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By *harlieparker OP   Couple
over a year ago

naas

Ladies I have a question I'm struggling with my partner has always been ok with me playing on my own occasionally and only recently asked if he could approach the same for him I'm gonna be honest it's not an idea I'm comfortable with ...double standards I know ..what are your opinions ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you feel its ok for you to be of meeting other people and he's ok with it to, then maybe he should be allowed do it aswell as long as he runs it by you so you know what's going on. If not then maybe you have to stop meeting others on your own because you don't want it becoming a problem when he can't do it but you can.

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By *harlieparker OP   Couple
over a year ago

naas

Exactly but i really don't want to not have that option so I'm going to have to find a way of bring ok with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your a lovely couple I’ve met you on a few occasions only people that’s opinions matter on this subject are your own. Go out on a date night and figure out what your next fab moves will be together. Don’t think anybody else should be part of that decision. But sure what do I know xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly but i really don't want to not have that option so I'm going to have to find a way of bring ok with it"

Forcing yourself into accepting something your not happy with seems like a receipe for disaster.

Ye have agreed that you play alone previously that doesnt mean its automatically assumed your partner would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya you guys will just have to talk it out and see can ye come to something that works for both of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing separately can bring up feelings of insecurity about yourself that you didn't realise you had

Im sure you relationship is strong and you will find away to come to an agreement on what works for you both

Good luck

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

A woman asked her husband if she could play alone with me, he text me threats and everything, but was fine being in the room watching me do all sorts with her.

We all have our limits.

Just be honest and say you're not comfortable with him meeting alone, and if you meeting alone is conditional on that happening then you will give it up, because end of the day you dont want him to be hard done by, you can still meet together, and both will make the same sacrafice for each other.

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By *ubcouple35Couple
over a year ago

North Dublin

Tbh we never understood why couples want to play separately but we understand everyone has there own kinks . But surely you must have expected him to want to have the same freedom at some point . I think being a couple on fab you should be upfront and honest about what you are both looking for and comfortable with doing before you even plan you first meet . Otherwise these kind of situations are bound to happen and it makes it harder for now to say no I'm not comfortable with you meeting alone but I still want to without him feeling that its double standards .

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"Your a lovely couple I’ve met you on a few occasions only people that’s opinions matter on this subject are your own. Go out on a date night and figure out what your next fab moves will be together. Don’t think anybody else should be part of that decision. But sure what do I know xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Car go out have time on your own and enjoy each other company and do one thing that alot of couples don't do and listen to each other


"Your a lovely couple I’ve met you on a few occasions only people that’s opinions matter on this subject are your own. Go out on a date night and figure out what your next fab moves will be together. Don’t think anybody else should be part of that decision. But sure what do I know xxx "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A woman asked her husband if she could play alone with me, he text me threats and everything, but was fine being in the room watching me do all sorts with her.

We all have our limits.

Just be honest and say you're not comfortable with him meeting alone, and if you meeting alone is conditional on that happening then you will give it up, because end of the day you dont want him to be hard done by, you can still meet together, and both will make the same sacrafice for each other."

Seems like a fair compromise..and couples on fab, just like in real life, need to compromise.

Otherwise the shit will hit the fan and it becomes fun for noone.

Even the people ye meet will sense the tension and not enjoy themselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few threads on this topic in the swinging advice section of the forum with some great advice given on them. I'd say look them up for a read too

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By *harlieparker OP   Couple
over a year ago

naas

People thank you so much for the advice especially Ms Car...honesty and trust have you worked so far so I'm gonna be honest with him and see where that takes us

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