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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

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By *ysteryman2009Man
over a year ago

Ireland


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

"

Steph believe in yourself, your figure is beautiful as per your pics.If a guy has doubts about it then he is not worth pursuing. Its all in the connection, like the person the rest will follow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not about the body but about the person... he kept chatting & is willing to meet...so obviously some interest ...go for the coffee & then everyone can make up their mind ... but believe in yourself ... go for it ... say yes to the meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are definitely not on your own op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s always hard to know what to think if you look at a guy’s veris or pix and you see a different sort of women to yourself m but than I think to myself that really everyone has a spectrum of what they find attractive so i try to avoid second guessing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to but I think men on fab are attracted to sexual confidence and women that are comfortable in their own skin and they connect with. Let the social meet decide if you want it to go further stop rating yourself against others they obviously see something that they like

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I don't doubt his attention but I would doubt him. Is he only showing veris from thinner women but enjoys all bodies? If that was the case it would be a red flag for me. I'm nobody's guilty pleasure.

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By *ondalingerMan
over a year ago

City center

Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think each of the above posters have everything covered there. A lot of guys have varied preferences and are attracted to different body types. Nothing wrong with that I guess? If you guys are chatting, getting on and are still all good after a coffee or whatever I can’t see any issue. Give him a chance, he might even be thinking ‘she is gorgeous and I fancy the pants off her but my veri’s are a different type of girl, what is she going to think?!’

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman. "

I am a gym bunny just not a skinny gym bunny lol

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By *unlovingcouplehereCouple
over a year ago

Dublin

I'm telling every guy I chat to "I'm a plus size lady" in the first few messages with a pic of me rather than wasting both if our times. If they aren't interested that's fine as long as they're polite about it

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough

Having a more curvacious body myself, to be honest it wouldn't bother me in the least what other type of woman has verified a guy. Personally when it comes to men it can vary what body type I go for, depending on the person. If I was chatting and click with someone, then I would go for the coffee meet and see how it goes. If it doesn't go well then put it down to experience.

Don't be so hard on yourself OP, you're a gorgeous sexy woman with a lot to offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman. "

Ya hate those pretend skinny ones

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By *isspafWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

I would feel a little intimidated maybe but not initially when we're messaging but maybe after a coffee /social meet and I wanted to meet again for fun.

A lot of it is to do with my own self esteem and body image. Although it has improved since I've joined Fab would ya believe!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin


"Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman.

Ya hate those pretend skinny ones"

Love an incorporeal ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman.

Ya hate those pretend skinny ones

Love an incorporeal ride "

Sure thats the majority of mine in any shape or size

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"Maybe hes had his fun with rmthe gym bunnies

Wants fun with a real woman. "

Sure the gym slim ones are all made of plastic like babies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I don't. I understand why you might, but there are lots of people who don't just go after 1 body type, but are attracted to people of all shapes and sizes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

"

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No I don't. I understand why you might, but there are lots of people who don't just go after 1 body type, but are attracted to people of all shapes and sizes. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes "

Or just buy some decent blinds

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By *verage Joe BlackMan
over a year ago

Border Area


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes

Or just buy some decent blinds "

There was actually a full stop after “dark”. The last sentence was about something new and was just to rub our noses in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes

Or just buy some decent blinds

There was actually a full stop after “dark”. The last sentence was about something new and was just to rub our noses in it "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes

Or just buy some decent blinds

There was actually a full stop after “dark”. The last sentence was about something new and was just to rub our noses in it "

Stop you ha I’d give my arm for your summers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

"

Definitely try to work on your confidence and improve it. None of us women are perfect so I have just learnt to embrace my imperfections. Personally I think confidence is way sexier than the perfect body.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

It's definitely a confidence thing Steph, but i know where you're coming from. I'd say most people of all shapes and sizes let doubts creep in. Love all your new pics btw. X

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Steph, besides the confidence thing just listen to your gut feeling. If he's just after a leg over your gut feeling will tell you when compliments are fake and the string of conversation doesn't add up.

