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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... " ...are you saying that only men or women may respond..? Thats going to limit your responses considerably.. | |||
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"Lol no I mean both women profiles or mans profile... " That makes more sense... | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... " Social meet veris...? Utter waste of time. Naked meet veris...? Yes: only these. Why? If the purpose of veris is to demonstrate a level of confidence in the quality and “safeness” of a person, then being naked and intimate with someone is a much more conclusive measure of that person. Anyone can fake their personality over coffee. Maybe “fake” is too strong - lets say “show only their good side” over coffee. | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Social meet veris...? Utter waste of time. Naked meet veris...? Yes: only these. Why? If the purpose of veris is to demonstrate a level of confidence in the quality and “safeness” of a person, then being naked and intimate with someone is a much more conclusive measure of that person. Anyone can fake their personality over coffee. Maybe “fake” is too strong - lets say “show only their good side” over coffee." It never occured to me to use a veri to establish if someone is "quality and safe". Better to make your own mind up on that i think. For me veris are just a way to hopefully show you are what you say you are, not pretending to be a woman or couple so one veri does the job, it can be hard tho not to display them when people say nice things. Mrs Bugs | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... " Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? " Have you ever read a veri here saying .. bloody hell shite fuck ?? | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? Have you ever read a veri here saying .. bloody hell shite fuck ??" Nope , is that down to site politics ? | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Social meet veris...? Utter waste of time. Naked meet veris...? Yes: only these. Why? If the purpose of veris is to demonstrate a level of confidence in the quality and “safeness” of a person, then being naked and intimate with someone is a much more conclusive measure of that person. Anyone can fake their personality over coffee. Maybe “fake” is too strong - lets say “show only their good side” over coffee." Disagree Some people can show their "real me" even on the social meet. Open your eyes wider | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? Have you ever read a veri here saying .. bloody hell shite fuck ?? Nope , is that down to site politics ? " It's down to i want to get another fuck .... you need to read those coffee veris a bit more carefully. Hidden messages | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? Have you ever read a veri here saying .. bloody hell shite fuck ?? Nope , is that down to site politics ? It's down to i want to get another fuck .... you need to read those coffee veris a bit more carefully. Hidden messages " I'm open to learning new tricks every day. Thanks , I'll look more carefully. | |||
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"I would unashamedly love a tongue-in-cheek, hugely unflattering and against the 'norm' verification from a friend Well, hopefully it would come from a friend " Ill meet you for coffee and then ill tell everyone your an ass .... no need to thank me | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Depends on the verification. Coffee veries are like wtf...... What does that tell you ? Oh wait he/she can have a conversation. But can they fuck ? " The message is well coded | |||
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"Eh, veris mean fuck all. The only thing I would take from them is that if someone has a load of veris from users that I consider to be complete tossers, then we're unlikely to have much in common " this! | |||
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"Fair point but would you meet someone who has no verification's that's the real issue." It depends. I met someone 2 wks ago with no veris. The only thing I was worried about was him being a murderer but nonetheless, I showed up at his place at 1am, d*unk and looking for more vodka and sure look - I'm still alive. And I'm seeing him again | |||
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"Jasus that was risky " I had his number, his address, we were friends on Facebook, my friend knew where I was... that's a lot of info on someone before we even met (compared to other meets I've had) | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. " Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! " Yes he was fully aware of how I looked | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! Yes he was fully aware of how I looked" Weirdo!! Don't mind him Bet he didn't have the balls for it | |||
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"Fair point but would you meet someone who has no verification's that's the real issue." Verifications are just suggestion, indicator... Why not? The quickest way to verify who is on other side is a video chat, then social meet. If there is no spark, move on. Simple! | |||
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"Disagree A lot would attend partys socials and clubs where they will receive a social vert from someone they chatted to on the night " This | |||
