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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Right,I know this might not be the most ideal fourms to put relationship topics up but I feel I might get some good advice!!.

Right, my gf of six months and I are having a tough patch I have lied to her and broken promises.

The lieing part is to do with saying I was somewhere but I was in a pub.

The promise part, was that I wouldn't go on the bookies site and I did yesterday was bored and she asked me and I told her the truth.

She now not happy with me wants to break up and needs space.

Any advice be greatly appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say break up.

You want to go to the pub, you need to be able to be honest about it. Of you want to gamble you need to be with someone who doesnt have an issue with that.

Unless of course you have trouble controlling your drinking and betting, in which case get seek some help with it

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Grow a set of balls and put her in her place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Id say break up.

You want to go to the pub, you need to be able to be honest about it. Of you want to gamble you need to be with someone who doesnt have an issue with that.

Unless of course you have trouble controlling your drinking and betting, in which case get seek some help with it "

I was spoose to meet my mate that day ended up pissed as a fart in the pub but my phone was off forgotten to charge the phone.

She was worried, thought was cheating when I lied.

Nah the beting was out of hand abit knew to stop I did.

Was basically 50p bets was just bored.

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By *at27Man
over a year ago

Belfast / Brighton

This is a complicated topic, have you tried getting professional help? Jeremy Kyle is your man.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is a complicated topic, have you tried getting professional help? Jeremy Kyle is your man."

Haha..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Grow a set of balls and put her in her place "

Where is that exactly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id say break up.

You want to go to the pub, you need to be able to be honest about it. Of you want to gamble you need to be with someone who doesnt have an issue with that.

Unless of course you have trouble controlling your drinking and betting, in which case get seek some help with it

I was spoose to meet my mate that day ended up pissed as a fart in the pub but my phone was off forgotten to charge the phone.

She was worried, thought was cheating when I lied.

Nah the beting was out of hand abit knew to stop I did.

Was basically 50p bets was just bored."

What could possibly make her think you would cheat?

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Id say break up.

You want to go to the pub, you need to be able to be honest about it. Of you want to gamble you need to be with someone who doesnt have an issue with that.

Unless of course you have trouble controlling your drinking and betting, in which case get seek some help with it

I was spoose to meet my mate that day ended up pissed as a fart in the pub but my phone was off forgotten to charge the phone.

She was worried, thought was cheating when I lied.

Nah the beting was out of hand abit knew to stop I did.

Was basically 50p bets was just bored."

Suspect her issue is less the pub and the gambling and more the lack of responsibility. Take ownership of your shit and sort it. Lack of responsibility is seriously unattractive, and nobody actually wants to be the nagging gf.

It's really not difficult to find a phone charger and stay in touch. Every human on the planet has one, most pubs have one behind the bar. Bored? Read a book, go for a walk, watch TV, have a wank, do a crossword, a million different things that aren't something you (and her) have an issue with. Make the effort, it will make all the difference.

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By *uriousPearCouple
over a year ago

dublin 5

I can't believe she thought you were cheating when you were actually in the pub. That's mad, isn't it!

I'd say she won't be too bothered about you being in the pub when she discovers your profile on a swing site.

I'd say she won't be too bothered about anything you do at that stage.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I can't believe she thought you were cheating when you were actually in the pub. That's mad, isn't it!

I'd say she won't be too bothered about you being in the pub when she discovers your profile on a swing site.

I'd say she won't be too bothered about anything you do at that stage."

Actually... I didn't even cop this. Leave her off OP, she's better off.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

You going to the pub and gambling, are the least of her worries. Has she any idea you are on here???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right,I know this might not be the most ideal fourms to put relationship topics up but I feel I might get some good advice!!.

Right, my gf of six months and I are having a tough patch I have lied to her and broken promises.

The lieing part is to do with saying I was somewhere but I was in a pub.

The promise part, was that I wouldn't go on the bookies site and I did yesterday was bored and she asked me and I told her the truth.

