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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Study finds mother's work on average 98hrs per week, in general going from 6.30 in morning to 8.30 at night. It's generally aimed at mother's with kids up to 12yoa. Gold stars for the mammies. It must be appreciate mammies day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about single dads?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What about single dads? "
the article i saw was about mammies hence the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your book

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your book"

fair play to you. I'll give you a medal also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People know if they have kids it is going to be hard work

What is your point?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"People know if they have kids it is going to be hard work

What is your point?"

there is no point. The thread is from an article I saw a while ago on a news story.

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By *herealgringo1Man
over a year ago

belfast

Didnt realize they got to clock off ? I thought it was a 24hr job?

Hows the kids ?

Sorry its 9pm I'm not a parent

Hahahahaha

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Didnt realize they got to clock off ? I thought it was a 24hr job?

Hows the kids ?

Sorry its 9pm I'm not a parent

Hahahahaha"

I'd say they're in the leaba, most of them.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. "
they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job. "

Again

What's your point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

Again

What's your point?"

brownie points

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

Again

What's your point?"

there is no point as I told you. What are you whinging for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

Again

What's your point?brownie points "

FAIL

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

What kind of work is mother’s work though?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? "
I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job. "

Being a mother is a job 24/7. Some women decided to sacrifice their careers and focus on their children. I am in the group of mothers who work fulltime.

Did you mean being a mother is not an occupation or its just a work to do for 20 years about for free?

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

Being a mother is a job 24/7. Some women decided to sacrifice their careers and focus on their children. I am in the group of mothers who work fulltime.

Did you mean being a mother is not an occupation or its just a work to do for 20 years about for free? "

Even when my child is grown and does not need me anymore I will still be a mother though. When spawn is sleeping I’m still a mother, when in school etc. I don’t consider the extra things a parent does for children as work. Just things that need to be done.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I’m curious what they mean about work? Im a mother and employed full time always have. I consider my job my work. Even though my child is over now even when small I did not consider being a mother a job. they I'd say consider been a mother work. It is work but it's not a job.

Being a mother is a job 24/7. Some women decided to sacrifice their careers and focus on their children. I am in the group of mothers who work fulltime.

Did you mean being a mother is not an occupation or its just a work to do for 20 years about for free? "

you often see profiles. Job occupation. I'm a full time mother. It's not an occupation imo. It's a full time position to rear your child and daily chores. I know mother's who have kids in that 5-12 bracket who also work. That's their occupation. The rearing of tbe child is something they knew they would have to do when they became pregnant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. "
that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. "
would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. "

Totally agree with you

I have a childminder. Time to time a family member visits me here and take care of my kids - their grandchildren or niece and nephew.

It is a job whatever any man can say it is not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. "

You said there was no point.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point.

You said there was no point. "

thars my point to the statement I just made re working and been a mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again? "

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again? "

Yes.... also I hear they stop washing and in general just let themselves go

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Yes.... also I hear they stop washing and in general just let themselves go"

dirty bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I appreciate your thread

I'm a single parent and I work full time also...

My day is just long and on my days off, I still have a days work at home to do....

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. "

work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Well I appreciate your thread

I'm a single parent and I work full time also...

My day is just long and on my days off, I still have a days work at home to do....

"

tough going I'd imagine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere. "

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as? "

I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I appreciate your thread

I'm a single parent and I work full time also...

My day is just long and on my days off, I still have a days work at home to do....

tough going I'd imagine "

Yes it is, and I'm not saying that a couple with children get it any less easier, but there are two people taking on the household nesescities from the bills and chores

And I'm not taking away from those single people who work longs hours, but they are going home and looking after themselves, not themselves plus other little people

Just saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for. "

Who expects you to cook and clean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as? I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for. "

Where does women in general who have kids money come from?

That’s not what your asking at all

Your asking is being a mother work.

Didn’t mention employment or money in your opening thread ( look up the definition of work )

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Well I appreciate your thread

I'm a single parent and I work full time also...

My day is just long and on my days off, I still have a days work at home to do....

tough going I'd imagine

Yes it is, and I'm not saying that a couple with children get it any less easier, but there are two people taking on the household nesescities from the bills and chores

And I'm not taking away from those single people who work longs hours, but they are going home and looking after themselves, not themselves plus other little people

Just saying "

yep I get you. Every one is diff but that's a big reason I don't have kids. Looking after myself and doing what I have to do is difficult enough.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as? I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for.

