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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Here's a thing. I've noticed in the forum, and on some profiles that women (it could be men, but I don't read their profiles) tend to steer clear of messages made up of a few words !! As in, they want a bit of effort... and a face photo...and a verification... otherwise it's no reply !

I'm certain many men send messages like, "Hi, how are you, would you like to chat" and wonder why they don't get a response.

So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read the site guidelines, they clearly state "no reply = no interest".

You can choose to take it personally and get all angsty about people who don't reply, or you can move on to the next profile that interests you.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Here's a thing. I've noticed in the forum, and on some profiles that women (it could be men, but I don't read their profiles) tend to steer clear of messages made up of a few words !! As in, they want a bit of effort... and a face photo...and a verification... otherwise it's no reply !

I'm certain many men send messages like, "Hi, how are you, would you like to chat" and wonder why they don't get a response.

So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar."

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Op, whether in a bar or on Fab a woman might get approached by a dozen or a hundred guys with "Hi... how are you?" which seems polite and cordial on the surface

...but is actually generic, boring and lame after hearing it off a few men

The solution I think is to stand out and that means having an intro that's quirky, charming or even a little cheeky but something that shows you're a little different and more daring...

Most guys on fab thend to think "to stand out" means to whip it out and send it with their first message which I'm very thankful for lads, as makes my chances of getting a meet that much easier!

So, cheers lads!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Read the site guidelines, they clearly state "no reply = no interest".

You can choose to take it personally and get all angsty about people who don't reply, or you can move on to the next profile that interests you. "

Who honestly reads the site guidelines... like everyone reads the 'terms and conditions' before clicking 'I agree'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Read the site guidelines, they clearly state "no reply = no interest".

You can choose to take it personally and get all angsty about people who don't reply, or you can move on to the next profile that interests you.

Who honestly reads the site guidelines... like everyone reads the 'terms and conditions' before clicking 'I agree'."

Failing that, common sense might infer no interest from a lack of response...

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar."

Ok... If you're going to do the Fab mailbox and pub comparison, let's make it a real comparison... Because in that instance the woman in the pub is completely surrounded by men offering to buy her a drink, clamouring for attention, waving photos about, pushing and jostling, shouting 'nice tits babe' or 'you make me so fucking hard sexy' and she's wondering about hiring security....

Now do you get it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked."

Or maybe I'm just going to the wrong bars!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t matter what u say in ur first message

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked.

Or maybe I'm just going to the wrong bars! "

I've just had an image of sitting alone at a bar and random men sidling up beside me to drop dick pic Polaroids on the counter and then standing there looking at me expectantly... Every so often someone storms out of the bar waving angry fists in the air and shouting something about timewasters and fakes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked.

Or maybe I'm just going to the wrong bars!

I've just had an image of sitting alone at a bar and random men sidling up beside me to drop dick pic Polaroids on the counter and then standing there looking at me expectantly... Every so often someone storms out of the bar waving angry fists in the air and shouting something about timewasters and fakes... "

That gave me a good laugh, like the Facebook in real life parody videos

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. I didn't reply to any of them.

You know why?.......Because I'm not interested.

Get over it lads, you're supposed to be grown men. You're not entitled to anything on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked.

Or maybe I'm just going to the wrong bars!

I've just had an image of sitting alone at a bar and random men sidling up beside me to drop dick pic Polaroids on the counter and then standing there looking at me expectantly... Every so often someone storms out of the bar waving angry fists in the air and shouting something about timewasters and fakes... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe because in a bar there isn't a queue of horny lads lined up to ask her the same question every other guy has just asked.

Or maybe I'm just going to the wrong bars!

I've just had an image of sitting alone at a bar and random men sidling up beside me to drop dick pic Polaroids on the counter and then standing there looking at me expectantly... Every so often someone storms out of the bar waving angry fists in the air and shouting something about timewasters and fakes... "

Hahahahaha

It just reminds me last night out with female friends and my sister. I don't drink but got few offers from the lads at the bar. Poor guys! My evil sister came to them and told them if they want to having date with me better to change the strategy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. I didn't reply to any of them.

