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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane

You'd think that finding a regular playmate, fck buddy or friends with benefits would be easy enough on here but it sounds like everyone is struggling ?

If that's what you after join the post and sweet if we can pair each other up.

#CillaBlack ??

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

well there is a lady up your neck of the woods looking for the same thing . I thought you would have seen her .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's actually unreal hard. To find someone you click with and live close by would be ideal.

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane


"well there is a lady up your neck of the woods looking for the same thing . I thought you would have seen her . "

Names names sar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Near impossible...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's actually unreal hard. To find someone you click with and live close by would be ideal. "

Agreed, for whatever reason my best "friends" on here have pretty much been from outside the pale....

Then again, you can get too much of a good thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am finding it impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's actually unreal hard. To find someone you click with and live close by would be ideal. "

Or you might be outside their age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's alot harder than u think.. The chemistry has to be right for it to work and like others say distance has to be right.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford

I never taught it would be this hard to find..

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane

Given all the responses I'm going to have to relocate ??

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I was lucky enough to have met someone on here we got paired up on a fun forum thread last summer hes since left fab over the Christmas but we still meet up every wk or two

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep still looking too

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

It’s an ideal situation for most here

But it’s fun checking for that connection also

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

It does happen. Sometimes when you least expect it

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun

At this point, I'd even be delighted to have a lovely pillow princess.

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"At this point, I'd even be delighted to have a lovely pillow princess. "

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun


"At this point, I'd even be delighted to have a lovely pillow princess.

"

Well if you're offering.

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane


"Yep still looking too "

Let's find steph a Sligo Stud

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...


"At this point, I'd even be delighted to have a lovely pillow princess.

Well if you're offering. "

Is there a crown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep still looking too

Let's find steph a Sligo Stud "

Good luck with that might want to widen the search

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane


"Yep still looking too

Let's find steph a Sligo Stud

Good luck with that might want to widen the search "

And myself a Donegal Damsel

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By *appyPandaMan
over a year ago

Kilkenny, but Dublin is more fun


"At this point, I'd even be delighted to have a lovely pillow princess.

Well if you're offering.

Is there a crown "

Of course, and a good throne as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m same anyone new I find is to close or other end of country x still hoping mr close and hot enough will pop up lol. (Still have a few old Fb that I can call upon) but I do like a bit of strange lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a fwb in the past and it suited great.

Finding another one that I have the right chemistry with is looking for the proverbial needle......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy as many say but there are a lot more factors than just local and mutual attraction. Sometimes available is overlooked or underestimated or accommodation often an issue too.

I cannot accommodate so that rules out many at a swift stroke. Age is another big factor as I'm to quote a lady on here, 'a dust collector'. Nope she didn't reach high enough to that top shelf lmao. But seriously though they are there if you're patient enough, I've been fortunate enough though and have met a few and been able to keep a couple but it's taken time. Loosing one dies make it harder to replace though.

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By *arewell HornyhootersWoman
over a year ago

South Donegal


"And myself a Donegal Damsel "

Cough cough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Near impossible..."
Impossible to replace, we should forget ages as that will open up bigger avenue, that we can both play in and could still enjoy platonic ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Near impossible...Impossible to replace, we should forget ages as that will open up bigger avenue, that we can both play in and could still enjoy platonic ourselves "

Basically forget our preferences and standards and just become regular with anyone that comes along.

No thanks, I'm horny, not desperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Near impossible...Impossible to replace, we should forget ages as that will open up bigger avenue, that we can both play in and could still enjoy platonic ourselves

Basically forget our preferences and standards and just become regular with anyone that comes along.

No thanks, I'm horny, not desperate "

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I think part of it is that we are all just online profiles here at first glance.

And let's be honest, most of us, if not all, just show what we want to be seen so there's nothing to say that we are who we say we are. I'm not suggesting that anybody on here isn't genuine but I'm not going to take the word of any internet profile without building some form of trust and I'd imagine that many others, and perhaps more so the ladies, would feel the same.

