FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd report the fecker to the cops ! That's not on .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report to the police ASAP!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report to the police ASAP!!!"

Yep - police.

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

"I'd report the fecker to the cops ! That's not on . "

Seconding. There's no excuse for that and he's going to get a lot more trouble for the black mail attempt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above report to the Guards. Or at least tell them that of they semd one more threat or share any of the videos that you will. Keep all messages. Its a power play once they see that their consequences are greater than yours they will back down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A. Tell him I'm reporting him to the police

B.Report him

C.Resolve to never again be so foolish as to have my face in pics or videos where I am nude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally illegal, I'd let him know how serious I took it and warn him there would be serious repercussions if he didn't delete them. Warn him if reported all his devices will be seized, should scare him off.

What a creep. !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Video was yrs ago and why keep having to leave here. He’s had multiple profiles over the years and have all the emails kept he thinks it’s funny and honestly don’t think I’m the only women here he’s done it with over the years.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I'd call his bluff and tell him to go for it but also that you will be going to the Guards to report him.

This shows the prick that he's not controlling you and will make him think twice when he realizes there will be serious consequences to his actions.

I'm not up on the law in this scenario but I'd hope it's a criminal offense to do what he's doing.

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth

"Video was yrs ago and why keep having to leave here. He’s had multiple profiles over the years and have all the emails kept he thinks it’s funny and honestly don’t think I’m the only women here he’s done it with over the years. "
as everyone has said report to police show all the emails etc to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask to speak to a lady cop if you'd be more comfy . I'm sure there's a law against revenge porn , .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report to the guards. If ongoing constitutes harassment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc "

Tell his wife??

Thankfully there are laws against revenge porn now, in the UK anyhow.

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Make an official complaint to the gaurds. They don't have to act on it until you give them the go ahead but you can inform him that any copies shared can and will be traced to his IP address. He might might it funny to think he might hold some power over you but a copy of an official harassment complaint pending might snap him back into the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc "

Tell him you've reported this to the proper authorities and that his IP address can be easily traced by those in authority and they will come knock on his door.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

Good for you !! A visit from the Cops should soften his cough for him .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report him go to a female Garda and explain your case to her , get him sorted once and for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d volunteer to go and conduct an “interview without coffee” with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple answer police. If you have texts etc. The police have seen it all before. Just ask to see a female.

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

"I’d volunteer to go and conduct an “interview without coffee” with him"

It would be interesting to sit back and watch him try and pick up his teeth with broken fingers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happen to Kaizer

Footage turned up on Sky Atlantic of all places

They called it Ray Donovan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’d volunteer to go and conduct an “interview without coffee” with him

It would be interesting to sit back and watch him try and pick up his teeth with broken fingers!

And hilarious !!

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By *arlo123Man
over a year ago

Clontarf

Police straight away !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How protect are we with he law...

I've been (white)mailed over a video I was in unknowingly the couple threaten to post it if I didn't pay them money

I've try to find it on sites but can't see anything... Had to change my number as that's all they had but worried one day it will come back to haunt me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send a few heavies around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep all these threatening messages and try and get more. Save and go to the cops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of these approaches are merely a ploy to get you to stay in contact/meet again/send more wank-fodder.

Call their bluff, you've done nothing illegal in enjoying a sex-life.

Report the profile to Admin, lodge a complaint with the Gardai and let him stew in the knowledge that he can/will be lifted for a proper interrogation if he tries pursuing his [groundless] threats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most of these approaches are merely a ploy to get you to stay in contact/meet again/send more wank-fodder.

Call their bluff, you've done nothing illegal in enjoying a sex-life.

Report the profile to Admin, lodge a complaint with the Gardai and let him stew in the knowledge that he can/will be lifted for a proper interrogation if he tries pursuing his [groundless] threats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest seek legal advice, citizen information can provide names of solicitors this would be (free)

secondly woman's Aid can offer confidential support, there is also organisations that can offer free counseling as I am sure the events have been.

But of course the best one to decide what to do, will be you.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc "
report him to gardai ! revenge porn or any sort of blackailed is punished by law

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Revenge porn and black mail are punishable by law

REPORT HIS SCUMBAG ASS TO THE GARDS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My suggestion would be to reach out to "Women's Aid" for advice you will find them on Facebook.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"I'd report the fecker to the cops ! That's not on . "

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Best know your rights regarding sexual harassment, legislation & any pics, vids he may have sent you...

Also, tell him to "man the fuck up" & carry himself with a bit of class

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I'd go to guards I'm sure revenge porn is a crime in the UK not sure here, but still its black mailing and that itself is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

advice from a solicitor & a call to women's aid.

revenge porn is illegal in UK but legislation still awaited in Ireland.

if the videos were made without your consent then a solicitor can bring a civil case.

although a visit by some leg breakers & removal of the videos may be the most satisfactory option.

if he is still on Fab I'm sure most people would be happy if you found a way to name & shame under their current & previous profile names.

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By *orinaTSTV/TS
over a year ago

Dublin

Asking for more under threat is illegal. I cannot use the word here it won't let me. We have no laws on Revenge porn . Report asap to Garda insisting they trace the IP address and prosecute anonymously. Stressful I know but unless you do this, this will be held over you for maybes along time

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By *ubeMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

"Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

There is no thinking about it report him right away. No one has the right to do that to anybody. He must be a right fucking prick.