Where does women in general who have kids money come from?

That’s not what your asking at all

Your asking is being a mother work.

Didn’t mention employment or money in your opening thread ( look up the definition of work )

"

the OP is there to see. The discussion has evolved from that. One of the first few comments is on work.

"Where does women in general who have kids money come from?"

The ones who don't work in employment? The state plus the child's father if he's providing

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as? I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for.

Where does women in general who have kids money come from?

That’s not what your asking at all

Your asking is being a mother work.

Didn’t mention employment or money in your opening thread ( look up the definition of work )

the OP is there to see. The discussion has evolved from that. One of the first few comments is on work.

"Where does women in general who have kids money come from?"

The ones who don't work in employment? The state plus the child's father if he's providing "

diffs said she considers her job her work. That's what I'm on about

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Your again targeting single mothers who don’t work outside of the home I take it?

I’d love to know what your mother classed you as? I'm not targeting anybody. I'm asking where does the money come from? I work in the home. I do washing, I cook, I clean, I do the garden etc but I don't get paid for it. It's something I'm expected to do. My job is what I get paid for.

Where does women in general who have kids money come from?

That’s not what your asking at all

Your asking is being a mother work.

Didn’t mention employment or money in your opening thread ( look up the definition of work )

the OP is there to see. The discussion has evolved from that. One of the first few comments is on work.

"Where does women in general who have kids money come from?"

The ones who don't work in employment? The state plus the child's father if he's providing diffs said she considers her job her work. That's what I'm on about "

_iffa

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere. "

Of course it's work. Work isn't defined by payment, a job is, but work isn't. Sure per your definition slave labour isn't work either, cos slaves don't get paid.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Of course it’s work if it wasn’t people wouldn’t be in paid employment in child care, au pairs, nanny’s etc. I take it those that work full time either have great support or they pay for their children to be minded. that's a career. You don't get paid for looking after your own child. That's my point. would women just think, I'm pregnant now. When the child comes that's my job, I wont have to work in employment again?

Is that what I said ?

It’s work and I can’t speak for what women think when they become pregnant (I’m sure a lot actually plan their babies) with the father of the child. The other party in the process

No matter what they thought before they became pregnant that doesn’t stop it being work. Housewife is classed as an occupation though which I think is strange. work is something you're paid to do. Are you paid to rear your child? Youre not. Also I don't know the ins and outs of it but how can somebody afford to not work? Obviously money is coming from somewhere.

Of course it's work. Work isn't defined by payment, a job is, but work isn't. Sure per your definition slave labour isn't work either, cos slaves don't get paid."

ok it's work then, work you don't get paid for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They wouldn't have to work that long if they just gave up there jobs and stayed in the kitchen like the good ol days!!

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

It’s not about being paid or not being paid.

I’m a parent it’s part of who I am and with that comes responsibility, I’m not saying it’s easy to be a parent far from it. It’s worrying and tiring and you make sacrifices and second guess yourself.

Of course after a long day knowing you have to face all the dam housework is truly painful but such is life.

Coming home to a child who loved me and I think still kinda likes me unconditionally...that’s priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work full time and I’m a single full time dad with 3 kids so when do I get my brownie points but then again I never thought of having kids as work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s not about being paid or not being paid.

I’m a parent it’s part of who I am and with that comes responsibility, I’m not saying it’s easy to be a parent far from it. It’s worrying and tiring and you make sacrifices and second guess yourself.

Of course after a long day knowing you have to face all the dam housework is truly painful but such is life.

Coming home to a child who loved me and I think still kinda likes me unconditionally...that’s priceless "

Just homework lol don’t forget lunches for the next day ironing uniforms making dinner / tea bath time bedtime cleaning then once all that is done it’s time to look after yourself

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


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Of course it's work. Work isn't defined by payment, a job is, but work isn't. Sure per your definition slave labour isn't work either, cos slaves don't get paid.ok it's work then, work you don't get paid for."

it's also called houseWORK

Being a mother isn't an occupation but being a housewife/househusband/homemaker is - as far as I know - an acknowledged occupation by law especially when it comes to divorce, taxes etc. He/she stays at home and runs the household and rears the kids while the other half is the breadwinner. One enables and supports the other and vice versa. Every single parent doing both is working double shifts imo.