You know why?.......Because I'm not interested.

Get over it lads, you're supposed to be grown men. You're not entitled to anything on here."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. I didn't reply to any of them.

You know why?.......Because I'm not interested.

Get over it lads, you're supposed to be grown men. You're not entitled to anything on here."

So, anyway, FAF?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Read the site guidelines, they clearly state "no reply = no interest".

You can choose to take it personally and get all angsty about people who don't reply, or you can move on to the next profile that interests you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody on this site owes anybody a reply. Like... Get a grip.

The entitlement of some guys on fab is astonishing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just add that despite sending well constructed, funny, complimentary and thoughtful messages, it’s very common to receive one liner, cryptic and badly expressed responses from you lovely ladies.

So I share a lot of the thoughts of the men on here.

The battle of the sexes lives on!!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages."

You know why we don't reply to everyone? Because not everyone has something interesting to say... And over time we develop a sense for that based on a combination of things, and sidestep what we feel will be an excruciatingly awkward conversation. If I personally feel that someone doesn't interest me on any level, and I'm just going to end up in an awkwardly polite exchange of short messages with a basically inoffensive person where the conversation splutters and drips rather than flows, I won't reply. I'd be wasting both my time and his in doing so. That may sound harsh, but ultimately its doing men a favour, as it's probably worse to be lead on or to take a polite reply as encouragement and then watch as the woman you're chatting to meets others (who do actually interest them), while still making excuses not to meet themselves.

Do you really want those awkward, polite conversations?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages."

All true. But nothing you can do about it. It’s the way it is. But but but, there IS more than one way to skin a cat

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By *lashamMan
over a year ago

kildare

PlayD8 keep ur comments flowing . you have a way with words . LM loving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages.

You know why we don't reply to everyone? Because not everyone has something interesting to say... And over time we develop a sense for that based on a combination of things, and sidestep what we feel will be an excruciatingly awkward conversation. If I personally feel that someone doesn't interest me on any level, and I'm just going to end up in an awkwardly polite exchange of short messages with a basically inoffensive person where the conversation splutters and drips rather than flows, I won't reply. I'd be wasting both my time and his in doing so. That may sound harsh, but ultimately its doing men a favour, as it's probably worse to be lead on or to take a polite reply as encouragement and then watch as the woman you're chatting to meets others (who do actually interest them), while still making excuses not to meet themselves.

Do you really want those awkward, polite conversations? "

They become excruciating after a while, don't they? I'm not going to fuck anyone just to avoid hurting his feelings.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages.

You know why we don't reply to everyone? Because not everyone has something interesting to say... And over time we develop a sense for that based on a combination of things, and sidestep what we feel will be an excruciatingly awkward conversation. If I personally feel that someone doesn't interest me on any level, and I'm just going to end up in an awkwardly polite exchange of short messages with a basically inoffensive person where the conversation splutters and drips rather than flows, I won't reply. I'd be wasting both my time and his in doing so. That may sound harsh, but ultimately its doing men a favour, as it's probably worse to be lead on or to take a polite reply as encouragement and then watch as the woman you're chatting to meets others (who do actually interest them), while still making excuses not to meet themselves.

Do you really want those awkward, polite conversations?

They become excruciating after a while, don't they? I'm not going to fuck anyone just to avoid hurting his feelings."

Awful, absolutely awful. And the person has done nothing wrong! They've been polite and respectful, but they just don't spark your interest and never will, and even just having friendly conversation is like pulling teeth. You get to the point where you dread seeing a yellow light from someone, because you know reading it will mean a reply will be expected, and it will lead to one of those slow, boring dialogues that make you wish for a tornado or any excuse to cut the conversation short. I'm sure guys experience this too! They'll message someone and wish they hadn't...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't try equate real life with Fab, that is a huuuuge mistake. Just take it for what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would just add that despite sending well constructed, funny, complimentary and thoughtful messages, it’s very common to receive one liner, cryptic and badly expressed responses from you lovely ladies.