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By *odjer MoreMan
over a year ago

D16

That's an absolute disgrace , people that manipulating and deceitful are a plague !!! Report to the police and look for the maximum punishment for him that they can give . If they say they aren't able to help , then get somebody to pay him a little visit and make him delete everything in their presence . Hopefully you get out of this situation unscathed

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By *mazballs69Man
over a year ago

Countryside

"Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

Report him. You have done nothing wrong and he is on a power trip. It's guys like this that make it difficult for ordinary guys to get to meet women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

Report him. You have done nothing wrong and he is on a power trip. It's guys like this that make it difficult for ordinary guys to get to meet women on here "

There is a few of these guys about unfortunately I had nothing as bad as miss Carr but I did have a guy say he would show all my family my profile and pics if I didn’t meet him I just blocked him and nothing came of it thank god. I really feel for you miss carr and if you ever need to chat I’m here for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you know where to find him give me a heads up , i will gladly bring a team of my trusted negotiators with persuasive skills and over a nice friendly chat convince him this was a stupid move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah lads less of the A-team shite.

Use the laws and organisation in ace to deal with this and not some lads on an internet forum suggesting "friendly visits" like some pumoed uo 14 year olds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah lads less of the A-team shite.

Use the laws and organisation in ace to deal with this and not some lads on an internet forum suggesting "friendly visits" like some pumoed uo 14 year olds"

You read me wrong i never mentioned A-team shit , i really meant a nice civilized chat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Think I’ll have to report it. Thanks for the advice

Report him. You have done nothing wrong and he is on a power trip. It's guys like this that make it difficult for ordinary guys to get to meet women on here

Feeling same person from the location thanks xx and mailed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah lads less of the A-team shite.

Use the laws and organisation in ace to deal with this and not some lads on an internet forum suggesting "friendly visits" like some pumoed uo 14 year olds

You read me wrong i never mentioned A-team shit , i really meant a nice civilized chat "

Im sure you did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forget the guards, a good hiding will soften his cough and the only punishment he’ll understand.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Go to guards, get it on record now.

The attitude towards this in the "west" has drastically changed over the past years. The threat is more than likely enough for the cops to go around and seize all the equipment etc. The cops will also be ready to have the video taken down from the sites once youre on record with them.

Also try not stress, easier said than done, but if they follow through on the black mail you can nail them to the wall by the nuts.

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By *aid backMan
over a year ago

by a lake with my rod out

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc "

Probably kneecap him or something similar not kill him but leave him struggling so every time he feels the pain he remembers that he shouldn't have tried to black mail you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May not be a popular option but I would try and fight fire with fire. Not bmail but there are v v easy ways to make someone less confident about their annonimity (did I spell that correctly

). These people tend to be cowards and just like a playground bully they will shrivel up a fair bit when the table is even slightly turned on them. Awful situation to be in and I hope you get it resolved.

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc "

Get him sorted

in a bad way

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

We are sadly behind the UK with our lack of revenge porn legislation, but coercion of any sort is illegal. As others have said, report him. A warning from the Gardaí may be enough to make him think twice, or realise just how creepy he is being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are sadly behind the UK with our lack of revenge porn legislation, but coercion of any sort is illegal. As others have said, report him. A warning from the Gardaí may be enough to make him think twice, or realise just how creepy he is being."

Unfortunately i don't think it will be that easy , unless she knows who he really is etc.... or else the complain will end up in a drawer cause if she only has his online ID , the amount of resources to trace this piece of shit will take a lot .

Now if the videos were sent through viber , whatsapp or something like that makes things easier

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

"Unfortunately i don't think it will be that easy , unless she knows who he really is etc.... or else the complain will end up in a drawer cause if she only has his online ID , the amount of resources to trace this piece of shit will take a lot .

Now if the videos were sent through viber , whatsapp or something like that makes things easier "

From what I know, fab and all sex sites fully comply with the law and any requests made and have been instrumental in helping the law in some cases. This and other sex sites are not hangouts for predators.

In fact I would think this site is easier to deal with than viber or whatsapp.

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

"I'd report the fecker to the cops ! That's not on . "

This x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now if the videos were sent through viber , whatsapp or something like that makes things easier

In fact I would think this site is easier to deal with than viber or whatsapp. "

What i mean is if she has his viber or whats app means at least there is a phone number to be tracked by cops , instead the task of requests to websites and then tracing IPs

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Now if the videos were sent through viber , whatsapp or something like that makes things easier "

I beg to differ. Unless he deliberately obtained the videos to use for future coercion, I doubt this guy is a criminal mastermind... Probably just an opportunist banking on someone's desire to maintain their privacy as a means of getting new wank material. So he's unlikely to be bouncing his IP across the globe or doing any masking. Tracing the average person's IP address isn't a big deal, it's only a matter of a few clicks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone had videos of you naked showing your face and said he’d put them on a porn site and different places if you didn’t give him more.

He has your details, email, ex name etc

Probably kneecap him or something similar not kill him but leave him struggling so every time he feels the pain he remembers that he shouldn't have tried to black mail you."

Turning him into a Eunuch comes to mind, knee caps can be easily fixed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send him another video of you fucking another lad and tell him delete the one he has as it was a shite fuck and this lad was better and a bigger cock

Only joking report to cops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report the sick fucker

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