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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have a first meet arranged for tomorrow..with someone not from here..booked the day off work and everything..ever have 2nd thoughts about going through with it...and how to calm the nerves??

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Have a first meet arranged for tomorrow..with someone not from here..booked the day off work and everything..ever have 2nd thoughts about going through with it...and how to calm the nerves??"

The thing to ask yourself OP, is why are you having second thoughts? Nerves are good, nerves are understandable, but second thoughts means there's underlying doubt about whether you actually even want to meet that person (or perhaps anyone).

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Have a first meet arranged for tomorrow..with someone not from here..booked the day off work and everything..ever have 2nd thoughts about going through with it...and how to calm the nerves??"

First of all your meet will be nervous too, so you're not alone on that one.

If it doesn't feel right after a wee chat over a cuppa/drink you can still pull out.

But you will never know if you missed a great opportunity to meet a gorgeous woman if you don't go.

Pull yourself up, chest out, back straight, head up and ass cheek muscles contracted and off you go...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

and deep breathes...and if both married and doing for first time? Same advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a first meet arranged for tomorrow..with someone not from here..booked the day off work and everything..ever have 2nd thoughts about going through with it...and how to calm the nerves??"

Have you made sure the meet is 100% legit OP and if so if your single and like this person and have everything planned I don't see 2nd thoughts should creep in its a meet not marriage go and have fun man lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had quite a few thoughts about whether the person was legit. But I’ve gone ahead. Nothing ventured nothing gained. What’s the worst that can happen.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know legit...have talked loads

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

Live on the edge, take a chance, you won't die. Anything else is an adventure. Your meet partner is likely feeling the same way. It's a coffee meet,? Yes?. A chance for both to dress up, turn on the charm, take a risk, and be truly alive. Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We've talked about more than coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I never want to calm my nerves.... I want to feel edgy.... heightened senses .... rather be like that than dreamy, mellow. Like to be able to assess, react, when the time comes. People might disagree but certainly most of my meets the woman likes confidence without being cocky , be assertive without being pushy, know when to do what etc. Need your A game for that ( unless your going to meet a Domme with a big whip lol)

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

Yeah, get the kiss out of the way and relax...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" and deep breathes...and if both married and doing for first time? Same advice!"

If its your first time playing away and you are having serious doubts why not postpone.....

Its not something you can take back

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


" and deep breathes...and if both married and doing for first time? Same advice!

If its your first time playing away and you are having serious doubts why not postpone.....

Its not something you can take back"

This 100% if you cross that line unfortunately it could be a lifetime of regrets..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" and deep breathes...and if both married and doing for first time? Same advice!

If its your first time playing away and you are having serious doubts why not postpone.....

Its not something you can take back"

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Have a first meet arranged for tomorrow..with someone not from here..booked the day off work and everything..ever have 2nd thoughts about going through with it...and how to calm the nerves??"

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It's a ride not a job interview you're going to buddy

...go have fun!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm not going to judge as I don't know your situation, but I had an inkling from your profile and your post that you were attached even before I posted my initial comment. I stand by what I said. You're having doubts because you feel guilty, which means on some level you think what you're doing is wrong... And that's just the guilt you feel about the prospect of doing it. Is that feeling of guilt going to be lessened by action? You are the one who has to live with your conscience, not us. It's not for us to be moral police or to decide what's best for you.

You may find the whole thing liberating and that it gives you a new lease of life, or the guilt and secrecy may end up crushing you. Only you know how your mind responds to such situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go meet her laugh smile chat drink coffee rub her knee flirt.. fuck it I'll go you stay just enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it your nerves or your conscience OP?

Guess you can only do what’s right for you. No need to be nervous and if you both don’t feel it when you meet you can walk away. Even if you did book the day off work. Either way try enjoy the experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me at the weekend - both of us were having second thoughts but we decided that there was nothing to lose... so we carried on and it was definitely worth it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not nerves, concious likely...but the excitement taken over now...thanks all.for the advice

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