant people, thank god the other 25% are extremely nice.

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

So just checking

No one on this thread wants to meet me?

Just to be sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?"

I think most of fabbers linked to the short messages like "wanna meet?”, " im horny, wanna fuck"

Its automatic block for me.

No intro, no chat and finally no even social meet.

Another thing is that my time is precious and even if the person is very interesting but lives in London for example, my answer will be short "sorry, im not interested, it will be difficult to organize a social first. Save your time and try to find someone local"

Most of the single men forget that we women and also couples receive sometimes more than 10 messages daily. We have our private live too!

If there is no reply from me, then it means I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to reply no thanks if not interested but like urself 9 times out of 10 got abuse back, now I don't bother answering at all, I have it clearly stated on my profile if I'm not interested I won't reply"

Some days I feel like could delete the lot lol. I do like to reply if an effort has been put in but not to the obvious spammers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?

I think most of fabbers linked to the short messages like "wanna meet?”, " im horny, wanna fuck"

Its automatic block for me.

No intro, no chat and finally no even social meet.

Another thing is that my time is precious and even if the person is very interesting but lives in London for example, my answer will be short "sorry, im not interested, it will be difficult to organize a social first. Save your time and try to find someone local"

Most of the single men forget that we women and also couples receive sometimes more than 10 messages daily. We have our private live too!

If there is no reply from me, then it means I'm not interested. "

I find the contact from abroad mad. I have barely time to meet someone within an hours travel from me.

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Fair play to you for replying, very mannerly. Many don't and that can be a frustration for some.

I certainly wouldn't lose any sleep over this lads behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I find it rude not saying no thanks as in reading the message then deleting. Costs noting to have manners.

Saying that if it was deleted without being read id still class that as a no thanks.

As a bisexual man theres a few guys im not into when I get a mail from someone I am not interested in I always write back no thanks happy fabbing and thats my part done.

Yes some come back with abuse others say thanks for the reply best of luck an so on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?"

In that case I usually reply Great thank you, etc, but in the next line say;-

You are too far from me or

Sorry way too young for me

And so on

Only once did one guy say but I haven't asked you to meet yet lol

We chatted for a bit afterwards

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By *asonj69Man
over a year ago

nowhere

He could have at least said hello first in the msg

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?"

If we like the look of them we reply. If not ignore. Short messages like this do nothing for us.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its not rude at all. I really dont know what some men want its very frustrating. We never message back yet when i reply im not interested i can get 3/4 messages back trying to change my mind. I find that incredibly rude. Im intelligent, i know my own mind, if i say not interested i mean it. The bemoaning on this site is a pain in the arse. If its frustrating and all the women are arseholes leave it and have a wank instead "

I do tend to ignore the ones sent afterwards as life is too short.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text.

Well ..l hope you didn't lose sleep over being blocked Nancy .. Seriously though...you were polite and kind enough to reply( as always )..some guys just can't handle a no ..."

Aw I slept fine thank you. If only all texts are as well written as yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?"

If I’m messaging a girl, it’s because I’m interested in meeting her.

If she wants to chat and get to know me, and see if she wants to meet, and later decides she’s not interested, then a “no thanks” once I’ve suggested meeting is fine.

If she knows right off the bat that I’m not her type, I would prefer that she immediately reply with something like “thank you for your interest, but you’re not my type. Happy fabbing”.

But I know not all guys could take that.

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By *loki_38Man
over a year ago

Rural

Jesus No, short and sweet suits me, saves the endless messaging before eventually getting knocked back. Although I do find the the auld put bla bla bla in your message so we know you read out profile very annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

No. It was very polite. He sounds like an insecure arsehole who had a projected sense of ease when it came to meeting you. Fuck that. Blocking you for saying "no thanks" is pathetic.

I've ended up in great conversations with a lot of people who I have turned down or vice versa. He was definitely best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kaizer cannot live in a world where "No thank you" is considered rude

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx


"Its not rude at all. I really dont know what some men want its very frustrating. We never message back yet when i reply im not interested i can get 3/4 messages back trying to change my mind. I find that incredibly rude. Im intelligent, i know my own mind, if i say not interested i mean it. The bemoaning on this site is a pain in the arse. If its frustrating and all the women are arseholes leave it and have a wank instead

I do tend to ignore the ones sent afterwards as life is too short.

"

As do i but often is not it doesn't stop the follow on messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I've ended up in great conversations with a lot of people who I have turned down or vice versa.

