FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Ireland

Sexless marriage

Jump to newest
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general

feeling?"

Cheating is cheating in my book

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?"

Once your wife knows and said it's ok to join, but if your cheating that another thing

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Its wrong but no one on here will care, married guys cheating do well, married women cheating do well.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

One life... Live it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everything is black and white. Many are here as a result of different reasons . So not one of us can judge

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny

Adventure is important in life. Making memories matters... To have a great life you need memories... Find and hold onto good friends ... Battle against your enemies...and live for the day!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ubcouple35Couple
over a year ago

North Dublin

Sounds like your blaming your wife for your sexless marriage and trying to justify cheating. It's never ok to cheat . By all means live your life how you see fit but don't try justifying cheating .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I gonna throw my point in here.. OK cheating is cheating.. Everyone has their own personal reasons to do what they choose in life. And it's a free forum here. But I see it over and over in different topics. Yes people are entitled to say what they want. But do they ever know the true background behind the op s initial message. I fully support the op here because I had been in a similar scenario.. If one's wife totally goes off affection and sex and your left feeling abandoned emotionally and sexually.. And you constantly keep trying to instigate fun and closeness. And you spend a day txn and suggesting fun later that night only to come home to coldness. And even still trying to be nice and positive and she hits off to bed without even a goodnight and your left on the couch punching the couch with frustration.. And this happens year on year out.. Well fuk that. Soo point is.. Yes I did cheat. But not intentional.. All I did was fix a woman's flat wheel on the side of the road and it progressed from there. But we hit it off from the start and now we are happy.. So basically for some there can be a happy life out there for some of us that ain't happy regardless of been branded cheaters..!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Cheers

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

its up to yourself some people dont care and its none of anyones bussiness whst you do .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin


"Well I gonna throw my point in here.. OK cheating is cheating.. Everyone has their own personal reasons to do what they choose in life. And it's a free forum here. But I see it over and over in different topics. Yes people are entitled to say what they want. But do they ever know the true background behind the op s initial message. I fully support the op here because I had been in a similar scenario.. If one's wife totally goes off affection and sex and your left feeling abandoned emotionally and sexually.. And you constantly keep trying to instigate fun and closeness. And you spend a day txn and suggesting fun later that night only to come home to coldness. And even still trying to be nice and positive and she hits off to bed without even a goodnight and your left on the couch punching the couch with frustration.. And this happens year on year out.. Well fuk that. Soo point is.. Yes I did cheat. But not intentional.. All I did was fix a woman's flat wheel on the side of the road and it progressed from there. But we hit it off from the start and now we are happy.. So basically for some there can be a happy life out there for some of us that ain't happy regardless of been branded cheaters..! "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Cheers mate

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *undubguy100Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Not everything is black and white. Many are here as a result of different reasons . So not one of us can judge "

Totally agree Inquisitive, we all have different values, and not fair for one to judge another on here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

If your wife is ok with it then no harm but if you are just cheating on your ill wife because you lack the self control of an adult then that's on you.

We see this sort of thread a lot, and I can only wonder how many men marry their partners just for sex? It's a big part of it but are you willing to destroy your already poorly wife (they nearly always find out) just to get your rocks off?

I'm not trying to be judgemental, but you came on here asking if it's wrong when it clearly is.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"If your wife is ok with it then no harm but if you are just cheating on your ill wife because you lack the self control of an adult then that's on you.

We see this sort of thread a lot, and I can only wonder how many men marry their partners just for sex? It's a big part of it but are you willing to destroy your already poorly wife (they nearly always find out) just to get your rocks off?

I'm not trying to be judgemental, but you came on here asking if it's wrong when it clearly is."

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who can judge? Certainly not me. We have one life to lead so we play the hand we're dealt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I’m not here to judge anyone. Everyone is here for different reasons. I just wish the attached guys would be honest with us and let us decide if we want to meet them or not.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

Agreed,

There are so many reasons not to get involved with cheating men and women. Be honest and let us decide to take the risk or not.

- Partner finds fab account you get angry messages through Fab.

- Partner finds texts an you get angry phone calls.

- Partner follows cheater to your house.

- Partner finds your pics on phone and uploads to facebook.

- Cheater SHOWS texts, pics and fab account to partner in a huge break up row.

Sound far fetched? In the years we have been here we have heard of ALL of the above happening to fab friends.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rezMan
over a year ago

Ennis


"Not everything is black and white. Many are here as a result of different reasons . So not one of us can judge "

Well i guess honesty is the key...especailly here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *MabzeroMan
over a year ago

Mid-Ulster

Some strident judgement from people who've never been in a committed relationship nor in one where the sex dies out.

