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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Some will, some won't. It's entirely up to you, but if you state it clearly on your profile it might help avoid any 'wasting time' chatting with those who won't meet attached folk in the future, or the worry about how to bring the subject up and how the person you're chatting with might react.

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By *eliciouslyWoman
over a year ago

Mallow

I clearly state in my profile I won't. Doesn't stop getting messages from married men though. A definite no no from me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I clearly state in my profile I won't. Doesn't stop getting messages from married men though. A definite no no from me! "

You think they read your profile??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your opinions ladies, much appreciated, will update the profile

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Married an declare it no problem with most ladies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Married an declare it no problem with most ladies "

You must be some charming dude so ??

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Married an declare it no problem with most ladies

You must be some charming dude so ??"

Hes probally just normal i have it on my profile and works well for me and lets others make an informed decision

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"I clearly state in my profile I won't. Doesn't stop getting messages from married men though. A definite no no from me! "

Are u sure none of the guys u have met are married not everyone wears a ring nowa days

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Not about being charming just be honest an people will make up their own minds

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I clearly state in my profile I won't. Doesn't stop getting messages from married men though. A definite no no from me!

Are u sure none of the guys u have met are married not everyone wears a ring nowa days "

Yeah honesty vs profile write up here I guess

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

Definitely not worth the risk for us.

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By *eliciouslyWoman
over a year ago

Mallow

Clearly not... Lol... But would save a lot if time ??

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Not answering back and blocking is a normal thing here.

Dont take it personally.

As for the married part,well everyone has their rules and dos and donts.

Just because it's a swinger site doesn't mean people dont have rules.

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Tbh we find most guys aren't forth coming about being attached ,we do ask tho just so we can make an informed decision as to whether to meet or not .

Best to put it clear on your profile so not to waste anyone's time imo .

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I find most men are quite honest with me about being attached. I've no set rule on it (aside from not meeting the male half of a swinging couple without their partner's consent), and always preferred to make up my mind about 'fab singles' on an individual basis. As long as I knew, I could make an informed decision and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, thanks everyone I appreciate your feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. "
just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?"

I think they dont mind meeting those that play with permission or are part of a couple. Some have problems with the cheating part others dont mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for our approach, we clearly state on our profile that we are ok with meeting together or separately so it hasn't really been an issue for us.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E "

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you have to be very open and upfront about it. Some people might prefer to meet attached people.

I personally make it very clear on my profile I don't meet attached people. I am not judging but it took me long enough to get of my own husband without taking on anyone else's But I keep get the make a exception for me line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One thing i find quite amusing though is the number of female "attached" profiles where they state they won't meet attached or married men.

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal

For us it's not about judgement either but pure logistics. We have plan a meet in advance, book hotels etc. We don't get to meet often so we like an unrushed few hours of fun. With attached people everything is last minute, to their timetable and rushed.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"One thing i find quite amusing though is the number of female "attached" profiles where they state they won't meet attached or married men. "

Or u loom at veris on those profiles and u see attached guys and girls posted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to be very open and upfront about it. Some people might prefer to meet attached people.

I personally make it very clear on my profile I don't meet attached people. I am not judging but it took me long enough to get of my own husband without taking on anyone else's"

I agree everyone is entitled to their own rules and if attached guys dont work for you then thats fine but I am curious rosy if your married and only meet single/unattached guys, does your husband meet single/attached women also or is it just you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?"

Very good question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question "

Because most single guys assume that any women or couples on here have little or no “standards” for want of a better phrase. They assume that knickers will be dropped at the sending of a “hi there” with a dick pic attached

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By *etergemmaCouple
over a year ago

South Dublin Area


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

Because most single guys assume that any women or couples on here have little or no “standards” for want of a better phrase. They assume that knickers will be dropped at the sending of a “hi there” with a dick pic attached "
stop talking sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to be very open and upfront about it. Some people might prefer to meet attached people.

I personally make it very clear on my profile I don't meet attached people. I am not judging but it took me long enough to get of my own husband without taking on anyone else's

I agree everyone is entitled to their own rules and if attached guys dont work for you then thats fine but I am curious rosy if your married and only meet single/unattached guys, does your husband meet single/attached women also or is it just you? "

Oh I am very much single I am no longer with my husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

Because most single guys assume that any women or couples on here have little or no “standards” for want of a better phrase. They assume that knickers will be dropped at the sending of a “hi there” with a dick pic attached "

ok so that's why single guys are on here but doesn't answer why a woman is on here only looking for single guys, surely that supports the reason to go to singles dating sites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you have to be very open and upfront about it. Some people might prefer to meet attached people.

I personally make it very clear on my profile I don't meet attached people. I am not judging but it took me long enough to get of my own husband without taking on anyone else's

I agree everyone is entitled to their own rules and if attached guys dont work for you then thats fine but I am curious rosy if your married and only meet single/unattached guys, does your husband meet single/attached women also or is it just you?