"

How does this happen? Might be faulty thinking on my behalf, but I assumed “no thanks” meant I don’t want to meet or chat or anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Only one rude person there nancy and its not you, you gave him just the effort he gave you

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Jesus No, short and sweet suits me, saves the endless messaging before eventually getting knocked back. Although I do find the the auld put bla bla bla in your message so we know you read out profile very annoying. "

Regarding the put the blah blah blah in the Message title just means that they're probably the only messages they read ...any other heading title probably gets deleted ...

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

The site clearly states,no reply means not interested.Move on.

Fact you took the time to reply,was nice of you.

Fab users should really read the rules,and profiles.

Rejection is not nice,but we all are adults,consenting adults,on a swinger site.No means no.Move on.

Get over it.Plenty more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have been polite in your. .no thanks reply.

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By *exytvlegsTV/TS
over a year ago

North co dublin Ireland

If a lady gets back to and says no thanks I alway get back to her saying thank you for getting back to me.but on here some people think if the put 3 words together you should drop you panties right away.block button straight away .

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By *asterIrelandMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

I think i will never get used to stupid people... If "no thank you" is rude.. How a "read my profile first you idiot" would be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weirdo if you ask me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site clearly states,no reply means not interested.Move on.

Fact you took the time to reply,was nice of you.

Fab users should really read the rules,and profiles.

Rejection is not nice,but we all are adults,consenting adults,on a swinger site.No means no.Move on.

Get over it.Plenty more.

"

And that lady is the truth..the whole truth....and nothing but the truth ...well said .

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By *iddensparkle87Woman
over a year ago

Tipperary

That's possibly the married situation which a completely different debate.

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By *unLovingCriminalMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

He should actually be thankful he even got a response I wouldnt mind him if he's getting snarky it's his loss.

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?

I think most of fabbers linked to the short messages like "wanna meet?”, " im horny, wanna fuck"

Its automatic block for me.

No intro, no chat and finally no even social meet.

Another thing is that my time is precious and even if the person is very interesting but lives in London for example, my answer will be short "sorry, im not interested, it will be difficult to organize a social first. Save your time and try to find someone local"

Most of the single men forget that we women and also couples receive sometimes more than 10 messages daily. We have our private live too!

If there is no reply from me, then it means I'm not interested.

I find the contact from abroad mad. I have barely time to meet someone within an hours travel from me."

That's for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not consider a simple no a rude reply . Id be happy that you took the time to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?

I think most of fabbers linked to the short messages like "wanna meet?”, " im horny, wanna fuck"

Its automatic block for me.

No intro, no chat and finally no even social meet.

Another thing is that my time is precious and even if the person is very interesting but lives in London for example, my answer will be short "sorry, im not interested, it will be difficult to organize a social first. Save your time and try to find someone local"

Most of the single men forget that we women and also couples receive sometimes more than 10 messages daily. We have our private live too!

If there is no reply from me, then it means I'm not interested.

I find the contact from abroad mad. I have barely time to meet someone within an hours travel from me.

That's for sure "

Haha I told you I will visit soon

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford


"At what point do you say no thanks? For example, you get a message saying, “good morning” or “how’s your weekend going”, do you just cut to the chase there and then and reply “no thanks” or do you reply with usual pleasantries since they haven’t referenced meeting/playing etc?

I think most of fabbers linked to the short messages like "wanna meet?”, " im horny, wanna fuck"

Its automatic block for me.

No intro, no chat and finally no even social meet.

Another thing is that my time is precious and even if the person is very interesting but lives in London for example, my answer will be short "sorry, im not interested, it will be difficult to organize a social first. Save your time and try to find someone local"

Most of the single men forget that we women and also couples receive sometimes more than 10 messages daily. We have our private live too!

If there is no reply from me, then it means I'm not interested.

I find the contact from abroad mad. I have barely time to meet someone within an hours travel from me.

