FabSwingers.com forum: How can we meet a genuine female for 3 som

By *otchick36 OP Couple
over a year ago

portlaoise

Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol"

I wish it was easy...

we have the same problem.

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By *otchick36 OP Couple
over a year ago

portlaoise

It is a real problem isn't it

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol"

It takes time and patience and you ll most likely need to be meet or cam verified before ladies will agree to meet you .Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a real problem isn't it "

Yup!dying to find a genuine lady for us it just doesn't work.

Not sure why ladies bother to put on their profiles that they are looking for a couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll get kick up the arse now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking personally, I’ve found it difficult to find a couple where I’m attracted to both and from speaking to other single women on Fab, it seems to be the same for many of them.

There’s also the feeling that you’ll be treated as their sex toy most women want to feel like a bit more than that.

Just my own opinion of course - would be interesting to hear about other single women’s thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking personally, I’ve found it difficult to find a couple where I’m attracted to both and from speaking to other single women on Fab, it seems to be the same for many of them.

There’s also the feeling that you’ll be treated as their sex toy most women want to feel like a bit more than that.

Just my own opinion of course - would be interesting to hear about other single women’s thoughts?"

I feel the same about couples,as im extremely selective

But 99 Percent women don't even answer to messages

so can't even swap face pics.

Sure we all on here for one thing anyway,don't think any couple would treat a lady like sex toy.its more to it if you want to enjoy each other.

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By *otchick36 OP Couple
over a year ago

portlaoise

Exactly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol"

Even well established couples find it hard to find the elusive single female. You do have to be patient here.

The fact that you are only here a week and are unverifed will go against you. I am not too far away from you so happy to meet for a coffee to verify you and offer a bit of advice.

Maybe set up a couples profile and add pictures of your partner. You one picture and brief profile isn't exactly selling yourself.

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By *ittyMissKittyWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol

Even well established couples find it hard to find the elusive single female. You do have to be patient here.

The fact that you are only here a week and are unverifed will go against you. I am not too far away from you so happy to meet for a coffee to verify you and offer a bit of advice.

Maybe set up a couples profile and add pictures of your partner. You one picture and brief profile isn't exactly selling yourself. "

Precisely that. When I get a message from a female profile saying that they want to meet with their partner it makes me wonder why they won't just have a couple's profile.

Also from personal experience it is rather daunting meeting a couple alone. If you've met socially and seen how they interact together around other people it can help.

Oftentimes couples expect single females to compromise on their rules and what they are comfortable with and that's not entirely fair either

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Go to a social or THE VANILLA CLUB for a night out.

Myself, have chatted to couples

over drinks at socials, only to find they knew a woman

who'd "be perfect" for me!

...& they were right!

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I believe it's very hard to get ladies to meet couples . why don't you meet a couple. I came across ladies looking to meet couples but they all have partners that go with them

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By *leasureOrbitCouple
over a year ago

city centre

1. Add the women on here you’re interested in to you hotlist

2. Absolutely stalk their status and forum posts and watch out for when they’re going to socials / vanilla / parties / events

3. Go to said event

4. Make a point of introducing yourselves during the evening. Be friendly and polite without overdoing it (unless the two ladies have a snog / grope)

5. Walk away, saying you hope to catch up again and make sure you say your profile name multiple times

6. If you got a bit of a vibe, message them the following day asking if they’d be interested in meeting for a drink.

7. Meet for a drink, have a laugh and a bit of craic. But that’s all.

8. Message the following day asking if they’d like to meet for a play date.

9. Have said play date. Everyone has a great night and no-one feels like a piece of meat.

Rinse, wash, repeat.

Of course it isn’t really that simple, most people seem to fail at step 3, but it kinda can work

And sure if it all falls apart, there’s always tinder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Add the women on here you’re interested in to you hotlist

2. Absolutely stalk their status and forum posts and watch out for when they’re going to socials / vanilla / parties / events

3. Go to said event

4. Make a point of introducing yourselves during the evening. Be friendly and polite without overdoing it (unless the two ladies have a snog / grope)

5. Walk away, saying you hope to catch up again and make sure you say your profile name multiple times

6. If you got a bit of a vibe, message them the following day asking if they’d be interested in meeting for a drink.

7. Meet for a drink, have a laugh and a bit of craic. But that’s all.

8. Message the following day asking if they’d like to meet for a play date.

9. Have said play date. Everyone has a great night and no-one feels like a piece of meat.

Rinse, wash, repeat.

Of course it isn’t really that simple, most people seem to fail at step 3, but it kinda can work

And sure if it all falls apart, there’s always tinder!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder for couples looking for a 3sum now theres an idea.....

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By *leasureOrbitCouple
over a year ago

city centre

"1. Add the women on here you’re interested in to you hotlist

2. Absolutely stalk their status and forum posts and watch out for when they’re going to socials / vanilla / parties / events

3. Go to said event

4. Make a point of introducing yourselves during the evening. Be friendly and polite without overdoing it (unless the two ladies have a snog / grope)

5. Walk away, saying you hope to catch up again and make sure you say your profile name multiple times

6. If you got a bit of a vibe, message them the following day asking if they’d be interested in meeting for a drink.

7. Meet for a drink, have a laugh and a bit of craic. But that’s all.

8. Message the following day asking if they’d like to meet for a play date.

9. Have said play date. Everyone has a great night and no-one feels like a piece of meat.

Rinse, wash, repeat.

Of course it isn’t really that simple, most people seem to fail at step 3, but it kinda can work

And sure if it all falls apart, there’s always tinder!

Welcome to our hotlist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol"

Saying and doing are different.

Like ye I would like to take part in one, but even when swinging as a couple I have come across a lot of hostily from the female.

