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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any couples out there where it abundantly clear that one half of the duo is significantly and universally considered far more attractive than their mate?

How does this affect the swing dynamic when it comes to finding play partners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This made me giggle because as I single man I see this all the time with couples

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

How are they getting such hotties, the manky looking socks.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"How are they getting such hotties, the manky looking socks."

Maybe they know how to make a killer coffee in the morning.

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By *thena400Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

Looks aren’t everything...I’d guess you see a plainer man with a more attractive woman far more often than the reverse. (Speaking as a woman whom you’d never look twice at, I can attest that looks aren’t the be all, end all.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looks aren’t everything...I’d guess you see a plainer man with a more attractive woman far more often than the reverse. (Speaking as a woman whom you’d never look twice at, I can attest that looks aren’t the be all, end all.)"

I think as a lady gets older her reasons for being with a guy changes from when she was younger ,as in she looks for other or different qualities in a guy and ends up with a guy that 10 -15 yrs earlier she wouldn't even look twice at so a lot of the time you do see plainer guys with more attractive ladies.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"How are they getting such hotties, the manky looking socks.

Maybe they know how to make a killer coffee in the morning. "

So I have been wasting my time edging myself over and over so I can last longer in sex, all I needed to do was learn how to make coffee?

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"How are they getting such hotties, the manky looking socks.

Maybe they know how to make a killer coffee in the morning.

So I have been wasting my time edging myself over and over so I can last longer in sex, all I needed to do was learn how to make coffee?"

It's hard to beat a good coffee

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Looks aren’t everything...I’d guess you see a plainer man with a more attractive woman far more often than the reverse. (Speaking as a woman whom you’d never look twice at, I can attest that looks aren’t the be all, end all.)"

I fully agree, "looks" just open the door but don't keep you "inside".

Personality, imagination, higiene are just a few that must come with the looks, otherwise it isn't worth, at least in my book.

Some kinky or SM interests adds some spice to the whole mix .

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in who doesn’t have a clue about how a relationship works.

It’s insulting to the....

Lost for words

It’s just insulting

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in "

Or by someone who never made a nice coffee.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in who doesn’t have a clue about how a relationship works.

It’s insulting to the....

Lost for words

It’s just insulting "
What?? So if doesnt happen? Really?

Theres plenty of cases of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in who doesn’t have a clue about how a relationship works.

It’s insulting to the....

Lost for words

It’s just insulting What?? So if doesnt happen? Really?

Theres plenty of cases of it. "

Of course there are plenty of cases of it..we've all seen stunning ladies with guys and you wonder " WTF ..how did he land her ". ?... but that's just others looking in at it...the guy with the stunner could push every button she ever had like no one ever did before and that could include model look guys with physical perfect bodies...each lady is a totally individual work of art and it's the guy that can really push her buttons that will reap the benefits...I think a lady in her 30's upward will look for different qualities in a guy than what she would in her twenties ..could be wayyyy out on that one but that's just my tuppence worth..

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"This made me giggle because as I single man I see this all the time with couples "

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...Agreed and the first thing you ask yourself is

"Now, does he have a big wallet or a massive c ck?"

Admit it lads!

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in who doesn’t have a clue about how a relationship works.

It’s insulting to the....

Lost for words

It’s just insulting What?? So if doesnt happen? Really?

Theres plenty of cases of it.

Of course there are plenty of cases of it..we've all seen stunning ladies with guys and you wonder " WTF ..how did he land her ". ?... but that's just others looking in at it...the guy with the stunner could push every button she ever had like no one ever did before and that could include model look guys with physical perfect bodies...each lady is a totally individual work of art and it's the guy that can really push her buttons that will reap the benefits...I think a lady in her 30's upward will look for different qualities in a guy than what she would in her twenties ..could be wayyyy out on that one but that's just my tuppence worth.."
yea and in a lot of cases how big is his bank balance.

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"This made me giggle because as I single man I see this all the time with couples

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...Agreed and the first thing you ask yourself is

"Now, does he have a big wallet or a massive c ck?"

