FabSwingers.com forum: Why Bother Being On This Site

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok....Deep Breaths.....Now.... What is the point of joining a site like this if you are gona waste geniune peoples time,by

1. Endless emails

2. Then cancelling or worse still not turn up?????

Reading from members Status updates and from my own experience ,this is becoming a major pain in the head!

Why bother your asses,if all you gona do is get yourself blocked etc.it is unreal the amount of no shows or cancellation people are having.

My sincere fear is that genuine swingers are goning to get so fed up with this shit,thats all that's goning to be left on here are time wasters....on seconds thoughts thats probably a good enough idea,then you can email each for months, arrange to meet then neither of you show!!!!

Sorry usually all that goes over my head, but there are times when this pisses me off so much.

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By *illbillMan
over a year ago

dublin

i feel ur pain...being ignored when ur only being polite or blocked by people on ur friends list..go figure???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok....Deep Breaths.....Now.... What is the point of joining a site like this if you are gona waste geniune peoples time,by

1. Endless emails

2. Then cancelling or worse still not turn up?????

Reading from members Status updates and from my own experience ,this is becoming a major pain in the head!

Why bother your asses,if all you gona do is get yourself blocked etc.it is unreal the amount of no shows or cancellation people are having.

Sorry usually all that goes over my head, but there are times when this pisses me off so much.

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Whiteshark

Why? Because they can and they can because they are allowed to

Everyone uses this site their own way. There are those who are here as "hardcore" swingers ( for want of a better term) who do their swinging in clubs and private parties and use the site for organising said meets and for socialising

There are those that are only on here to cam, those that are only here to watch cams - no intention whatsoever to meet

There are those who are here looking to dip a toe - maybe they quite like the idea of swinging but actually taking that first step - whoa - scarey

There are those who arent really swingers ( for want of a better term) and are just here looking casual sex

Who has the right to call any of them genuine or not?

All you can do is decide on how you wish to conduct yourself on here, how you wish to use the site.

if email tennis is not for you - then why enable it? Why not say heres my number lets call, talk and arrange a meet?

if you suspect someone isnt who they say they are - why not say - cam please?

Why when you make a arrangement to meet do you not have a telephone number to be contacting before you even bother to leave the house to ensure theres no problems?

if alarm bells ring why not walk away?

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

well we have got to that point and are now not actively looking to meet in ireland anymore.

way too many people ant to talk and not meet up, however, because we have taken this course, we have been called messers and narrow minded ourselves, which is strange as we have found that, out of the meets we have organised we have had around 80% failure rate,which is way to high for it to be considered fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My point exactly....the clue is in the name of the site folks!!! be naughty,horny matches etc can catter for all the people who are casual sex addicts or into caming etc but i thought it was self explanitory "swingers"...Look i have no problem with ppl who have no intention of meeting or even just like caming......but that i DO HAVE a problem with is arranging to meet and then not turning up! and as pointed out by the above poster, 80% failure rate to meet!!!!! wether or not i have email enabled or not....hows that going to combat that type of stat????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My point exactly....the clue is in the name of the site folks!!! be naughty,horny matches etc can catter for all the people who are casual sex addicts or into caming etc but i thought it was self explanitory "swingers"...Look i have no problem with ppl who have no intention of meeting or even just like caming......but that i DO HAVE a problem with is arranging to meet and then not turning up! and as pointed out by the above poster, 80% failure rate to meet!!!!! wether or not i have email enabled or not....hows that going to combat that type of stat????

Thats just one persons failure rate

mine is less then 1% - as Ive had just one no show in 3 years

Like I said in my previous post - its up to you to make the site work for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this is a whine thread about people cancelling meets?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well it depends which way you approach it doesnt......if you are a single/couple who have had this happen to them on a regualr basis then yes it is...if you on the other hand are a timewaster.....then yes it is lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah jaysus, I have never seen the word timewaster used so many times until I joined this site, sometimes I think people use it without even really knowing what it means, like putting NO TIMEWASTERS on their profile, do they even realise how pointless making that statement is???