Plus what if you only have a connection with the wife and not the husband or the other way around. Ye understanding social first but that doesn't always help when it comes to the actual event and it just doesn't happen. Best of luck with it you never know what might happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus the amount of times that turns out that it is just the male of the couple and she is always sick on the day of the actual meet.

Club events are your best option for a 3sum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Add the women on here you’re interested in to you hotlist

2. Absolutely stalk their status and forum posts and watch out for when they’re going to socials / vanilla / parties / events

3. Go to said event

4. Make a point of introducing yourselves during the evening. Be friendly and polite without overdoing it (unless the two ladies have a snog / grope)

5. Walk away, saying you hope to catch up again and make sure you say your profile name multiple times

6. If you got a bit of a vibe, message them the following day asking if they’d be interested in meeting for a drink.

7. Meet for a drink, have a laugh and a bit of craic. But that’s all.

8. Message the following day asking if they’d like to meet for a play date.

9. Have said play date. Everyone has a great night and no-one feels like a piece of meat.

Rinse, wash, repeat.

Of course it isn’t really that simple, most people seem to fail at step 3, but it kinda can work

And sure if it all falls apart, there’s always tinder!

Welcome to our hotlist

Superb

Welcome to mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol

Even well established couples find it hard to find the elusive single female. You do have to be patient here.

The fact that you are only here a week and are unverifed will go against you. I am not too far away from you so happy to meet for a coffee to verify you and offer a bit of advice.

Maybe set up a couples profile and add pictures of your partner. You one picture and brief profile isn't exactly selling yourself. "

I absolutely agree about setting up a couples profile and add more pictures to try and attract a female to your profile, as it stands you only have one pic and your profile is very basic.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Plus the amount of times that turns out that it is just the male of the couple and she is always sick on the day of the actual meet.

Club events are your best option for a 3sum."

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...or she's

"in the shower" everytime the couple

rings "the other couple"

Heard those stories

...PRICELESS!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's that she has a guy who loves to join in but yet states she is single ..... uughh

As a previous single lady I will say I never liked how it was only photos of the lady yet the guy only messaged. It's tough enough as you want to be attracted to both the male & female without offending either

Its really like finding a unicorn lol

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By *leasureOrbitCouple
over a year ago

city centre

Single female profile who only ever meets with her fella....drowning isn’t good enough for them. But of course they doesn’t actually exist. She’s merely a fragment of some sad losers existence.

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By *oisyoctopusWoman
over a year ago

Drogheda

Single bi woman looking for couples here! I've had a good few as the guest star, as it were. Gotta say, it was easier before fab to find couples I was interested in as we'd have met socially originally.

I want to feel like part of the action, not something to cross off a bucket list. So I need to be at least faintly attracted to both, and feel that both are at least faintly attracted to me. I genuinely prefer bi women in a couple; if messaged by a couple where the woman is listed as straight I'm not interested, and I need to see that a profile has pics of both parties before messaging. But it's still better for me to get to know people in the flesh, suss out the dynamic between them and see how my spidey senses tingle!

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

"Hi looking for genuine female to join myself and my partner for a lot of pleasure finding it really difficult a lot of time wasters first time doing this and want it lol"

I'm looking for a couple so I can meet up with them but no luck what so ever

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By *ets get it on!!Man
over a year ago

west of ireland

"Tinder for couples looking for a 3sum now theres an idea....."

There already is, Feeld is name of the app. (Formally known as 3nder) its more popular in UK than here!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Speaking personally, I’ve found it difficult to find a couple where I’m attracted to both and from speaking to other single women on Fab, it seems to be the same for many of them.

There’s also the feeling that you’ll be treated as their sex toy most women want to feel like a bit more than that.

Just my own opinion of course - would be interesting to hear about other single women’s thoughts?"

This

When a couple meets, it's about their shared experience and the third party is a means to an end. You can even read that into some comments on this thread. Men and couples tend to forget that most single females don't join these sites to be objectified or used (unless that's their kink), but to fulfil their own desires and pleasures (just as men/couples do), and when anyone gets a whiff that they're a means to an end, a toy to be used or a prop because the only good sex a couple can enjoy anymore together is reclaim sex, its quite off-putting. Now before people start jumping down my throat, I'm speaking from experience. Both as a single and as someone who met as a couple. The mindset is completely different, and unless either half of a couple have ever swung as a single (not solo, but as a genuine single), they simply won't understand.

What you're looking for is a unicorn. Someone who first of all has to find you both attractive (not easy to do when only 1 person is represented on a profile), or, is prepared to 'take one for the team', if she only finds one of you attractive. She will also need to be happy with being a means to an end (as I said above, that can be a kink), or not be self-aware enough to realise that's her function. So, when you take all of that into account, you can understand why that's a very very small niche.

I hope you find what you're looking for OP, they are out there but you'll need to be very patient, and I'd suggest changing to a couple profile so that they can suss out your other half too

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

"but even when swinging as a couple I have come across a lot of hostily from the female"

Why would a woman even agree to it if she was going to behave in that way..beggars belief

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Speaking personally, I’ve found it difficult to find a couple where I’m attracted to both and from speaking to other single women on Fab, it seems to be the same for many of them.

There’s also the feeling that you’ll be treated as their sex toy most women want to feel like a bit more than that.

Just my own opinion of course - would be interesting to hear about other single women’s thoughts?"

Exactly this. So no thank you with couples

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

We prefer to get to know people a bit b4 playing, whether they be single females or a couple. Id set up a couples profile if I were you and get out to socials m&gs etc. as a couple together if you are looking for a ffm. Most single females dont want to jump into something without making sure they know what they're getting into.

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