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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it works for u both, who are we to judge

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By *oeDolansBrotherMan
over a year ago

South county

No, it’s her choice. It’s easier if the husband knows but if she’s not playing with you she’s playing with somebody else. Not your problem unless she’s your neighbour or a bit mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like trouble to me if the husband is not aware.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid"

Totally depends on what way the individual himself thinks .. some guys wouldn't think it's wrong others would ..the conscience level in guys differs hugely ..from absolutely none to full on..but obviously it's something the lady wants and if she wants it ..it's gonna be with someone..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid"

What's the difference if she has a small kid or not? She married and that's the primary red flag issue imo. As others said if she wants it she'll get it whether with you or with anyone else. The difference is if you get caught you and not anyone else will be on the receiving end of hubby's wrath. If it results in a broken relationship you're part of the problem. Your choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Its a great idea, and when they have a big massive fight and she ends up standing on your door with the baby in her arms, you can tell us how much of a stud you are.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Its a great idea, and when they have a big massive fight and she ends up standing on your door with the baby in her arms, you can tell us how much of a stud you are."

It's all fun and games until it suddenly gets serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd have to ask her husband, his opinion is the one that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never a good outcome

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Does the kid come with her when she meets?

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid"

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Am curious...

Is this a hypothetical question Op?

Had been seeing a FWB before who was "separated" only to find out that she was still very much with him . I wasn't happy with being spun a story and things ended there and then...

My take is that we're all adults at the end of the day, so honesty and both people laying all their cards on the table from the very start is crucial.

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By *usyatminMan
over a year ago

Wicklow, Wexford, Dublin and Carlow


"Its a great idea, and when they have a big massive fight and she ends up standing on your door with the baby in her arms, you can tell us how much of a stud you are."

This made me laugh out loud for a very long time. Classic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it works for u both, who are we to judge"

He is right. Your life your rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does the kid come with her when she meets? "

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch"

Then I'm afraid that is wrong......shouldn't involve the child even if it's only lunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a married couple and the husband got off watching his wife play with me. The three of us met several times After a few weeks, she was texting me, then meeting me on her own and after several months, out of the blue, she left her husband. Told me it was coming a few years, although she said he never saw it coming. I told her I wasn’t getting into a relationship with anyone as I was happy being separated and single. Anyway, long story short, I cooled things and have cut all ties with her a few weeks ago. My advice, be carful how things progress coz the grass is not greener on the other side at all and I think before long, you’ll be husband number two and have a ready made family before you know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a school boy error. A one off can provide a rush. A fwb whom is married with a child can create a tempest when found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I met a married couple and the husband got off watching his wife play with me. The three of us met several times After a few weeks, she was texting me, then meeting me on her own and after several months, out of the blue, she left her husband. Told me it was coming a few years, although she said he never saw it coming. I told her I wasn’t getting into a relationship with anyone as I was happy being separated and single. Anyway, long story short, I cooled things and have cut all ties with her a few weeks ago. My advice, be carful how things progress coz the grass is not greener on the other side at all and I think before long, you’ll be husband number two and have a ready made family before you know it. "

Wouldn't be the first man to slide down that slippery slope

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch"
have to agree, that is wrong on so many levels involving her child like that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch"

Run...

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch"

Run, run and don't look back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does the kid come with her when she meets? "
to funny

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch

Run, run and don't look back "

Agree with that. Think with your big head, op.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid"

If they are happy with the arrangement I don't see it being a problem unless your not keen on the idea and if that is the case move on

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Does the kid come with her when she meets?

Yes I’ve met her with the kid but only for lunch"

Oh dear god I've just seen this part ah do you not see any red flags here I think its time to think with your brain than your few minutes of fun and the woman should be ashamed of herself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab should have a filter, 'with children'. Not important she has a partner.

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By *urydiceRisingWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Well this is fascinating considering all the men on here who have small children, are married, and their wives don't know. Is it somehow different for wives but not husbands to have small children? In case the answer is not obvious - too many men lose all attraction to their wives once they've had a child. Just another reason to champion open marriages and non-monogamy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this is fascinating considering all the men on here who have small children, are married, and their wives don't know. Is it somehow different for wives but not husbands to have small children? In case the answer is not obvious - too many men lose all attraction to their wives once they've had a child. Just another reason to champion open marriages and non-monogamy. "

Maybe your experience but not everyones. Sometimes the wives go off sexual interest for months and months after giving birth. 3 of mine had left home when we separated and it was nowt to do with interest. We're still very good friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this is fascinating considering all the men on here who have small children, are married, and their wives don't know. Is it somehow different for wives but not husbands to have small children? In case the answer is not obvious - too many men lose all attraction to their wives once they've had a child. Just another reason to champion open marriages and non-monogamy. "

Was just thinking the same myself, and also the general assumption that it will go too far and she will end up on his doorstep...

