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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside

Just wondering what all of you think. Is it up to the guys to make first contact on here or is this place more liberal in that it can be a women or guys or couples who break the ice so to say .....

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

It tends to be men who do the mailing, but there are plenty of proactive women and couples on here who aren't afraid to go for what they want when they see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It tends to be men who do the mailing, but there are plenty of proactive women and couples on here who aren't afraid to go for what they want when they see it "

This

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Just wondering what all of you think. Is it up to the guys to make first contact on here or is this place more liberal in that it can be a women or guys or couples who break the ice so to say ..... "

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Unless you're hung like a vwe pornstar with veris to boot or a Jamie Dornan doppelgänger, you'll be waiting a long time before a woman sends you a meassage out of the blue...

You gotta break the ice here Op

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By *rDarcy37Man
over a year ago

lucan

Given the ratio of men to women and the men mostly think with their member, it will usually be men that make the first contact and in some cases the 2nd 3rd and 4th unsolicited contact. No means no after all... I think the key is to be respectful and witty. If you don't get a response then just take it on the chin and move on. Well I'm my opinion anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn’t make the first contact I would wait for weeks for messages ( except the lovely women on the forum who contacted me in the last few days - u know who u are x)

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I have no preconceptions of how it should be. I think a lot of women fear that men will think they're guaranteed the ride if the lady messages first and that's probably a case with some of the idiots around here. Some of us and converse without presuming we're getting the ride automatically.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I've got a few first messages from ladies but with most of them I never got the impression they wanted to meet. More like a comment on a forum post I made or some random question.

Had a few conversations that kept going for a while but they ended up going nowhere as I'm not too keen on traveling long distances and local women don't seem to want to talk to me

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside

I would have thought that in modern day Ireland and this being a swing site with open minded people it wouldn't come down to old fashioned values of waiting for the guys to make the first move ..... am I being nieve here or what

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I would have thought that in modern day Ireland and this being a swing site with open minded people it wouldn't come down to old fashioned values of waiting for the guys to make the first move ..... am I being nieve here or what "

I don't think it's a matter of waiting for guys to make the first move... There's no waiting... Guys just do it. But they may not be the guys you want. I think over time women get wise to this. They start using their filters better to cut out contact from the ones they're most definitely not interested in, and use a combination of picking through the mail they still get, and actively searching for people who match their preferences to find exactly what they want. This is where having a great profile helps. It's one thing to mail people and hope your message and profile are interesting enough to get a reply... Its quite another to have a profile good enough to inspire someone to make first contact

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"I would have thought that in modern day Ireland and this being a swing site with open minded people it wouldn't come down to old fashioned values of waiting for the guys to make the first move ..... am I being nieve here or what

I don't think it's a matter of waiting for guys to make the first move... There's no waiting... Guys just do it. But they may not be the guys you want. I think over time women get wise to this. They start using their filters better to cut out contact from the ones they're most definitely not interested in, and use a combination of picking through the mail they still get, and actively searching for people who match their preferences to find exactly what they want. This is where having a great profile helps. It's one thing to mail people and hope your message and profile are interesting enough to get a reply... Its quite another to have a profile good enough to inspire someone to make first contact "

Wise words indeed from an experienced fabber ... duly noted and thanks

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I would have thought that in modern day Ireland and this being a swing site with open minded people it wouldn't come down to old fashioned values of waiting for the guys to make the first move ..... am I being nieve here or what

I don't think it's a matter of waiting for guys to make the first move... There's no waiting... Guys just do it. But they may not be the guys you want. I think over time women get wise to this. They start using their filters better to cut out contact from the ones they're most definitely not interested in, and use a combination of picking through the mail they still get, and actively searching for people who match their preferences to find exactly what they want. This is where having a great profile helps. It's one thing to mail people and hope your message and profile are interesting enough to get a reply... Its quite another to have a profile good enough to inspire someone to make first contact

Wise words indeed from an experienced fabber ... duly noted and thanks "

Meh... I occasionally talk sense... When I'm not being a twat

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"I would have thought that in modern day Ireland and this being a swing site with open minded people it wouldn't come down to old fashioned values of waiting for the guys to make the first move ..... am I being nieve here or what

I don't think it's a matter of waiting for guys to make the first move... There's no waiting... Guys just do it. But they may not be the guys you want. I think over time women get wise to this. They start using their filters better to cut out contact from the ones they're most definitely not interested in, and use a combination of picking through the mail they still get, and actively searching for people who match their preferences to find exactly what they want. This is where having a great profile helps. It's one thing to mail people and hope your message and profile are interesting enough to get a reply... Its quite another to have a profile good enough to inspire someone to make first contact

Wise words indeed from an experienced fabber ... duly noted and thanks

Meh... I occasionally talk sense... When I'm not being a twat "

I always appreciate it when a woman takes the time to reply either in the forum or in a message

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

If I see something I like I have no problem making first contact. I think you can’t really complain about only getting mails from those you don’t find desirable if your not willing to make the effort.

I’ve never really been the traditional type

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space "

Ya but I deleted it

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it "

Fooker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker "

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right "

Ah i love when they play hard to get makes it more fun

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right

Ah i love when they play hard to get makes it more fun "

Are there those that do play hard to get or are they just stringing people along

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right

Ah i love when they play hard to get makes it more fun

Are there those that do play hard to get or are they just stringing people along "

Ah fastlad knows ive wanted his Ass for over a yr now he's just making me work hard for it

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right

Ah i love when they play hard to get makes it more fun

Are there those that do play hard to get or are they just stringing people along

Ah fastlad knows ive wanted his Ass for over a yr now he's just making me work hard for it "

Lucky him

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

If you send a message first dont be asshurt if it gets deleted. Thats pretty much all you need to know.

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"If you send a message first dont be asshurt if it gets deleted. Thats pretty much all you need to know."

Thanks Devil, it's not my first rodeo ... just sussing out the lie of the land here tbh

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By *ogladyWoman
over a year ago

The bog

I've contacted a few first..

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city


"If you send a message first dont be asshurt if it gets deleted. Thats pretty much all you need to know.

Thanks Devil, it's not my first rodeo ... just sussing out the lie of the land here tbh "

Oh sorry that was not directed at you personally, just a general statement. Regulars often wonder the best way to approach people too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty women and couples are hapoy to send first messages, but if you see something you like why hang around waiting?

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By *mazballs69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Countryside


"If you send a message first dont be asshurt if it gets deleted. Thats pretty much all you need to know.

Thanks Devil, it's not my first rodeo ... just sussing out the lie of the land here tbh

Oh sorry that was not directed at you personally, just a general statement. Regulars often wonder the best way to approach people too."

No worries

And you are right it can be a minefield for those that are new to the scene and for the regulars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space

Ya but I deleted it

Fooker

Good job I deleted it with language like that .......the mammy was right

Ah i love when they play hard to get makes it more fun

Are there those that do play hard to get or are they just stringing people along

Ah fastlad knows ive wanted his Ass for over a yr now he's just making me work hard for it

Lucky him "

She just needs to speed up to catch it

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By *cottybear74Man
over a year ago

kilkenny


"If i see a profile i like and it interests me ill send a wink or a message what's the worse that could happen some have lead to great chats and meets sent one this morning watch this space "

Where's my wink lol

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