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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

It's a word I'm not terribly comfortable with, as it implies that there is something inherently wrong with the person/people you don't want to meet. Telling someone who doesn't match your preferences that you're fussy feels a bit insulting.

I can think someone is stunningly beautiful, clever and witty, yet still not be sexually attracted to them. They just don't make my tuppence tingle for some elusive reason. Is there a better word for this than fussy (discerning also has the same implications)? Perhaps we need to invent one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thought it was called “no reply” or “blocked”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a word I'm not terribly comfortable with, as it implies that there is something inherently wrong with the person/people you don't want to meet. Telling someone who doesn't match your preferences that you're fussy feels a bit insulting.

I can think someone is stunningly beautiful, clever and witty, yet still not be sexually attracted to them. They just don't make my tuppence tingle for some elusive reason. Is there a better word for this than fussy (discerning also has the same implications)? Perhaps we need to invent one? "

I have been called fussy a few times both on here and in vanilla life but the way I look at it, I know what I like, what I don't like and not going to settle because society says we should get married have kids and settle down. So yes I'm fussy

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thought it was called “no reply” or “blocked”

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Nah... I only do that to bloody irritating types

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"It's a word I'm not terribly comfortable with, as it implies that there is something inherently wrong with the person/people you don't want to meet. Telling someone who doesn't match your preferences that you're fussy feels a bit insulting.

I can think someone is stunningly beautiful, clever and witty, yet still not be sexually attracted to them. They just don't make my tuppence tingle for some elusive reason. Is there a better word for this than fussy (discerning also has the same implications)? Perhaps we need to invent one?

I have been called fussy a few times both on here and in vanilla life but the way I look at it, I know what I like, what I don't like and not going to settle because society says we should get married have kids and settle down. So yes I'm fussy "

I agree 100% with your ideals, it's just the word I'm ambivalent about. In one way it's perfectly appropriate, but there is more than a hint of insult in it too, which I'm uncomfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy is just another meaning for particular and selective .

Everyone has their own preference here who they want to meet.

It is ok go be fussy here on fab .

I cant see how it could be termed as insulting or hurtful but that depends how and when that term is used

If its display on a profile a person is fussy or selective on who they meet I think thats fine.

But if it's used as sorry no thanks I'm not interested I'm fussy .that is rude.

If it's written on a profile and someone feels insulted by reading it I'd hate to imagine how they take a thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy is other people's non supportive description to your decision or life choices & yet we are supposed to have choice ... but it appears to be only that choice that suits the norm.

fussy- adjective UK

/'f?s.i/ US

/'f?s.i/ disapproving

fussy adjective (NOT EASILY SATISFIED)

C2 not easily satisfied, or having very high standards about particular things:

All my children were fussy eaters.

He's so fussy about the house - everything has to be absolutely perfect.

"Why am I still single?" "You're too fussy - that's your problem!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just copy and paste your above reasoning...

Or just tell them your an erratic fabber

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Fussy is other people's non supportive description to your decision or life choices & yet we are supposed to have choice ... but it appears to be only that choice that suits the norm.

fussy- adjective UK

/'f?s.i/ US

/'f?s.i/ disapproving

fussy adjective (NOT EASILY SATISFIED)

C2 not easily satisfied, or having very high standards about particular things:

All my children were fussy eaters.

He's so fussy about the house - everything has to be absolutely perfect.

"Why am I still single?" "You're too fussy - that's your problem!""

