FabSwingers.com forum: New site feature...?

By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

As well as veris, i would love to see a “Meet Reliability” feature for all members, where, if someone doesnt turn up for a meet or pulls out at short notice - doesn't matter if the reason is “genuine” or not, you can post that on their profile sonthat they get a meet reliability percentage displayed.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great idea in theory but like everything way too open to abuse.

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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago

Dublin / Cork

Good idea , certainly a step in right direction

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By *arkseductionMan
over a year ago

Drogheda

Fantastic ideas

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Its kinda already here.

You can report a person to Admin for being a no show.

Not sure but I think if a few report same, user is banned.

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

"Its kinda already here.

You can report a person to Admin for being a no show.

Not sure but I think if a few report same, user is banned."

True, but it wont get the “call it off at short notice after dicking you around on the day” brigade...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great idea in theory but like everything way too open to abuse."

This, also people do have lives outside fab, or at least one would hope so.

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

"Great idea in theory but like everything way too open to abuse.

This, also people do have lives outside fab, or at least one would hope so.

Of course they do; but that doesnt really help the other person who also perhaps made arrangements to meet (maybe even commited to a financial burden) and was let down.

The score shouldnt take (maybe perfectly valid) reasons into account, simply be a reflection of how reliable that person is when they commit to a meet.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Not gonna happen because as silvershlong said it's open to abuse but also no guarantee either that someone turns up. Besides it can happen to all of us that we have to cancel a meet short notice.

A string of proper meet veris and my gut feeling is what I go with and it works well for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?"

No to many fake profiles on here it’s bad enough getting abuse when you don’t want to meet a guy but imagine him having control on your profile to lower your %.

And even if you limit it to only people with verification they still take it bad when rejected

Sounds good for serious fabbers tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not gonna happen because as silvershlong said it's open to abuse but also no guarantee either that someone turns up. Besides it can happen to all of us that we have to cancel a meet short notice.

A string of proper meet veris and my gut feeling is what I go with and it works well for me.

Agreed, can't beat being able to trust your own instincts

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

Possibly depends which head people use to make decisions

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

"Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

Possibly depends which head people use to make decisions

Interesting hypothesis.

I guess we could also hypohesize that given the gender imbalance on Fab ladies will not experience this as much as guys.

But that would just be a reckless and lazy interpretation of the stats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

Possibly depends which head people use to make decisions

Interesting hypothesis.

I guess we could also hypohesize that given the gender imbalance on Fab ladies will not experience this as much as guys.

But that would just be a reckless and lazy interpretation of the stats.

Were you being lazy when you chose to ignore those responses above which didn't suit your split by gender theory?

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

"Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

Possibly depends which head people use to make decisions

Interesting hypothesis.

I guess we could also hypohesize that given the gender imbalance on Fab ladies will not experience this as much as guys.

But that would just be a reckless and lazy interpretation of the stats.

Were you being lazy when you chose to ignore those responses above which didn't suit your split by gender theory?

Remind me again who it was started to interpret the stats? All i did was draw attention to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adylaceWoman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I’ve had meets cancelled at the last minute and I’ve also had to cancel at the last minute myself. We all have lives outside of fab and things happen. I will always give someone the benefit of the doubt once but they don’t get another chance if they cancel a second time.

As for reporting people for it. I think like others have said that it’s too open for abuse. What’s stopping a person from reporting you if the meet didn’t go the way they wanted?

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

Well that puts a new slant on things...

Apologies for drawing attention to stats too soon; it affects most people it appears.

Thanks for sharing ladies...

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By *unnerbenMan
over a year ago

Dublin / Cork

It is a conundrum how to sort it . I was chatting to a girl recently who was verified by a man by a meet . After chatting to her she told me that they didn't actually meet at all. These types of verifications don't help .

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By *andS for funCouple
over a year ago

Any

"Leaving my own bias out of the stats:

Interesting to see polar differences in the male and female views on the thread...

Possibly depends which head people use to make decisions

Interesting hypothesis.

I guess we could also hypohesize that given the gender imbalance on Fab ladies will not experience this as much as guys.

But that would just be a reckless and lazy interpretation of the stats.

Happens to couples quite a lot...the number of fake couple profiles is unreal

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By *ohng69Man
over a year ago

athenry

"Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?"

Does this mean if a person doesn't turn up for their first meet they will get a 0% meet reliability score? Very harsh!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not a good idea

As someone else it be abused

Not forgetting we all have freinds family jobs and life demands so fab is only a small part of people life

Being stood up and cancelled on myself

And once had to cancel a hr beforehand for reasons out of my control

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

This site isn't meant to gurantee the person will show up, just minimize the risks.

Your idea is halfway there. Verifications should be two step process.

Process 1 should be clicking "Meet arranged". The date and time that people arranged to meet and when they want to meet should be logged.

Process 2 should be clicking what happened next, the meet was cancelled, the meet was a no-show/disputed, the meet happened with a veri summary.

Knowing someone has 2 meets, organised on a Wed, happened on a friday is great to know.

Knowing someone organised an hour before a meet is great to know.

People could implement this feature themselves by writing the verifications in a standard format instead of treating as erotic story time.

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By *ollingStonesCouple
over a year ago

Newry

That's what verifications are for.