So I share a lot of the thoughts of the men on here.

The battle of the sexes lives on!! "

What? Just because you've decided that your message was good doesn't mean I'm obliged to agree, or to respond.

You might think it's the best message in the world. I might think it's boring.

You don't get to decide how I should or shouldn't see your message. I mean... The fuck?

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

Guys, open an account on fab guys, it's free. Put up a few dick pics, make them public. Wait just minutes for the deluge of fresh meat hunters, with their one liners. Now you'll understand.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. I didn't reply to any of them.

You know why?.......Because I'm not interested.

Get over it lads, you're supposed to be grown men. You're not entitled to anything on here."

This 100%

Last time I went out,in the space of 30 min(I looked at the watch) I got hit by 7 men.

6 of them were married.

7th late 50s

All with the same line,can I buy you a drink.

To 5 of them I said no thank you and walked off.

To 1 of them I said his wife wouldn't be too happy.

And the last one I told him I was a lesbian.

Men think same principle applies everywhere.

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By *vpamelaTV/TS
over a year ago

kinkville


"For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. "

Or upload a profile as a CD and see how bad it can get. Poor messages act as a filter for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. "
.

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. .

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose!"
But let's be hones if someone writes a few pages of things a woman likes to hear but said women has no interest in that man. She isn't going to meet or whatever just because he is good at writing what a woman likes to hear.So back to my point what's wrong with (Hi how are you) as the ice breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. .

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose! But let's be hones if someone writes a few pages of things a woman likes to hear but said women has no interest in that man. She isn't going to meet or whatever just because he is good at writing what a woman likes to hear.So back to my point what's wrong with (Hi how are you) as the ice breaker. "

Nothing wrong. Sometimes its just not enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. .

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose! But let's be hones if someone writes a few pages of things a woman likes to hear but said women has no interest in that man. She isn't going to meet or whatever just because he is good at writing what a woman likes to hear.So back to my point what's wrong with (Hi how are you) as the ice breaker.

Nothing wrong. Sometimes its just not enough "
But sometimes no matter what you say or do isn't enough.So in my opinion start with a short hi how are you and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's a thing. I've noticed in the forum, and on some profiles that women (it could be men, but I don't read their profiles) tend to steer clear of messages made up of a few words !! As in, they want a bit of effort... and a face photo...and a verification... otherwise it's no reply !

I'm certain many men send messages like, "Hi, how are you, would you like to chat" and wonder why they don't get a response.

So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar."

Simple:

In the bar = You can see the person face to face, hormones goes on or off, no more than 5 men or more men will approach a woman.

Internet = never mind you know...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. .

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose! But let's be hones if someone writes a few pages of things a woman likes to hear but said women has no interest in that man. She isn't going to meet or whatever just because he is good at writing what a woman likes to hear.So back to my point what's wrong with (Hi how are you) as the ice breaker.

Nothing wrong. Sometimes its just not enough But sometimes no matter what you say or do isn't enough.So in my opinion start with a short hi how are you and take it from there. "

In my case... If longer is better but with the sense A short "Hi, how are you? Would you like to drink xxx?” will work too. A quick look at the profile and then a quick decision if I want to continue the conversation or not. To be honest its sometimes a thread or comments in threads that I want to continue the chat.

So, as you can see there are many aspects what helps to make a right decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just out of curiosity what do the ladies want men to write.

Personally I don't see the Problem with (Hi how are you) as a way to start chatting.But I would have no problem if ladies didn't reply to said message.I certainly don't see the point in writing a few pages of utter nonsense just to impress someone. .

There are many more men on Fab than women, it’s true.

Women on fab (and in real-life) are picky. Yup.

If you want to stand out make an effort.

Simple really.

