FabSwingers.com forum: Honest introduction.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have recently started exploring swinger sites for the second time. I was on for a very short time about two years ago. chatted to few women and couples on Kik.had organised to meet with a hot lady for a mmmf she was organising but genuinely had to pull out due to work commitments and i let her know,shortly after I deleted my profile due to hesitations.she was a newbie at the time too but I'm raging now seeing her hot profile now .I hope to make it up to her sometime. But I'd like to meet a couple/hotwife at minute .

My hesitations:

The problem is that we all live in this city that is a decent size, but everyone seems to be connected in some way. I could probably go to a random party and know a few people there(I'm sure I would) or people will know me through their friends.

I'm slightly paranoid that I am going to send my face pics to strangers and that it actually turns out to be someone that I know. It's not like im a famous celebrity and are trying to avoid a scandal, but this is something that would be embarrassing to explain to my family or co-workers if word ever got out.are people discreet on this?should I dip my feet over in UK attending clubs/and meets?but theres a profile from south Dublin I'm mad to message. Should I just face pic message away? .??

My main hesitation is that being a single male with no attachments I'm afraid I will like the lifestyle too much, I know I will.is it the apple that shouldn't be bitten?

This time I joined haven't messaged anyone. Just added hot couples and and women to hotlist i like Not planning on wasting anyone's time.

Did you have any hesitations joining? You can give me honest feedback?im not a snowflake so fire away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most here for same thing so choose who you send Ur pics to ensure they are verified preferably by platmates that way you can be certain they are swinging and Ur secret will be safe even if they know you

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

There are risks involved, just as with anything, and verification is by no means any indication of discretion. Some of the most verified people on these sites can be far from discreet, especially with a few drinks taken. If you're really concerned, don't play close to home and keep your personal information private. Nobody needs to know exactly where you're from, what you do for a living or how many kids you have, etc. As for face pics, use your discretion, send them once you're comfortable that someone is actually someone you want to meet and that they're not just nosy buggers or idle chatters. Don't send one in a first message or even unasked for.

Or... you could just wing it and see what the fates bring... The lust of your life might be just 2 streets away

Only you can decide what you want to do OP

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I think people are mostly too wrapped up in their own lives to give a shit about what anyone else is doing. You're probably overestimating how much anyone would care that you're on a casual sex / swinging site.

If you happen to have a career where it would be a genuine issue, that's something you have to keep in mind - keep your profile very limited, play your cards close to your chest etc. But otherwise, everyone fucks, everyone on here is here for the same reason - I don't think there's much danger of being outed by someone who is active in the scene. I've been in kink and swing circles for about 7 years now and been quite open, and have never had an issue - even when I have met people I knew in "real life".

Another part of it is how you present it to people. If you're not ashamed, people can't shame you. Being open and comfortable with it makes others comfortable with it.

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By *leasureOrbitCouple
over a year ago

city centre

Your post reminds me of when I first joined the scene as a single guy, I was always worried about being recognised and outed as some type of deviant. Public coffee meets were fraught with worry in case someone I knew saw me and started pointing and screaming “Swinger!!!”. At my first social I practically ran around the venue making sure I didn’t recognise anyone and then I stayed near the door to make sure no-one I knew came in.

But as the other posters have said, no-one cares, some great feedback above. People are here for the same reason as you. There is always a small risk that some busy-body sees you, but so what. You’re a single guy, “young single man wants sex” is hardly news. Whats the real difference between here and other dating sites where you post a face pic on your profile?

We’ve been to lots of socials and events but only once met someone either of us knew from the outside world (a lady I knew a small bit who worked in the same company as me) and we ended up having sex with her that night, so being recognised can be a good thing!

You come across well. Take it at you own pace, don’t send out face pics if you’re not comfortable and go get ‘em tiger!

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Have bumped into a few work colleagues & clients

here Op as it comes with the territory...

So, here's the facts..

- You're single

- We're all consenting adults here

- Most of us are here for the same thing (explore a fantasy, kink or just to have great sex)

...I get it that you don't want any family members or neighbours knowing your sex life (who does?) so just be a little picky about who you give your pics out to...

Avoid sending a combined cock & face pic together & you'll be grand. Other than that, don't over analyse & go have some fun!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies and feedback.and being courteous to a newbie.all common sense really.

Anyway face pic sent to a couple profile and message isn't deleted yet. That's a good sign ?? I'm hopeful.

And then an unexpected wink from a hottie. Few messages exchanged and another face pics.happy fabbing ??

Don't think anyone be surprised I'm a kinky fucker Tbh.so I should have no shame.It would make sense I'm on this site.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

A guy who works at the same company as me sent me a message yesterday, face pic and cock pic. I'm not a dickhead so I didn't tell him I recognised him, I won't ever mention it to him & I won't go telling anyone else either - I think (hope) most people on here would be the same! They don't want to be "outed" so they wouldn't out anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the replies and feedback.and being courteous to a newbie.all common sense really.

Anyway face pic sent to a couple profile and message isn't deleted yet. That's a good sign ?? I'm hopeful.

And then an unexpected wink from a hottie. Few messages exchanged and another face pics.happy fabbing ??

Don't think anyone be surprised I'm a kinky fucker Tbh.so I should have no shame.It would make sense I'm on this site."

We never exchange face pics, happy to do social meets on that basis if we appear to click here. Have heard many tales of people here passing on facepics to other users without permission. We never assume that people on fab are any more respectful, discreet or sensible than the average person, certainly see no evidence to support such an assumption.

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

If you're worried about meeting people who know you why don't ypu think about venturing further afield for meets if possible .As said above be very careful who you send your face pic ,not everyone is who they seem to be .Wishing you the best of luck

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

As far as I can see, your main concern is being recognised by non swingers. In some European countries they have Bdsm clubs even in small villages, most beaches are nudist friendly, and swinging, polyamoury is acceptable. Here in Ireland, we are no different from the rest of Europe, but we don't want others to know our kinks, fetishes, or what we like or do. But, everybody is doing something! And we all believe we're the only kinkster in the village. So, be prudent, but live your life and be as kinky as you can be. It helps to have a circle of swinging, kinky friends to give support and share the fun. Go find them.

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