Some people can't just divorce and move out - kids, other obligations, even just liking their partner.

I much prefer honesty, but I can well understand the unsatisfied urge for sex, and how depressing that must be.

I don't know where this possessive jealous attitude came from, and, yes, I'd probably not react well to an unfaithful partner, but I've generally been able to stay friends with partners who've gone of me.

Good luck, try to to hurt anyone's feelings.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

Not here to judge anyone.

I could say alot of things,having been the wife that got cheated on.

I am here on a swinger site,I am single and meet with people for sex.

I choose not to meet married/attached men,as it's my golden rule.No matter the reasons they give me,why they are on this site.

Be honest about your status.

After all,honesty is the best policy,in all walks of life.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I think it's your business what you do. We all have choices to live how we want. Your behaviour will result in rewards or consequences. It's up to you alone to put a value on what you want in life. Is there something else going on with you by any chance ? Feel free to pm x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I am here to judge people. I want to get to know them and judge them as awesome and have great passionate sex with them.

This is stuff you should have sorted out before you got married "Sex is very important to me, if something happens and it breaks down then I will look for it elsewhere, sorry but if you dont like that then we cant marry". Why was that not said before you married? I mean if sex is so important to you?

I know a guy, his marriage broke down, told she wanted a divorce. He asked what would happen with the 3 kids, she told him not to worry about it, they were not his anyway. Found out that his kids were fathered by a friend, that she had fucked many other men.. He had a mental break down, he lost his job, he had to check himself into a hospital, and attempted suicide more than once. She didnt miss a beat, was living with a new guy as soon as he left the house.

I'm only saying this because a lot of people say "everyone judging doesnt know what its like to be married and be cut off", I may not know, but I know what cheating on someone can do to them. Some people may never recover from being cheated on.

Lots of people on here wont care if one day your wife finds out and falls to her knees crying as her life falls apart. Loads of them wont care at all. But the ones that do care should be allowed avoid you, thats all the people who are not into it want, to be told so they can just try find a better match for them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To say that people are judging is a misinterpretation. This is a public forum where people post knowing others will comment with their opinion and that’s all it is... an opinion.

In my experience my advice to the OP is simply this... if your marriage has broken down to the point that you are actively seeking someone else rather than your wife for sex then do a Dolly Parton....... D.I.V.O.R.C.E.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?"

Just be honest to whomever you are going to meet. It will matter to some and not others. Dont let strangers sit in judgement on you. Marriage is not just defined by sex but by shared history, family and even finances. No one but you know your circumstances. Happy Fabbing x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To say that people are judging is a misinterpretation. This is a public forum where people post knowing others will comment with their opinion and that’s all it is... an opinion.

In my experience my advice to the OP is simply this... if your marriage has broken down to the point that you are actively seeking someone else rather than your wife for sex then do a Dolly Parton....... D.I.V.O.R.C.E..... "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?

Just be honest to whomever you are going to meet. It will matter to some and not others. Dont let strangers sit in judgement on you. Marriage is not just defined by sex but by shared history, family and even finances. No one but you know your circumstances. Happy Fabbing x"

This is so true . Every marriage is different and defined differently .Mine is based on love but even so as I said before its not all black and white. But definitely be honest here and say you are married or attached its only fair to those you do decide to meet.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *appytoadsCouple
over a year ago

West Dublin

Well said

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ashy85Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general feeling?"

Does your wife know you are in here?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ashy85Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"Sounds like your blaming your wife for your sexless marriage and trying to justify cheating. It's never ok to cheat . By all means live your life how you see fit but don't try justifying cheating . "

Thats abit harsh. Sounds like you don't know the man's situation but still see fit to judge

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Sounds like your blaming your wife for your sexless marriage and trying to justify cheating. It's never ok to cheat . By all means live your life how you see fit but don't try justifying cheating .

Thats abit harsh. Sounds like you don't know the man's situation but still see fit to judge "

Not harsh at all - OP categorically stated the reasons were all due to his partner - and he’s the one inviting comment.

She’s the poor sap getting cheated on don’t forget that

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone on fab has their own reason for being on here. I think if everyone is honest about their marital circumstances, then it is up to each person to decide if they want to meet them or not.

I met a Dublin guy who always said he wasnt married yet when I got the opportunity to eventually meet him in Drogheda, we spent the first 3 to 4 hours sitting in pubs and even a car park for a time to avoid his WIFE who was shopping in Drogheda that day. The meet wasn't the best as I couldn't relax and even worse as he kept disappearing with lame excuses to, as I later found out, to go on Fab to chat to his previous meet. Definately my worst meet ever!