That's for sure

Haha I told you I will visit soon "

Oh your so rude !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He has to thank you for replying at least ...some don't even reply...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been blocked for saying hey, how are you ? like how rude to consider asking someone how they are lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been blocked for saying hey, how are you ? like how rude to consider asking someone how they are lol"

When one receives around 30-40 "Hi, how are you" a day it makes it easy to filter out ones you're not interested in and prevent them from asking "how are you" again and again over and over by simply using a block button. Blocking someone who didn't bother being personal in their message isn't personal at all

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By *eys00Man
over a year ago

have boots will travel

In my experience (at the start thankfully, not as much now) a lot of messages were met with silence or deleted before reading. Perfectly acceptable as I was unverified etc. So if someone takes the time to reply with a no thanks it strikes me as the opposite of rude! It's easy to lose sight of how many messages women get here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been blocked for saying hey, how are you ? like how rude to consider asking someone how they are lol

When one receives around 30-40 "Hi, how are you" a day it makes it easy to filter out ones you're not interested in and prevent them from asking "how are you" again and again over and over by simply using a block button. Blocking someone who didn't bother being personal in their message isn't personal at all "

i understand that that you get a lot of them but blocking someone for being polite and in case they came off to forward and wanted to know the person before they got into saying something silly maybe when start gettting 30 to 40 message a day I wil understand

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"I got a text saying "Would you like to meet" just that nothing else, we have never spoken before.

I reply No thanks and get this reply "You should not reply like that its incredibly rude".

And I was blocked lol

Was I supposed to write a paragraph in reply to his eloquent text. "

Yeah just ignore them that's why I hate complete gobshites that act like that do you want to meet and expect you to fall head over heels for this guy no effort whatsoever its as bad as dick pic with hi attached feck sake lads grow the fuck up stop acting like little boys no wonder why single guys chances are very slim here some of us actually make an effort and even that goes no where especially when the guy isn't meet verified thanks to assholes yeah im in rant mode today lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been blocked for saying hey, how are you ? like how rude to consider asking someone how they are lol

When one receives around 30-40 "Hi, how are you" a day it makes it easy to filter out ones you're not interested in and prevent them from asking "how are you" again and again over and over by simply using a block button. Blocking someone who didn't bother being personal in their message isn't personal at all

i understand that that you get a lot of them but blocking someone for being polite and in case they came off to forward and wanted to know the person before they got into saying something silly maybe when start gettting 30 to 40 message a day I wil understand

"

Point wasn't about getting a lot of messages (I really don't) point is- every single message is exactly the same and there's not a single personal thing in a "Hi, how are you" message. A lot of people state in their profile that "Hi, how are you" messages aren't Welcome, yet still receive them more often than anything else.

Would you genuinely want to get to know every single spammer with their generic questions that ever contacts you on your regular email?

Also.. about being forward? Is there only two options inside your head - "Hi, how are you" (want to get to know someone) and "wanna fuck" (too forward for your liking)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I personally just don't reply to those I'm not interested in

I find if you reply you get a response like yours

Or an abusive response

Or repetitive messages because you have replied

So I opt for the don't reply

And yes it may seem rude, but it's just easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tbh I personally just don't reply to those I'm not interested in

I find if you reply you get a response like yours

Or an abusive response

Or repetitive messages because you have replied

So I opt for the don't reply

And yes it may seem rude, but it's just easier "

I am beginning to think its the only option as there are some plonkers on here.

Thank God for the ones that are decent human beings and know how to behave. They make Fab worthwhile.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Tbh I personally just don't reply to those I'm not interested in

I find if you reply you get a response like yours

Or an abusive response

Or repetitive messages because you have replied

So I opt for the don't reply

And yes it may seem rude, but it's just easier

I am beginning to think its the only option as there are some plonkers on here.

Thank God for the ones that are decent human beings and know how to behave. They make Fab worthwhile."

Well my door is always open to prove that if given the time of day lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ive been blocked for saying hey, how are you ? like how rude to consider asking someone how they are lol

When one receives around 30-40 "Hi, how are you" a day it makes it easy to filter out ones you're not interested in and prevent them from asking "how are you" again and again over and over by simply using a block button. Blocking someone who didn't bother being personal in their message isn't personal at all

i understand that that you get a lot of them but blocking someone for being polite and in case they came off to forward and wanted to know the person before they got into saying something silly maybe when start gettting 30 to 40 message a day I wil understand

Point wasn't about getting a lot of messages (I really don't) point is- every single message is exactly the same and there's not a single personal thing in a "Hi, how are you" message. A lot of people state in their profile that "Hi, how are you" messages aren't Welcome, yet still receive them more often than anything else.

Would you genuinely want to get to know every single spammer with their generic questions that ever contacts you on your regular email?

Also.. about being forward? Is there only two options inside your head - "Hi, how are you" (want to get to know someone) and "wanna fuck" (too forward for your liking) "

i do understand that but it can be a double standard he did the same thing and blocked her cause ther was no intrested in each other so it saved the hassle of him texting her again but honestly it fine if they do that was just sticking my head into place it shouldnt be lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least he got a reply back it’s always something ha ha

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