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over a year ago


"

Of course it's work. Work isn't defined by payment, a job is, but work isn't. Sure per your definition slave labour isn't work either, cos slaves don't get paid.ok it's work then, work you don't get paid for.

it's also called houseWORK

Being a mother isn't an occupation but being a housewife/househusband/homemaker is - as far as I know - an acknowledged occupation by law especially when it comes to divorce, taxes etc. He/she stays at home and runs the household and rears the kids while the other half is the breadwinner. One enables and supports the other and vice versa. Every single parent doing both is working double shifts imo. "

This

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By *iktikiCouple
over a year ago

cork


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc "

Do you have kids?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?"

no and hopefully never have them either.

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over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either. "

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday!

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! "

lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

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over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't. "

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? "

no just stating common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense. "

No

Just stating your opinion, as always

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

No

Just stating your opinion, as always"

it's actually common sense. Some people think they deserve handout after handout from the state.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense. "

Means testing people for children's allowance is a legal mine field with no simple solution, every parent regardless of their situation is entitled to it, and I think you'll find if it was to be implemented the savings to the state would be mimimal compared to the costs of implementing such measures

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

every parent regardless of their situation is entitled to it"

They shouldn't be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

No

Just stating your opinion, as alwaysit's actually common sense. Some people think they deserve handout after handout from the state."

Well I agree with you there

But why pick on mothers?

I am not one btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

every parent regardless of their situation is entitled to itThey shouldn't be. "

Thats your opinion, the fact is they are

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

every parent regardless of their situation is entitled to itThey shouldn't be.

Thats your opinion, the fact is they are "

exactly

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What kind of work is mother’s work though? I'd imagine they mean constant looking after of kids, daily chores etc

Do you have kids?no and hopefully never have them either.

So you have no idea about being parent

My grandma used to say: better stay quiet if you do not know what are you talking about...

Most of your threads sound like complaining for everything. Seriously! Maybe you should become a volunteer in any of the charity organisations, go to the Africa and see how lucky you are?

In my opinion you are constant unhappy and unmatured man. I may be wrong. Happy Saturday! lol I deal with kids on a daily basis. Here we speak about mother's. Raising a child is work but it's something you knew was coming once you fell pregnant. Is having a child a reason not to work in paid employment? In my opinion it's not. Should children's allowance in equal measure be given to all mother's regardless of circumstances? Again in my opinion it shouldn't.

Your talents are lost here, did you ever consider a career in politics? no just stating common sense.

No

Just stating your opinion, as alwaysit's actually common sense. Some people think they deserve handout after handout from the state.

Well I agree with you there

But why pick on mothers?

I am not one btw "

because we're talking about mother's since the threads op.

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over a year ago

The thread is heading away from what it started out as but it’s one thing the grates on me it the fact that children’s allowance is equal and a lot of people get a lot a stuff for doing nothing. Now there is no point attacking me I know everyone circumstances are different so I’m not targeting everyone . For example I am average pay €470 a week tax and last Saturday I was in the K Doc with my youngest it cost me €70 for the doctor and another €40 on prescription. The man sitting to me was telling me in conversation that it will cost him nothing to see the doc and €2 for his prescription and I’m sitting there thinking to myself that I’m paying for that. People in this country should not be given money directly it should be vouchers for food and clothes and vouchers for bills . My cousin and his wife do not work there is nothing wrong with them they have four kids both have cars and mobile in Wexford and two holidays a year. That should not be allowed after all it’s tax payers money

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"Any job you can do in your pyjamas is not a difficult job" - Bill Burr

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"The thread is heading away from what it started out as but it’s one thing the grates on me it the fact that children’s allowance is equal and a lot of people get a lot a stuff for doing nothing. Now there is no point attacking me I know everyone circumstances are different so I’m not targeting everyone . For example I am average pay €470 a week tax and last Saturday I was in the K Doc with my youngest it cost me €70 for the doctor and another €40 on prescription. The man sitting to me was telling me in conversation that it will cost him nothing to see the doc and €2 for his prescription and I’m sitting there thinking to myself that I’m paying for that. People in this country should not be given money directly it should be vouchers for food and clothes and vouchers for bills . My cousin and his wife do not work there is nothing wrong with them they have four kids both have cars and mobile in Wexford and two holidays a year. That should not be allowed after all it’s tax payers money "

Thats a broad sweeping statement but some of it rings true for sure.

