FabSwingers.com forum: Too nice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So the theory goes nice guys finish last... (in a sexual sense surely thats a good thing)

But the question is I suppose is being too nice a turn off for many?

The Irish do struggle with taking a compliment.

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By *orkcupCouple
over a year ago

bmac

I can't take a compliment at all..I think everyone is lying. Lynn

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I read an article years ago about the nice guy/bad boy thing.

Seemingly a nice guy will try to be a friend first and hope something develops, where as a bad boy will straight up let you know he's interested in you sexually.

So the theory goes, if you act as her friend she will see you as her friend, but if you act like you're interested in her sexually, she will see you as a potential sexual partner.

I don't know if there's much truth in this but it does make a bit of sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you not be a nice guy and be upfront about intentions right away? I don't think adopting a bad guy persona would suit me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be naughty but nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read an article years ago about the nice guy/bad boy thing.

Seemingly a nice guy will try to be a friend first and hope something develops, where as a bad boy will straight up let you know he's interested in you sexually.

So the theory goes, if you act as her friend she will see you as her friend, but if you act like you're interested in her sexually, she will see you as a potential sexual partner.

I don't know if there's much truth in this but it does make a bit of sense."

In the fab context I feel free to assume no man here is looking to be my friend.

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

"Can you not be a nice guy and be upfront about intentions right away? I don't think adopting a bad guy persona would suit me. "

I didn't say it was true, it's just a theory I read.

I think the point was more that the bad boy personality interests women (not all) more than the nice guy. And if he's interested too, he will act on it and not be a 'friend' so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I complimented a woman before on a night out on how she looked nothing sexual or anything..

The reaction i got was like i had asked her to do the no pants dance

All depends on the woman i suppose lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the theory goes nice guys finish last... (in a sexual sense surely thats a good thing)

But the question is I suppose is being too nice a turn off for many?

The Irish do struggle with taking a compliment. "

It's difficult not to be cynical on fab with regard to compliments, we aren't all stunning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the theory goes nice guys finish last... (in a sexual sense surely thats a good thing)

But the question is I suppose is being too nice a turn off for many?

The Irish do struggle with taking a compliment.

It's difficult not to be cynical on fab with regard to compliments, we aren't all stunning. "

Not just stunning but worth dying for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read an article years ago about the nice guy/bad boy thing.

Seemingly a nice guy will try to be a friend first and hope something develops, where as a bad boy will straight up let you know he's interested in you sexually.

So the theory goes, if you act as her friend she will see you as her friend, but if you act like you're interested in her sexually, she will see you as a potential sexual partner.

I don't know if there's much truth in this but it does make a bit of sense."

I've never subscribed to the theory that straight men want to be just friends with me. It's been my experience that they will always try to get sexual at some point - and no, I don't think I'm particularly irresistible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So the theory goes nice guys finish last... (in a sexual sense surely thats a good thing)

But the question is I suppose is being too nice a turn off for many?

The Irish do struggle with taking a compliment.

It's difficult not to be cynical on fab with regard to compliments, we aren't all stunning.

Not just stunning but worth dying for

Well obvs

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey..."

Bitch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey..."

Dog hunter your class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My default position is to assume every guy just wants to be my friend... I’m not good at reading signals which is why I like here... people are pretty direct and it’s safe to work in the basis they might be interested in you sexually... does being on here automatically make a lad a bad boy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't take a compliment at all..I think everyone is lying. Lynn "

That's a horrendous profile pic!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I read an article years ago about the nice guy/bad boy thing.

Seemingly a nice guy will try to be a friend first and hope something develops, where as a bad boy will straight up let you know he's interested in you sexually.

So the theory goes, if you act as her friend she will see you as her friend, but if you act like you're interested in her sexually, she will see you as a potential sexual partner.

I don't know if there's much truth in this but it does make a bit of sense."

Makes perfect sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My default position is to assume every guy just wants to be my friend... I’m not good at reading signals which is why I like here... people are pretty direct and it’s safe to work in the basis they might be interested in you sexually... does being on here automatically make a lad a bad boy?"

Because I'm bad, I'm bad come on

You know I'm bad, I'm bad come on, you know

And the whole world has to

Answer right now

Just to tell you once again

Who's bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally useless at reading signs - even here they de probably have to be waving both arms in the air for me to notice and even worse at taking a compliment.

I do give them

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Love a bad guy

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Love a bad guy

Yeah, bitch!

This tactic didn't work on DH but sure its worth another try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice guys" usually carry a legendary "I'm not like others, I'm a nice guy" line in their vocabulary along with a cringy compliment.

Also compliment doesn't equal a compliment.

