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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Opinions I have a ex who wants to be my mate ?.

Yah or nah ??.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Who dumpd who

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

She did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a hope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's what I was thinking. Like she said I like talking you because of your advice..

Was like wtf

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny

I'm on good terms with all but 2 of my exs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's what I was thinking. Like she said I like talking you because of your advice..

Was like wtf

Trust your gut. Ex for a reason (or many).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yah they are just the loneliness atm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friends with a few of my exes.

Arms length distance friends tho. See absolutely no reason to fall out with anyone who at any point have been important in my life, but also wouldn't want them to be part of my every day life, more acquaintances.

Obviously anything sex related completely off the table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am still friends with 2 of my ex .so I see no problem with it ..

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Yeah go for it, why not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm friends with most of my exs.. As long as it wasn't a nasty break up or shitty relationship in the first place I don't see the harm..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She wants to be your mate, or she wants a relationship again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats the harm in it? I'm going with yah

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

If it's just mates and you are not in any way emotionally attached to her, then yeah.

If theres a smidgen of lust though, don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my ex have become really good friends is it just because I dunno but can about anything in confidence to each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't, especially if I were the one who finished the relationship, just letting them cling isn't in anyone's interest.

You can remain "friendly" as in civil, but confiding in each other or hanging out, just confusing and unfair to any new partner either of you may find.

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Depends on the reason for the split and how you feel. I’m friendly with all but one of mine. Sometimes you just weren’t meant to be with someone for whatever reason but whatever spark or connection you initially had should have included being friends. Trust your instincts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the split was amicable and you both like eachother as friends go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've kept friendly with a few of my exes as has Jay but in saying that there's one or two we wouldn't piss on if they were on fire they were that bad....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yah, your right I'd considering it..

Not sure is she just using me to extract information, when she needs advice or is it the fact she truely wants to be mates.

Tbh, I thnk its the information part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on good terms with all but 2 of my exs "

F**ks sake Scotty...how many ex's had you ???...lol...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've kept friendly with a few of my exes as has Jay but in saying that there's one or two we wouldn't piss on if they were on fire they were that bad.... "

Ouch...ain't nothing as bad as ex's who bring untold emotional hell into your life ...and think it's ok to do so ...that bad is real bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a word No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm friends with most of my exs.. As long as it wasn't a nasty break up or shitty relationship in the first place I don't see the harm.. "

Brilliant point of view ..well said lady..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Opinions I have a ex who wants to be my mate ?.

Yah or nah ??."

If she dumped you ..l take it it wasn't amnicable..so it's a Nahhhh from me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on good terms with all but 2 of my exs

F**ks sake Scotty...how many ex's had you ???...lol..."
..ps..that's not asking in a bad way my friend...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't, especially if I were the one who finished the relationship, just letting them cling isn't in anyone's interest.

You can remain "friendly" as in civil, but confiding in each other or hanging out, just confusing and unfair to any new partner either of you may find.

So true .. absolutely so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Opinions I have a ex who wants to be my mate ?.

Yah or nah ??.

If she dumped you ..l take it it wasn't amnicable..so it's a Nahhhh from me..."

No it was ammicble tbh.

Just the fact I cant justify why be friends with her.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

No, I'm friendly with one of my exes purely cause we have a child together and we get on quite well. Only for that reason we are friendly. Other exes I'd be civil with if I had too but not on anyway friendly terms

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

My ex is one of my best friends and that won't change until I'm gone. I don't see a reason why two people who had once a relationship cannot stay friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see whats wrong with it the fact 2 people don't work as a couple in a relation doesn't mean they can't stay friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't justify being friends with her OP that suggests to me there are maybe still some sour feelings on your part and you're not ready to be friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you can't justify being friends with her OP that suggests to me there are maybe still some sour feelings on your part and you're not ready to be friends. "

Correct, nail on the head love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for steering this post in a slightly different direction but....what if you told your ex a few home truths (as you seen it) and in a 'not so nice way' and which he agreed with and took the blame. How do I apologise and stay friends or it it too late?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally, I have done this to my ex is was pissing me of that much that I just given her some home truths too (as I seen it). She wasn't excatly impressed either.

Personally, I think its to late.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

"Sorry for steering this post in a slightly different direction but....what if you told your ex a few home truths (as you seen it) and in a 'not so nice way' and which he agreed with and took the blame. How do I apologise and stay friends or it it too late?"
its your truth how you see it, why apologise? If he took the blame maybe he could see it too Just needed to be told.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry for steering this post in a slightly different direction but....what if you told your ex a few home truths (as you seen it) and in a 'not so nice way' and which he agreed with and took the blame. How do I apologise and stay friends or it it too late?its your truth how you see it, why apologise? If he took the blame maybe he could see it too Just needed to be told."

I know and it needed to be said but I do miss his friendship

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for steering this post in a slightly different direction but....what if you told your ex a few home truths (as you seen it) and in a 'not so nice way' and which he agreed with and took the blame. How do I apologise and stay friends or it it too late?its your truth how you see it, why apologise? If he took the blame maybe he could see it too Just needed to be told.

I know and it needed to be said but I do miss his friendship"

Yah I am on the boat I feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Opinions I have a ex who wants to be my mate ?.

Yah or nah ??.

If she dumped you ..l take it it wasn't amnicable..so it's a Nahhhh from me...

No it was ammicble tbh.

Just the fact I cant justify why be friends with her."

..could be a case of the ol' saying ..." We're good ok... we're good...l mightened ever feel the need to speak to you again..but we're good "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yup mate, need closure now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I'm friendly with one of my exes purely cause we have a child together and we get on quite well. Only for that reason we are friendly. Other exes I'd be civil with if I had too but not on anyway friendly terms "

Similar position tbh...if l really told my ex what l'd really like to tell her ,things would get unhealthy ..and tbh..it's easier to let sleeping dogs lie...just try to be the better person and avoid conflict.. especially when kids in the picture..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex is one of my best friends and that won't change until I'm gone. I don't see a reason why two people who had once a relationship cannot stay friends. "

I totally agree.

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