And also we’re not going to tell you what to write in messages, kinda defeats the purpose! But let's be hones if someone writes a few pages of things a woman likes to hear but said women has no interest in that man. She isn't going to meet or whatever just because he is good at writing what a woman likes to hear.So back to my point what's wrong with (Hi how are you) as the ice breaker.

Nothing wrong. Sometimes its just not enough But sometimes no matter what you say or do isn't enough.So in my opinion start with a short hi how are you and take it from there.

In my case... If longer is better but with the sense A short "Hi, how are you? Would you like to drink xxx?” will work too. A quick look at the profile and then a quick decision if I want to continue the conversation or not. To be honest its sometimes a thread or comments in threads that I want to continue the chat.

So, as you can see there are many aspects what helps to make a right decision "
Its all word's on a screen some are good at putting things into words on paper but might be a damp squib in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here's a thing. I've noticed in the forum, and on some profiles that women (it could be men, but I don't read their profiles) tend to steer clear of messages made up of a few words !! As in, they want a bit of effort... and a face photo...and a verification... otherwise it's no reply !

I'm certain many men send messages like, "Hi, how are you, would you like to chat" and wonder why they don't get a response.

So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar.

Simple:

In the bar = You can see the person face to face, hormones goes on or off, no more than 5 men or more men will approach a woman.

Internet = never mind you know..."

In the bar wouldn't work for me as I'm shy person and never done a first step. Well, even my friends and siblings know it and many times tricked me and I didn't know what to do or say in that embarrassed moment I just use my angel look and smile then waiting what the person wants to say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not only single ladies that face this problem. Couples (certainly in our experience) get the same sort of stuff from single guys. I normally respond with a “thanks” (to the obligatory “how’s you” ) and then gently remind them to read our profile. Fairly obvious from that as to what we are looking for. Then you usually get the same old bollocks of “well why don’t you block single guys then, sending mixed messages accepting messages from us” it just becomes tiresome and very boring very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I see your point and when I joined often wondered why people wouldn't be polite enough to reply with at least a no , but then I start chatting with couples and single women and realised they get tons of messages , now turn the table and imagine when you log in you have 20 messages or more are you going to read and reply all , specially the ones with a generic hi ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not moaning about not getting a reply. I send messages, I either get or don't get a reply, and move on regardless.

It's the one sided nature of the side. Woman generally speaking don't make the first move, either here (site) or in 'real life', so it's obvious that they are going to get the brunt of messages, of whatever nature.

I doubt very much any man would complain if he opened his mailbox to find dozens of messages.

You know why we don't reply to everyone? Because not everyone has something interesting to say... And over time we develop a sense for that based on a combination of things, and sidestep what we feel will be an excruciatingly awkward conversation. If I personally feel that someone doesn't interest me on any level, and I'm just going to end up in an awkwardly polite exchange of short messages with a basically inoffensive person where the conversation splutters and drips rather than flows, I won't reply. I'd be wasting both my time and his in doing so. That may sound harsh, but ultimately its doing men a favour, as it's probably worse to be lead on or to take a polite reply as encouragement and then watch as the woman you're chatting to meets others (who do actually interest them), while still making excuses not to meet themselves.

Do you really want those awkward, polite conversations?

They become excruciating after a while, don't they? I'm not going to fuck anyone just to avoid hurting his feelings.

Awful, absolutely awful. And the person has done nothing wrong! They've been polite and respectful, but they just don't spark your interest and never will, and even just having friendly conversation is like pulling teeth. You get to the point where you dread seeing a yellow light from someone, because you know reading it will mean a reply will be expected, and it will lead to one of those slow, boring dialogues that make you wish for a tornado or any excuse to cut the conversation short. I'm sure guys experience this too! They'll message someone and wish they hadn't... "

Or don't bother messaging first anymore. It still gets results. If they're genuinely interested they will message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar."
Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat. "

I agree with the previous poster. I'll get a good idea. Just like in real conversation, they can say whatever they like to get what they want, lie or cheat. On screen an in person can make little difference in that respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat.