See... There it is... Right in the middle of your comment. 'Disapproving', which has moral or ethical connotations. The word fussy is far too open to interpretation, and too easily taken as an insult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We describe ourselves as picky, which we and everyone else is perfectly entitled to be when it comes to choosing sexual partners. If others have a problem with the term, that's what it is, their problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try “normal”. No-one is obliged to like everything about everyone... oh i forgot, this is fab, having a profile here means you have to sleep with anyone that asks..... how very dare you.... fussy.... tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chemistry seeker no, this is quite a tough one alright. Guess you’ll just have to explain it to everyone who doesn’t make the cut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no need to tell someone why they aren't a match, simply say they're not what you're looking for, if they can't accept that with good grace, then it's a good call on your part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m getting quite fussy/picky now you come to mention it. So many messages each day saying “come fuck me now, I’m really horny and I want u inside me” ( followed by their address and a pic of them in sussies, on their knees waiting on me). I just message back and say sorry but I’m looking a woman actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must review my block list ; I immediately block overly fussy profiles. Profiles that minutely specify height, hair, nationality, religion, race, cock length, cock girth, facial hair, number of tattoos, whiteness of teeth, body size , marital status. None of this tells you about the person living inside these narrow guidelines. Can’t recall anyone specifying “ must be a nice guy, polite honest dependable” - just as long as your cock is over 8” then c’mon over . Deep deep people right there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just don’t get into a discussion about it saves countless arguements and name calling. Those heated discussions usually only happen when people think that they had a chance in the first place. If they mistook your nature and chatiness for flirting instead of polite conversation.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way. "

Jaysus, maybe I'm just not fussy but I'd horse it into the bould Katherine if she was up for it!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?"

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! "
if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory."

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. "
lol that's what I asked. Would you shag a woman whose good looking to you.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. "
2 much hard work as in they think they're on a pedestal?

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. lol that's what I asked. Would you shag a woman whose good looking to you. "

Yeah but, I don't want any of the ladies reading this to think they're not in with a chance!

Never close off any options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way. "

Selective may be a nicer way of framing it but still means the same thing as fussy

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I think I'm fussy about bottoms and there are a lot of nice bottoms around today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. 2 much hard work as in they think they're on a pedestal?"

Or just some men dont have the charisma to charm her

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. 2 much hard work as in they think they're on a pedestal?

Or just some men dont have the charisma to charm her

"
I nearly spat out my tea laughing.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"If you told someone they're good looking, would you shag them?

What is "good looking" though? I probably judge good looking by my desire to have sex with them.

If they're a head wrecker though, it doesn't matter how good looking they are. Ah no wait, feck that, I'd take the chance sure..

OK head wrecking ladies, line up! if they're good looking to a person mick it's self explanatory.

No, not true. There are women that I think are good looking that I wouldn't go near as they are way too much hard work. I'm working for one at the moment and physically she is seriously attractive but mentally she would destroy me. 2 much hard work as in they think they're on a pedestal?

Or just some men dont have the charisma to charm her

"

...or alternatively I know her and you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way.

Selective may be a nicer way of framing it but still means the same thing as fussy"

Eh isnt that the point of the post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way.

Selective may be a nicer way of framing it but still means the same thing as fussy

Eh isnt that the point of the post "

I have used both expressions on .y profile at some stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That comment wasnt referring to ur ability of charisma and charm be clear.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Instead of fussy maybe 'sexually selective' tell them they are good looking but in a Katherine Heigl non sexy kinda way.

Selective may be a nicer way of framing it but still means the same thing as fussy

Eh isnt that the point of the post

I have used both expressions on .y profile at some stage "

I have too, but was never really comfortable that it would be interpreted the way it was intended. I haven't really found a word yet that perfectly conveys my intent.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"That comment wasnt referring to ur ability of charisma and charm be clear. "

I'm nothing if not charming.

Oh wait, no, I'm nothing

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast

Picky?

Particular?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy is one thing , a fussy procrastinator is another. ( yep - some might need their online dictionaries )

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Fussy is one thing , a fussy procrastinator is another. ( yep - some might need their online dictionaries )"

I'll look it up later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's just knowing what you like and want

Some people wanna hook up and not have any standards just looking for an outlet

Doesn't matter how you see yourself or what you like whether it's physical or personality

Just know what you want that's how I see it and you won't settle for less

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan


"Fussy is one thing , a fussy procrastinator is another. ( yep - some might need their online dictionaries )

I'll look it up later "

I see what you did there!

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

city

I prefer "discerning", it doesn't have the negative undertones of fussy. Maybe choosy, selective,? I've decided to be more discerning here on Fab, turning down some invites, and my experiences have been better. Am I fussy? It's not a word I use, maybe choosy, selective, discerning. Yep. That describes me.

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