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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really I’ve met unverified in the past. Depends on person and the attraction

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Weve all started off with no verifications.

I would give a person a chance and meet them.

But most of the time I am after experienced swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Is a profile that is on the site over a year or in some cases 2 or even more and without a verification, not off-putting?

And lets face it, there are so many socials happenening these days, there are ways to get yourself out there as real and reflective of what & who you state you are in your profile.

Well thats my personal opinion anyway

Looking forward to reading your responses."

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By *ewitching1Woman
over a year ago

belfast

I use the verification as a way to prove someone in genuine and has a commitment to actually meeting!!! Other than that they dont mean alot .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have the fear of meeting and just like to perve and lurk. Guess makes it harder on them when they do decide their ready. Not all old profiles are the same. I’m as skeptical as anybody but I if they interest me I’ll take the time to see if their worth meeting.

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

People who are well verified,can still be timewasters,or turn out to be terrible in the sack.

So its hit or miss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are well verified,can still be timewasters,or turn out to be terrible in the sack.

So its hit or miss.

"

Agreed

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By *ilverman2019Man
over a year ago

sligo

But if someone is on the site 6 months or a year. It's totally different. I've give newbies a chance tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for the responses, I really appreciate it

My post came about as I was thinking how much more difficult it is to meet potential play mates since I got into the scene 10-15 years ago (on and off) and wondered why that was the case.

Not being verified came across my mind (which is difficult in itself as you need to meet a verified person who will verify you) but there could be a lot of other reasons like upping my profile or my initial message game.

More forum posts for other days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm not really bothered about the amount or lack of veris, but do pay attention at who left them veris to begin with just for an all round picture of persons general standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey anyone fancy meeting up with me and giving us a verification a coffee meet

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By *ateniteCouple
over a year ago

Youghal


"People who are well verified,can still be timewasters,or turn out to be terrible in the sack.

So its hit or miss.

"

True, we had a poor experience with a guy that was well verified by other experienced fabbers but he turned out to be a complete creep. So lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

9 out of 10 veris are just fluffed up because you don't have the heart to say what you really wanted to say

Sometimes I'm a fluffer and sometimes I'm not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"9 out of 10 veris are just fluffed up because you don't have the heart to say what you really wanted to say

Sometimes I'm a fluffer and sometimes I'm not "

Now your verifications will be wondering

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say "

I haven't seen any bad verification yet, closest I've seen is people complaining about others through status updates.

I think you can choose which verifications you can display on your profile (correct me if I'm wrong).

Not to say you can't send a bad verification to them in the first place I'm sure! I would be intrigued to know what kind of person would post a bad one on their own profile though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I'm not really bothered about the amount or lack of veris, but do pay attention at who left them veris to begin with just for an all round picture of persons general standards. "

I have never considered looking at verifications that way before. I will do in future

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say "

No one will ever display a "bad/negative" verification.

Verifications serve their purpose, but I always like to combine the Kik chats and a phone call if possible, to make my mind up about someone.

Some of us really like to go the extra mile and write a nice veri, if we are pleased with the person we've met.

The worst is down the line, if things go sour and you block or get blocked for whatever reason and those nice verifications disappear .

But Fab life goes on and there is always someone new, whom you've never talked to or met before.

I love the "new" profiles of swingers coming back into the scene, or even better complete newbies .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there are some lovely worded verifications and you can tell those are written with thought and consideration. I am one who reads peoples verifications because sometimes whom they have been with can tell you much more than their messages to you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses."

I like to check veris before meeting. If he hasn't killed one of the previous 5 then I might be okay kind of thing

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin

One of the ladies (from NI ) that I admire for her past forum posts, had given and received one of the best tongue in cheek verifications I've ever seen on Fab.

I would have liked to do the same and write someone a realy funny veri, but no one had agreed to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say "

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity."

I'm upset that you got this treatment but unfortunately not surprised - as you say anonymous people can be very abusive on the internet.

Out of curiosity, did the guy you posted about in this experiment get equally bad treatment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity."

Jesus thats awful. Keyboard warriors who say what they like here and are scared of their own shadows in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity.

I'm upset that you got this treatment but unfortunately not surprised - as you say anonymous people can be very abusive on the internet.

Out of curiosity, did the guy you posted about in this experiment get equally bad treatment?"