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin


"Well this is fascinating considering all the men on here who have small children, are married, and their wives don't know. Is it somehow different for wives but not husbands to have small children? In case the answer is not obvious - too many men lose all attraction to their wives once they've had a child. Just another reason to champion open marriages and non-monogamy.

Maybe your experience but not everyones. Sometimes the wives go off sexual interest for months and months after giving birth. 3 of mine had left home when we separated and it was nowt to do with interest. We're still very good friends."

Months and months?

Try years and you're getting close to my life. By then, you've found beer, smokes and Fab/porn

Go for it OP but put a "kill" date on it. As in, after 30th June, it's over. Give her a chance to reassess her life with her kid and husband. Especially during summer holidays.

Tell her you won't contact her in any way until 1st January 2020.

If she's still of same mind then, play ball

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Was just thinking the same myself, and also the general assumption that it will go too far and she will end up on his doorstep...

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That's just people joking to give him the heebee jeebies, she will end up with the house she is in if it goes too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well this is fascinating considering all the men on here who have small children, are married, and their wives don't know. Is it somehow different for wives but not husbands to have small children? In case the answer is not obvious - too many men lose all attraction to their wives once they've had a child. Just another reason to champion open marriages and non-monogamy. "

In the details given on this post so far ,l don't think too many men ,married or not with small kids ,would bring them to a lunch meet with a lady ,and a lot of the time when a lady has had a child it is the guy that's put into the back seat ,true a lot of ladies once they have a child may struggle with weight issues and maybe physical self confidence but don't do anything about it and then there are those that have their shape and figure back in no time but the point l'm making is that for sexual issues a lot of ladies simply lose their interest in having sex with their husbands after having kids and not always the other way around .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the FB was a guy who brought his small child to a social meet OP would probably get annihilated..

A man or a woman who does that, married or not shows poor judgement

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Is it wrong to have a FWB who’s married with a small kid"

No isn't "wrong" and only you and her can decide that.

People have all sorts of issues/problems in their life and getting married and having kids, only complicates their life further, but it doesn't make someone less of a good person.

It isn't a nice thing to start cheating on your other half, but who are we to judge someone's life decisions.

People come to Fab for all sorts of reasons, in search for casual sex, in search for someone just to talk to, in search for love or just because they are lonely.

Fab is as good as any other dating place and for women, it offers a massive pool of men.

Enjoy your experience with her, respect her and be grateful for what you have. A lot of men here don't even get a reply back to their messages ever, don't mind a coffee meet or play meet, so consider yourself lucky.

As for her showing on your door step with her kid, you probably know by now, how likely or not is that to happen and you can stop seeing her any time, as long as you have the will power to do so.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west

I mean if you two want to hit it off by all means go ahead your adults you should know the dangers your facing but she is bringing her kid to meets that its self tells you she isn't exactly in the right state of mind I don't judge ladies situation just aslong as they keep everything else at home and I'm sure that's expected for the men too like we are all have our reasons for being on here just not the place to involve kids or sorting out problems within a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if it works for u both, who are we to judge"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been to plenty of women’s houses for sex where kids have been in bed or about to go to bed.

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"I’ve been to plenty of women’s houses for sex where kids have been in bed or about to go to bed."

Whatever floats your boat man lol

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

why are you asking for . are you feeling guilty ?? Look if she is ok i would not worry .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're happy to fuck married women why should kids be a problem?

It's not like you're going to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If the FB was a guy who brought his small child to a social meet OP would probably get annihilated..

A man or a woman who does that, married or not shows poor judgement"

This

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"If you're happy to fuck married women why should kids be a problem?

It's not like you're going to meet them "

It is a problem if she is bringing her kid to the meets the fact she is married isn't the issue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, I should of read the whole post before replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if the child is a little toddler in the pram sleeping during the social meet (lunch, coffee, tea) it is still wrong.

I'm a mother first then a lover

It is really no harm to think even twice or more before taking any action.

I don't and won't judge anyone but we all are adults and should be responsible. That's all

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Yup, I should of read the whole post before replying "

Your grand I made that mistake before I spotted the bring the kid to meets thing instantly regretted the 1st post lol

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By *he English OneMan
over a year ago

west


"Even if the child is a little toddler in the pram sleeping during the social meet (lunch, coffee, tea) it is still wrong.

I'm a mother first then a lover

It is really no harm to think even twice or more before taking any action.

I don't and won't judge anyone but we all are adults and should be responsible. That's all

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Well if I was waiting to meet this person and she showed up with a pram or holding a kids hand I'll be quickly trying to find the emergency exit lol

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