But all that aside, I am married but honest about it. And I like to know if a person is married or not before I decide to meet.

It is so very easy to judge a book by its cover....or a person by their marital status, but until you know their story....who can judge?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone on fab has their own reason for being on here. I think if everyone is honest about their marital circumstances, then it is up to each person to decide if they want to meet them or not.

I met a Dublin guy who always said he wasnt married yet when I got the opportunity to eventually meet him in Drogheda, we spent the first 3 to 4 hours sitting in pubs and even a car park for a time to avoid his WIFE who was shopping in Drogheda that day. The meet wasn't the best as I couldn't relax and even worse as he kept disappearing with lame excuses to, as I later found out, to go on Fab to chat to his previous meet. Definately my worst meet ever!

But all that aside, I am married but honest about it. And I like to know if a person is married or not before I decide to meet.

It is so very easy to judge a book by its cover....or a person by their marital status, but until you know their story....who can judge?

OMG that sounds awful ;(

"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"Everyone on fab has their own reason for being on here. I think if everyone is honest about their marital circumstances, then it is up to each person to decide if they want to meet them or not.

I met a Dublin guy who always said he wasnt married yet when I got the opportunity to eventually meet him in Drogheda, we spent the first 3 to 4 hours sitting in pubs and even a car park for a time to avoid his WIFE who was shopping in Drogheda that day. The meet wasn't the best as I couldn't relax and even worse as he kept disappearing with lame excuses to, as I later found out, to go on Fab to chat to his previous meet. Definately my worst meet ever!

But all that aside, I am married but honest about it. And I like to know if a person is married or not before I decide to meet.

It is so very easy to judge a book by its cover....or a person by their marital status, but until you know their story....who can judge?

"

That was a bad meet

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m not here to judge anyone. Everyone is here for different reasons. I just wish the attached guys would be honest with us and let us decide if we want to meet them or not. "
well said, even for us bi guys it's nice to know if a potential sexual partner is attached or not, sometimes married men and women for that matter tend to think bisexual people can be used because we are thought of as being neither here nor there. By the way probably not the place to say this but you look beautiful.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner?

Her past stories?

Her traumas?

Her fears?

Her dreams?

Her plans for family?

Her fantasies?

Her favorite type of holidays?

If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it).

Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women?

Did she ever play by herself with herself?

Does she have any concerns about life or anything?

Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband?

Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration?

Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)...

But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City


"I’m not here to judge anyone. Everyone is here for different reasons. I just wish the attached guys would be honest with us and let us decide if we want to meet them or not. well said, even for us bi guys it's nice to know if a potential sexual partner is attached or not, sometimes married men and women for that matter tend to think bisexual people can be used because we are thought of as being neither here nor there. By the way probably not the place to say this but you look beautiful."

Thank you.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

My marriage is a loving one its just the intimacy is gone for a few reasons physical and psychological its not anyones fault just happened

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

I m very up front with anyone i chat to on here about my status its only fair some people dont mind some do which is fair enough.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive "

Yeah you sound very supportive blaming it all on her.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive

Yeah you sound very supportive blaming it all on her. "

It might just be true

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oreignaffairKKMan
over a year ago

Between CW and KK


"Im in a sexless marriage for the past couple of years for various reasons on my partners side. Ive been very supportive and done all the right things but its just not happening. I have quiet a high sex drive so i have needs too is it wrong that im here looking for a bit of nsa fun or is sex just sex . Whats the general

feeling?

Cheating is cheating in my book"

And tax evasion is tax evasion out of books

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"Lol"

I would laugh when it comes to tax evasion ...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

Reasons on her side ? I'm saying this without getting at the OP but Maybe she's not into you anymore or is having an affair and no longer wants to have sex with you due to not wanting to cheat on her lover?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Not the case mate. Not going into details here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner?

Her past stories?

Her traumas?

Her fears?

Her dreams?

Her plans for family?

Her fantasies?

Her favorite type of holidays?

If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it).

Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women?

Did she ever play by herself with herself?

Does she have any concerns about life or anything?

Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband?

Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration?

Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)...

But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...

"

Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oreignaffairKKMan
over a year ago

Between CW and KK


"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner?

Her past stories?

Her traumas?

Her fears?

Her dreams?

Her plans for family?

Her fantasies?

Her favorite type of holidays?

If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it).

Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women?

Did she ever play by herself with herself?

Does she have any concerns about life or anything?

Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband?

Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration?

Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)...

But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...

Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs! "

Actually this works. I always start a date with these questions before ask her what to drink.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *amelman7823Man
over a year ago

Ashbourne


"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner?