Admit it lads! "
always the first option Tim

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want."

Yup...well said my friend.. THAT ..in a nutshell ...is absolutely spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Punching above your weight”

Only used by someone outside looking in who doesn’t have a clue about how a relationship works.

It’s insulting to the....

Lost for words

It’s just insulting What?? So if doesnt happen? Really?

Theres plenty of cases of it.

Of course there are plenty of cases of it..we've all seen stunning ladies with guys and you wonder " WTF ..how did he land her ". ?... but that's just others looking in at it...the guy with the stunner could push every button she ever had like no one ever did before and that could include model look guys with physical perfect bodies...each lady is a totally individual work of art and it's the guy that can really push her buttons that will reap the benefits...I think a lady in her 30's upward will look for different qualities in a guy than what she would in her twenties ..could be wayyyy out on that one but that's just my tuppence worth..yea and in a lot of cases how big is his bank balance. "
.or hers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want."

I'd say there is a small proportion of men and women who would sell their soul to the devil for material gain, but thankfully women have more options these days, and some even manage to acquire the lifestyle they want on the back of their own efforts, instead of on their backs...Imagine

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want.

I'd say there is a small proportion of men and women who would sell their soul to the devil for material gain, but thankfully women have more options these days, and some even manage to acquire the lifestyle they want on the back of their own efforts, instead of on their backs...Imagine"

Blue Corner has come out and landed one from the shoulder...seconds are out... Standby for round 3!

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork

What the F##k ever happened to two people meeting one another and falling in love and making a life with each other that doesn’t include ticking boxes or the size of a bank balance

Any relationship that’s based on ticking boxes and the material things in life is doomed. Life has a habit of throwing curve balls and if the character of the people involved is based on bank balances and not backbone then the solicitor won’t be shy about reducing the bank balance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't having preferences ticking boxes?

You could get hurt very quickly if you didn't get some boxes ticked

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Hubs is 100% the totty in our marriage

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want.

I'd say there is a small proportion of men and women who would sell their soul to the devil for material gain, but thankfully women have more options these days, and some even manage to acquire the lifestyle they want on the back of their own efforts, instead of on their backs...Imagine"
You reckon? Go into any cafe in the suburbs around 9.30 after the school run tell me how many men compared to woman are sitting round with not a child in sight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want.

I'd say there is a small proportion of men and women who would sell their soul to the devil for material gain, but thankfully women have more options these days, and some even manage to acquire the lifestyle they want on the back of their own efforts, instead of on their backs...ImagineYou reckon? Go into any cafe in the suburbs around 9.30 after the school run tell me how many men compared to woman are sitting round with not a child in sight..."

They must be the small proportion

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"This made me giggle because as I single man I see this all the time with couples

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...Agreed and the first thing you ask yourself is

"Now, does he have a big wallet or a massive c ck?"

Admit it lads! always the first option Tim"

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...and that's why I hate finishing second

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By *rishcouple12Couple
over a year ago

Cork County

Amazing how the entire thread turned into women are money grabbing and all "mismatched couple's" involve beautiful women.

I say this as a couple where my hubby is way hotter than me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Amazing how the entire thread turned into women are money grabbing and all "mismatched couple's" involve beautiful women.

I say this as a couple where my hubby is way hotter than me. "

To be fair you both look gorgeous x

As to punching above weight, that is surely just perception since a relationship is the sum total of the parts! The initial looks that we all see from the outside are only one piece of the puzzle, the hopes, the dreams, the ambitions, the outlooks, the humour, the meeting of minds are surely the real glue, the real fire between a man and a woman? As to whether it’s hotter men or hotter women I think they come in equal measure!

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Amazing how the entire thread turned into women are money grabbing and all "mismatched couple's" involve beautiful women.

I say this as a couple where my hubby is way hotter than me.

To be fair you both look gorgeous x

As to punching above weight, that is surely just perception since a relationship is the sum total of the parts! The initial looks that we all see from the outside are only one piece of the puzzle, the hopes, the dreams, the ambitions, the outlooks, the humour, the meeting of minds are surely the real glue, the real fire between a man and a woman? As to whether it’s hotter men or hotter women I think they come in equal measure!"

