FabSwingers.com forum: Age restrictions

By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

I’ve lately been considering broadening my age restrictions because I’ve met some lovely people at socials that couldn’t message me because they were either just too old/young. What I’m wondering is do people find this happens a lot? Or am I better off sticking with what I have on my profile and just enjoy when I come across a surprise at a social?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find you come across this issue regularly then it might be time to extend the age gaps, but at the same time it's all about how comfortable you would be to get contact from people of those ages.

I like to keep mine relatively open as Im still not 100% what my age limit would be, I just know that anyone over 60 isn't for me

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"If you find you come across this issue regularly then it might be time to extend the age gaps, but at the same time it's all about how comfortable you would be to get contact from people of those ages.

I like to keep mine relatively open as Im still not 100% what my age limit would be, I just know that anyone over 60 isn't for me "

Good answer from someone who’s profile is one of the ones that makes me question my restrictions. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a preference stated on our profile, but don't block others from messaging us. It would be unusual for us to consider meeting someone a lot older/younger than the preferred range, depends entirely on the person themselves though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good answer from someone who’s profile is one of the ones that makes me question my restrictions. Lol

Oh really?

funny you should say that, I've tried on more than one occasion to send a message to you

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

When I was actively meeting I had strict age preferences. But I did meet people at Socials for whom I subsequently ignored those preferences to meet again. I briefly adjusted my age limits, but quickly switched them back again after a flood of mail from men. I'd rather run into the odd exception to the rule at a social event where I know right away that we click, than deal with a slew of mail from men who aren't really what I'm looking for in the vague hope of finding one or two who might.

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"When I was actively meeting I had strict age preferences. But I did meet people at Socials for whom I subsequently ignored those preferences to meet again. I briefly adjusted my age limits, but quickly switched them back again after a flood of mail from men. I'd rather run into the odd exception to the rule at a social event where I know right away that we click, than deal with a slew of mail from men who aren't really what I'm looking for in the vague hope of finding one or two who might."

Yeah. This is what would worry me about changing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of restrictions fall to the wayside after meeting at socials

I've never really understood how someone could decide that 46 was out while 45 was in but maybe it does limit the spam. That said, once you are looking at all on here the net should be spread wide.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now and then I take that filter off only to be bombarded by older than my preference sleazy gents even tho I made it clear in my profile that my age preference is quite strict. Most of them just send the sleazy messages for the sake of sending them. And it's really sad as I have bet some fantastic people at the socials...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"A lot of restrictions fall to the wayside after meeting at socials

You know all those women who complain about getting too much mail to read and put up status messages about having to bulk delete? Those. Those are the ones who can't decide 46 is too old but 45 is OK. They are the ones who's profiles say they will meet anyone between the ages of 18 and 99. For the realists among us who don't have the time and don't want to pick through hundreds of messages to find a few nuggets of gold, we have a little think about what it is we actually like in a man, an approximate age, maybe a physical build or height, whether he smokes, whether he accommodates, and build our filters (both active and secondary ones) around that. Yes, maybe we might miss out on one or two rough diamonds because of it, but we might run into them at a social anyway. Personally, for me, filters just make Fab more manageable

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

If you knocked off the age filter, then friended them, I think ye might be able to chat away afterwards. Not 100% sure but I think that worked for me at one stage.

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By *rsmiley69Man
over a year ago

Cavan Monaghan

I leave mine fairly open some older ladies can be as sexy an fun as some younger ones, luckily I don’t get bombarded with messages or should that be unluckily !!! The only thing I restrict are men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve lately been considering broadening my age restrictions because I’ve met some lovely people at socials that couldn’t message me because they were either just too old/young. What I’m wondering is do people find this happens a lot? Or am I better off sticking with what I have on my profile and just enjoy when I come across a surprise at a social? "

Go for 18-99 like most of the men here. They've all bases covered

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

Even if you take your filters off you can still set your age range and if someone messages you then they get a warning that they may not get a reply.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Even if you take your filters off you can still set your age range and if someone messages you then they get a warning that they may not get a reply. "

Jaysus, I'd rip the filters off ya if I got half a chance.

Sorry, carry on. I got a bit carried away there

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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago

wherever

"Even if you take your filters off you can still set your age range and if someone messages you then they get a warning that they may not get a reply.

Jaysus, I'd rip the filters off ya if I got half a chance.

Sorry, carry on. I got a bit carried away there

Na I’m one of the rude ones who has no problem deleting and not replying

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By *imandher33Couple
over a year ago

Blanchardstown

Were finding alot of women have limits set at 35+ so we cant even say hi

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

"Were finding alot of women have limits set at 35+ so we cant even say hi

But if they're not interested in under 35 why would you want to say hi? Would you not prefer to say hi to people you are mutually compatible with?

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I have age brackets on my profile but don’t block people of any age messaging me. You just never know.

I met a 21 yr old a while back that knocked my socks off and I’m glad I didn’t have blocks in place or I would have missed out on that amazing experience.

Open them up.. you never know.

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By *ombikerMan
over a year ago

the right side of the river

Age is just a number. Some people in their 50s are in better shape than those in their 20s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have age brackets on my profile but don’t block people of any age messaging me. You just never know.

I met a 21 yr old a while back that knocked my socks off and I’m glad I didn’t have blocks in place or I would have missed out on that amazing experience.

Open them up.. you never know.

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Fair play to you that's the way to do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 47 (true age) and regard myself very fit for it.

I've seen a few profiles, read them even the veries and pics, clicked to send message and not allowed.

Age restriction 45.

ohh you not serious ?