Not really. He just got the same treatment as most guys here do - people still ignored him all the same lol (apart from ones, who know him in person, most understood it was a joke, few just asked what has he done to piss me off)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses."

Everyone here needed one one day in the past It's all about the way people approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People who are well verified,can still be timewasters,or turn out to be terrible in the sack.

So its hit or miss.

"

I had another profile here about 8 years ago. On that time I arranged many meets with verified people who never showed up... Did I report or give a bad feedback? No, but next time I will post them in the forums

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity."

I loved the "she even stole my boxers" bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity.

I loved the "she even stole my boxers" bit. "

Aaaaaaah that's where the sti idea come from... my childish innocent mind didn't even think of that as a sex suggestion (come to think of it how else would one steal boxers)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I loved the "she even stole my boxers" bit. "

Lol - I'm curious about the whole verification now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity.

I loved the "she even stole my boxers" bit.

Aaaaaaah that's where the sti idea come from... my childish innocent mind didn't even think of that as a sex suggestion (come to think of it how else would one steal boxers) "

Raiding the washing line at night

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"I loved the "she even stole my boxers" bit.

Lol - I'm curious about the whole verification now!"

Nah, it was like finding the "Easter egg" in a game in the old days.

This time was on her profile, right in front of everyone's eyes, but very few understood the meaning of it.

Fantastic idea and very original !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made it public for a while for anyone who's curious

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin

[Removed by poster at 13/05/19 22:56:50]

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By *oreThanOnceMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Made it public for a while for anyone who's curious "

Best "Private Note" I've ever saved on a profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Made it public for a while for anyone who's curious "

That is absolutely hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Made it public for a while for anyone who's curious

That is absolutely hilarious "

That's what we thought before the abuse started...

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say

Me and another well known forumer left each other horrible veris on purpose just for a laugh as a social experiment. Result - some truly desperate and angry people started sending me abuse saying how much of a slag I am and how he's just right "leaving me a bad review" with a sprinkle of "hope he doesn't pass on your sti's" which part of me found hilarious as no part of that horrible veri have suggested us being intimate and other part of me was truly upset over how spiteful and mean grown men can be once you give them a keyboard and anonymity."

I've read those veris you gave each other a while ago and it's pretty obvious that you were taking the piss. It's hard to believe that some struggle to grasp that but I guess there's very little that doesn't exist on fab.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I don't think a veri has ever made me say 'ooooo I absolutely must meet this guy'... but a few have made me think 'nope!' over the years. Sometimes it's not even the veri someone has received, but the one they left in return that has put me off. Especially the really graphic ones that self-promote rather than tell anything useful about the person they met... Y'know... The 'I made her gush like a burst water main, scream like a banshee, and she took my big cock like a pro' kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use the verification as a way to prove someone in genuine and has a commitment to actually meeting!!! Other than that they dont mean alot ."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think a veri has ever made me say 'ooooo I absolutely must meet this guy'... but a few have made me think 'nope!' over the years. Sometimes it's not even the veri someone has received, but the one they left in return that has put me off. Especially the really graphic ones that self-promote rather than tell anything useful about the person they met... Y'know... The 'I made her gush like a burst water main, scream like a banshee, and she took my big cock like a pro' kind. "

I hear ya!!!

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Ya gotta love the ones that say "she loved being left raw,or she chocked on my enormous cock"

Self advertisement much??

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I don't meet unverified, never have met one and I don't think I will.

There are outstanding veris out there and if you're bit receptive you can easily recognise them. They just read different and have a proper personal note to it.

There's also useless veris out there (coffee meets) and sheit veris with the usual fab platitudes as in 'met the lovely ..., knows how to please, see you soon'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think a veri has ever made me say 'ooooo I absolutely must meet this guy'... but a few have made me think 'nope!' over the years. Sometimes it's not even the veri someone has received, but the one they left in return that has put me off. Especially the really graphic ones that self-promote rather than tell anything useful about the person they met... Y'know... The 'I made her gush like a burst water main, scream like a banshee, and she took my big cock like a pro' kind. "

I keep away from these kind of people. Discretion on their profiles and details (or self advert lol) in their veris left to the person whom they met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol"

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me' "

She's a gem.... oh no wait sorry he is a Jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verification s cannot be relied on I have 3 from people who have never met or spoken to hence there not displayed so I don't believe any here .I either wanna meet you it not after a few messaging it becomes clear if your genuine or nit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses."
verification s are only a sign that the person actually showed up. Everyone had different tastes. What one person finds attractive or fun others may not. We were all unverified on here once. I've met unverified and had no issues. Met well verified and they were morons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think my record was reading about 200 veris and all were for either webcams, socials and m & gs. They well might have had sex somewhere but none was mentioned specifically or implied

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I think my record was reading about 200 veris and all were for either webcams, socials and m & gs. They well might have had sex somewhere but none was mentioned specifically or implied "

I keep telling you.... Stop reading my veris!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”"

I have it in one of my veris

It is not verification I am looking at but how the chat is going: do we have any connection, similar interests, laugh, etc.