I agree with the previous poster. I'll get a good idea. Just like in real conversation, they can say whatever they like to get what they want, lie or cheat. On screen an in person can make little difference in that respect."
But surely eye to eye contact is much better way of getting to know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat. "

I’ve met some really lovely people from here just from having a chat online at first.

One creep out of all of them. That happens in real life too though.

Mainly you know if you’re going to get on with someone from the chat or the banter.

I guess it’s something that comes with experience, not something that can be taught.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat.

I agree with the previous poster. I'll get a good idea. Just like in real conversation, they can say whatever they like to get what they want, lie or cheat. On screen an in person can make little difference in that respect. But surely eye to eye contact is much better way of getting to know someone."

Maybe better but the chances of that are much smaller than chatting on fab. Some have a hard time even recognising someone us flirting while face to face.

I'll know with in a few minutes of chatting on here if things could progress. Gut feeling works anywhere if you listen to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat.

I agree with the previous poster. I'll get a good idea. Just like in real conversation, they can say whatever they like to get what they want, lie or cheat. On screen an in person can make little difference in that respect. But surely eye to eye contact is much better way of getting to know someone.

Maybe better but the chances of that are much smaller than chatting on fab. Some have a hard time even recognising someone us flirting while face to face.

I'll know with in a few minutes of chatting on here if things could progress. Gut feeling works anywhere if you listen to it "
Ok you can tell a little about someone when you chat a little on here. But how can you tell from first message be it short or long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve made the first move with men in real life and also on Fab. Often I prefer it that way.

However messages are often a precursor and a funny message will always catch my attention more than the one-liners.

You can definitely get a sense of what a person is like from chatting online as much as chatting at a bar. Tell me how can you possibly tell what someone is really like by what they write on a screen.If someone wants something enough they will say and do anything to get it including lie and cheat.

I agree with the previous poster. I'll get a good idea. Just like in real conversation, they can say whatever they like to get what they want, lie or cheat. On screen an in person can make little difference in that respect. But surely eye to eye contact is much better way of getting to know someone.

Maybe better but the chances of that are much smaller than chatting on fab. Some have a hard time even recognising someone us flirting while face to face.

I'll know with in a few minutes of chatting on here if things could progress. Gut feeling works anywhere if you listen to it Ok you can tell a little about someone when you chat a little on here. But how can you tell from first message be it short or long."

I'm a Sapiosexual, so if what they say has caught my attention. It's not hard to sense passion and feeling even in txt, their language, choice of words, description says everything to me. There are things that'll just switch me off too. I'll be like a failed motherboard when that happens.

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By *exman1975Man
over a year ago

country

How do you take your messages not being read?

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough


"For any man on here who moans that not getting a reply is rude.....

I suggest you open your filters to allow males to contact you. Let all the horny gay, bi, and bi-curious men message you with, "So horny", "Want me to suck you off", "U horny?", etc. and come back on here after a week or so and tell us how you replied to every one of the messages because you think it's rude not to.

Before I discovered filters I was getting bombarded with these messages from men. I didn't reply to any of them.

You know why?.......Because I'm not interested.

Get over it lads, you're supposed to be grown men. You're not entitled to anything on here."

100% this!

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"How do you take your messages not being read?"

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a numbers game. I think someone else said it but send 20 messages, here back from one person if you are lucky. I struggle to think of interesting and/or funny things to say in a first message.I think most people are in the same boat. When you see your message has been deleted/ignored it disheartening at times but hang in there and keep going. There are a lot of funny, interesting, fun and sexy people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?"

Just simply block and move on, they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept. "

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha"
Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that message sending is self policing, its just the volume of men compared to women.

When I find someone that sparks interest, send a message relative to their profile text, be witty and pleasant, see the message was read but profile not viewed, that puts me off messaging anyone new for a few days! Self policing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha"

PM us;)

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it."

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. "
But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning."

