FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By *aisedByWolves OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Short of creating a new profile or even leaving the site altogether perhaps I could get some last chance advice and perhaps even one of you lovely fabbers would meet me for a coffee and verify me in Dublin city, with no other intension than a friendly chat with advice from someone who uses the site!

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Do a forum search and you will get all the advice you need. Posts like these are posted almost daily.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Constructive criticism?

Your 1 public photo is OK. Just OK though. It's a bit dark and out of focus, but not the worst I've seen. It wouldn't grab my attention though.

The over-use of the word professional on your profile might make you sound like a bit of a knob to some. Doesn't bother me personally, but I've seen it mentioned enough times across the forums to know it's like nails on a blackboard to some.

Lastly... The paragraph of your profile text that mentions your intelligence is riddled with spelling mistakes. Now I know good spelling or grammar does not equate intelligence, but, again, Fab folk can find little inconsistencies like that a bit contradictory.

Other than that... Its not actually a bad profile. I've seen plenty worse. It's just not outstanding, or maybe it's your conversational skills that are letting you down. Not having spoken to you, I've no idea.

I'm sure others will provide better advice and maybe even help out with a coffee veri if they're nearby and have the time

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

"Constructive criticism?

Your 1 public photo is OK. Just OK though. It's a bit dark and out of focus, but not the worst I've seen. It wouldn't grab my attention though.

I'm sure others will provide better advice and maybe even help out with a coffee veri if they're nearby and have the time

Spot on and a lot more tactful than I could ever be.

I came across your profile and honestly rolled my eyes several times reading it. You don't come across great even though I'm sure you're a lovely guy.

You need more pictures. Lose the whole "professional" thing because really what does that even mean?

And if you want to make a point of saying that you're intelligent correct the spelling of comprehend.

I agree with the above though, your profile isn't that bad. It's just not selling who you actually are.

Saying all that though, I'll probably be around town at some point during the week. If you've had no offers by then hit me up and I'll go for coffee and verify you.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Sorted! Nice one DublinGirl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice for what it’s worth is to tell whoever you are chatting to your leaving to create a new profile. Delete that one it owes you nothing and start fresh. Use same name if makes you feel better there’s no point otherwise it’s just a reminder of how long your here.

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By *olinjxMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Really nice gesture....can I meet you too?

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By *aisedByWolves OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Thanks everyone for all of the advice, dually noted, and DublinGirl92 I would love to take you up on that offer

This post has given me a second wind here, no need for a new profile if I can finally get this one up and going then I'll be flying as I know myself I am genuine and will be a big part of the scene once in it!

Thanks again everyone and keep the advice coming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

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Raisedbywolves

Your profile is a little short and bland a bit of more depth about yourself and what your looking for may help progress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I'll be flying as I know myself I am genuine and will be a big part of the scene once in it!

Raisedbywolves

Dont become too big a part, of.you ever left Irish swinging may never recover

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By *aisedByWolves OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

Cheers to the two guys posted after me, for the first guy thanks but I deleted that all following advice and will refill later when not working cheers though

And secondly haha well the scene shall have to adjust as I have had to adjust this far without it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers to the two guys posted after me, for the first guy thanks but I deleted that all following advice and will refill later when not working cheers though

And secondly haha well the scene shall have to adjust as I have had to adjust this far without it

You seem to have a decent sense of humor so use that it will give you plenty of opportunities.

Id avoid describing yourself as genuine though it seems cribge inducing for alot of the ladies on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a wonderful virtue

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

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stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

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By *onygirl19Woman
over a year ago

co dublin

I’ll meet you for coffee no problem . I’m in town every weekday grafton street area . Just give me a message with time and day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you? "

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I’ll meet you for coffee no problem . I’m in town every weekday grafton street area . Just give me a message with time and day x "

Nice one PonyGirl!

See... Forum folk can be nice and helpful sometimes

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

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it tells you don't mind what you're told, the place is a minefield and if you get lucky you get lucky. I saw 2 women's profiles today, nothing on the in profile bio, loads of veris, if that was a man it's the opposite. Just shows you how easy alot of men are pleased.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I’ll meet you for coffee no problem . I’m in town every weekday grafton street area . Just give me a message with time and day x

Nice one PonyGirl!