Oh I am very much single I am no longer with my husband. "

Ah ok, sorry i made an assumption when you mentioned it took long enough to find your husband

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question "

I think most people are referring to 'fab singles' rather than swinging couples when they say they prefer not to meet attached/married people, ie, married/attached men or women on single profiles without their partner's knowledge. It's nothing to do with dating, it's just a preference not to enable cheating. But tbh dating sites have just as many attached people looking for hook ups. They just tend to be more honest about it on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

Because most single guys assume that any women or couples on here have little or no “standards” for want of a better phrase. They assume that knickers will be dropped at the sending of a “hi there” with a dick pic attached

ok so that's why single guys are on here but doesn't answer why a woman is on here only looking for single guys, surely that supports the reason to go to singles dating sites? "

Dunno, our experience of singles is single guys with very few exceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

I think most people are referring to 'fab singles' rather than swinging couples when they say they prefer not to meet attached/married people, ie, married/attached men or women on single profiles without their partner's knowledge. It's nothing to do with dating, it's just a preference not to enable cheating. But tbh dating sites have just as many attached people looking for hook ups. They just tend to be more honest about it on Fab. "

I agree there are quite a few playing with permission in couples, its playing behind partners back from both genders, that is the main issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

I think most people are referring to 'fab singles' rather than swinging couples when they say they prefer not to meet attached/married people, ie, married/attached men or women on single profiles without their partner's knowledge. It's nothing to do with dating, it's just a preference not to enable cheating. But tbh dating sites have just as many attached people looking for hook ups. They just tend to be more honest about it on Fab.

I agree there are quite a few playing with permission in couples, its playing behind partners back from both genders, that is the main issue."

Perhaps but in the instance the question was regarding males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

I think most people are referring to 'fab singles' rather than swinging couples when they say they prefer not to meet attached/married people, ie, married/attached men or women on single profiles without their partner's knowledge. It's nothing to do with dating, it's just a preference not to enable cheating. But tbh dating sites have just as many attached people looking for hook ups. They just tend to be more honest about it on Fab.

I agree there are quite a few playing with permission in couples, its playing behind partners back from both genders, that is the main issue.

Perhaps but in the instance the question was regarding males"

Hmm perhaps i should put up a caviate "won't meet attached women without partners permission" and see what the reaction is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question

I think most people are referring to 'fab singles' rather than swinging couples when they say they prefer not to meet attached/married people, ie, married/attached men or women on single profiles without their partner's knowledge. It's nothing to do with dating, it's just a preference not to enable cheating. But tbh dating sites have just as many attached people looking for hook ups. They just tend to be more honest about it on Fab.

I agree there are quite a few playing with permission in couples, its playing behind partners back from both genders, that is the main issue.

Perhaps but in the instance the question was regarding males

Hmm perhaps i should put up a caviate "won't meet attached women without partners permission" and see what the reaction is..."

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it? "

My parents got divorced and it was the best day ever. Growing up watching mommy and daddy not getting along and not really liking each other that much and only staying together only for the kid isn't that nice.

My partner is also divorced and has kids from his previous marriage, happiest, nicest and most fun kids I've ever met at that, so no, kids should never be a reason why people choose to stay in an unhappy marriage living in a life of misery with a person you just don't even as much as fancy any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single I've avoided talking to and meeting anyone attached or married for three simple, but solid reasons:

1. Timing. Fitting around someone's family and work schedules is something that I can't and won't do.

2. Potential disaster. God forbid their partner would ever find out.

3. Accommodation. Lack of it.

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By *oreignaffairKKMan
over a year ago

Between CW and KK


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it? "

+1

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well. "

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again?

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?

Very good question "

Because they still want to swing as singles ?? And there are plenty of singles,not only couples...

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again? "

You are stirring the pot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again?

You are stirring the pot.

"

Ok I'm not local and dunno what stirring the pot means but I guess you are right

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again?

You are stirring the pot.

Ok I'm not local and dunno what stirring the pot means but I guess you are right "

For someone who has been on the site for a very short period of time,you know it all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again?

You are stirring the pot.

Ok I'm not local and dunno what stirring the pot means but I guess you are right

For someone who has been on the site for a very short period of time,you know it all.

"

Oh I see, excuse me my Oxford English but how would being here longer mean the guy is not lying to you, anyone you don't know can mislead you bth

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Best to be honest.

Will make finding the woman who wont care easier, then maybe you can start a swing partner with her.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it?

My parents got divorced and it was the best day ever. Growing up watching mommy and daddy not getting along and not really liking each other that much and only staying together only for the kid isn't that nice.

My partner is also divorced and has kids from his previous marriage, happiest, nicest and most fun kids I've ever met at that, so no, kids should never be a reason why people choose to stay in an unhappy marriage living in a life of misery with a person you just don't even as much as fancy any more."