I don't ask for veri but if is given, then I left mine too. A bit of courtesy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone ever read a bad verification on someone? Are we all as fabulous as our verifications say "

Yes, I think there are many such examples. Read carefuy between the lines. There's been a couple threads on veris that tell a different story.

'met for coffee, nice to chat with, treat her with respect' that last phrase says a lot imo.

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas

and then u have people who wont meet you because you have too many verifications , we have 250+ veries but 80% are from social and parties we went too and just chatted to people , ya cant win here , not enough veris , no meet , too many veries and no meet either , have even read on profile too many verifications , dont contact them

pity there wasnt a break down of veris in the summary ie social or play meets

mrs crazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we just show a few of ours ..

we became very pissed off by other cpl & singles asking we see you meet so and so ...we know them and we played with them so you like us so ..when can we meet etc...or what are they like etc ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"and then u have people who wont meet you because you have too many verifications , we have 250+ veries but 80% are from social and parties we went too and just chatted to people , ya cant win here , not enough veris , no meet , too many veries and no meet either , have even read on profile too many verifications , dont contact them

pity there wasnt a break down of veris in the summary ie social or play meets

mrs crazy "

Hands up I would of thought like that about a lot of verifications untill a good friend of mine explained the difference. so yes a social or play summary would be a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol"

I put that down to lack of imagination and if people were to write graphic verifications there would be a lot in trouble here. All I know is there’s no way I won’t have a social first.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"we just show a few of ours ..

we became very pissed off by other cpl & singles asking we see you meet so and so ...we know them and we played with them so you like us so ..when can we meet etc...or what are they like etc ... "

I'll admit that I have a small few hidden veris... Some were given to me by accident as my name was similar to someone they had met at a social event or party, and others are hidden because they were a bit too misleading... They were either from folk who hinted at play having happened when it absolutely didn't, or completely OTT ones from folk I chatted with for 2 minutes at a Meet & Greet, but who made it sound like I was the life of the party and their bestie for life... If it feels false to me, I won't display it.

I don't think I've ever been asked by a third party for a play recommendation for anyone (and if I was, I wouldn't give one) I have however been asked to vouch for people's character and behaviour by club/event/party hosts a few times. Not on their play skills... But on how well they mix in social situations. Some might find that odd on a swinging site, but when putting together a gathering, I suppose everyone wants to be sure there will be a good mix of lively people and (hopefully) no drama.

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

Ive said this before but the whole veri thing is mad. I can see their purpose to verify that someone is who they say they are but relying on them for anything more than that you'll end up disappointed! For some theyre so important, more so than the meet, its crazy. I also dont like the way they are a very public record of your fab activities, something id much rather keep private, when i have sex with someone i dont need the world to know!! Sorry rant over lol !! But on the other hand its really hard not to display the ones where people have said really nice things... ah bloody veris, hard to know what to do with them!! Mrs Bugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive said this before but the whole veri thing is mad. I can see their purpose to verify that someone is who they say they are but relying on them for anything more than that you'll end up disappointed! For some theyre so important, more so than the meet, its crazy. I also dont like the way they are a very public record of your fab activities, something id much rather keep private, when i have sex with someone i dont need the world to know!! Sorry rant over lol !! But on the other hand its really hard not to display the ones where people have said really nice things... ah bloody veris, hard to know what to do with them!! Mrs Bugs"

But then you can show your pictures letting the world knowing your sexual activities, if that makes any sense :D

The style verification show be communicated after the fun time is finished and a nice goodbye is done.

