FabSwingers.com forum: Professional....

By *ryst In Isolde OP Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm ambivalent about seeing 'professional seeks' on profiles. Makes no difference to me what anyone does for a living, I don't need to check anyone's bank balance or know what kind of car they drive. I couldn't give a toss if you shop in Sainsburys or Aldi, or if your lingerie came from Victoria's Secret or Primark.

So I just wondered if these things matter to you? Aside from those who have a stated uniform fetish, does someones job make them more or less attractive to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

It really doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot say that are professional but they dont act the part though or their age

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By *niffs VerbottenMan
over a year ago

Blue Town by the Rolling Breakers

Excellent topic, more complex than it appears. Dunno, gimme a cracking personality and intellect first. Having said that there are obviously those out there who gotta work insane hours/shift patterns which might be tricky to negotiate. (Sleep Hygiene anyone? 'nother thread maybe)

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over a year ago

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Not interested in what anyone here does for a living ,that's their private business .Don't see the need for putting" Professional" on a profile but each to their own .

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By *ryst In Isolde OP Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Excellent topic, more complex than it appears. Dunno, gimme a cracking personality and intellect first. Having said that there are obviously those out there who gotta work insane hours/shift patterns which might be tricky to negotiate. (Sleep Hygiene anyone? 'nother thread maybe)"

That's actually a very valid point... Arranging to meet when working alternating hours could be a factor, so yes, I can see where that might have an impact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive always understood it as a code for middle-class

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By *niffs VerbottenMan
over a year ago

Blue Town by the Rolling Breakers

back to OP. Think it's down to personal preference..throwing a wee rhetorical out the window here and thinking are there certain professional types that people just won't meet? Would I meet a female mercenary, a dentist or (gawd forbid) a politish-ee-ann for instance?

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By *niffs VerbottenMan
over a year ago

Blue Town by the Rolling Breakers

"A lot say that are professional but they dont act the part though or their age" & "Ive always understood it as a code for middle-class"

find it hard disagree to either of these suggestions at times lol

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

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Professional Rugby player for me....not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's actually a very valid point... Arranging to meet when working alternating hours could be a factor, so yes, I can see where that might have an impact

I work shift work 6/4 with a mix of hours and would NEVER use the word professional on my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

It really doesn't. "

I know what is actually meant by it.... It appears sarcasm is lost on the forums

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

Define Proffessional though!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It bugs me . I always think the profile is likely stuck up their own ass

. And don’t get me started on the fellas who have a 2 sentence profile with n s a written 4 times .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a person works at that I'm meeting wouldnt bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t bother me if someone was unemployed or an MD once they there nice and fresh when we meet and we are attracted to each other. But lol god I love uniforms ha

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

"Ive always understood it as a code for middle-class"

Yes, it means "we don't want to meet working class people"... Whoever they are,.. or farmers,..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

It really doesn't.

I know what is actually meant by it.... It appears sarcasm is lost on the forums

There's sarcasm and there's tasteless, worn out school ground humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define Proffessional though!!

According to google :

professional

adjective

1.relating to or belonging to a profession.

"young professional people"

synonyms: white-collar, executive, non-manual

"people in professional occupations"

2.engaged in a specified activity as one's main paid occupation rather than as an amateur.

"a professional boxer"

synonyms: paid, salaried, non-amateur, full-time

"a professional tennis player"

noun

1.a person engaged or qualified in a profession.

"professionals such as lawyers and surveyors"

synonyms: white-collar worker, professional worker, office worker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do they mean by it? Think it maybe understood to be different things to different people.

I'd see it as "white-collar, executive, non-manual worker. Maybe as in professional qualification relating to a certain level of academic study. Im guessing though as I've not had anyone who uses it describe it to me on here.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Have read all those underlying & covert suggestions like...

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"I'm in a very stressful occupation & have little time available"

(...meaning "please ask me what I do for a living"

... and "oh yes, chances are I'm married too"

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"I'm a busy professional"

(...implied meaning here is that "If you earn less than 100K or are not a Consultant, please shoo off commoner")

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"Am very much in the public eye"

(...which is code for " Hey, play your cards right & you might be pulling a celeb here")

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...Tbh though, could give a toss what anyone on Fab does for a living and never have & never will define a person by their job, car or bank balance...

BUT if you work in a lingerie store

...Well then, that's a different matter altogether!

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough

I honestly could not care less what someone does for a living, it certainly wouldn't sway my decision on whether I would want to meet them or not.

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By *ackk25Man
over a year ago

Kilkenny

Professional magician!... I perform magic all over the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

It really doesn't.

I know what is actually meant by it.... It appears sarcasm is lost on the forums

There's sarcasm and there's tasteless, worn out school ground humour

Who pissed in your cornflakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well "I'm a professional" usually indicates to me that they are saying they are in a well paid job

Do I give a fuck

I don't care what you do for a living, what appeals to me if I'm attracted enough to want to meet that person....

And if that person feels the need to big themself up by saying " I'm Professional" makes me think they feel the average hard working person is below them, or they use "I'm professional" to try and make themself seem more attractive than they are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Define Proffessional though!!