Simply stating you're a decent genuine guy or gall isn't gonna cut it. You need to show it and it can be difficult when you don't communicate face to face. After all, words are just words, your body language is what communicates.

It is what it is.

You either just get on with it or you spend your energy moaning about it.

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford

The person who said patients is a virtue, needs to get a slap !

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I wonder is actively looking for a regular playmate/fwb part of the problem? Could it be that someone considering meeting a man or woman who is actively looking for an FWB might feel pressured. If you're meeting someone for the first time and just getting to know them, should it not just be relaxed and see how it goes, without expectation? And from the other perspective, if you're actively looking for your perfect FWB, and you meet someone but find that they aren't what you're looking for in an FWB, won't they feel annoyed or misled?

I know it's easy for me to say these things. I've been incredibly lucky and I know that. I've had 2 wonderful fwbs over the years who have made me smile, laugh, and orgasm more times than I can say But both of them became my FWB gradually, without either of us really noticing. I'm with my current FWB almost 3 years now (next month is our bangiversary lol) and tbh we're both still as wild about each other as we were when we first met. He still thinks my Scooby Doo impression is woeful and I still think he drives like a lunatic, but what we have works perfectly, and if it doesn't fizzle out in the next few years, we'll probably end up visiting each other's nursing homes and one of us having to be untied by orderlies after the other has fallen off the bed and broken a hip

As I said before... It'll just happen when you least expect it. You'll meet someone once, then again, and again.... They'll become your friend... With benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder is actively looking for a regular playmate/fwb part of the problem? Could it be that someone considering meeting a man or woman who is actively looking for an FWB might feel pressured. If you're meeting someone for the first time and just getting to know them, should it not just be relaxed and see how it goes, without expectation? And from the other perspective, if you're actively looking for your perfect FWB, and you meet someone but find that they aren't what you're looking for in an FWB, won't they feel annoyed or misled?

I know it's easy for me to say these things. I've been incredibly lucky and I know that. I've had 2 wonderful fwbs over the years who have made me smile, laugh, and orgasm more times than I can say But both of them became my FWB gradually, without either of us really noticing. I'm with my current FWB almost 3 years now (next month is our bangiversary lol) and tbh we're both still as wild about each other as we were when we first met. He still thinks my Scooby Doo impression is woeful and I still think he drives like a lunatic, but what we have works perfectly, and if it doesn't fizzle out in the next few years, we'll probably end up visiting each other's nursing homes and one of us having to be untied by orderlies after the other has fallen off the bed and broken a hip

As I said before... It'll just happen when you least expect it. You'll meet someone once, then again, and again.... They'll become your friend... With benefits "

You’re totally right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder is actively looking for a regular playmate/fwb part of the problem? Could it be that someone considering meeting a man or woman who is actively looking for an FWB might feel pressured. If you're meeting someone for the first time and just getting to know them, should it not just be relaxed and see how it goes, without expectation? And from the other perspective, if you're actively looking for your perfect FWB, and you meet someone but find that they aren't what you're looking for in an FWB, won't they feel annoyed or misled?

I know it's easy for me to say these things. I've been incredibly lucky and I know that. I've had 2 wonderful fwbs over the years who have made me smile, laugh, and orgasm more times than I can say But both of them became my FWB gradually, without either of us really noticing. I'm with my current FWB almost 3 years now (next month is our bangiversary lol) and tbh we're both still as wild about each other as we were when we first met. He still thinks my Scooby Doo impression is woeful and I still think he drives like a lunatic, but what we have works perfectly, and if it doesn't fizzle out in the next few years, we'll probably end up visiting each other's nursing homes and one of us having to be untied by orderlies after the other has fallen off the bed and broken a hip

As I said before... It'll just happen when you least expect it. You'll meet someone once, then again, and again.... They'll become your friend... With benefits

You’re totally right! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the secret is to not look for a fwb ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the secret is to not look for a fwb ffs. "

I think you need to be active to find one, but anything can happen at any time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have wondered though if having, looking for a regular Feb puts many off even messaging at times. Then again if I see someones profile and they have 2or 3 new meets every week I know they're not interested in a regular so don't bother even if they look interesting and may like their profile.

