FabSwingers.com forum: Is it rude,arrogant?

By *ondalinger OP Man
over a year ago

City center

Ive had a few replies to messages. I try to be a lil descriptive when messaging somebody. I always read their profile and maybe mention something about them, so they know ive read it. Most dont reply back. Which i get. I understand the men to women ratio is hugely unbalanced. But what gets me the most is people replying with a bitchy comment. Really is their any need to be like that. I totally agree to this behaviour if a guy is beng a dick or showing one. But to do it to someone who is being polite really annoys the fuck outta me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had a few replies to messages. I try to be a lil descriptive when messaging somebody. I always read their profile and maybe mention something about them, so they know ive read it. Most dont reply back. Which i get. I understand the men to women ratio is hugely unbalanced. But what gets me the most is people replying with a bitchy comment. Really is their any need to be like that. I totally agree to this behaviour if a guy is beng a dick or showing one. But to do it to someone who is being polite really annoys the fuck outta me"

What kind of comments are you getting back?

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By *ondalinger OP Man
over a year ago

City center

I ended one message with love to hear from you x

Got back a fuck off

Another i quoted the band the person had quoted in her status.

Got back. Big deal you have ears

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By *ondalinger OP Man
over a year ago

City center

Thats just two

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

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By *kcoupleCouple
over a year ago

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Two sides to it really. If you have taken the time to read their profile and the specifically say they don't want what you have to offer yet you mail them any way then I suppose you have to put up with any reply they give.

Personally any message we get we read, we certainly don't reply to all but those we do get a civil r_sponse. If you get 400 or 4 messages a day you don't need to be an arse in your replies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I ended one message with love to hear from you x

Got back a fuck off

Another i quoted the band the person had quoted in her status.

Got back. Big deal you have ears"

Some people are just dicks....

Try not to let them bother you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it ."

I’m not sure anyone could consider the sample replies the OP provided as witty... if I got either of those I know how I’d take them.

There is no need for rudeness, there just isn’t. I have to say luckily enough we haven’t come across that level of rudeness here.

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By *spMan
over a year ago

Who know's

100% agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it .

I’m not sure anyone could consider the sample replies the OP provided as witty... if I got either of those I know how I’d take them.

There is no need for rudeness, there just isn’t. I have to say luckily enough we haven’t come across that level of rudeness here."

No need for rudeness in any message. I'd be impressed that you had read my profile.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south

"I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it .

I’m not sure anyone could consider the sample replies the OP provided as witty... if I got either of those I know how I’d take them.if people are rude just move on because not everyone gets out of the wrong side of bed and us be nice to someone who has two thousand messages every day can get themselves flustered by easygoing guys

There is no need for rudeness, there just isn’t. I have to say luckily enough we haven’t come across that level of rudeness here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it .

There is no need for rudeness, there just isn’t. I have to say luckily enough we haven’t come across that level of rudeness here."

I've come across alot worse but I do agree if someone takes the time to be r_spectful then it should be returned .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rarely reply with rudeness but the problem with text is you don't know if it's been said with sarcasm or rudeness or in a witty way . It's how you choose to take it .

There is no need for rudeness, there just isn’t. I have to say luckily enough we haven’t come across that level of rudeness here.

I've come across alot worse but I do agree if someone takes the time to be r_spectful then it should be returned ."

I d_spair... that’s just awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No time for rudeness at all but atleast you know what they are like op

, plenty of nice people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like your approach to others on this site is considerate and r_spectful OP, and those are probably two of your defining personality traits. When a positive person gets venomous replies like you have received, then you have obviously unearthed a negative person who get there kicks out of trying to make others feel worse than they feel themselves...someone you would surely regret spending time with, so just block them and don't do exactly what they intend you to do , ie take offence. Your post here alone will probably gain you the far more interest from the genuine good natured women your profile narrative seems to be aimed towards meeting.

People who reply to a repectful text with bile are to be pitied at worst and forgotten at best...so take plenty of no notice.

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By *ondalinger OP Man
over a year ago

City center

Thank you

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By *avidc2019Man
over a year ago

dublin

100% with you on this,there’s lots of story’s like this for both sides but it’s like you said ratio women to men is way out there,as for rudeness don’t get I’m the same as I’m sure many of the good lads are aswell, I send different messages been polite with pics and get no reply,can’t figure out why maybe I need to get a dick pic on my profile,which is another thing on most women’s profile they say no dick pics unless I ask,rude ppl will be deleted like wtf,I’m just going with the flow now just here for chat and banter with all the ppl here,lovely bunch on these forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Consider them lucky escape OP ha better than them arriving at your house before you realise they're shite

On a similar note a lot seem to generally consider a nice long message a copy and paste? Many of those profiles would have say more than just one liners written on them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi op.

Because people are wankers. Not everyone but alot. Give people a place to be anonymous and have no repercussions for their behaviour and you will _specially see rude behaviour.

But here's the kicker... How dare you or anyone else do the same to them. Lol.

I work dealing with people every day. As long as your super super false and friendly (kissing people's asses almost) people are nice. Inconvience them even in the slightest and watch people turn. People are animals.

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By *safunwituMan
over a year ago

Enniscorthy

The absolute worse I ever got back after being asked for a face pic was, you look like a paedo. If some one doesn't like the look of someone, they shouldn't be so nasty, as it shows how rotten they are. Have often gotten replies back saying, sorry you not my type and that is cool.

Show some r_spect, if your looking for it back.

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