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth "
If I was to send you a message with a couple of hundred words all about how pretty you look and seem really interested in you or send you a message like (Hi how are you) which one would you respond to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest. I'm new here but from what I've learned. Women receive an ungodly number of mails every day. So I understand if there don't respond. What I've learned from asking people on the forums, is how to best stand out from the endless tsunami of mail these beautiful women on fab receive. And the help I've received has been amazing. Again thanks everyone.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth If I was to send you a message with a couple of hundred words all about how pretty you look and seem really interested in you or send you a message like (Hi how are you) which one would you respond to."

I have responded to hi messages and met some of those with hi messages. I dont care for the long winded false put me on a pedestal messages. I'm happy with a hi here as I would be at a bar. I've stated this many times on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth If I was to send you a message with a couple of hundred words all about how pretty you look and seem really interested in you or send you a message like (Hi how are you) which one would you respond to.

I have responded to hi messages and met some of those with hi messages. I dont care for the long winded false put me on a pedestal messages. I'm happy with a hi here as I would be at a bar. I've stated this many times on the forums."
That's a fair answer.Because most of the couple of hundred words would be bull and all looking for same result as the hi how are you.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth If I was to send you a message with a couple of hundred words all about how pretty you look and seem really interested in you or send you a message like (Hi how are you) which one would you respond to.

I have responded to hi messages and met some of those with hi messages. I dont care for the long winded false put me on a pedestal messages. I'm happy with a hi here as I would be at a bar. I've stated this many times on the forums. That's a fair answer.Because most of the couple of hundred words would be bull and all looking for same result as the hi how are you."

That I agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you take your messages not being read?

I've no issue with it has happened to me a few times. I just dont see the point in moaning about it lads. It is what it is. Do you reply to every single piece of junk mail/letters That come through or emails offering this that or the other. No you don't because no reply is no interest. Why do ye find this so hard to accept.

Really can't understand why the moaning about rejection in here but have my theory , can't share it here in open or I risk a ban haha Just because people question something don't mean there moaning about it.

It's a repetitive question here every single week sometimes 2/3 times a week. Eventually it can sound like moaning. But in all fairness a lot of things on here could be classed as moaning.

And alot are. I even have a moan but not then Same topic over and over.. a forum search on a topic can prevent repetition. Anyways that's my 2 cents worth If I was to send you a message with a couple of hundred words all about how pretty you look and seem really interested in you or send you a message like (Hi how are you) which one would you respond to.

I have responded to hi messages and met some of those with hi messages. I dont care for the long winded false put me on a pedestal messages. I'm happy with a hi here as I would be at a bar. I've stated this many times on the forums. That's a fair answer.Because most of the couple of hundred words would be bull and all looking for same result as the hi how are you.

That I agree with"
Now if every woman an man was as truthful as you fab would be much a better place.

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By *oseredWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Read the site guidelines, they clearly state "no reply = no interest".

You can choose to take it personally and get all angsty about people who don't reply, or you can move on to the next profile that interests you.

Who honestly reads the site guidelines... like everyone reads the 'terms and conditions' before clicking 'I agree'."

Well now you know and are informed and you didn't have to read the rules to find out. Send what you like as a message, people will look at your profile and look at pics,if your profile interests them enough they will reply. If not then not interested. Not reading a contract before agreeing does not hold up in any court as an excuse from your obligations to adhere to the rules of same.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So here's the thing.. a man approached a woman in a bar or club, and says something like "Hi, how are you, could I buy you a drink" So, does the woman in question say absolutely nothing, and turns her back on the man, or does she respond, either with a positive 'yes' or 'no'.

So, why cannot it be as simple here to reply to a message with a simple 'not interested' or similar.

Ok... If you're going to do the Fab mailbox and pub comparison, let's make it a real comparison... Because in that instance the woman in the pub is completely surrounded by men offering to buy her a drink, clamouring for attention, waving photos about, pushing and jostling, shouting 'nice tits babe' or 'you make me so fucking hard sexy' and she's wondering about hiring security....

Now do you get it? "

I shouldn't be laughing at this, but I now have a mental image of the bar scenario yoh just described lol.

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