What's in you're profile does effect consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems to be a very slow burner here, got a couple of socials in the last week so headed the right direction. Distance not an issue for me but it would be nice to find someone I connect with close by. Think the sheer volumes make it hard for the guys to get a conversation going to begin with and to keep it going and hard for the ladies to filter through to guys that interests them.

You just got to be patient and hope you get there in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have wondered though if having, looking for a regular Feb puts many off even messaging at times. Then again if I see someones profile and they have 2or 3 new meets every week I know they're not interested in a regular so don't bother even if they look interesting and may like their profile.

What's in you're profile does effect consideration."

I'm looking for a FWB but what do you call regular with the hours I work would probably be twice a month at most and that's been proactive at meeting up. Think interest wains than.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Impossible for us guys that’s for sure . You think I’ve found someone , have great sex, planning to go again and the glowing veri they get smothers them with thousands of offers and you become yesterdays man. Onwards and upwards

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

I know a few here its happened too hang in there everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It seems to be a very slow burner here, got a couple of socials in the last week so headed the right direction. Distance not an issue for me but it would be nice to find someone I connect with close by. Think the sheer volumes make it hard for the guys to get a conversation going to begin with and to keep it going and hard for the ladies to filter through to guys that interests them.

You just got to be patient and hope you get there in the end "

Slow burner isn't bad though. I've got a meet planned but no date arranged as yet due to distance and also work commitments. Shell be worth restraining though and hopefully repeat meets will be bit easier than arranging the first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Impossible for us guys that’s for sure . You think I’ve found someone , have great sex, planning to go again and the glowing veri they get smothers them with thousands of offers and you become yesterdays man. Onwards and upwards"

This does happen too.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


" I know a few here its happened too hang in there everyone "

Send them my way please

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane


" I know a few here its happened too hang in there everyone

Send them my way please "

And send someone my way too please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Impossible for us guys that’s for sure . You think I’ve found someone , have great sex, planning to go again and the glowing veri they get smothers them with thousands of offers and you become yesterdays man. Onwards and upwards

This does happen too. "

I think this happens for both men and women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Near impossible...Impossible to replace, we should forget ages as that will open up bigger avenue, that we can both play in and could still enjoy platonic ourselves

Basically forget our preferences and standards and just become regular with anyone that comes along.

No thanks, I'm horny, not desperate "
no keep standards at all times , but play with people who enjoy your likes?

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"So the secret is to not look for a fwb ffs. "

I have noticed that actively stating on your profile that you're looking for an FWB attracts the wrong type more than it does the right. I had it on mine briefly when myself and Games took a break the year before last. While there were a few genuinely decent guys who mailed me, the rest were opportunists. Guys who just want to use someone to get their foot in the door of the party scene and once they get that intro, they're off and running like a kid in a sweet shop lol, and fantasists who think once they 'have' one female, it'll make it easier to get another one for that FFM they've always dreamed of, regardless of what you want. People lie to get what they want all the time. It was an eye-opening experience and thankfully I was old enough, wise enough and experienced enough to know what they were doing and not to waste my time on them. But for those who do find it happening over and over, it must be completely demoralising. I'm not sure if there's an equivalent for men, maybe someone else can shed some light on that, but women actively looking for something regular do often get targeted in this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is to not become emotionally involved with them and that’s a very fine line. I’ve had three very good FwB but eventually it’s crossed the line for one of us. I’d much prefer a play partner than a FwB any day.

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By *akeorDeathMan
over a year ago

City

I would consider it a good day if someone looked at a message I’ve sent

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By *akeorDeathMan
over a year ago

City

I would consider it a good day if someone looked at a message I’ve sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would consider it a good day if someone looked at a message I’ve sent "

I read it, twice

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By *hoknows82Man
over a year ago

Nenagh / South Dublin

I'm really new to the site, so I can't speak from recent experience, but when I was living in Dublin I found it pretty easy to find friends with benefits.