Start again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 47 (true age) and regard myself very fit for it.

I've seen a few profiles, read them even the veries and pics, clicked to send message and not allowed.

Age restriction 45.

ohh you not serious ?

Start again."

I know mines that to stop the 60 something 47 yr olds from looking to meet.. I still accept messages from all ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is such a great mix of people out there of all ages I dont see any point in restricting myself.

You might not ever meet them but its worth takibg a few chances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is such a great mix of people out there of all ages I dont see any point in restricting myself.

You might not ever meet them but its worth takibg a few chances"

For the females and couples it's just another way of filtering, nothing stopping us messaging someone outside our specified range that we like the look of

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By *now_and_SunCouple
over a year ago

North Dublin

We would rather age up then down. I mean twenties or early thirties, would remind you of you children.

just saying.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Ive mine set at 25-40 but ive messages profiles ouside of these filters often if they catch my eye

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Ours are only guidelines ,if a profile catches our eye for whatever reason ,we ll let them know we re interested

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By *now_and_SunCouple
over a year ago

North Dublin

"Ours are only guidelines ,if a profile catches our eye for whatever reason ,we ll let them know we re interested

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By *now_and_SunCouple
over a year ago

North Dublin

"Ive mine set at 25-40 but ive messages profiles ouside of these filters often if they catch my eye

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what’s you stance on cuckqueening

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm 47 (true age) and regard myself very fit for it.

I've seen a few profiles, read them even the veries and pics, clicked to send message and not allowed.

Age restriction 45.

ohh you not serious ?

Start again."

Sometimes age restrictions have a very valid reason. I don't meet anyone more than 15 years younger than me with the intention of playing (I do meet them socially). Why? Because I come from a large, extended family and wouldn't even know the names of most of my various cousins' kids, never mind what they look like... Last thing I want to do is have a 'you've never met my eldest, Tom, before, have you?' situation at some uncle's funeral

. As for upper limits... historically, I've simply rarely been physically attracted to anyone my own age or older. I'm just not wired that way, and can't help that. Older guys forcing the issue with 'older the fiddle' messages or arguing that they're just as fit, young at heart and have just as much stamina as any 30 year old and that I don't know what I'm missing out on, really don't help the situation.... Think of trying to force a toddler to eat something they don't like.... Yeah... That's my face. You can't force attraction folks and that's why we have preferences

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Op u do know if u mail someone even those outside ur preferences they can then mail u at any stage

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By *adylace OP Woman
over a year ago

Waterford City

"Op u do know if u mail someone even those outside ur preferences they can then mail u at any stage

I do indeed. I’m currently having a lovely chat with someone outside my age range.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

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Depends on what you're on Fab for

For a woman

here looking for a match to meet amidst 300 mails, filters & age restrictions make sense. For a man here who might get 2 to 12 messages a day, the same dilemma doesn't exist

For me, I love the social aspect and chatting to people so I try not restrict anybody ...but everyone to their own

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

I've changed mine recently too for the same reasons lady but I'm thinking I should go up a little more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the mail filter set on mine to stop people below the range messaging. Every now and again I'll take it off thinking I'm missing out. Doesn't take long before I get a swift reminder of why I set it in first place. I'm a gluten for punishment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have the mail filter set on mine to stop people below the range messaging. Every now and again I'll take it off thinking I'm missing out. Doesn't take long before I get a swift reminder of why I set it in first place. I'm a gluten for punishment. "

Mail?.. what’s that ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make your profile work for you, OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mail?.. what’s that ?"

That's the thing that comes before phone chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mail?.. what’s that ?

That's the thing that comes before phone chat

Phone chat?.. now Uve really lost me lol

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

Mail?.. what’s that ?

That's the thing that comes before phone chat

Phone chat?.. now Uve really lost me lol"

Your just kidding here right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mail?.. what’s that ?

That's the thing that comes before phone chat

Phone chat?.. now Uve really lost me lol

Your just kidding here right

Sort of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So old I've forgotten what restriction means now

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

"So old I've forgotten what restriction means now

Restriction = tieing her to the bed

Foreplay =brace yourself Nora

Satisfaction = is that it

Put them all together sur u have mindblowing sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So old I've forgotten what restriction means now

Restriction = tieing her to the bed

Foreplay =brace yourself Nora

Satisfaction = is that it

Put them all together sur u have mindblowing sex

Restriction; only women with a pulse

Foreplay; charades?

Satisfaction; I’ve just cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So old I've forgotten what restriction means now

Restriction = tieing her to the bed

Foreplay =brace yourself Nora

Satisfaction = is that it

Put them all together sur u have mindblowing sex

I've obviously lost my touch. Need to find that pump again and patch those holes.

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

Can be kinda frustrating when I fall outside someone's age limits by a year or two, as I like to think I look younger than my age, but that's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can be kinda frustrating when I fall outside someone's age limits by a year or two, as I like to think I look younger than my age, but that's life. "

Don't we all

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By *Belfast_FellaMan
over a year ago

belfast

"Can be kinda frustrating when I fall outside someone's age limits by a year or two, as I like to think I look younger than my age, but that's life.

Don't we all

This is true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 47 (true age) and regard myself very fit for it.

I've seen a few profiles, read them even the veries and pics, clicked to send message and not allowed.

Age restriction 45.

ohh you not serious ?

Start again."

Omg , spotted 2 more ladies I'd love to meet but I'm out by just 2 yrs , gggrrrrrrr

Seriously hot ladies and yes I did read their profile text , I ticked all the boxes, just 2 yrs out

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