She now not happy with me wants to break up and needs space.

Any advice be greatly appreciated.

"

Let the girl go and she might actually find a man

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By *ommando4Man
over a year ago

South Co. Dublin

Ditch immediately....you don't want this going any further. Count your blessings that you're not married to her and get out now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ditch immediately....you don't want this going any further. Count your blessings that you're not married to her and get out now."

Then he can gamble and drink as much as he likes

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By *ugarandspice101Couple
over a year ago

Belfast


"Id say break up.

You want to go to the pub, you need to be able to be honest about it. Of you want to gamble you need to be with someone who doesnt have an issue with that.

Unless of course you have trouble controlling your drinking and betting, in which case get seek some help with it "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tbh she doesn't have a clue on this.

But your right, maybe I do need a wake up call.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Tbh she doesn't have a clue on this.

But your right, maybe I do need a wake up call. "

There's nothing wrong with wanting to gamble and be out with the lads and not have to think about anyone else. But that's not what being in a relationship is, you both have to consider your partner's feelings and needs. So either step up and do that, or let her go. You can't have everything on your own terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have your lying and breaking promises, stop lying and stop breaking promises. Your on here too and if she doesn't know your lying, maybe rethink your relationship with her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have your lying and breaking promises, stop lying and stop breaking promises. Your on here too and if she doesn't know your lying, maybe rethink your relationship with her "

Yah maybe I need too.

Thanks for advice everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a woman who you enjoy going to the pub with. Someone you don't feel the need to lie to.

Lies early on in a relationship are not a good sign.

Trust me, I'm single lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tbh she doesn't have a clue on this.

But your right, maybe I do need a wake up call. "

+++++++++++++++++++++

Maybe it is a time to grow up, huh?

Be responsible for what you are doing. There is action and interaction.

Do you think OP how long you will be cheating her? It is not too late to break up and leave her to live a normal life she wants.

This is not about controlling you, it's about the trust and you failed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yah, there is alot of growing up is need I realised I made an uber mistake with her.

I don't even understand why I lie I spoose i felt ashamed of myself been in the pub at 2 O'clock just finished uni.

Of course, it's trust I have let her down badly, we are on talking terms now but she doesn't want me about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right,I know this might not be the most ideal fourms to put relationship topics up but I feel I might get some good advice!!.

Right, my gf of six months and I are having a tough patch I have lied to her and broken promises.

The lieing part is to do with saying I was somewhere but I was in a pub.

The promise part, was that I wouldn't go on the bookies site and I did yesterday was bored and she asked me and I told her the truth.

She now not happy with me wants to break up and needs space.

Any advice be greatly appreciated.

"

6 month relationship and you're on here how long?

She's better off without you!

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By *ublinGirl92Woman
over a year ago

Hell

Break up with her. She deserves better than you so let her go and find it. Stop wasting her time.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Right,I know this might not be the most ideal fourms to put relationship topics up but I feel I might get some good advice!!.

Right, my gf of six months and I are having a tough patch I have lied to her and broken promises.

The lieing part is to do with saying I was somewhere but I was in a pub.

The promise part, was that I wouldn't go on the bookies site and I did yesterday was bored and she asked me and I told her the truth.

She now not happy with me wants to break up and needs space.

Any advice be greatly appreciated.

"

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"Breaking up" and "needing space" are usually two different matters... unless she wants to break up and sever any contact with you...

-Obviously, none of us here knows your circumstances & so can't give you much advice... but if you have to lie when you're really in a pub, that begs the questions of where you said you were?

-We also don't know the extent of your gambling and if her level of concern is justified or not, so that's something you're going to have to talk with her about...

-She's your girlfriend of 6 months yet you're now on a swinging site. If you want my advice, you need to look in the mirror first, man up to yourself and then man up to her. At least she'll have more respect for you for doing so...

Look, I don't mean to sound harsh Op & I hope things work out but the only advise I can give is...

"Man Up" &

"To thine own self be true"

Best of luck...

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