I have the feeling this is not as easy when the population disperses more. I think you have to be willing to travel a lot

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By *affa31Woman
over a year ago

Galway

It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack when you take into account one person being able to accom, having similar schedules and free time and on top of it all actually clicking. And then there’s the dreaded feelings. Feckin minefield!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"The thing is to not become emotionally involved with them and that’s a very fine line. I’ve had three very good FwB but eventually it’s crossed the line for one of us. I’d much prefer a play partner than a FwB any day. "

I don't see anything wrong with becoming emotionally involved as long as you both know what you want. It's only a problem if one person wants something more and the other doesn't. But isn't that the case with everything?? I'd much rather spend time with someone who really likes me and cares for me (and vice versa), than someone who just viewed me as a booty call. I think we're all adults and should be able to handle adult situations. Tbh I've experienced more ill behaviour, jealousy and possessiveness from guys I'd only met once or twice than I ever have with a long-term friend, which is absolutely ridiculous

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By *r tayt2Man
over a year ago

Trim

Have a swing partner here

And have a few others I see when it suits and all is good

Just good to be comfortable with people you can chill laugh with and have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding someone you connect with and get on with is always a problem. Although would be nice to have a regular friend as both can get to know each others likes/kinks and have fun together and expand your horizons. Obviously people find it really hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are all living in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So the secret is to not look for a fwb ffs.

I have noticed that actively stating on your profile that you're looking for an FWB attracts the wrong type more than it does the right. I had it on mine briefly when myself and Games took a break the year before last. While there were a few genuinely decent guys who mailed me, the rest were opportunists. Guys who just want to use someone to get their foot in the door of the party scene and once they get that intro, they're off and running like a kid in a sweet shop lol, and fantasists who think once they 'have' one female, it'll make it easier to get another one for that FFM they've always dreamed of, regardless of what you want. People lie to get what they want all the time. It was an eye-opening experience and thankfully I was old enough, wise enough and experienced enough to know what they were doing and not to waste my time on them. But for those who do find it happening over and over, it must be completely demoralising. I'm not sure if there's an equivalent for men, maybe someone else can shed some light on that, but women actively looking for something regular do often get targeted in this way."

Better put than if I'd tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had issues with anyone I've met long term or short on here. Just those I've chosen not to meet. Not sure what that says but I take it as gut feeling never has been wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any girl iv met usually wants a regular thing not just a one off, let them know ya want sex on tap before ya leave lol

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I fully agree what playD8 said above, actively looking for a fb/fwb can be counterproductive. Beside personality, looks, chemistry and whatever else is on the requirements list you also have to click in the bedroom. The only way to find out the latter is to have sex. So and if the sex isn't what you're looking for, you wouldn't go back and repeat. Simples, no point in having to high expectations straight from the beginning. It either happens or it doesn't. At least that's my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yup. Near impossible...Impossible to replace, we should forget ages as that will open up bigger avenue, that we can both play in and could still enjoy platonic ourselves

Basically forget our preferences and standards and just become regular with anyone that comes along.

No thanks, I'm horny, not desperate "

You missed a connection and I'll never move to the northern neck of the woods because I'd really struggle as I haven't a fookin clue what you people are saying most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I fully agree what playD8 said above, actively looking for a fb/fwb can be counterproductive. Beside personality, looks, chemistry and whatever else is on the requirements list you also have to click in the bedroom. The only way to find out the latter is to have sex. So and if the sex isn't what you're looking for, you wouldn't go back and repeat. Simples, no point in having to high expectations straight from the beginning. It either happens or it doesn't. At least that's my opinion. "

Honest and straight to the point, well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd think that finding a regular playmate, fck buddy or friends with benefits would be easy enough on here but it sounds like everyone is struggling ?

If that's what you after join the post and sweet if we can pair each other up.

#CillaBlack ??"

Practically impossible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You'd think that finding a regular playmate, fck buddy or friends with benefits would be easy enough on here but it sounds like everyone is struggling ?

If that's what you after join the post and sweet if we can pair each other up.

#CillaBlack ??