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"I would unashamedly love a tongue-in-cheek, hugely unflattering and against the 'norm' verification from a friend Well, hopefully it would come from a friend " Be careful what you wish for | |||
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"So just come across this post - we have a lot of veris and people say to us the reason they didn't message is because they found it intimidating. But when they meet us they discover shock horror we are nice people who party hard and have made amazing friends through this scene. We attend clubs every weekend we have met alot of people played in 20 person orgies and loved it, which in turn gives you at least 10 verifications. " Looking forward to your return visit to Ireland | |||
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"I suppose it is a safety mechanism.I am only new on here with no verifications yet so I think we need to look at it as proof that they are who they say they are safe and dependable. Leads to another question about newbies like me with no verifications are we the runt of the litter on here until you get verified nobody really interested in you or am I wrong?? My head hurts now " Nope. I've met unverified folk in the past, and thankfully one or two even took a chance on coffee with me in the beginning before I was first verified. However I do find that when you pop someone's veri cherry, all the other veri virgins, regardless of whether they match your preferences, start mailing and expecting to meet, as if popping veri cherries is your raison d'etre | |||
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"We've been knocking around the lifestyle for about 8 years or so. We've racked up a fair few verifications in that time. Some social, some clubs, some one on one meets. Perhaps some people make made a call about on on that. Who knows? Who cares? For a liberal bunch, we can be fiercely judgemental of others. " very well said | |||
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"I had to make a recent adjustment to my profile when a guy messages to say that I must be riding a different dick a week because of my verifications. Apparently I am a whore now because I verify people socially over coffee or Jameson a lot." Haha I've been there too. Guys started sending me messages along the line "I'm interested in meeting you for sex, only will have to wear a condom" left me scratching my head for a while till I figured out that it's just a pure amount of veris makes them think that I'm some kind of a town bike, nevermind the fact that vast majority are purely social | |||
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"I had to make a recent adjustment to my profile when a guy messages to say that I must be riding a different dick a week because of my verifications. Apparently I am a whore now because I verify people socially over coffee or Jameson a lot. Haha I've been there too. Guys started sending me messages along the line "I'm interested in meeting you for sex, only will have to wear a condom" left me scratching my head for a while till I figured out that it's just a pure amount of veris makes them think that I'm some kind of a town bike, nevermind the fact that vast majority are purely social " Haha they only wish they could get into your knickers cheeky fu*ckers | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! Yes he was fully aware of how I looked" Hard to believe! He musta got spooked by someone else in the coffee shop! | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! Yes he was fully aware of how I looked Hard to believe! He musta got spooked by someone else in the coffee shop!" Nope he was pretty clear how he felt | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! Yes he was fully aware of how I looked Hard to believe! He musta got spooked by someone else in the coffee shop! Nope he was pretty clear how he felt " Dope | |||
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"Personally I hate seeing lots of coffee/cams meets on vertys just makes me feel people are looking for friends not fun " Some people like to meet socially prior to engaging in bedroom antics and may feel a second verification isn't deemed necessary, verifications literally just mean you are who you say you are after that I'd not read much into them One man's meat is another man's poison as they say | |||
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"Social veris are grand but tons of meet veris in a short space of time is a bit off-putting for me alright... Can give the impression that they're not very selective, shall we say " Totally agree on this. Social veris tend to be that just socials and can get a lot quickly but lots of meet veris can be off putting . Ive seen 4 or 5 over a couple of days and im not talking party ones. | |||
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"Personally I hate seeing lots of coffee/cams meets on vertys just makes me feel people are looking for friends not fun Some people like to meet socially prior to engaging in bedroom antics and may feel a second verification isn't deemed necessary, verifications literally just mean you are who you say you are after that I'd not read much into them One man's meat is another man's poison as they say " | |||
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"Personally I hate seeing lots of coffee/cams meets on vertys just makes me feel people are looking for friends not fun Some people like to meet socially prior to engaging in bedroom antics and may feel a second verification isn't deemed necessary, verifications literally just mean you are who you say you are after that I'd not read much into them One man's meat is another man's poison as they say " lots of poison on here | |||
