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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do people find to be flaws with the site? Other than the overwhelming over supply of cock of course! I find the messaging system to be a let down. For example if I’m in conversation with a lady my sent messages probably get lost, unread and pushed down the pile because her inbox is filling up so quick with messages. Therefore unless she is currently online and reading messages quickly it’s hard to get a reply and continue the conversation. I guess it’s why it’s better to switch to Kik or a similar messenger service to continue chats. What do ye think? Ladies I’m chatting to stand to the front!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you're chatting to new ladies - our inboxes are not that crazy and are no different from kik or WhatsApp. If a lady doesn't respond too quickly while online there may be a few reasons like:

1. She's distracted with something else and doesn't have time to respond to her messages.

2. It may look like she's online if she's using her phone and left her account logged in.

3. She may not know how to respond and what to say just right this minute.

4. She may have lost interest but doesn't want to seem rude so just leaving the message unread on purpose.

Become a site supporter for a better inbox - it will be a lot easier to manage your conversations.

There are some flaws to this site just like any other, but by all means it's extremely easy to use, it has all safety shortcuts and a great bunch of people around once you get used to it and get to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless you're chatting to new ladies - our inboxes are not that crazy and are no different from kik or WhatsApp. If a lady doesn't respond too quickly while online there may be a few reasons like:

1. She's distracted with something else and doesn't have time to respond to her messages.

2. It may look like she's online if she's using her phone and left her account logged in.

3. She may not know how to respond and what to say just right this minute.

4. She may have lost interest but doesn't want to seem rude so just leaving the message unread on purpose.

Become a site supporter for a better inbox - it will be a lot easier to manage your conversations.

There are some flaws to this site just like any other, but by all means it's extremely easy to use, it has all safety shortcuts and a great bunch of people around once you get used to it and get to know them "

Yeah pretty much all this. I use the filters to control my inbox influx, many do the same.

I do think it would help if messages from friends, were highlighted in a different colour or if there was a friends section at the top that separated friends from non friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any ladies I chat to tell me their inboxes are crazy filling up with hundreds of messages a day even. This would knock a message I would sent way down the pile and greatly reduce it’s likelihood of being read. So when I go into my sent box I often see them as being unread. I am talking about messages I have sent to ladies who I have built conversations with and who have seemed keen but because they are flooded with messages from new and existing single male profiles our conversation gets abandoned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unless you're chatting to new ladies - our inboxes are not that crazy and are no different from kik or WhatsApp. If a lady doesn't respond too quickly while online there may be a few reasons like:

1. She's distracted with something else and doesn't have time to respond to her messages.

2. It may look like she's online if she's using her phone and left her account logged in.

3. She may not know how to respond and what to say just right this minute.

4. She may have lost interest but doesn't want to seem rude so just leaving the message unread on purpose.

Become a site supporter for a better inbox - it will be a lot easier to manage your conversations.

There are some flaws to this site just like any other, but by all means it's extremely easy to use, it has all safety shortcuts and a great bunch of people around once you get used to it and get to know them

Yeah pretty much all this. I use the filters to control my inbox influx, many do the same.

I do think it would help if messages from friends, were highlighted in a different colour or if there was a friends section at the top that separated friends from non friends."

Yeah something like that would be a great help I think. It’s great to be constructive rather than critical. That’s the way I intended this thread to be to create ideas. No need to be critical of me personally here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any ladies I chat to tell me their inboxes are crazy filling up with hundreds of messages a day even. This would knock a message I would sent way down the pile and greatly reduce it’s likelihood of being read. So when I go into my sent box I often see them as being unread. I am talking about messages I have sent to ladies who I have built conversations with and who have seemed keen but because they are flooded with messages from new and existing single male profiles our conversation gets abandoned."

As I said- unless they are new to the site they are not getting hundreds of messages. Trust me.

Any woman that has been here for a while knows it.

We do use it as a polite excuse sometimes not to seem rude tho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Any ladies I chat to tell me their inboxes are crazy filling up with hundreds of messages a day even. This would knock a message I would sent way down the pile and greatly reduce it’s likelihood of being read. So when I go into my sent box I often see them as being unread. I am talking about messages I have sent to ladies who I have built conversations with and who have seemed keen but because they are flooded with messages from new and existing single male profiles our conversation gets abandoned.

As I said- unless they are new to the site they are not getting hundreds of messages. Trust me.

Any woman that has been here for a while knows it.

We do use it as a polite excuse sometimes not to seem rude tho.

