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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok not that I struggle but not that I'm good at it either we all hear couples and girls on their high horse saying before you ask I'm fine it's going good we are good etc so. That being said all well in good in what they dont want to be asked/messaged. And obviously interests aside people ignoring your likes etc. How do you recommend people initiate contact in the first basis. To be honest I feel the above is only smoking mirrors unless theres an attraction. But I've been wrong before. So ladies and couples lay it out how should others go about contact ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice tits

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol if only that was the game changing phrase lol

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

fancy a fuck.....the women seem to really appreciate it...oh and throw in a cock pic also,you can thank me later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As you said your not struggling so why not stick with what works for you.

Dont change your approch for others be yourself

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

if they have "Dont send "How are you" use your imagination", I click off their profile, cause honestly they wont reply to the imaginative message I send them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol must try that in all honestly though people good at pointing out the negative but no constructive general criticism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A well written message will always catch my attention. Check spelling and grammar before pressing send.

Smoking mirrors are an interesting metaphor btw!

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Ok...read their profile and see what they want.You must remember cpls and women get alot of mail so dont take it personally if they decide not to reply. if they arent seeking a man then why bother mailing them.I think original mails can be fine but just be yourself,a simple introduction with abit of your personailty showing in the message is important.Its no different than if you were on a night out,how would you approach someone...youd be nice and respectful.If they are interested they will reply and if they arent then don't worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get what everyone is saying but most are missing the point I'm just asking generally what is a good intro message

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

'Hi, how are you' is the kind of superficial nod and greeting you give someone in passing. It's not really a conversation starter, as is demonstrated when someone responds 'fine and you?' and you say 'grand thanks'... That's usually end of conversation, because you've addressed the questions asked.

It's a lot easier if you're using the forums, because you can continue the discussion of a topic via mail and use that as an opener and an opportunity to get to know someone better.

But for someone who is maybe shy of the forums, I'd say use a conversational topic right in your opening sentence.. Something neutral that will appeal on a personal level without the risk of offending... Maybe mention if you've visited their town area at some time in the past and ask if a pub, restaurant or particular landmark you remember is still there, people feel far more comfortable replying to something like that and it's much easier for a conversation to evolve from there than if you just ask if they've had any fun lately

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Best answer yet

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

usually people will also look at your profile before deciding to reply...your profiles current status update is "Free in the morning any one wanting their ass eaten"....not sure if that will entice someone to be honest.Its just another thing to be aware of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol I get what your saying mate your missing the point

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Waste of time in my opinion. Been online for years and if you get one reply from saying "hi how are you" in a week, you will get one reply every two weeks from writing everyone a unique witty message. It just takes so much time, and most wont even read it anyway, and you will have the same success rate lets say 1 in 100, it will just take you longer to message the 100.

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By *ohng69Man
over a year ago

athenry


"Lol I get what your saying mate your missing the point "

This sounds a bit like another posting from last week

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

I've found pestering them over and over with generic messages and cock pics works, or gets me blocked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What I'm asking in short is they can tell us what a bad intro message is what I'm looking for is the same people to offer input on how this should be approached

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By *ohng69Man
over a year ago

athenry


"What I'm asking in short is they can tell us what a bad intro message is what I'm looking for is the same people to offer input on how this should be approached "

So you want them to write the message for you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No I dont I'm asking for those who are quick to denounce hi how are you messages to make a suggestion on an alternative as opposed to critique make it constructive critique. Obviously each person is different. But if you read the original post ironically most men on this thread didn't which I pointed out to a female poster. You will see that's not what I'm asking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by your own veris OP you don’t need any advice as it seems you’re doing just fine as you are.

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By *elenandhim84Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Sure does look like you dont need any help OP

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