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"I had to make a recent adjustment to my profile when a guy messages to say that I must be riding a different dick a week because of my verifications. Apparently I am a whore now because I verify people socially over coffee or Jameson a lot." You shouldn't feel the need to change your profile just because of one person's ignorance. Most seasoned Fabbers will recognise that social butterflies may have hundreds of veris, and can easily receive 20-30 in a single weekend without even feeling obliged to ride one cock . Don't let one bitter guy with no social skills (who probably can't even get a reply to a message) change your Fab experience | |||
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"Last unverified guy I agreed to meet, came into coffee shop, looked me up and down, says " no thanks your not for me" turned on his heels and left me standing in middle of coffee shop. So yes I heed veris at least I know he will stay for a chat. Did he see your pics and face pics before meeting you? That's a weird man! Yes he was fully aware of how I looked Hard to believe! He musta got spooked by someone else in the coffee shop!" Or felt out-classed and used it as an excuse to chicken out. Probably made him feel better to say that rather than admit he was shitting himself. | |||
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"A few people have said this about me and called me a slut because I've around 120 ish veri's but this response is always from men that I say no thanks to..... Most people realise that a Veri doesn't mean they had sex with you!!" That's why the rejection stings so much though. For guys who don't actually read veris and make assumptions that all 100+ 'must' be play veris (because God forbid anyone might have a social life lol), they think they're onto a sure thing. When you then say no, they think they're the only person you've ever rejected. The fact that they were the one who actually contacted you and asked to meet then conveniently gets forgotten as righteous indignation takes over. Suddenly you're a whore or a slut. The fact that they wanted to stick their willy in you (whore or not) 2 messages ago doesn't even register. #AngryManSyndrome But.... This is also a fetish for some. They deliberately mail and proposition people they know will never meet them because rejection and humiliation is their kink. It is a minority kink, but a kink none-the-less. | |||
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"Personally I hate seeing lots of coffee/cams meets on vertys just makes me feel people are looking for friends not fun " Some are. Not everyone swings the same way. But then, not everyone displays or goes in for follow-up veris either. Doesn't mean they haven't gone on to play multiple times with that person they met for coffee of verified on cam, just means you don't know about it and are making assumptions | |||
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"Personally I hate seeing lots of coffee/cams meets on vertys just makes me feel people are looking for friends not fun Some people like to meet socially prior to engaging in bedroom antics and may feel a second verification isn't deemed necessary, verifications literally just mean you are who you say you are after that I'd not read much into them One man's meat is another man's poison as they say " | |||
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"Social veris are grand but tons of meet veris in a short space of time is a bit off-putting for me alright... Can give the impression that they're not very selective, shall we say Totally agree on this. Social veris tend to be that just socials and can get a lot quickly but lots of meet veris can be off putting . Ive seen 4 or 5 over a couple of days and im not talking party ones." I'm curious. Would 4 or 5 play veris from a party be OK then? Is it just that they had 4 or 5 from separate meets that put you off, and if so, why? In some ways I agree with you (I've said as much on previous threads) but just wonder if our reasoning is the same. | |||
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"Disagree A lot would attend partys socials and clubs where they will receive a social vert from someone they chatted to on the night " | |||
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"I cant talk for other men on here but my personal view would be if you have over 50 verification's I wouldn't want to meet you, just don't like the idea of number 51 etc... Just not very attractive in my opinion ?? " Thats me out then , most of mine are socials though | |||
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"Why show them in your profile then??" So people looking to attend my social can see what it is like | |||
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"I am very inexperienced on this website so forgive my ignorance lol York is my favourite city to visit " Well when you have a verification you are welcome to attend | |||
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"Why show them in your profile then??" Everyone makes their profile work for them not someone else. I personally like to show a few for numerous reasons; It's beneficial, especially for single guys, to leave a verification "trail" for people to check. Some are from some very good friends that I just like to have published for personal reasons. One is even just a Fab "bucket list" item that I've always wanted to have done Ultimately, if someone were to look at a profile and decide not to meet a person based upon the amount of verifications they have then they've done their job just like any other filter similar to preferences and interests. | |||
