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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin

I wonder why so many people dump someone, just after the first time sex?

Why have no patience?

Why not learn more about the other person's sexual desires, get to know them sexualy, experiment more, invest a bit of time and effort!

NMB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Please don't give up OP!

There are few gems in the pod but you also have to be patient to find them

Good luck!

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"I wonder why so many people dump someone, just after the first time sex?

Why have no patience?

Why not learn more about the other person's sexual desires, get to know them sexualy, experiment more, invest a bit of time and effort!

NMB"

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Other side of the coin is what if one party isn't exactly "up" for the job or their idea of a romp is little more than "3 pumps & a squirt"?

...or you're dealing with a bedroom diva ...

I know what you're getting at Op & yes lot to be said about multiple meets once there's chemistry!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are addicted to the thrill of the chase

Because reality rarely matches fantasy

Because the grass is always greener

Because they're racking up notches on the bedpost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or maybe they just weren't feeling it

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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Other side of the coin is what if one party isn't exactly "up" for the job or their idea of a romp is little more than "3 pumps & a squirt"?

...or you're dealing with a bedroom diva ...

I know what you're getting at Op & yes lot to be said about multiple meets once there's chemistry!!

"

I think even the "chemistry", sometimes could be a "journey", as we can all have good days and bad days.

Multiple meets, rarely are the same and you could discover traits that you've missed the previous times.

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Maybe what you thought was great sex was crap sex in their mind.

I’ve met guys thinking that it would be more than once but after being with them there’s no way I’d bother going back for seconds.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

Meeting someone through the net for sex is different then meeting someone you know a long time in your own town for eg. Trust is there alot more, you feel alot more relaxed and comfortable. First time sex in alot of cases on here I'd imagine is awkward as everybody has diff likes and dislikes in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are addicted to the thrill of the chase

Because reality rarely matches fantasy

Because the grass is always greener

Because they're racking up notches on the bedpost"

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

It was either bad sex from their point of view or all they wanted is a one night stand.

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By *oreThanOnce OP   Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"Because they are addicted to the thrill of the chase

Because reality rarely matches fantasy

Because the grass is always greener

Because they're racking up notches on the bedpost"

True, reality rarely matches the fantasy!

I find that, the "reality test" brings us back to earth and helps us grow up.

There is nothing wrong building a mental image of someone after a good chat.

Why not spend more time and find more about that person.

Some of us are better expressing themselves in writing and others are natural communicators when meeting face to face too, but some are not.

I find that, more time you spend with someone in person, more you learn about yourself too.

It would be a win win situation, for both of us.

But isn't it sexy to have fun time in bed with someone that can stimulate your mind, not only your body?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

There have been people I've only played with once. Distance often plays a big part in that though. If the chemistry wasn't uber-hot, I'd be hesitant about freeing up time to travel again or have them travel so far to me. I tend to only repeat meet where the chemistry is completely sizzling. Locally I may have bent that rule once... But tbh it was because it was convenient, and I wouldn't do it again, as he saw it as a sign that I was really keen and reacted badly when he realised I wasn't.

You live, you learn, and you grow. It's sizzle or nothing for me now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder why so many people dump someone, just after the first time sex?

Why have no patience?

Why not learn more about the other person's sexual desires, get to know them sexualy, experiment more, invest a bit of time and effort!

NMB"

don't know what to tell you as it's never happened to me

jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 2 long term relationships between the age of 14 till 36 with nothing much else in between so that was the type of sexual relationships I was used to, learning, exploring and when started here I found it very hard to adjust to that without the loving bit.

Fast forward to after 6 years in the NSA world and I tend to let things happen naturally, but I won’t waste time on kindling something that isn’t there cause it might get better.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Sometimes it just doesnt work for whatever reason..move on find somebody else compatible that will keep on coming back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are addicted to the thrill of the chase

Because reality rarely matches fantasy

Because the grass is always greener

Because they're racking up notches on the bedpost

True, reality rarely matches the fantasy!

I find that, the "reality test" brings us back to earth and helps us grow up.

There is nothing wrong building a mental image of someone after a good chat.

Why not spend more time and find more about that person.

Some of us are better expressing themselves in writing and others are natural communicators when meeting face to face too, but some are not.

I find that, more time you spend with someone in person, more you learn about yourself too.

It would be a win win situation, for both of us.

But isn't it sexy to have fun time in bed with someone that can stimulate your mind, not only your body? "

Of course, but unless both are into it, why would it happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes it just doesnt work for whatever reason..move on find somebody else compatible that will keep on coming back "

Absolutely someone for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone says no more or no to anything dont dwell on that shit. They have their reasons, you dont have to know them. Just accept it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting someone through the net for sex is different then meeting someone you know a long time in your own town for eg. Trust is there alot more, you feel alot more relaxed and comfortable. First time sex in alot of cases on here I'd imagine is awkward as everybody has diff likes and dislikes in the bedroom. "

And there is a reason to meet for a social meet to discuss about the preferences, likes and dislikes

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Meeting someone through the net for sex is different then meeting someone you know a long time in your own town for eg. Trust is there alot more, you feel alot more relaxed and comfortable. First time sex in alot of cases on here I'd imagine is awkward as everybody has diff likes and dislikes in the bedroom.

And there is a reason to meet for a social meet to discuss about the preferences, likes and dislikes "

A social is no guarantee that you click in the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting someone through the net for sex is different then meeting someone you know a long time in your own town for eg. Trust is there alot more, you feel alot more relaxed and comfortable. First time sex in alot of cases on here I'd imagine is awkward as everybody has diff likes and dislikes in the bedroom.

And there is a reason to meet for a social meet to discuss about the preferences, likes and dislikes

A social is no guarantee that you click in the bedroom. "

Its true

So then I'm glad was so lucky!

The first time is always nervous so better not being rush.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its something i wish i had done dump someone that is. I was young and foolish got stuck in a relationship for years with very bad sex. No oral either way no positions other than missionary no passion . So their is another side of the coin . People dont hold out to try and change peoples ways anymore. I tried to work with the sexlife or lack of it for so long.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

fear of attachment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"nultiple meets, rarely are the same and you could discover traits that you've missed the previous times"

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"I wonder why so many people dump someone, just after the first time sex?

Why have no patience?

Why not learn more about the other person's sexual desires, get to know them sexualy, experiment more, invest a bit of time and effort!

NMB

------------

Other side of the coin is what if one party isn't exactly "up" for the job or their idea of a romp is little more than "3 pumps & a squirt"?

...or you're dealing with a bedroom diva ...

I know what you're getting at Op & yes lot to be said about multiple meets once there's chemistry!!

"

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Fair point ...but in the immortal words of one of my mates after he saw Britany Spears in concert

(I sh!t you not ...)

"For every beautiful woman out there,

there's one guy who's sick of riding her"

...he was a romantic philosopher in his own unique way

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