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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on? "

I think it depends on the level of shit you’ve got going on, the worse it is the harder it is to discharge all your other responsibilities. I think the more you can compartmentalise the shit you have to deal with the easier it is to manage it and your other roles but it is possible. Just my humble opinion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can.

Learning to keep personal stuff that has no bearing on another relationship is a learned skill.

Some people are at better at it than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you just learn to prioritize and remember your own sanity comes first sometimes. If your not well in yourself your not really helping those around you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your level of shit, sometimes u need to take a step back, and mind yourself. Sometimes putting yourself first is the important thing u can do. Other times yes its totally possible!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on your level of shit, sometimes u need to take a step back, and mind yourself. Sometimes putting yourself first is the important thing u can do. Other times yes its totally possible!! "

Depends on too many factors to give an honest and objective opinion I’m afraid

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on? "

Absolutely... Someone else's experiences gives you perspective and keeps you grounded

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on?

I think it depends on the level of shit you’ve got going on, the worse it is the harder it is to discharge all your other responsibilities. I think the more you can compartmentalise the shit you have to deal with the easier it is to manage it and your other roles but it is possible. Just my humble opinion x"

Shared humble opinion

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore

It's difficult to be a good parent/friend/ partner etc when you have your own shit going on. That's why it's imperative to sort that shit out first so you can then be a better parent/partner/ etc Make yourself your priority for a while, everyone else in your life will benefit from it if you do.

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By *unLovingCriminalMan
over a year ago

Somewhere

Yes you can.

Depending on what part of your life the shit is affecting be it one part or all.

Some parts like friendships and family can make getting through it easier but if it's them it's involving it can feel even worse and harder than it needs to be.I agree with poster above be selfish for a while and look out for you,it'll teach you not to be so hard on yourself which you must be if your asking that question.

Once you get to a stage where piece by piece it starts to improve then eventually the parts will fall into place one by one like a jigsaw and if they don't then them pieces belong to a puzzle that isn't yours to solve.

Dont try to juggle to much because you could drop everything.

Cry when you want to cry,laugh when you want to laugh and just feel...after a while you'll appreciate the good more because you didn't ignore the bad...best wishes

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Everyone has shit going on, if you couldnt be a good person during shit going on, there would be no good people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely if you got kids never let them down , or atleast do your very best a man is not a man if he doesn’t try his best with his kids , but even when a man does his best to provide for his kids and wife , if the wife fucks up the man will suffer losing his kids and family, if the man fucks up he will still lose everything, seen a very good husband lose everything over his wife fuckin up she turned all his kids again him , sorry but hit a nerve with me that man is in bits today, all over her doin the dirt on him when he was at home minding the kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for the rant , yes I have my own shit that I try to deal with not easy as I try deal with it myself, i also am there for a buddy of mine that is A broken man for no reason, his whole world is gone, all I can do is be there for him , my troubles in my head don’t matter compare to his , lads aways remember as bad as it gets , there is aways someone worse , if ye can help them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on? "

some great advice in here, especially dont go thru things alone, find someone to talk to...amazing how good talking thru stuff with someone can help...if you can afford it find a counsellor...friends can be great to talk to but sometime you really need a stranger to talk too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to prioritise, would you really give all those people equal importance? You cannot be everything to everyone,and the most important thing is your own mental health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on? "

Sometimes we think that looking after ourselves is selfish which it isn't. We are no use to anyone if we have too much on ourselves no matter how good we are.

You might need the time to help yourself which in turn will end up helping the others. In the long run you'll be no use to anyone if you're burnt out or not in good form because of your own shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Be a good parent/partner/friend/colleague when you've your own shit going on? "

Definitely, just need to prioritize who gets the most from you. Also be open about not being in a great place at the moment so that extra isn't being asked of you.

~Elle

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By *iver80Man
over a year ago

south side ,

Of course ,its not easy ,I'm separated 8 years now with two amazing kids and its not easy

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