I know a guy who is an expert at riding the system, himself and his partner have sun holidays every year, 2 cars etc and he has on several occasions told me how and what he does to get handouts, hasn't worked in 10yrs because of a disability (he broke his ankle and is in constant pain) he has a neck like a jockies bollox! Fooker plays footi qith me every Thursday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about single dads? "

Thank You Ma'am !! We're a very neglected bunch .

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"The thread is heading away from what it started out as but it’s one thing the grates on me it the fact that children’s allowance is equal"
for everyone. Spot on . There is people screwing the system right left and centre and it's wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thread is heading away from what it started out as but it’s one thing the grates on me it the fact that children’s allowance is equalfor everyone. Spot on . There is people screwing the system right left and centre and it's wrong "

Yes but we are missing the point here

There are people screwing the benefits system - no doubt about it

But parents are not if you are referring to the children's allowanc, as it is not means tested and available to all

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"But parents are not if you are referring to the children's allowanc, as it is not means tested and available to all"
it shouldn't be, that's my point. No way should you be getting a Payment for having x amount of kids imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But parents are not if you are referring to the children's allowanc, as it is not means tested and available to allit shouldn't be, that's my point. No way should you be getting a Payment for having x amount of kids imo"

Why didn't you say that in the first place then, if that was the point of this thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I know is I hate paying for people who purposely screw the system

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"But parents are not if you are referring to the children's allowanc, as it is not means tested and available to allit shouldn't be, that's my point. No way should you be getting a Payment for having x amount of kids imo

Why didn't you say that in the first place then, if that was the point of this thread"

it wasn't but working came into the convo and then that led onto the discussion of what mother's do for money who are not in paid employment. The answer is the state.

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over a year ago

Children Allowance helps with raring your family. And every woman is entitled to it.As the president and the wives of our TDS.

It is also the main wage for the bills along with other benefits they are entitled to.

Yes it is work, just because you are not paid. As in all that a parent does is what others go into as careers. Just this wage is pure love.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"Children Allowance helps with raring your family. And every woman is entitled to it.As the president and the wives of our TDS.

It is also the main wage for the bills along with other benefits they are entitled to.

Yes it is work, just because you are not paid. As in all that a parent does is what others go into as careers. Just this wage is pure love."

I disagree. If you're a single mother out there for e.g. whose working in a job getting a good wage, you can well afford looking after your child, you don't need handouts. My simple outlook. If you expect/need handout after handout don't get pregnant. Don't have child after child. You then have women with kids, rolling buggies around (I live in a town i see it daily) who have no intention in the wide eartly world of getting a job. Why? How can they afford stuff for their child/dren? Food, clothes etc... I'll tell you how, the state. So finally, should the state give out money like children's allowance etc? I'm probably been mean saying they shouldn't but it most certainly should be means tested and most certainly should be given out in different ways then cash into the hand.

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over a year ago

What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

"

my above post sums everything up imo.

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By *c90Man
over a year ago

Noiseville

Seems like some are conservative on politics, but socialist in sex....

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over a year ago


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo. "

Which post?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

Which post?"

the post before yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op I think u are generalizing this. I do agree with most things u say as in hand outs and people screwing the system but u have to remember there are a lot of people that get in situation through no fault of their own. A happy couple with kids and the husband cheats and moves out. It’s common knowledge that most men when they separate pay little or no maintenance and some don’t even bother seeing their kids . Or heaven forbid the husband dies from an illness and like most people the recession screwed over a lot of people who in their life time payed a lot of tax to the state.

But I do however believe that if people are in these situations then they definitely should consider not having more kids also the ones that are definitely 100% screwing the system should not be handed money directly. As much as I feel sorry for their kids and there kids are in the situation through no fault of their own but they should not be allowed drive cars or go on holidays they should be only given enough money to get by comfortably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?"

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting".

I worked full time when my son was small and got some help from the state but I never was flush for money. And I don't know many single parents on high paying wages? I'm only earning a decent wage now but I work silly hours, 2hr commute everyday and my son is in college and we are living of my wage.

I pay my taxes, have done since I was 16 and started working, I never was well off at any stage, anything I bought was hard earned and anytime I looked for anything if the state the way I was made feel when asking for help was awful. I didn't set out to be a single parent, not the life I wanted or would have wanted for my son. But his "dad" walked away from day 1 and has never had a thing to do with his son. Never paid a penny to his upbringing.

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over a year ago


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting".

I worked full time when my son was small and got some help from the state but I never was flush for money. And I don't know many single parents on high paying wages? I'm only earning a decent wage now but I work silly hours, 2hr commute everyday and my son is in college and we are living of my wage.