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin


"Ive said this before but the whole veri thing is mad. I can see their purpose to verify that someone is who they say they are but relying on them for anything more than that you'll end up disappointed! For some theyre so important, more so than the meet, its crazy. I also dont like the way they are a very public record of your fab activities, something id much rather keep private, when i have sex with someone i dont need the world to know!! Sorry rant over lol !! But on the other hand its really hard not to display the ones where people have said really nice things... ah bloody veris, hard to know what to do with them!! Mrs Bugs

But then you can show your pictures letting the world knowing your sexual activities, if that makes any sense :D

The style verification show be communicated after the fun time is finished and a nice goodbye is done."

Haha point taken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses."
reading most of the comments,it's like realty against fantasy,Forum fantasies is deferent from fab reality, honesty is the best policy,just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had people tell me "i like your verifications but didn't show anything about your cock or your stamina I need more than just nice words"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all,

I was hoping to ask ladies and couples about their opinions on verifications. Do you find them useful in choosing playmates? Would a lack of verifications heavily influence your decision in meeting people?

Looking forward to reading your responses."

No. I can have a good connection with someone who is not verified by person and have zero interest to meet even for social a person or a couple only because of good veris.

Its about being honest with yourself and what interesting is in the person I want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

I put that down to lack of imagination and if people were to write graphic verifications there would be a lot in trouble here. All I know is there’s no way I won’t have a social first. "

Or being very polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think veris are very important , specially the bad ones

Think people take that verify "game" a bit too serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think veris are very important , specially the bad ones

Think people take that verify "game" a bit too serious "

Bit of a contradiction there it’s important but taken serious time

Confused.com

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By *safuntimes321Man
over a year ago

Galway


"People who are well verified,can still be timewasters,or turn out to be terrible in the sack.

So its hit or miss.

"

Definitely I 100% agree. I think you know after a couple of messages if it’s going to be worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think veris are very important , specially the bad ones

Think people take that verify "game" a bit too serious

Bit of a contradiction there it’s important but taken serious time

Confused.com "

It's called joking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do we get verified if the people we meet are not verified either??

it's like the chicken and the egg ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do we get verified if the people we meet are not verified either??

it's like the chicken and the egg ..

"

Go on cam in chatrooms, get cam verified, verify ones you've met. Easy

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me' "

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again.

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

For me its about the person not the verification others have given. I prefer to take people as I find them and form my own opinion/connection. That said it makes me laugh when a guy gives a verification but it reads more like a recommendation for how good he is. I don't display mine though would share with someone I was going to meet if they wanted.

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By *eme321Woman
over a year ago

eccles

As a old member in a new profile I find it irritating. I have met (out of choice ) 3 unverified ppl and still can’t get any feedback cos they are unverified I feel pressure to meet someone I don’t want to just to get a veri it’s a bit annoying when the only ppl I spent some amazing time with I can’t share how I feel with the site cos I’m not verified either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. "
A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one "

I don't have a problem with women reviewing men saying how great they were in bed or lack of. But when its the man leaving a veri on a woman page bigging himself up, it is just cringey and off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

I don't have a problem with women reviewing men saying how great they were in bed or lack of. But when its the man leaving a veri on a woman page bigging himself up, it is just cringey and off putting. "

Seems lots of people are just trying to collect verifies , why i don't know maybe some ego boost , about what you say guys leaving detailed verifies on women profiles sounds more like self advertising than a veri/compliment to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one "

Are you so unsure of your skills that you need women to leave verifies talking about your cock , and stamina ? Dude you digging a big hole for yourself , on another thread you proved you still have a lot to learn .... Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

Are you so unsure of your skills that you need women to leave verifies talking about your cock , and stamina ? Dude you digging a big hole for yourself , on another thread you proved you still have a lot to learn .... Just saying "
why couldn't you read a simple paragraphs of comment,i saw your sister attacking me in the same thing"I said a lady said she wanted to see more comments about my cock and stamina in bedroom before she can meet me,nice body comments doesn't do it for her"can you get it now, you're not the one to tell me about women if u can even read correctly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

Are you so unsure of your skills that you need women to leave verifies talking about your cock , and stamina ? Dude you digging a big hole for yourself , on another thread you proved you still have a lot to learn .... Just saying "
oh see both of you couldn't read or you have communication problem,no wonder you both had a terrible meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

Are you so unsure of your skills that you need women to leave verifies talking about your cock , and stamina ? Dude you digging a big hole for yourself , on another thread you proved you still have a lot to learn .... Just saying why couldn't you read a simple paragraphs of comment,i saw your sister attacking me in the same thing"I said a lady said she wanted to see more comments about my cock and stamina in bedroom before she can meet me,nice body comments doesn't do it for her"can you get it now, you're not the one to tell me about women if u can even read correctly "

That should say " CAN'T you read a simple PARAGRAPH" , then you mention my sister ????