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"A few people have said this about me and called me a slut because I've around 120 ish veri's but this response is always from men that I say no thanks to..... Most people realise that a Veri doesn't mean they had sex with you!! That's why the rejection stings so much though. For guys who don't actually read veris and make assumptions that all 100+ 'must' be play veris (because God forbid anyone might have a social life lol), they think they're onto a sure thing. When you then say no, they think they're the only person you've ever rejected. The fact that they were the one who actually contacted you and asked to meet then conveniently gets forgotten as righteous indignation takes over. Suddenly you're a whore or a slut. The fact that they wanted to stick their willy in you (whore or not) 2 messages ago doesn't even register. #AngryManSyndrome But.... This is also a fetish for some. They deliberately mail and proposition people they know will never meet them because rejection and humiliation is their kink. It is a minority kink, but a kink none-the-less. " | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ??" Yup have done and would again | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? " I've only 40 odd on display as overtime people leave so you lose the verification and keep the number, if someone has been here awhile 50 verifications is easily racked up | |||
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"Would you meet a man with one or none?" Yup have done and would again. | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? Yup have done and would again " --------------- I'd meet him as well and ask him for a few tricks of the trade | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ??" If they were all in one week, probably not, he'd be useless to me at that stage | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? If they were all in one week, probably not, he'd be useless to me at that stage " Well that or he went to a big social | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? If they were all in one week, probably not, he'd be useless to me at that stage Well that or he went to a big social " OP isn't talking about social meets though There are people on here swinging 20 years or more OP... 50 play veris wouldnt be much. 2-3 per year in fact. So even devout believers in 'quality not quantity' can clock up a lot of play veris over time | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? If they were all in one week, probably not, he'd be useless to me at that stage Well that or he went to a big social OP isn't talking about social meets though There are people on here swinging 20 years or more OP... 50 play veris wouldnt be much. 2-3 per year in fact. So even devout believers in 'quality not quantity' can clock up a lot of play veris over time " Fair point! Fab only shows over 1 year. We are hitting our third swing birthday this week. 48 verifications so that's 16 veris per year and at that some are second meets and others are social non play. Is this not a swinging site! I think the people who have an issue with too many verifications are the ones with none. | |||
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"Too many verifications on a peoples profile is a major turn off? Agree or Disagree?? Men and women obviously.... Social meet veris...? Utter waste of time. Naked meet veris...? Yes: only these. Why? If the purpose of veris is to demonstrate a level of confidence in the quality and “safeness” of a person, then being naked and intimate with someone is a much more conclusive measure of that person. Anyone can fake their personality over coffee. Maybe “fake” is too strong - lets say “show only their good side” over coffee." Aww I like social verification I know I have none but last profile I did. I think it means your just outgoing | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? I've only 40 odd on display as overtime people leave so you lose the verification and keep the number, if someone has been here awhile 50 verifications is easily racked up " Oh you brag ha | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? I've only 40 odd on display as overtime people leave so you lose the verification and keep the number, if someone has been here awhile 50 verifications is easily racked up Oh you brag ha " You love me really Alex | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? I've only 40 odd on display as overtime people leave so you lose the verification and keep the number, if someone has been here awhile 50 verifications is easily racked up Oh you brag ha You love me really Alex " Aww I do and miss you all x but I’m coming back ha | |||
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"Question is would you meet a man with over 50 verifications ?? I've only 40 odd on display as overtime people leave so you lose the verification and keep the number, if someone has been here awhile 50 verifications is easily racked up Oh you brag ha You love me really Alex Aww I do and miss you all x but I’m coming back ha " I thought you were back | |||
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