Also no harm in pointing it out to him if you have doubts and see how he reacts. I had lads knocking at my door clearly into fuller size and I pointed it out to them. Normally got weak responses and that was the end of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Definitely try to work on your confidence and improve it. None of us women are perfect so I have just learnt to embrace my imperfections. Personally I think confidence is way sexier than the perfect body. "

This , we all have flaws and there's never anything to be gained from comparing yourself with others.

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

I think us women are our hardest critics, we always seem to point out our faults, I think we should all do a crash course on personal development, positive feedback

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By *ease_EMan
over a year ago

DDD12


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

I’m exact same I have no confidence when meeting I tend to do it in the dark ha I’m fucked when summer comes "

You look Hotttttttt in the Daylight :-*

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the comments nice to know I'm not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally love someone I can chat too and that’s a serious attraction for me. Banter, flirting and chatting. I find if I have a connection outside the bedroom the sex is better! My point I guess is that there are guys who love personality too and that you should confident in your own shell! Love yourself first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok question for the ladies more so the curvy or larger ladies. I'm wondering is it just me but if a guy messages me and is all chat and on for meeting but yet all his veris are from women who are thinner and the figure that is the considered the most healthy looking to the eye than mine/yours do you doubt his attention?

I know it's a self confidence thing for me but am I alone?

"

I often lack self confidence especially when I see the amazing figures on some of the ladies on fab so I know where you are coming from Steph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shaming should be banned on the forum

Let your love stream flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally...I think men are actually afraid to acknowledge they like a fuller figured woman...peer pressure and all that jazz...I've had personal experience of this among my 'shallow' friends....I'm not a shapeist x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been with women who have been all sizes and heights and it hasn’t bothered me in the slightest. Why would it? It’s the ability to be turned on by the person, being able to have a laugh with them, to feel comfortable with them that does it for me, not their figure or height. Anyway Steph, I had a little perv at your pics and to me, you’ve a fantastic figure and look amazing. In fact, I had a little stirring looking at one pic in particulars

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

You're not the first to ask this question, and probably won't be the last. The thing about someone's veris and who they come from is, that's what they wanted then, but it's YOU they want now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I personally love someone I can chat too and that’s a serious attraction for me. Banter, flirting and chatting. I find if I have a connection outside the bedroom the sex is better! My point I guess is that there are guys who love personality too and that you should confident in your own shell! Love yourself first! "
Youre full of wise words today aren’t you.

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By *ildone300Woman
over a year ago

Big island

Can totally relate being a curvy lady myself if I'm chatting to a guy that's the first thing I mention if he's looking to meet and that if his intentions are genuine that it doesn't bother him or he's wanting to venture out , If not his thing fair enough each to their own just be polite bout it . Always the lack of self confidence creeping up but if you feel sexy in your skin and own it when on a meet then surely that should be enough

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok so I may get shot down for this, but.....

Yes there are lots of women on here who may have slim toned figure's etc and they are constantly uploading photos of themselves which begs the question, deep down are they insecure???

Are they putting up pics to see how many fabs they get to boost they're confidence!!!

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

I upload pics regular and i dont do it to boost my confidence or to get fabs i do it cause i just enjoy it and for no other reason

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I upload pics regular and i dont do it to boost my confidence or to get fabs i do it cause i just enjoy it and for no other reason "

I post pics because I feel sexy which to me is a total new concept and I have loads of sexy underwear might as well let someone get a glimpse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I upload pics regular and i dont do it to boost my confidence or to get fabs i do it cause i just enjoy it and for no other reason

I post pics because I feel sexy which to me is a total new concept and I have loads of sexy underwear might as well let someone get a glimpse "

Happy days, then it's win win

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in

I'm a bbw and my fab half loves my figure he prefares larger lady's and he's an advantage build

He has given me so much confidence about my body, it takes a types

Some men like skinny, some like adavage, some like large,sometimes maybe men and woman should dip their toes in different water,they could be very surprised at who they meet and what could happen

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Everyone has flaws but if there’s good banter between the people meeting body image should have no importance it’s all about being confident in yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the comments nice to know I'm not alone "

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