When someone notices your genuine effort or something about your personality - every single person will be happy to get it.

On other hand "nice tits" will always be passed as another dull remark.

P.s. "nice tits" people are more prone to rants about how everyone is rude and can't take a compliment

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

""Nice guys" usually carry a legendary "I'm not like others, I'm a nice guy" line in their vocabulary along with a cringy compliment.

Also compliment doesn't equal a compliment.

When someone notices your genuine effort or something about your personality - every single person will be happy to get it.

On other hand "nice tits" will always be passed as another dull remark.

P.s. "nice tits" people are more prone to rants about how everyone is rude and can't take a compliment "

Mmm.. Nice tits missus!

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

"Love a bad guy

Yeah, bitch!

This tactic didn't work on DH but sure its worth another try. "

One more strike and you're OUTTTT Michael

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally useless at reading signs - even here they de probably have to be waving both arms in the air for me to notice and even worse at taking a compliment.

I do give them "

Same and when paid a compliment here honestly don't believe it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a sad statement about men. Sadly I suspect it’s mostly true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Such a sad statement about men. Sadly I suspect it’s mostly true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Nice guys" usually carry a legendary "I'm not like others, I'm a nice guy" line in their vocabulary along with a cringy compliment.

Also compliment doesn't equal a compliment.

When someone notices your genuine effort or something about your personality - every single person will be happy to get it.

On other hand "nice tits" will always be passed as another dull remark.

P.s. "nice tits" people are more prone to rants about how everyone is rude and can't take a compliment "

Today. I will only be thinking about Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say being nice to someone has never been a bad thing in my expiriance. As far as I know.....

I think its used by some women to let guys down gently and by guys to explain away rejection.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"Love a bad guy

Yeah, bitch!

This tactic didn't work on DH but sure its worth another try.

One more strike and you're OUTTTT Michael

Is that good or bad?

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By *ontbesillywrapyourwillyMan
over a year ago

Tipperary

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey..."
why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?"

To get into knickers

Simple

Works for me so why wouldn't they give it a lash

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?"

I do it to get the leg over!

It hasn't worked yet but its bound to sooner or later.

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?

To get into knickers

Simple

Works for me so why wouldn't they give it a lash

You're looking particularly well today as it happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's me to a tee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?

To get into knickers

Simple

Works for me so why wouldn't they give it a lash

You're looking particularly well today as it happens.

And ooops there they go

Round my ankles

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?

To get into knickers

Simple

Works for me so why wouldn't they give it a lash

You're looking particularly well today as it happens.

And ooops there they go

Round my ankles

Gimme 2 hours and I'll be there!

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By *kblueeyesCouple
over a year ago

kilkenny

Nice to be nice but not cringy nice, we like naughty too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?

To get into knickers

Simple

Works for me so why wouldn't they give it a lash

TODAY i will be mostly wearing Geordie X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quote from Facebook

It’s not true that nice guys finish last , nice guys are winners before the game even starts .

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By *andydevineMan
over a year ago

sligo

im a nice guy, But i always cum second. Lucky ladies

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By *ust4fun555Man
over a year ago

city centre

If you are too nice on here the wicked fab ladies will just devour you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are too nice on here the wicked fab ladies will just devour you...."

Not true

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"Love a bad guy

Yeah, bitch!

This tactic didn't work on DH but sure its worth another try. "

Hahaha is that best you can do? Don't you worry, funny is good too!

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

"I tend to go for the bad guy, more of a challenge and more of an equal.

I've no issues with compliments, however I've seen some complimenting on the forum that is seriously cringey...why do u think some men compliment beyond belief?"

That and the way how it's delivered. And btw it applicable to male and female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""Nice guys" usually carry a legendary "I'm not like others, I'm a nice guy" line in their vocabulary along with a cringy compliment.

Also compliment doesn't equal a compliment.

When someone notices your genuine effort or something about your personality - every single person will be happy to get it.

On other hand "nice tits" will always be passed as another dull remark.

P.s. "nice tits" people are more prone to rants about how everyone is rude and can't take a compliment

Today. I will only be thinking about Missus

Not what your status said.... make up your mind will ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I'm bad, I'm bad come on

You know I'm bad, I'm bad come on, you know

And the whole world has to

Answer right now

Just to tell you once again

Who's bad

Not him. He’s dead.

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

When himself gives me a compliment I'm convicted he is being sarcastic ..just useless at taking a compliment

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

"When himself gives me a compliment I'm convicted he is being sarcastic ..just useless at taking a compliment

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*convinced

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By *anysicoMan
over a year ago

cork

Care too little and you lose them care too much and you get hurt, not easy to get a balance is it

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