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Oh I see. I must be wrong and led astray then by some well established fab ladies. Well I would deem a pleasant reply to be polite. Ignorance is not my kind of thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, I'm just a straight talker and don't feel the need to sugar coat things to grown ups. I'm in a wrong here. Will think of some compliments and words of agreement to make you feel better in the morning.

Signing off

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry, I'm just a straight talker and don't feel the need to sugar coat things to grown ups. I'm in a wrong here. Will think of some compliments and words of agreement to make you feel better in the morning.

Signing off "

Please do meanwhile I’ll try to be constructive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, I'm just a straight talker and don't feel the need to sugar coat things to grown ups. I'm in a wrong here. Will think of some compliments and words of agreement to make you feel better in the morning.

Signing off "

You just want the 100's of messages, admit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you were the one originally criticising the website...

*facepalm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm definitely not getting 100s of messages a day. There are filters for a reason and they work.

Pay site supporter keeps messages also handy when sent a message from someone that sent same message few weeks earlier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"But you were the one originally criticising the website...

*facepalm "

If you read back carefully you will see where I stated that I intended this thread to be constructive. Sometimes that involves an initial bit of criticism it’s called constructive criticism if you have never heard the term. I also stated that I did not want or intend criticism to be aimed at me personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With regards to messages, OP, as already stated there are a multitude of different reasons as to why they may be unread;

Yes, on occasion timing plays it's part. It could get lost within a plethora of messages but that's unlikely in most cases.

They may have opened it at an inopportune time and marked it 'unread' again in order to reply properly at a more suitable time. That way it shows up as a 'new' message and they're less likely to forget about it.

It may be that, in the case of a couple, that one person has opened and read it and marked it "unread" so that their partner can read it as well.

A person may leave themselves logged on inadvertently, Lord knows I've done it a lot and while it may appear they're ignoring it they simply aren't seeing it.

They may even, as intimated, just not wish to reply at all and given how frequently you hear of guys throwing their toys out of the pram it may just be easier to tell a little white lie at times.

Ultimately, if someone wants to reply they will. I personally don't see the messaging system as a flaw with that approach

The best advice I've ever been given is to delete and and all 'sent messages' because it's unhealthy to look over them and wonder why they're "unread" or deleted.

With regards to any flaws with the site, personally, I'd just make it mandatory to fill out your owm profile and do away with the "templates".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm definitely not getting 100s of messages a day. There are filters for a reason and they work.

Pay site supporter keeps messages also handy when sent a message from someone that sent same message few weeks earlier."

I have filters set up and they work! I do not get bombarded with messages from single males or TVs etc. because it’s not my thing. However if ladies only block single males by age preference which most do they can still have their inboxes filled very quickly. At least I can only go by what I’m told and that is that messages fly in!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without using filters, it is possible to get 100's of messages in a day. Some like an inbox full of 'hi how's you?' msgs. It's too much hard work for me.

Some people use them, some people don't. Those that don't, are going to skim through the messages to see the ones that stand out with the few words that can be seen of the message, without opening it. Or they read it & mark it as unread. You'd have to be pretty memorable to stand out.

If I have built a good conversation, I would be looking out for a message from that person...

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

No offence OP but there is a Fabswingers.com Feedback thread available permanently.

Any gripes or suggestions, that's the place for them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh great!

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By *oft_sexy_sweetWoman
over a year ago

Dublin

Yeah if I'm into someone there isn't any "site flaw" that will prevent me from replying - I'll be looking out for the message, or I'd have already moved the convo to kik.

I'd agree with other posters that the "too many messages" line is a polite brush off.

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By *ondalingerMan
over a year ago

City center

I find the whole site dated. Its 2019 ffs. Fab coukd learn a thing or two fro. Kik.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unless you're chatting to new ladies - our inboxes are not that crazy and are no different from kik or WhatsApp. If a lady doesn't respond too quickly while online there may be a few reasons like:

1. She's distracted with something else and doesn't have time to respond to her messages.

2. It may look like she's online if she's using her phone and left her account logged in.

3. She may not know how to respond and what to say just right this minute.

4. She may have lost interest but doesn't want to seem rude so just leaving the message unread on purpose.

Become a site supporter for a better inbox - it will be a lot easier to manage your conversations.

There are some flaws to this site just like any other, but by all means it's extremely easy to use, it has all safety shortcuts and a great bunch of people around once you get used to it and get to know them

Yeah pretty much all this. I use the filters to control my inbox influx, many do the same.

I do think it would help if messages from friends, were highlighted in a different colour or if there was a friends section at the top that separated friends from non friends."