Well said !

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By *expitCouple
over a year ago

cork

This is so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby is a lot hotter! Men have the any hole is a goal mentality though so we have no problem getting meets

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"Hubby is a lot hotter! Men have the any hole is a goal mentality though so we have no problem getting meets "

Not all men are any hole is a goal tho....

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By *mitten Kittens 300Couple
over a year ago

Offaly Limerick

Oh Kitten is way out of Smitten's league, but thats why i am Smitten. Lol

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"What the F##k ever happened to two people meeting one another and falling in love and making a life with each other that doesn’t include ticking boxes or the size of a bank balance

Any relationship that’s based on ticking boxes and the material things in life is doomed. Life has a habit of throwing curve balls and if the character of the people involved is based on bank balances and not backbone then the solicitor won’t be shy about reducing the bank balance "

You can sing that

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

Don't like this term at all because essentially we all have different opinions and make our own choices. "always choose a man who feel he doesn't deserve you" my granny told me and I've stuck to it. Not a truer word spoken

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

It's everyone pref who they share there life with for all there own reasons

Would it be any different if it were swing partners or fuck buddies?

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By *issMercedesMrFordCouple
over a year ago

wexford

I don’t think we’re a sexy couple but we are friendly and like a laugh with people, looks aren’t everything x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like this term at all because essentially we all have different opinions and make our own choices. "always choose a man who feel he doesn't deserve you" my granny told me and I've stuck to it. Not a truer word spoken"

Then you pick men who believe their are punching above their weight, surely?

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

Definitely personality goes a long way respect and fun the rest sorts itself out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think its all about personality how you gel together etc.

I do think in Ireland men in general punch above there weight, thats because as one secondary teacher said to us one day.

"Irish ladies are the most beautiful in the world".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would have to be a very shallow individual or maybe just one with no life experience to believe that any long-term relationship is about only one thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would have to be a very shallow individual or maybe just one with no life experience to believe that any long-term relationship is about only one thing."

Or someone with no realtionship experience.

Definitely right sex isn't everything.

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By *hy_bangor_bi-girlWoman
over a year ago

Bangor

No I choose who I feel comfortable with. Not always about looks. You could have the hottest guy on this earth on your arm but as dull and boring as dishwater, then what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I choose who I feel comfortable with. Not always about looks. You could have the hottest guy on this earth on your arm but as dull and boring as dishwater, then what's the point? "

You said above that you choose guys who feel they don't deserve you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't like this term at all because essentially we all have different opinions and make our own choices. "always choose a man who feel he doesn't deserve you" my granny told me and I've stuck to it. Not a truer word spoken"

But are you not then maybe denying yourself the chance or opportunity to " choose a man that you yourself do deserve "...?..that's the thing about life isn't it ??...what to do ...to make the right choice for you.. sometimes it can be like the Rolling Stones tune ..." You can't always get what you want ...but you get what you need "...

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By *exydoctorsCouple
over a year ago

Galway/Clare

When you tend to see "hot" women with a "less hot" guy, why is the assumption that she might be after things like his money? The default position for me is that this shows that guys are more shallow and might not give "less hot" girls a chance, especially when they are younger and tend to care a lot more about what their mates might think!

It's a whole package for us. I do think the most successful relationships are when the people in them think/feel approximately the same about each other in terms of the entire package.

I'd think me and the Mrs are about equally attractive, but we get hundreds of messages on here saying how hot she is, and none saying how hot I am... So I'm sticking to my opinion that this is cos men care more about that kind of stuff!!

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By *ilthyNightsCouple
over a year ago

East / North, Cork

Depressing thread. Looks will fade. Long term relationships need a way deeper connection than something skin deep. It might be difficult for the less mature folks from the tinder generation to understand, but a pretty partner on your arm does not a happy relationship make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you tend to see "hot" women with a "less hot" guy, why is the assumption that she might be after things like his money? The default position for me is that this shows that guys are more shallow and might not give "less hot" girls a chance, especially when they are younger and tend to care a lot more about what their mates might think!