Her past stories?

Her traumas?

Her fears?

Her dreams?

Her plans for family?

Her fantasies?

Her favorite type of holidays?

If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it).

Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women?

Did she ever play by herself with herself?

Does she have any concerns about life or anything?

Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband?

Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration?

Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)...

But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...

Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs! "

Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though"

Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals.

Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though

Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals.

Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious."

Looks like the devil knows

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

[Removed by poster at 14/05/19 01:02:24]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though

Why would cleaning the house and ironing get her in the mood. Maybe take her for a walk, give her a push on the roundabout, go to the beach, walk up a mountain with her, work on her goals.

Also flush the toilet cause nearly all women hate when you leave floaters in the toilet, but that much should be obvious."

Women only either put out or don't, letting men stew in their own blue ball juices and forcing them to look for affairs on the likes of fab.

Also since when women are allowed to have goals of their own? You on drugs? Can I have some?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"Also since when women are allowed to have goals of their own? You on drugs? Can I have some?"

I like to encourage my woman to have goals. Nothing crazy, small stuff like learn mandrin together or maybe learn to cook better.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eliciouslyWoman
over a year ago

Mallow

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Communication is the key, but did did you try to learn much more about your partner?

Her past stories?

Her traumas?

Her fears?

Her dreams?

Her plans for family?

Her fantasies?

Her favorite type of holidays?

If she would ever bring another person with you in the same bed(but ask her with all your love and ask her to be honest and not shy about it please, this conversation should be done two or three times a year, because it may happen after two years of occasional very short conversations about it).

Did you ask if she is interested in men, couple or women?

Did she ever play by herself with herself?

Does she have any concerns about life or anything?

Did you ask her what would make you a perfect husband?

Did you know that sex is 90% anything else and 10% penetration?

Maybe there is sex pressure or extreme sexual expectations at some of your side, from you or her... Forget about sex and worship her with the "5 Language of Love" (it's a book), learn as much as you can about your partner, as you are only 2 years married(were most problems start due to immaturity, even if you are not aware of)...

But cheating, man, that is just a no no no...

Jaysos, what a pile of patronising bs!

Have to agree, what a load of nonsense, if your wife can't see whats going on, or cares not to see. I know from experience its a load of crap, do this do that.....if she aint into it, doing the ironing , having the house spotless, aint gonna get her in the mood.....let it go, dont feel bad about your fling, dont rub it in her face though"

Maybe a pile of crap for you, because you think that men can guess what you are thinking and feeling, so if you think that is it okay to not to open your heart by just giving a fake smile pretending that everything is fine and not having a super basic and common sense communication, then you really need to work out yourself or never be married until this silly behavior is fixed. (I am being as democratic as you)

All successful marriages is made by pure constructive structured communication, understanding, and no expectations at all. Sounds like that the mandatory communion and marriage course didn't work at all...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op with all the respect in the world I wouldnt ask here for advice, everyone Opinion is different in regards to that issue !

people always have big opinions especially in a situation that is not their own! live your life as you see please and be happy as you see please!

I understand that it might seem selfish but we come alone in this world and we go alone! every situation is different you do what you consider the best move is , even if it turns out to be a mistake ... then you will hopefully learn a lesson from a mistake...

best of luck

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op with all the respect in the world I wouldnt ask here for advice, everyone Opinion is different in regards to that issue !

people always have big opinions especially in a situation that is not their own! live your life as you see please and be happy as you see please!

I understand that it might seem selfish but we come alone in this world and we go alone! every situation is different you do what you consider the best move is , even if it turns out to be a mistake ... then you will hopefully learn a lesson from a mistake...

best of luck "

Came alone gone alone, but made of two individuals who feel in love and at the most cases go through life overcoming all difficulties as a team if there were many Get through it together and never regret

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op with all the respect in the world I wouldnt ask here for advice, everyone Opinion is different in regards to that issue !

people always have big opinions especially in a situation that is not their own! live your life as you see please and be happy as you see please!

I understand that it might seem selfish but we come alone in this world and we go alone! every situation is different you do what you consider the best move is , even if it turns out to be a mistake ... then you will hopefully learn a lesson from a mistake...

best of luck "

Correction:

"Came alone gone alone"(that is selfish), but needed/made of two individuals who fell in love and in the most cases gone through life overcoming all difficulties as a team if there were many/any. Get through it together and never regret :D

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exman1975 OP   Man
over a year ago

country

Cheers x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folks live and let live,

To have moral police on fab is hilarious

Everyone has a story

Just use the block button and have a great time on fab

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top