To conclude, I agree with Missy! lol

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

hope no one is in anyway stating we are branding anyone timewasters as we havent used the word.

the faliure rate is a mixture of people not turning up, cancelling at the last minute, or even changing what they are looking for just before a meet.

sincerely not meaning any offence to anyone or what anyone else does, but seems to us that IF we were happy to have full sex with anyone, we could meet every night of the week, but because its not what we do, then we struggle.

maybe this isnt correct, but until its disproven thats all we will go by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Whiteshark

But will only be acknowledge if the reply is the one you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nah not so missy, i did mention your post in dispatches lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok....Deep Breaths.....Now.... What is the point of joining a site like this if you are gona waste geniune peoples time,by

1. Endless emails

2. Then cancelling or worse still not turn up?????

Reading from members Status updates and from my own experience ,this is becoming a major pain in the head!

Why bother your asses,if all you gona do is get yourself blocked etc.it is unreal the amount of no shows or cancellation people are having.

Sorry usually all that goes over my head, but there are times when this pisses me off so much.

All replies are welcome

Whiteshark

Why? Because they can and they can because they are allowed to

There are those that are only on here to cam, those that are only here to watch cams - no intention whatsoever to meet

There are those who are here looking to dip a toe - maybe they quite like the idea of swinging but actually taking that first step - whoa - scarey

There are those who arent really swingers ( for want of a better term) and are just here looking casual sex

Who has the right to call any of them genuine or not?

All you can do is decide on how you wish to conduct yourself on here, how you wish to use the site.

if email tennis is not for you - then why enable it? Why not say heres my number lets call, talk and arrange a meet?

if you suspect someone isnt who they say they are - why not say - cam please?

Why when you make a arrangement to meet do you not have a telephone number to be contacting before you even bother to leave the house to ensure theres no problems?

if alarm bells ring why not walk away?

One of the best responses I've read in a long while: well said, I couldn't agree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if it frustrates that much why not leave??or at least stop moaning about how unfair everything is!do u honestly think it makes u more attractive to a potential meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am not the only one who has this as an issue,dont shoot the messenger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is an incredibly boring subject though, one that is brought up on the forums at least once a day. The same advice is given out time and time again but instead of taking it on board people just love having a rant lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not the only one who has this as an issue,dont shoot the messenger

You may not be the only one with this issue but you are not the first who has been offered advice from people who don't have this issue, and choose to completely ignore it

But then it always is so much easier to blame everyone and everything rather then take a look at what you are doing that brings about the outcome you are complaining about and make the changes you need

Why accept that the 80% failure rate mentioned is the norm when I and many others can say hand on heart it's less?

Why sit back and accept that figure then sit and whinge ? Why not speak to the people who say they have a high success rate on here and see what it is they do that works and impliment some changes

I've offered my way and I'm sure there's lots of threads with lots of similar advice and a lot more tips

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a genuine idea to try and eliminate the fuckwits and timewasters.

When becoming a site member...it should be done via a phone call instead of text. If your a single fem, quote your username then recieve the text from the site in the normal manner.

Couples do the same but both quote user name.

Surely this would help in some way. It works for other sites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a genuine idea to try and eliminate the fuckwits and timewasters.

When becoming a site member...it should be done via a phone call instead of text. If your a single fem, quote your username then recieve the text from the site in the normal manner.

Couples do the same but both quote user name.

Surely this would help in some way. It works for other sites"

Ok lost here

To become a member of this site you fill in a profile, choose a user name and password and hit enter. Five mins later you are a member

So how does that eliminate those people you have decided are not desirable to the site?