Yes smart idea

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By *orguyMan
over a year ago

Tuam

FAB should have a DIY section for members who have no experience and wish to try their hand at home renovations.

Similarly a dating section for members with no experience and wish to try their hand at being normal.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"Any ladies I chat to tell me their inboxes are crazy filling up with hundreds of messages a day even. This would knock a message I would sent way down the pile and greatly reduce it’s likelihood of being read. So when I go into my sent box I often see them as being unread. I am talking about messages I have sent to ladies who I have built conversations with and who have seemed keen but because they are flooded with messages from new and existing single male profiles our conversation gets abandoned.

As I said- unless they are new to the site they are not getting hundreds of messages. Trust me.

Any woman that has been here for a while knows it.

We do use it as a polite excuse sometimes not to seem rude tho.

Oh I see. I must be wrong and led astray then by some well established fab ladies. Well I would deem a pleasant reply to be polite. Ignorance is not my kind of thing!"

Some women do get alot of messages daily even with alot of filters. Even ones here a long time.

Just so you know sometimes a pleasant reply does not get the same back. As fab rules clearly state no reply no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do people find to be flaws with the site? Other than the overwhelming over supply of cock of course! I find the messaging system to be a let down. For example if I’m in conversation with a lady my sent messages probably get lost, unread and pushed down the pile because her inbox is filling up so quick with messages. Therefore unless she is currently online and reading messages quickly it’s hard to get a reply and continue the conversation. I guess it’s why it’s better to switch to Kik or a similar messenger service to continue chats. What do ye think? Ladies I’m chatting to stand to the front!!"

KiK has it's flaws too, also, what's wrong with an overwhelming supply of cock??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, I'm just a straight talker and don't feel the need to sugar coat things to grown ups. I'm in a wrong here. Will think of some compliments and words of agreement to make you feel better in the morning.

Signing off

Please do meanwhile I’ll try to be constructive."
Missus is right we do not get hundreds if msil . Yes if ur brand new the same guys will home in in the newbies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry, I'm just a straight talker and don't feel the need to sugar coat things to grown ups. I'm in a wrong here. Will think of some compliments and words of agreement to make you feel better in the morning.

Signing off

Please do meanwhile I’ll try to be constructive. Missus is right we do not get hundreds if msil . Yes if ur brand new the same guys will home in in the newbies. "

Exactly this, they all hang round the corners in their grubby trench coats waiting for the next fresher to innocently walk past, so they can leap out and flash her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing about the site that I have issue with is the lumping together of photo veri and meet veri in the filters. The idiots, creeps, perverts, psychos are part of life, not fab's fault,same as in real life, you need to be careful with people.

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By *eductively_SweetWoman
over a year ago

wexford


"The only thing about the site that I have issue with is the lumping together of photo veri and meet veri in the filters. The idiots, creeps, perverts, psychos are part of life, not fab's fault,same as in real life, you need to be careful with people. "

Totally agree I which they were separate.

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of


"What do people find to be flaws with the site? Other than the overwhelming over supply of cock of course! I find the messaging system to be a let down. For example if I’m in conversation with a lady my sent messages probably get lost, unread and pushed down the pile because her inbox is filling up so quick with messages. Therefore unless she is currently online and reading messages quickly it’s hard to get a reply and continue the conversation. I guess it’s why it’s better to switch to Kik or a similar messenger service to continue chats. What do ye think? Ladies I’m chatting to stand to the front!!

KiK has it's flaws too, also, what's wrong with an overwhelming supply of cock?? "

Exactly my thoughts, since when is an huge supply of cocks a flaw? I think it's fabulous!

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast

So OP, based on the other comments here you might have to consider that some or a lot of the ladies you are talking to on here are simply telling you they have so many messages just to give you the polite brush off and don't want to be rude. At least they are showing consideration for your feelings. Many guys just get straight blocks.

I wouldn't dwell on it too much. If a person is legitimately interested then she would make sure to keep an eye out for messages from you. If she thinks you're nice but not interested in meeting then she'll probably get back to your message at some point though it would be less of a priority.

And, as Fab rules state, no reply means no interest. But I wouldn't dwell on it. Competition on here is steep with the men far outnumbering the woman. As well as that, a lot of of people need to realise that people on here have busy lives and jobs outside of Fab.

What you want to be aiming for is to be that busy yourself or chatting with so many others that you don't notice a lack of reply from any one individual woman on here.

If you can't get enough one on one conversations on this site then get involved in the forums a lot more as I have gotten to know quite a few women on them which has led to a lot of one on one conversations.

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