I pay my taxes, have done since I was 16 and started working, I never was well off at any stage, anything I bought was hard earned and anytime I looked for anything if the state the way I was made feel when asking for help was awful. I didn't set out to be a single parent, not the life I wanted or would have wanted for my son. But his "dad" walked away from day 1 and has never had a thing to do with his son. Never paid a penny to his upbringing.

"

I'd give up Steph

He obviously has a bee in his bonnet about unworking mothers and won't listen to anything anyone else has to say

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over a year ago


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting".

I worked full time when my son was small and got some help from the state but I never was flush for money. And I don't know many single parents on high paying wages? I'm only earning a decent wage now but I work silly hours, 2hr commute everyday and my son is in college and we are living of my wage.

I pay my taxes, have done since I was 16 and started working, I never was well off at any stage, anything I bought was hard earned and anytime I looked for anything if the state the way I was made feel when asking for help was awful. I didn't set out to be a single parent, not the life I wanted or would have wanted for my son. But his "dad" walked away from day 1 and has never had a thing to do with his son. Never paid a penny to his upbringing.

I'd give up Steph

He obviously has a bee in his bonnet about unworking mothers and won't listen to anything anyone else has to say"

Which is a shame cause a closed minded person is in my opinion a horrible person u need to understand that every situation is different and u can’t tar everyone with the same brush

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting"."

There is mother's walking around daily with buggies. I know these women aint married. I live in a town. What do they do for money? There is single mothers out there, when have a child/dren have no interest in going out and doing what most people do, work in paid employment. They get their money from the state plus maybe some from the child's daddy. If that's enough to live on, there is something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Children Allowance helps with raring your family. And every woman is entitled to it.As the president and the wives of our TDS.

It is also the main wage for the bills along with other benefits they are entitled to.

Yes it is work, just because you are not paid. As in all that a parent does is what others go into as careers. Just this wage is pure love.I disagree. If you're a single mother out there for e.g. whose working in a job getting a good wage, you can well afford looking after your child, you don't need handouts. My simple outlook. If you expect/need handout after handout don't get pregnant. Don't have child after child. You then have women with kids, rolling buggies around (I live in a town i see it daily) who have no intention in the wide eartly world of getting a job. Why? How can they afford stuff for their child/dren? Food, clothes etc... I'll tell you how, the state. So finally, should the state give out money like children's allowance etc? I'm probably been mean saying they shouldn't but it most certainly should be means tested and most certainly should be given out in different ways then cash into the hand. "

I am a single how mother on a very good wage, I work my ass of to raise my child and I get nothing handed to me. I pay rent, car, all bills and child care. At the end of the month I do be dame greatfull of that €140 children's allowance because it means I might actually be able to have a night out for myself or if my child needs something I can get it.

Just because you are a single mother doesn't mean you get everything handed to you. Like everyone else it is means tested. I don't get free medical care, I don't get help with my rent. I don't get family income support because I am on a good wage.

Don't tarnish all single parents with the one brush we all don't get hand outs. And yes everyone should be entitled to child benefit. Why should working class people loss out on everything.

Yes some people screw the state but that's part of life and if you know they are screwing the state them why don't you do something about it and report the people who are that you know of.

People need to learn what's not person ally effecting you is none of your dame business

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By *oserMan
over a year ago

where the wild roses grow


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting".There is mother's walking around daily with buggies. I know these women aint married. I live in a town. What do they do for money? There is single mothers out there, when have a child/dren have no interest in going out and doing what most people do, work in paid employment. They get their money from the state plus maybe some from the child's daddy. If that's enough to live on, there is something wrong. "

I'm a Dad,

I can tell you without C/A I would be fooked,

I'm a parent of 4 teens, she had little or nothing to do with them for the last 10 yrs , if I was means tested Id be fooked because I have a well paying job so on paper Im on the pigs back, if only that were true!

All my money is tied up in mortgage, clothing,food, school fees loans etc. That childrens allowance keeps our heads above water.

Yes there are young single mums out there who are still at home with scratch money and childrens allowance and they believe they are milking the system but that is short term!

Eventually mam and dad will expect them to move on. If they have life goals they are in a very hard place now - whether we agree or not the child/ren / baggage they have will make that soo much harder to achieve.

Its a vicious cycle

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your book"

Only difference is that You get paid for your work..

Mummies doesnt ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your book

Only difference is that You get paid for your work..