And then where you say "...if you can even read correctly " I think you mean ".... if you can't even read correctly" see the problem of me reading correctly or not it's your fault , but hey no point argue with an idiot cause you will win since you obviously have lots of experience on being one .

P.S : stop looking at my profile and welcome to the blocked list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't leave veris for guys I've only met once. I tend to wait til I've met them twice at least and only if they've given me one.

With socials, its different, I'd verify the person/couple.

I do pay some attention to veris, especially what they've written to other women. One guy I was chatting to, wrote a veri on another saying he basically made her roar and he fucked her good etc... Totally put me off him.

I don't show all my veris either. Only those I genuinely had a nice time with or want to meet again. A lady said to me she like my Veris but it didn't say anything about my cock and fucking stamina,Fab world is a complicated one

Are you so unsure of your skills that you need women to leave verifies talking about your cock , and stamina ? Dude you digging a big hole for yourself , on another thread you proved you still have a lot to learn .... Just saying why couldn't you read a simple paragraphs of comment,i saw your sister attacking me in the same thing"I said a lady said she wanted to see more comments about my cock and stamina in bedroom before she can meet me,nice body comments doesn't do it for her"can you get it now, you're not the one to tell me about women if u can even read correctly

That should say " CAN'T you read a simple PARAGRAPH" , then you mention my sister ????

And then where you say "...if you can even read correctly " I think you mean ".... if you can't even read correctly" see the problem of me reading correctly or not it's your fault , but hey no point argue with an idiot cause you will win since you obviously have lots of experience on being one .

P.S : stop looking at my profile and welcome to the blocked list "
at least you finally read the OP properly,so I'm happy u get it now,sweet dreams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are only important if you don't have any. The first few show your genuine and show up after that they are pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Veris are only important if you don't have any. The first few show your genuine and show up after that they are pointless."
what I'm saying was some people wants to read more than just showing you're genuine,they want to read how good u can work your tounge your finger your oral skills,and most of the it irritates me to read stuffs like that,even talking about how wet and sweet puxxy was,and some women likes it that way.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I like to be discrete, so I'm careful how I word any veris I write. Likewise, if someone gives me a veri and mentions details I don't want made public, I don't publish them.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"As a old member in a new profile I find it irritating. I have met (out of choice ) 3 unverified ppl and still can’t get any feedback cos they are unverified I feel pressure to meet someone I don’t want to just to get a veri it’s a bit annoying when the only ppl I spent some amazing time with I can’t share how I feel with the site cos I’m not verified either "

Could you not ask someone you met on your previous profile to verify you? Just to unlock that. Then you can happily verify the unverified people you have met more recently, and they can also verify you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s threads like this that show why the good guys on here get such a hard time when there are these clusterfucks about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s threads like this that show why the good guys on here get such a hard time when there are these clusterfucks about"
you seem angry with your self,you kept going on every thread blaming people for your mischievous,its nobody's fault if you can't get meets,maybe sometime is wrong with you,why shouldn't people post anything they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s threads like this that show why the good guys on here get such a hard time when there are these clusterfucks aboutyou seem angry with your self,you kept going on every thread blaming people for your mischievous,its nobody's fault if you can't get meets,maybe sometime is wrong with you,why shouldn't people post anything they want. "

Angry with myself ?. What are rambling on about now ?. Blaming people for my mischievous ?. What are you talking about?. I can’t get meets ?. Can you not read ?.There is nothing wrong with me. Jeez.... some people on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how you knew who I was talking about lol- I never mentioned you - oops - own goal right there lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most veris are cringey and sound like they’ve been written by teenagers, then others are like escort reviews and then the self promoting ones. My idea of a veri is just confirming it’s a real and genuine human

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Veris are only important if you don't have any. The first few show your genuine and show up after that they are pointless."