Remember this is a free site. Some users choose to pay subs to support the site Quoting and phone calls will not stop membership

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Who said i was whinging?? i am merely pointing out a salient fact, that most members have experience. i mean all you have to do is look at some profiles who are have this problem,or if too much bother,look at recent Status updates from "genuine" members this last week,its not just me,although in fairness i only had 2 tbh,all I was doing was putting on the forum to highlight this ongoing issue....you say you dont have that problem Missy,well i am sure you are doing nothing more special than anyone else on here!!!!!all you can do is trust the person you make plans with,and i am so so glad you have been 100% sucessful ,you seem to be taking everything that i say up wrong,wether intentionally or whatever.....for once and for all i have put this post on here for one reason and one reason only,there has to be a way of vetting this behavour, nothing more nothing less.As i said there are ppl on here who make the site what it is,fun etc,thinking of leaving because of it.This is my fear as stated in th OP.

If its a swinging site well thats what it should be and have fun

I have no intention of getting any ones back as i have seen i have done,but if we cant have a discussions with out it getting personal (i have not made this so)well what is the point of a forum. I am not new to this lifestyle,i have been doing for 9yrs on and off,not a wet week!Its always been an issue,all i am trying to do is it out with the forum......dont tell me its a none issue cos it most certainly is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

seems to me,reading about timewasters is a complete waste of time,same old same old,blah blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it is an issue but you seen to think you are the first person to bring this issue to light, do a search through the forums and you will see how many times this comes up, not being cheeky at all but people do get sick of the same tired subjects over and over again. Why don't you send your concerns to admin directly as they ask people with complaints to do.

For a site dedicated to a recreational past time people sure do gripe a lot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear God Whiteshark, will you give over!, another moaning forum post....

You are not doing yourself any favours by putting them up, have you considered that may be the root of all your problems ???

I have had one no show since joining in November, and it's no biggy, just block and move on, there are way more than enough genuine people on here for to to have fun with.

Read your profile and posts and imagine you are a potential play partner reading them..... What would your first impression be ?????

Cos you sure as hell don't get a second chance on a swingers site if someones first impression of you isn't good.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Dear God Whiteshark, will you give over!, another moaning forum post....

You are not doing yourself any favours by putting them up, have you considered that may be the root of all your problems ???

I have had one no show since joining in November, and it's no biggy, just block and move on, there are way more than enough genuine people on here for to to have fun with.

Read your profile and posts and imagine you are a potential play partner reading them..... What would your first impression be ?????

Cos you sure as hell don't get a second chance on a swingers site if someones first impression of you isn't good.....

Customdave, point taken bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wh says u are whinging well White seems obvious or do u do it so much u don't even notice anymore! The moaning thing doesn't help u this is just advice choose to take it or don't up 2 u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol funny how when a guy makes the same point as missy did earlier all of a sudden its taken on board

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Dear... Oh dear...

Any chance of getting my ASS rimmed ?

xxx

Mr Abbey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well seeing as you asked so nicely Mr Abbey..................

Lol

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Ok....Deep Breaths.....Now.... What is the point of joining a site like this if you are gona waste geniune peoples time,by

1. Endless emails

2. Then cancelling or worse still not turn up?????

Reading from members Status updates and from my own experience ,this is becoming a major pain in the head!

Why bother your asses,if all you gona do is get yourself blocked etc.it is unreal the amount of no shows or cancellation people are having.

Sorry usually all that goes over my head, but there are times when this pisses me off so much.

All replies are welcome

Whiteshark

Why? Because they can and they can because they are allowed to

There are those that are only on here to cam, those that are only here to watch cams - no intention whatsoever to meet

There are those who are here looking to dip a toe - maybe they quite like the idea of swinging but actually taking that first step - whoa - scarey

There are those who arent really swingers ( for want of a better term) and are just here looking casual sex

Who has the right to call any of them genuine or not?

All you can do is decide on how you wish to conduct yourself on here, how you wish to use the site.

if email tennis is not for you - then why enable it? Why not say heres my number lets call, talk and arrange a meet?

if you suspect someone isnt who they say they are - why not say - cam please?

Why when you make a arrangement to meet do you not have a telephone number to be contacting before you even bother to leave the house to ensure theres no problems?

if alarm bells ring why not walk away?

One of the best responses I've read in a long while: well said, I couldn't agree more.

This should be a sticky, fabulous post

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