Mummies doesnt .."

My comment was a dig at the op and in no way at mothers

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"What is it with you and single mums?

I'm a single parent and I've worked since I had my son. In the 24 yes I've afforded 3 holidays at the most and even than I watched every Penney I had. Yes there are plenty using the system but let's be honest plenty of people are using the system. Stop tarring us all with the same brush. I'd like to see how you feel if you had a kid and were pacing the floor at 4am with a screaming baby with no support or anyone to help you.

my above post sums everything up imo.

He means hes post just above ur one

Which post?

Well good luck to anyone living of the state because I don't know how they do it, they obviously aren't "single parenting".There is mother's walking around daily with buggies. I know these women aint married. I live in a town. What do they do for money? There is single mothers out there, when have a child/dren have no interest in going out and doing what most people do, work in paid employment. They get their money from the state plus maybe some from the child's daddy. If that's enough to live on, there is something wrong.

I'm a Dad,

I can tell you without C/A I would be fooked,

I'm a parent of 4 teens, she had little or nothing to do with them for the last 10 yrs , if I was means tested Id be fooked because I have a well paying job so on paper Im on the pigs back, if only that were true!

All my money is tied up in mortgage, clothing,food, school fees loans etc. That childrens allowance keeps our heads above water.

Yes there are young single mums out there who are still at home with scratch money and childrens allowance and they believe they are milking the system but that is short term!

Eventually mam and dad will expect them to move on. If they have life goals they are in a very hard place now - whether we agree or not the child/ren / baggage they have will make that soo much harder to achieve.

Its a vicious cycle

"

your 2 last paragraphs are spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your book"

get over your self

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwilly OP   Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"I'm not a mammie but I work a 60 hour week

No medals for that either in your bookget over your self "

Geordie doesn't need babies, she just needs Galway cock.

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

I dont class minding my children as a job, they my children...I have 3 children in saying that oldest is 22 my youngest is 12 but my middle daughter is fast approaching 21 with special needs.... I dont get children's allowance for older two..but I dont believe it should be means tested, kids ain't exempt from doctors or medical care only if parents are medical card users. Education for kids especially secondary and above is not one bit cheap. So in one sense the children's allowance is a help it not benefiting the child that much from working parents.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Absolutely disgusted at the attitudes on this thread towards single mothers and people who use the welfare system. Taking digs at disadvantaged groups is the lowest of the low.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely disgusted at the attitudes on this thread towards single mothers and people who use the welfare system. Taking digs at disadvantaged groups is the lowest of the low. "

Some attitudes are not nice. Also it’s not really the place to discuss things of this nature. It’s impossible for anyone to give a correct opinion about this when it’s impossible to know peoples circumstances.

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Absolutely disgusted at the attitudes on this thread towards single mothers and people who use the welfare system. Taking digs at disadvantaged groups is the lowest of the low.

Some attitudes are not nice. Also it’s not really the place to discuss things of this nature. It’s impossible for anyone to give a correct opinion about this when it’s impossible to know peoples circumstances. "

I was talking about your attitude, specifically, amongst others.

There is no such thing as a "correct opinion". I'd worry more about being a decent empathetic human being, and less about being correct.

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

Exactly how many children do you have again OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely disgusted at the attitudes on this thread towards single mothers and people who use the welfare system. Taking digs at disadvantaged groups is the lowest of the low.

Some attitudes are not nice. Also it’s not really the place to discuss things of this nature. It’s impossible for anyone to give a correct opinion about this when it’s impossible to know peoples circumstances.

I was talking about your attitude, specifically, amongst others.

There is no such thing as a "correct opinion". I'd worry more about being a decent empathetic human being, and less about being correct. "

We must be reading different quotes cause I don’t think I’ve said anything wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Absolutely disgusted at the attitudes on this thread towards single mothers and people who use the welfare system. Taking digs at disadvantaged groups is the lowest of the low.

Some attitudes are not nice. Also it’s not really the place to discuss things of this nature. It’s impossible for anyone to give a correct opinion about this when it’s impossible to know peoples circumstances.

I was talking about your attitude, specifically, amongst others.

There is no such thing as a "correct opinion". I'd worry more about being a decent empathetic human being, and less about being correct. "

Blocked how immature you are. Just cause u don’t like someone’s opinions even though I think my opinions were pretty good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op as usual is looking for exactly what he’s got I’m just mad at myself for biting.

I’ll be ignoring his posts in the future

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