It's a whole package for us. I do think the most successful relationships are when the people in them think/feel approximately the same about each other in terms of the entire package.

I'd think me and the Mrs are about equally attractive, but we get hundreds of messages on here saying how hot she is, and none saying how hot I am... So I'm sticking to my opinion that this is cos men care more about that kind of stuff!! "

...well Sir ..my compliments to you for a brilliant post ..and yup ..you are in great shape...and im Not Bi or anything of the sort but will always compliment a guy for his condition...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you tend to see "hot" women with a "less hot" guy, why is the assumption that she might be after things like his money? The default position for me is that this shows that guys are more shallow and might not give "less hot" girls a chance, especially when they are younger and tend to care a lot more about what their mates might think!

It's a whole package for us. I do think the most successful relationships are when the people in them think/feel approximately the same about each other in terms of the entire package.

I'd think me and the Mrs are about equally attractive, but we get hundreds of messages on here saying how hot she is, and none saying how hot I am... So I'm sticking to my opinion that this is cos men care more about that kind of stuff!! "

I'd also ask why is the assumption always that the man is the higher earner?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you tend to see "hot" women with a "less hot" guy, why is the assumption that she might be after things like his money? The default position for me is that this shows that guys are more shallow and might not give "less hot" girls a chance, especially when they are younger and tend to care a lot more about what their mates might think!"

Not just young guys so obvious on nights out. The skinny hotter girls always get chatted up in the group I hang around with.

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers


"This is Ireland, not the land of satisfied women having every box ticked.

They settle and they compromise. The charming handsome guy with a honda civic who got them knocked up when they were 16 just wont cut it when they are an attractive 25 year old.

The handsome 5'11 guy just wont cut it when they are 6'1 in heels.

The guy working on checkouts in tesco just wont cut it when they need to save 70k for a deposit on a house.

The missmatch happens not because they tick every single box, but they tick the more practical boxes that allow the girl to have the type of life they want.

I'd say there is a small proportion of men and women who would sell their soul to the devil for material gain, but thankfully women have more options these days, and some even manage to acquire the lifestyle they want on the back of their own efforts, instead of on their backs...ImagineYou reckon? Go into any cafe in the suburbs around 9.30 after the school run tell me how many men compared to woman are sitting round with not a child in sight...

They must be the small proportion "

Agree totally most women do work who have kids and believe it or not actually earn a heck of a lot more than their other halves ..... Bank balance nothing to do with it! They just haven’t a poker up their arses and know that looks are not priority for long term partner.....

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By *heelofTimeCouple
over a year ago

Two Rivers


"When you tend to see "hot" women with a "less hot" guy, why is the assumption that she might be after things like his money? The default position for me is that this shows that guys are more shallow and might not give "less hot" girls a chance, especially when they are younger and tend to care a lot more about what their mates might think!

It's a whole package for us. I do think the most successful relationships are when the people in them think/feel approximately the same about each other in terms of the entire package.

I'd think me and the Mrs are about equally attractive, but we get hundreds of messages on here saying how hot she is, and none saying how hot I am... So I'm sticking to my opinion that this is cos men care more about that kind of stuff!!

I'd also ask why is the assumption always that the man is the higher earner? "

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area

After the financial crisis of 2008. Whats the number reason for divorce?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After the financial crisis of 2008. Whats the number reason for divorce? "

People’s lifestyle changing over the years and no longer compatible?

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"After the financial crisis of 2008. Whats the number reason for divorce?

People’s lifestyle changing over the years and no longer compatible?"
i think you will find its financial reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After the financial crisis of 2008. Whats the number reason for divorce?

People’s lifestyle changing over the years and no longer compatible?i think you will find its financial reasons "

Well I just checked there and according to the Indo, it’s overwork and not adultery that’s the main reason for divorces in Ireland. Financial reasons make sense too though.

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