When it comes to the stage that people are getting divorced, I don't think it's simply a case of lack of sex being the reason. There are usually a multitude and accumulation of reasons why people separate and/or divorce, and lack of sex is probably on the lower half of anyone's list. Lack of sex alone, as in the example given wouldn't be a good enough reason to break up a family surely, in anyone's book? It was this particular comment that I was addressing. I also have separated and divorced friends and family member's, and know others who I would only be delighted to see break up, purely because they're so miserable together, but that's the key isn't it? Sheer misery because of a multitude of problems and issues... Not just a lack of sex. I also know marriages and partnerships that work extremely well.. but with no sex. Should that be the reason to end something that works on every other level?

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By *mokey and the bandit 1Couple
over a year ago

Dublin


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?"

I don’t think this was meant about attached people meeting with the knowledge and consent of their partner. It’s moreso about those both male and female that are ‘fab single’ and are playing behind the back of their partner. Just because people have a preference to not meet those who are ‘fab single’ doesn’t mean that they should be on a singles dating site... a lot of people may want to play with couples or several others.

As for answering OPs question. Personally I choose not to play with those who are married and are here without the consent of their partner as I won’t enable cheating on either the part of men or women

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City


"I prefer not to meet attached people. It’s not about judgement. It’s just not for me. I try to avoid it as best I can. I always ask and hope for honesty. It would be better if people would be honest on their profile. just an observation here if people prefer not to meet attached people on a swingers site (which is predominately married couples)why not use a singles dating site ?"

The reason I’m not on a regular dating site is 1- I’m not looking for a relationship and 2 it would be hard to find couples to play with on a dating site. Everyone has their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

To be perfectly honest I would prefer not to meet attached anybody that is playing away without the knowledge of the other half. I have enough drama and hassle in my life without getting caught up in that as well.

Just out of curiosity, how would you get any drama from someone you've never met before and most probably won't see again? "

I never said you WOULD get drama. But I know of people I would class as friends who have been caught up with a cheating partner and the other half not happy and confronting them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot "
I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want."

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you"
it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

married man or woman. would never meet with them or engage with them. lesson learnt and i got burnt. never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly. "

Yes it’s your opinion after making up your own story to fit your opinion. Cheap shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

Yes it’s your opinion after making up your own story to fit your opinion. Cheap shot. "
no not a "cheap shot" it's actually a fact. I really think that a lot of the men on this site need to learn how to take NO for an answer, when you don't fit the bill for someone just move on and stop thinking of yourselves as all powerful and that something must be wrong with the site or the woman if you get rejected.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

You have a point there.

Rejection is not nice.

But neither is getting nasty or trying to persuade the person they are wrong in saying no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

Yes it’s your opinion after making up your own story to fit your opinion. Cheap shot. no not a "cheap shot" it's actually a fact. I really think that a lot of the men on this site need to learn how to take NO for an answer, when you don't fit the bill for someone just move on and stop thinking of yourselves as all powerful and that something must be wrong with the site or the woman if you get rejected.

"

What are you talking about?. The OP Put up a story and you decided he was lying and posted your own version of events . How do you know?. Facts?. So your story is fact and the OP is fantasy. You need help sonny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

Yes it’s your opinion after making up your own story to fit your opinion. Cheap shot. no not a "cheap shot" it's actually a fact. I really think that a lot of the men on this site need to learn how to take NO for an answer, when you don't fit the bill for someone just move on and stop thinking of yourselves as all powerful and that something must be wrong with the site or the woman if you get rejected.

What are you talking about?. The OP Put up a story and you decided he was lying and posted your own version of events . How do you know?. Facts?. So your story is fact and the OP is fantasy. You need help sonny"
yes fact, not everyone wants to post messages on here, I have got a number of private messages from people about what's being discussed here. Now again can I say that your aggression is quite ugly,but because you may have some perhaps issues of your own and feel you need to defend someone who reminds you of yourself, I forgive you and wish you some happiness "Sonny"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a point there.

Rejection is not nice.

But neither is getting nasty or trying to persuade the person they are wrong in saying no.

"
thanks for the bit of back up.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly. "

His comments where hardly aggressive he actually paraphrased your comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me one but.Fab is all about meeting up for casual safe and discreet sex with nsa

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

His comments where hardly aggressive he actually paraphrased your comment "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't bother me one but.Fab is all about meeting up for casual safe and discreet sex with nsa"

It is what you make it to be.

Some treat it as secret hook up site with random strangers, others use it as a social platform to meet like minded individuals and make new friends who they can occasionally fuck with no added drama.