According to google :

professional

adjective

1.relating to or belonging to a profession.

"young professional people"

synonyms: white-collar, executive, non-manual

"people in professional occupations"

2.engaged in a specified activity as one's main paid occupation rather than as an amateur.

"a professional boxer"

synonyms: paid, salaried, non-amateur, full-time

"a professional tennis player"

noun

1.a person engaged or qualified in a profession.

"professionals such as lawyers and surveyors"

synonyms: white-collar worker, professional worker, office worker

Non manual? Well at least we can rule me out as a sex worker.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional on a sex site would mean escort though

It really doesn't. "

I came to look at the comments but that stopped when I seen that ass OMG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not have even thought of this as something to judge meets on. It doesn't impact even slightly on the meet itself.

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I don't care what people say about themselves just so long as they are normal down to earth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have preferences based on race, lots of women wont meet guys who've been with guys... so what's so bad about people specifying another intangible quality?

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By *undubguy100Man
over a year ago

Dublin

"Wouldn’t bother me if someone was unemployed or an MD once they there nice and fresh when we meet and we are attracted to each other. But lol god I love uniforms ha

Exactly....nice people always get preference...unemployed can be wonderful people or assholes...professionals..can be wonderful people or washes...so...doesn't really matter.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

"People have preferences based on race, lots of women wont meet guys who've been with guys... so what's so bad about people specifying another intangible quality?"

Objectively... Specifically in regard to sex, race can be about physical features someone may or may not find attractive. If someone is primarily attracted to Asians I'm not going to accuse them of being racist for not fancying me.

Women not wanting to meet guys who have met other guys... Well that's self-explanatory as its absolutely a sexual issue... However misguided.

Someone's job rarely has any bearing on attraction. For those with a uniform fetish, it's probably not even necessary for the person to actually be in that profession... A costume may do the job just as effectively (input from uniform lovers needed to clarify on this issue!!).

As someone previously pointed out, awkward working hours might make meeting more difficult, and may influence someone's decision... But even top surgeons don't always work 9-5

I'm yet to hear a really compelling reason.

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

I'm good but i yet to make a living from it !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People have preferences based on race, lots of women wont meet guys who've been with guys... so what's so bad about people specifying another intangible quality?

Women not wanting to meet guys who have met other guys... Well that's self-explanatory as its absolutely a sexual issue... However misguided.

As someone previously pointed out, awkward working hours might make meeting more difficult, and may influence someone's decision... But even top surgeons don't always work 9-5

I'm yet to hear a really compelling reason. "

Ive always understood "professional" to be "polite" code for middle class. For the record, I'm not agreeing with that and it's not an avenue Im pursuing! But I think its as legitimate an area of discrimination as race or sexuality... So Im just curious as to why others think differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I do call myself a professional.

In my eyes people who call themselves professional value their work and career over social events be it friends, family or relationships.

As a few people stated previously it's a polite code for "middle class". Yes and no.

Professionals tend to be very ambitious and dutiful when it comes to the work they're doing so naturally they will climb the ladder of their careers. With higher positions they will have higher incomes.

With higher positions also comes a lot more responsibility and longer working hours which results in a depleting social life and loss of relationships and friendships over time.

Some people get their joy and happiness from family bonds, others from a job well done.

Calling yourself a professional to me only indicates that that person isn't interested in socially interacting with new people and all conversations with them will be kept to a bare minimum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are so poor all they have is money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had misread Missus's post, apologies

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland

Professional could sound like snobbery to some, Its about quality and a mutual connection not what you work at.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm ambivalent about seeing 'professional seeks' on profiles. Makes no difference to me what anyone does for a living, I don't need to check anyone's bank balance or know what kind of car they drive. I couldn't give a toss if you shop in Sainsburys or Aldi, or if your lingerie came from Victoria's Secret or Primark.

So I just wondered if these things matter to you? Aside from those who have a stated uniform fetish, does someones job make them more or less attractive to you? "

Ok... A bit of humour then

I am a professional Huntress

How does it sound?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I just wondered if these things matter to you? Aside from those who have a stated uniform fetish, does someones job make them more or less attractive to you?

Ok... A bit of humour then

I am a professional Huntress

How does it sound?

I always thought you were a medevil firefighter

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

So I just wondered if these things matter to you? Aside from those who have a stated uniform fetish, does someones job make them more or less attractive to you?

Ok... A bit of humour then

I am a professional Huntress

How does it sound?

Sounds good to me and I hope you find your quarry soon

OP - Primark and Sainsbury's?

FFS! Professional here is Penneys and M&S Food Hall. Well, ok, not Penneys but I suspect the majority of Fab Ireland professionals shop on Grafton Street, or, heaven forbid, Kildare Village. I know that any time I've been there, it's like I've been dropped in the middle of D4 and I have to cover my mouth from retching/laughing

Professional? Yeah, fuck off ya wanker, we all make a living. If you think you're better than others and pretty much state it in your profile, carry on celibate, ya C U Next Tuesday!

Everybody is busy living. Fab is for fun. Anyone elevating themselves socially/employment wise, not for me.

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