Practically impossible"

Has to be worth a go ffs lol. So anyone want me occasionally , regularly, now and then , when mutually acceptable, ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt mind a regular playmate please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never taught it would be this hard to find.. "
wexford just my luck

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I never taught it would be this hard to find.. wexford just my luck "

I'll just move so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I found a regular playmate they wanted to keep me to themselves.. not what I signed up for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still looking. Hell, I’d even take her out for dinner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never taught it would be this hard to find.. wexford just my luck

I'll just move so "
I knew things would work out in the end, it's written in the stars

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"I never taught it would be this hard to find.. wexford just my luck

I'll just move so I knew things would work out in the end, it's written in the stars "

Well if it's in the stars there's no going back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always thought once I moved from the shitty little town back home to Waterford City (I know it's not that big, but much bigger than home) that it would be easy to find a fuck buddy, alas no such luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there "
and girls

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there "

Yup, I have, but a different meet (or more) every week doesn't appeal to me. To have sex even just once a week, I'd have to meet 52 men each year, and that's just the ones I'd have sex with, there would also be the ones I'd have ruled out after meeting them for coffee, so being very generous and saying that I'd sleep with half of the men I met, that's 104 men each year to chat to, make plans with, and juggle around my real world commitments for. Just to have sex once a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there

Yup, I have, but a different meet (or more) every week doesn't appeal to me. To have sex even just once a week, I'd have to meet 52 men each year, and that's just the ones I'd have sex with, there would also be the ones I'd have ruled out after meeting them for coffee, so being very generous and saying that I'd sleep with half of the men I met, that's 104 men each year to chat to, make plans with, and juggle around my real world commitments for. Just to have sex once a week. "
good maths head on you there, if your enjoying the site and life in general does figures really matter? You only live once why stop doing something you enjoy just because it looks bad or wat other people think

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there

Yup, I have, but a different meet (or more) every week doesn't appeal to me. To have sex even just once a week, I'd have to meet 52 men each year, and that's just the ones I'd have sex with, there would also be the ones I'd have ruled out after meeting them for coffee, so being very generous and saying that I'd sleep with half of the men I met, that's 104 men each year to chat to, make plans with, and juggle around my real world commitments for. Just to have sex once a week.

good maths head on you there, if your enjoying the site and life in general does figures really matter? You only live once why stop doing something you enjoy just because it looks bad or wat other people think "

Who said it looks bad or that I'd worry what anyone thought? I just said it wasn't practical

But having said that, I am doing what I enjoy, I don't want or need to meet 104 men every year, I've one pretty great one who ticks all my boxes, shares all my kinks and doesn't throw a fit if I occasionally do want to meet someone else how bad is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there

Yup, I have, but a different meet (or more) every week doesn't appeal to me. To have sex even just once a week, I'd have to meet 52 men each year, and that's just the ones I'd have sex with, there would also be the ones I'd have ruled out after meeting them for coffee, so being very generous and saying that I'd sleep with half of the men I met, that's 104 men each year to chat to, make plans with, and juggle around my real world commitments for. Just to have sex once a week.

good maths head on you there, if your enjoying the site and life in general does figures really matter? You only live once why stop doing something you enjoy just because it looks bad or wat other people think

Who said it looks bad or that I'd worry what anyone thought? I just said it wasn't practical

But having said that, I am doing what I enjoy, I don't want or need to meet 104 men every year, I've one pretty great one who ticks all my boxes, shares all my kinks and doesn't throw a fit if I occasionally do want to meet someone else how bad is that? "
why would anyone take a fit if you met someone? If your single can you not meet whoever you like? I do pretty well I like fab and love meeting new people, in fact iv a few meets on this week with a few pretty lady's which I'm looking forward to, some people can be clingy tho you can't be too careful either but others will just turn a blind eye and get there hole which is a bit sad unfortunately while knowing this then there's others who wish it was something more and gets ugly, I prefare to meet new people but I do also meet one or 2 previous meets for sex but im a dirty fucker so its likeminded sexy ladies, it's a great place for a horny guy I must admit you seem to know wat you want from it too so good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s harder to find a FWB outside of here I find, I think distance and matching schedules seem to make it more difficult on here, I live in hope tho

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By *un chickWoman
over a year ago

Fermanagh

Interesting thread with a lot of different opinions but it seems mostly everyone is still struggling to find that regular play mate, we all live in hope and occasionally it happens but I think it’s just luck.