Don't know that they are completely pointless.... I've seen several threads where both men and women have been chastised for not having any recent verifications. In some ways, I can understand it, because people change, and just because someone said you were a lovely person 2 or 3 years ago doesn't mean you can't have turned into a right mardy bastard in the meantime... I've seen some lovely people turn into complete pricks since joining sites like this, and it's very often why I choose not to reverify returning members if I haven't seen them or been talking to them in a long time, nor wouldn't expect one from someone either under the same circumstances. I know I have changed quite a lot even just physically since joining Fab and a veri from someone I met 5 years ago would be useless to anyone now other than to show how long I've been around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Veris are important once you dont have them.....play with different with every other person as mostly we are in to different sort of things... yes to certain extend the number of veris can be a matter of concern.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The number of veris can give concern. For some who may be very selective seeing too many is naturally off putting, for those very busy, it's not important.

For those with just a couple, especially guys it means usually not being considered for fab socials or parties unless you go as a couple as most require well verified men.

For those who are very choosey,(ie careful with only seeking those who don't play with many partners as in the spirit of swinging), loosing veris to display is a high probabily as many of them tend to leave as they tend to be non swingers.

If one doesn't play with couples, the options for increasing veris are also more difficult.

As with anything on fab, you'll never please everyone.

You just need to find what you're comfortable with and if that isn't working as you hope, take a step back and rethink is it for you?

For those who say veris are not important, that's a minority view going by fab set up, forums, statuses and how people write them, display them, hide them, use them to decide to meet someone or not, they are quite central to a lot of fab activities.

There is not right or wrong way to view verifications. Use them to make them work for you.

If someone doesn't like the way you use them, it's most probably because it excludes them not necessarily from you but from others that may use them in the same way.

They are important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are necessary but in many ways more trouble than they are worth, hence why keeping them private is in the main our preferred option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love them

I think you can tell a lot from them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The number of veris can give concern. For some who may be very selective seeing too many is naturally off putting, for those very busy, it's not important.

For those with just a couple, especially guys it means usually not being considered for fab socials or parties unless you go as a couple as most require well verified men.

For those who are very choosey,(ie careful with only seeking those who don't play with many partners as in the spirit of swinging), loosing veris to display is a high probabily as many of them tend to leave as they tend to be non swingers.

If one doesn't play with couples, the options for increasing veris are also more difficult.

As with anything on fab, you'll never please everyone.

You just need to find what you're comfortable with and if that isn't working as you hope, take a step back and rethink is it for you?

For those who say veris are not important, that's a minority view going by fab set up, forums, statuses and how people write them, display them, hide them, use them to decide to meet someone or not, they are quite central to a lot of fab activities.

There is not right or wrong way to view verifications. Use them to make them work for you.

If someone doesn't like the way you use them, it's most probably because it excludes them not necessarily from you but from others that may use them in the same way.

They are important"

Thank you for the extensive input Midas, really appreciate your thoughts

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles... "

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that "

Hahaha you are evil

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that

Hahaha you are evil "

He saw the funny side and published it... It's not like I was lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that

Hahaha you are evil

He saw the funny side and published it... It's not like I was lying "

I had kinda the same with Smokey , was a laugh leaving terrible bad veri on each other .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes there are some lovely worded verifications and you can tell those are written with thought and consideration. I am one who reads peoples verifications because sometimes whom they have been with can tell you much more than their messages to you . "

I always read the verif trail for the same reason above as who they have been with can tell a lot.

A verif says you are real but I would never base meeting someone on the recommendation of other womens verifs as what one person thinks is 'amazing' may not be that to another woman. Its all about the sexual chemistry in the end.

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that "

Who's the member? Haha

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"“Treat her with respect”..... “Don’t pass her by”.... sound familiar ? Lol

Next veri I leave someone will be 'treated him with respect, didn't pass him by, and the fecker still ghosted me'

Hahahaha haha YES! You beaut!

I'm so so so tempted to write thus on a few guys profiles...

Kept my word A returning member asked me to reverify today and I pretty much wrote that

Who's the member? Haha"

Was going to mail you a screenshot of the veri with the name blanked out but I can't lol. I won't mention his name as he might not appreciate that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pay little heed to veris to be honest. Judge people as how I find them. Lilred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes there are some lovely worded verifications and you can tell those are written with thought and consideration. I am one who reads peoples verifications because sometimes whom they have been with can tell you much more than their messages to you .

I always read the verif trail for the same reason above as who they have been with can tell a lot.

A verif says you are real but I would never base meeting someone on the recommendation of other womens verifs as what one person thinks is 'amazing' may not be that to another woman. Its all about the sexual chemistry in the end. "

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