Verifications are very powerful not as much by what they say although that is relevant but more by how many verifications and who they are from.

No verifications in the last 5 months well then it's a simple phone conversation it that doesn't happen very easily them move on.

People have real lives and jobs and families. Sometimes things come up and you have to cancel.

Communication is key.

"Sorry x y or z has happened can we reschedule"

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By *verage Joe Black OP Man
over a year ago

Border Area

"This site isn't meant to gurantee the person will show up, just minimize the risks.

Your idea is halfway there. Verifications should be two step process.

Process 1 should be clicking "Meet arranged". The date and time that people arranged to meet and when they want to meet should be logged.

Process 2 should be clicking what happened next, the meet was cancelled, the meet was a no-show/disputed, the meet happened with a veri summary.

Knowing someone has 2 meets, organised on a Wed, happened on a friday is great to know.

Knowing someone organised an hour before a meet is great to know.

People could implement this feature themselves by writing the verifications in a standard format instead of treating as erotic story time."

This. very clever idea.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"This site isn't meant to gurantee the person will show up, just minimize the risks.

Your idea is halfway there. Verifications should be two step process.

Process 1 should be clicking "Meet arranged". The date and time that people arranged to meet and when they want to meet should be logged.

Process 2 should be clicking what happened next, the meet was cancelled, the meet was a no-show/disputed, the meet happened with a veri summary.

Knowing someone has 2 meets, organised on a Wed, happened on a friday is great to know.

Knowing someone organised an hour before a meet is great to know.

People could implement this feature themselves by writing the verifications in a standard format instead of treating as erotic story time.

This. very clever idea.

Or not: it's of no ones business when I meet but the persons involved.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

"Or not: it's of no ones business when I meet but the persons involved. "

Then tell people you wont verify them. Right now if you verify them they know when you met, so there would be no difference in that respect. It will just give clearer information to people who take part in verifying each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site isn't meant to gurantee the person will show up, just minimize the risks.

Your idea is halfway there. Verifications should be two step process.

Process 1 should be clicking "Meet arranged". The date and time that people arranged to meet and when they want to meet should be logged.

Process 2 should be clicking what happened next, the meet was cancelled, the meet was a no-show/disputed, the meet happened with a veri summary.

Knowing someone has 2 meets, organised on a Wed, happened on a friday is great to know.

Knowing someone organised an hour before a meet is great to know.

People could implement this feature themselves by writing the verifications in a standard format instead of treating as erotic story time.

This. very clever idea.

Or not: it's of no ones business when I meet but the persons involved. "

Guess then you’ll be in control of whether or not they show up etc. I can’t see anything working. Some things maybe a deterrent but the nature of the site if something comes up you can’t say well I’m sorry I’ve already made plans to fuck someone. I don’t think many purposely decide to let people down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be just abused by those upset by a cancellation or worse by those refused a meet in the first place. It is a good theory but be pure carnage in practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I think it would be rather interesting to write a verify like a ebay review. Such as his parcel was as decribed super fast delivery. Quick transaction great communication. Great service happy to recommend five star would deal with again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I think it would be rather interesting to write a verify like a ebay review. Such as his parcel was as decribed super fast delivery. Quick transaction great communication. Great service happy to recommend five star would deal with again.

Would the quick transaction be a good thing?

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Or not: it's of no ones business when I meet but the persons involved.

I've no issue to verify someone after I've met but I normally dont verify immediately so it's just a vage indication when it did happen.

It's not really clear if your step one is on display to the public but if so can you imagine the kindergarten behaviour that would trigger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?"

useful yes. open to abuse? yes

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its kinda already here.

You can report a person to Admin for being a no show.

Not sure but I think if a few report same, user is banned.

True, but it wont get the “call it off at short notice after dicking you around on the day” brigade..."

You should always have plan B

I always call one of my friends just in case if someone cancel the meeting 10mins before should meet me

Cinema, opera, etc which might be interesting to you. On the end it could be shopping lol

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?"
is there that many let downs on here?

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

I don’t think that would be fair at all.

Yes there are lots of people on her that mess about but I think it would be unfair for someone to get a bad reliability rating for having to cancel a meet.

I’m sure most of us have had to cancel a meet at some stage for a genuine reason, due to getting called into work at short notice or a sick child or other everyday things that go on in life.

We just go by the verifications that people already have and make up our mind from there.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Its happened to pretty much all of us i’d say. Someone cancels a meet at short notice after you have arrangements made.

Then others can make judgement to meet or not based on their reliability.

Good idea or not?

Or what other site feature do you feel would be useful?"

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Would be great if there was also a rating system where you could include stars for:

PUNCTUALITY

HYGIENE/GROOMING

SIMILAR TO PROFILE

Also, if it was one ip address/mobile number per FAB account, we could seriously reduce the amount of timewasters on here...

Here's hoping anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t think that would be fair at all.

Yes there are lots of people on her that mess about but I think it would be unfair for someone to get a bad reliability rating for having to cancel a meet.

I’m sure most of us have had to cancel a meet at some stage for a genuine reason, due to getting called into work at short notice or a sick child or other everyday things that go on in life.

We just go by the verifications that people already have and make up our mind from there."

GENUINE reason - no problem but stupid excuses? Sorry! Block

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