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By *ookwhoitisha OP   Man
over a year ago

outside Strabane


"Interesting thread with a lot of different opinions but it seems mostly everyone is still struggling to find that regular play mate, we all live in hope and occasionally it happens but I think it’s just luck. "

I suppose Fermanagh isn't a million miles away.... How you doing?

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By *ordjeffMan
over a year ago

around and about ,as travel.

On here over 3years

Still looking.

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By *exyDownUnderWoman
over a year ago

Westmeath

It's the elusive unicorn. Hoping to catch me one too

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area

Whats everyones definition of “regular” though..?

Weekly?

Monthly?

Quarterly?

Whenever our calendars sync up?

That can be a problem when both want regular but each persons definition is very different...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be happy with once a month with my work schedule once it was an over night lol

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"I'd be happy with once a month with my work schedule once it was an over night lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weekly would be good but i know what my calendar is like so monthly is a possibility...

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

Every wk or fortnight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regular... whenever we can both make it. As long as it isn’t just the once and both want more of each other. A next door neighbour would be pretty handy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it all too briefly down here in Cork..... Then she upped and got engaged and that was the end of that...... Still looking now. Not into lots of different people - much prefer one whereby we both click with each other with no pressure coming from either party. As someone called it - a unicorn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we prefer regular repeat playmates. That's 8 times more complicated than two singles trying to click!! Not impossible though, keep the faith everyone.

You'd think Fab would be a good hunting ground but often it feels like it would be easier just to walk into a busy bar and get flirting!

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"You'd think that finding a regular playmate, fck buddy or friends with benefits would be easy enough on here but it sounds like everyone is struggling ?

If that's what you after join the post and sweet if we can pair each other up.

#CillaBlack ??"

yea true you click all the boxes on the profile and send a message with no reply, altho i do realise the ladys are hounded with messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats everyones definition of “regular” though..?

Weekly?

Monthly?

Quarterly?

Whenever our calendars sync up?

That can be a problem when both want regular but each persons definition is very different..."

Very true.

My definition of regular, factoring in my urges, once being married and a desire to get to know the other person as sex improves with meets, exploring others interests etc etc it would ideally be a couple times a week. That's ideal and we rarely find that, regular for me needs to be someone looking 2 to 3 times a month.

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By *irvana999Man
over a year ago

city

Ye I agree finding it very difficult to find a play mate ,think there's just to many fellas on this I think ,think be giving up on this soon ,certainly not a booster if that's what ye need

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"The idea of one regular dude is cool.. but have you seen how many hot guys there are out there

Yup, I have, but a different meet (or more) every week doesn't appeal to me. To have sex even just once a week, I'd have to meet 52 men each year, and that's just the ones I'd have sex with, there would also be the ones I'd have ruled out after meeting them for coffee, so being very generous and saying that I'd sleep with half of the men I met, that's 104 men each year to chat to, make plans with, and juggle around my real world commitments for. Just to have sex once a week.

good maths head on you there, if your enjoying the site and life in general does figures really matter? You only live once why stop doing something you enjoy just because it looks bad or wat other people think

Who said it looks bad or that I'd worry what anyone thought? I just said it wasn't practical

But having said that, I am doing what I enjoy, I don't want or need to meet 104 men every year, I've one pretty great one who ticks all my boxes, shares all my kinks and doesn't throw a fit if I occasionally do want to meet someone else how bad is that?

why would anyone take a fit if you met someone? If your single can you not meet whoever you like? I do pretty well I like fab and love meeting new people, in fact iv a few meets on this week with a few pretty lady's which I'm looking forward to, some people can be clingy tho you can't be too careful either but others will just turn a blind eye and get there hole which is a bit sad unfortunately while knowing this then there's others who wish it was something more and gets ugly, I prefare to meet new people but I do also meet one or 2 previous meets for sex but im a dirty fucker so its likeminded sexy ladies, it's a great place for a horny guy I must admit you seem to know wat you want from it too so good luck "