See... Forum folk can be nice and helpful sometimes

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better then the age old line of "get yourself to a meet and greey".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

it tells you don't mind what you're told, the place is a minefield and if you get lucky you get lucky. I saw 2 women's profiles today, nothing on the in profile bio, loads of veris, if that was a man it's the opposite. Just shows you how easy alot of men are pleased. "

I disagree your approch can makr a difference, its not all blind luck

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I disagree your approch can makr a difference, its not all blind luck"
I remember been on here at the beginning sending polite nice opening mails, no luck. I even went to the bother of highlighting stuff in profiles, no luck. You eventually think "what's the point". Patience only takes you so far especially when you can go out and get your fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I disagree your approch can makr a difference, its not all blind luckI remember been on here at the beginning sending polite nice opening mails, no luck. I even went to the bother of highlighting stuff in profiles, no luck. You eventually think "what's the point". Patience only takes you so far especially when you can go out and get your fun. "

I guess not everyone is up to it

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I guess not everyone is up to it

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that's the easy answer. Most Women have lists as long as your arm. I'd advise any youngish enough male signing up here to use the forums in spare time and go out and pull in the real world.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

If any man is coming on here sending 20/30 messages a week, polite, profile enducing opening mails and getting no responses, there is something wrong!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I guess not everyone is up to it

that's the easy answer. Most Women have lists as long as your arm. I'd advise any youngish enough male signing up here to use the forums in spare time and go out and pull in the real world. "

Not everyone is going to have as hard a time as you. There is no need to try and put others off the place.

By all means just use the place for the forums to distract yourself, just dont be putting off newer people because you have had a bad experiance.

The lads that put in effort get plenty success just look at some.of the guys veris

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I guess not everyone is up to it

that's the easy answer. Most Women have lists as long as your arm. I'd advise any youngish enough male signing up here to use the forums in spare time and go out and pull in the real world.

Not everyone is going to have as hard a time as you. There is no need to try and put others off the place.

By all means just use the place for the forums to distract yourself, just dont be putting off newer people because you have had a bad experiance.

The lads that put in effort get plenty success just look at some.of the guys veris"
this should be good, what's "effort"? Plus it's not just me saying it, that's generally the point im making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I guess not everyone is up to it

that's the easy answer. Most Women have lists as long as your arm. I'd advise any youngish enough male signing up here to use the forums in spare time and go out and pull in the real world.

Not everyone is going to have as hard a time as you. There is no need to try and put others off the place.

By all means just use the place for the forums to distract yourself, just dont be putting off newer people because you have had a bad experiance.

The lads that put in effort get plenty success just look at some.of the guys veristhis should be good, what's "effort"? Plus it's not just me saying it, that's generally the point im making. "

Effort is actually chatting to women like they are actual people and not just sex dolls nothing hugely strenous.

Yip its not just you as I said not everyone will find the site works for them.

But there are loads of guys who have plenty fun on here and not becaus they jump through hoops

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"So I have been here a few months and struggling with obtaining a meet without a verification in what I can tell is an age old catch 22 on here.

The longer it takes the harder it is as people are suspicious of a profile here for a while and not verified thus making this even harder to obtain.

Am genuine easy going and respectful have tried multiple different approaches however as I was not so frequently on here found this hard.

Thanks in advance

Raisedbywolves

stuff like this goes up regularly. I'd imagine lads pay heed to what they're told but still are struggling as these posts continuously go up, what does that tell you?

That new people join fab and the forums and should be welcomed

I guess not everyone is up to it

that's the easy answer. Most Women have lists as long as your arm. I'd advise any youngish enough male signing up here to use the forums in spare time and go out and pull in the real world.

Not everyone is going to have as hard a time as you. There is no need to try and put others off the place.

By all means just use the place for the forums to distract yourself, just dont be putting off newer people because you have had a bad experiance.

The lads that put in effort get plenty success just look at some.of the guys veristhis should be good, what's "effort"? Plus it's not just me saying it, that's generally the point im making.

Effort is actually chatting to women like they are actual people and not just sex dolls nothing hugely strenous.

Yip its not just you as I said not everyone will find the site works for them.

But there are loads of guys who have plenty fun on here and not becaus they jump through hoops

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sending profile enducing polite opening mails is effort. There is actually very little more you can do. It's not always the males fault.

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

What do you mean by profile enducing polite opening mails? Because I don't think enducing is a word?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"What do you mean by profile enducing polite opening mails? Because I don't think enducing is a word? "
polite opening mails that engage a profile as in picking something out of the profile to include in the opening mail. I have stopped trying on this site along time ago but I remember what it was like when I was trying.

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By *aisedByWolves OP Man
over a year ago

Dublin City

I see this forum post has taken a turn for the worst

Thanks again everyone for all of the help, I believe it has started the ripple of my movement on here

Watch this space

Raisedbywolves

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"I see this forum post has taken a turn for the worst

Thanks again everyone for all of the help, I believe it has started the ripple of my movement on here

Watch this space

Raisedbywolves

Best of luck OP!

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

Best of luck OP and

to the ladies willing to meet for coffee. That's Fabbing

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