Most brush every user under the same carpet and that's why women and couples get to deal with morons who just assume that it's okay to approach a stranger with a selection of their cock shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on my profile that I am married and always start off my messages with the fact that I am married but still get it hard to get a reply. Just have to keep trying. I guess I must be doing something wrong as others are getting reply’s and I am not. Oh well keep trying is what I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont judge other people’s situations and I have met married guys, however I would be very cautious about it.

It’s more for selfish reasons, so I don’t get caught up in some domestic drama, rather than any ethical ones.

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By *hiaboutMan
over a year ago

johnstown

Its generally married ladies i meet an they playing without otherbhalf knowing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its generally married ladies i meet an they playing without otherbhalf knowing

"

I had couple of affairs outside the dating sites, some of them were married, some single, I'd say it's easier to break the ice in rl than on sites, for me anyway, probably I'm a bad profile writer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its generally married ladies i meet an they playing without otherbhalf knowing

I had couple of affairs outside the dating sites, some of them were married, some single, I'd say it's easier to break the ice in rl than on sites, for me anyway, probably I'm a bad profile writer

"

I was on another site and same there ... hard enough but on that site there was an option to search for married or attached women so made it a bit easier but had to pay a monthly fee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its generally married ladies i meet an they playing without otherbhalf knowing

I had couple of affairs outside the dating sites, some of them were married, some single, I'd say it's easier to break the ice in rl than on sites, for me anyway, probably I'm a bad profile writer

I was on another site and same there ... hard enough but on that site there was an option to search for married or attached women so made it a bit easier but had to pay a monthly fee "

What site was it? Maybe I'll chat someone there with moral compass broken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it? "

Yes, it really IS as simple as that. If you sneak around behind your spouses back looking for sex then you should do the decent thing and divorce her. You can’t use the kids as an excuse for divorce. In my experience when thins go wrong in s marriage the kids suffer because of the atmosphere. With a divorce the kids feelings and emotions are taken into consideration by the courts and judicial system. There is NO excuse to stay in a loveless marriage.

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over a year ago


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it?

My parents got divorced and it was the best day ever. Growing up watching mommy and daddy not getting along and not really liking each other that much and only staying together only for the kid isn't that nice.

My partner is also divorced and has kids from his previous marriage, happiest, nicest and most fun kids I've ever met at that, so no, kids should never be a reason why people choose to stay in an unhappy marriage living in a life of misery with a person you just don't even as much as fancy any more."

This ??

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over a year ago


"If you happen to look down the forums you’ll get all the advice you need on this subject as it was posted only s few days ago only under a different heading.... like I said in that thread, if you’re not happy in your marriage snd need to sneak around elsewhere for sex then put your big boy pants on, man up and do a Dolly Parton ... D.I.V.O.R.C.E

Ahhh yes... Because your children will completely understand that Mummy or Daddy needs sex more than living under the same roof as them it's not really that simple is it?

Yes, it really IS as simple as that. If you sneak around behind your spouses back looking for sex then you should do the decent thing and divorce her. You can’t use the kids as an excuse for divorce. In my experience when thins go wrong in s marriage the kids suffer because of the atmosphere. With a divorce the kids feelings and emotions are taken into consideration by the courts and judicial system. There is NO excuse to stay in a loveless marriage. "

It’s never as straight forward as that. It could be a sexless marriage but not a loveless marriage. Each person has their own reason for being here and no one should be judged but everyone is entitled to their option but I think they shouldn’t be saying it’s wrong without knowing the reason behind being here. And that goes for everything in life. Don’t judge people by what you see ... behind closed doors it could be a lot different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t bother me G xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Quick one for the ladies,

To cut long story short, I've been chatting with couple of girls here and as soon as I told them I'm married and playing aside they both deleted conversation and blocked me out, dunno if that's normal for swingers site, Deffo it's an issue for some but would appreciate your honest opinion coz now it looks like wasting time, mine and theirs.

Thanks a lot I really think this post makes no sense, two women blocked this guy when he told them that he is married, and he wants to know if it's normal for this to happen on a swingers site?? More than likely what really happened was, he told them he was married, they said sorry but that's not for us, he then proceeded to explain a bulls**t story about his marriage after they had politely said NO maybe 3 or 4 times to him, then they just blocked him in the end. So what I mean here is it's a life old thing, people want what they want not what you want them to want.

There was no bulls***t stories as you say, what's your point of making up a bullsh***t story? Lol I don't understand people like you it's ok take it easy, it's just my opinion on the matter, I have been speaking with a lot of women on here and have lots of friends on the swing seen in the UK and Australia and almost all of my female friends have come across this type of behavior, I did have a sneaky feeling when posting my last comment on here that you would come on and let us all see what most of us had guessed anyway,that you can be a little aggressive when you don't hear what you want to hear. Maybe this site is not working for you, being aggressive can be very ugly.

His comments where hardly aggressive he actually paraphrased your comment "

Exactly. Didn’t like his own words quoted back at him

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