Long-term friends don't tend to throw a fit, they're pretty secure. But I've had one-off meets and guys I've met 2 or 3 times freak out because I met someone else or continued to meet someone else, and I've also had to put up with jealousy from other people they themselves have met previously. I'm not just talking about throwing the dummy out of the pram with a few irate texts, I've had someone go the revenge porn route (using photos and vids of someone else), I've had a Dom who threatened to self-harm, I've had a d*unk local woman hurl abuse at me on multiple occasions in chat for daring to even speak to anyone she perceives as her property, and you wouldn't believe the amount of women I've had mail me over the years to let me know who they are meeting so I don't try to 'steal them away'. There are people on this thread ffs who I have met and had hassle afterwards from their other meets because of it, and others who have mailed me to warn me off someone they fancied/were meeting. I'm glad you're making the most of your opportunities, but even you mention that you have to be careful with some of your clingy meets. Jealous/possessive behaviour is rampant on swinging sites, so yes, I'm bloody thrilled to have a gorgeous, great, chilled guy who doesn't try to control me and doesn't monitor my every move and conversation, who is secure in himself and our friendship... Long may it last!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It ain’t easy for sure but then if it was... the thrill is gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to change my profile then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have a regular FB. And in between meets I carried on on fab and despite her saying it wasn’t exclusive, it became apparent she got increasingly jealous. To the point where she had multiple profiles where she would start chatting to me , pretending to be someone else to try to “catch me out @. She used to ask me about herself on her real profile . I kept catching her out by her grammar and even repeating something only me and her knew about . Eventually she left fab because she couldn’t have me all to herself ( ya can’t blame her really - I mean - just look at me lol !!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to have a regular FB. And in between meets I carried on on fab and despite her saying it wasn’t exclusive, it became apparent she got increasingly jealous. To the point where she had multiple profiles where she would start chatting to me , pretending to be someone else to try to “catch me out @. She used to ask me about herself on her real profile . I kept catching her out by her grammar and even repeating something only me and her knew about . Eventually she left fab because she couldn’t have me all to herself ( ya can’t blame her really - I mean - just look at me lol !!!)"

I couldn’t help myself I had to have a look..... have to say that lady would scare the ........ out of me, must have been quite a nightmare for you

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By *uckypuppy007Woman
over a year ago

dublin


"I fully agree what playD8 said above, actively looking for a fb/fwb can be counterproductive. Beside personality, looks, chemistry and whatever else is on the requirements list you also have to click in the bedroom. The only way to find out the latter is to have sex. So and if the sex isn't what you're looking for, you wouldn't go back and repeat. Simples, no point in having to high expectations straight from the beginning. It either happens or it doesn't. At least that's my opinion. "

Exactly!

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

I've come across jealousy, but not with anyone I've met here. I love meeting new people, so that's part of the excitement. Many people pass through my life, but only a special few get a place in my heart. I've discovered that I have a limit to how many "special" women I can interact with, maybe two or three. I've been on the swinging scene for a long time, so, I found I can get burnt out with endless sex (yes, it's true), with strangers. So, for now, I limit my meetings to about two per month, and as I'm giving a very intimate massage, we get to know each other at a deeper level than if it was just a quick fuck.Yes, it is possible to meet "special" people here. The difficulty is trying to find someone who also thinks you're "special". But that's the story of our lives, and it's what makes me feel alive. Especially on this beautiful Spring day when the sap is rising everywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to finding a regular playmate, fck buddy or friends with benefits.but its so hard here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to have a regular FB. And in between meets I carried on on fab and despite her saying it wasn’t exclusive, it became apparent she got increasingly jealous. To the point where she had multiple profiles where she would start chatting to me , pretending to be someone else to try to “catch me out @. She used to ask me about herself on her real profile . I kept catching her out by her grammar and even repeating something only me and her knew about . Eventually she left fab because she couldn’t have me all to herself ( ya can’t blame her really - I mean - just look at me lol !!!)"

Exactly the same happened to me when I wanted to end it with a fb of 3+ years. He kept opening profiles and contacting me.

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