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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does anyone else have this issue and struggle with it mentally?

Can't figure it's all in my head or medical issue

Can stay hard no problem, feel aroused a lot of the time but just can't come to climax... I get close then lose it

Any ideas really struggling with it

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Does anyone else have this issue and struggle with it mentally?

Can't figure it's all in my head or medical issue

Can stay hard no problem, feel aroused a lot of the time but just can't come to climax... I get close then lose it

Any ideas really struggling with it "

Relax

I mean it relax dont think about it think of ur partnwrs pleasure only and without notice it will happen

Then the problem is stopping it happening without notice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you have type one diabetes, are using prescribed medication such as pain relief or steroids or had surgery such as spinal or prostate, it’s unlikely to be physical. Relax. Knowing that your partner is having (an extra) good time

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

Think yourself lucky. Alot of men are the other way round. But yes .. relax and once she is pleasured. Go for it.

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

South Side.

This is a common problem. And if you don't have physical problems then it's "all in your head". And I don't mean that as an insult or a joke. Your brain controls your ejaculation. So, if your brain has been conditioned to retard your ejaculation, then you simply can't go over the edge and orgasm. It's well researched area of sexual Dysfunction and I won't go into the likely causes here, but it's possible to change, once you identify the original cause. Good luck with your enquiries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same, can't cum and never orgasmed and I know it's in my head as definitely more aware of it. I am trying to relax but hard to break a habit of been with a guy and getting him off asap.

Here's to a cumming in 2019

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

relax is the key ... don't be concentrating on your performance, or whether your partner is enjoying themselves. no one is ever as good or bad at sex as they imagine.

to help with relaxation make meditation or mindfulness part of your daily routine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think yourself lucky. Alot of men are the other way round. But yes .. relax and once she is pleasured. Go for it. "

To be fair if the guy cant ejaculate he isnt lucky I know what you meam but its just making light of a real problem.

At least guys who go quickly can find other ways to please someone and then go again.

Its not just about her pleasure.

OP you could try talking to someone professionallya and with a partner you trust to experiement with ways of relaxing you.

Can you do the deed on your own?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have this issue and struggle with it mentally?

Can't figure it's all in my head or medical issue

Can stay hard no problem, feel aroused a lot of the time but just can't come to climax... I get close then lose it

Any ideas really struggling with it

Relax

I mean it relax dont think about it think of ur partnwrs pleasure only and without notice it will happen

Then the problem is stopping it happening without notice "

Pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are probably making the issue worse by focusing on it, I'm afraid, relaxation and letting go of pressure is the key but that can take time and a patient partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can masturbate to ejaculation then it's definitely a psychological issue, but either way it might be worth talking to your doctor about it. There may be other areas of your life causing anxiety or stress which are impacting on you also.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth


"Does anyone else have this issue and struggle with it mentally?

Can't figure it's all in my head or medical issue

Can stay hard no problem, feel aroused a lot of the time but just can't come to climax... I get close then lose it

Any ideas really struggling with it "

Drinking enough water?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Drink plenty work

Physically in shape

Don't take meds

Can do the deed myself

When on my own I can focus on just enjoying it. When I was younger I'd always try not to cum too early so putting it off and off but now it's mentally just can't focus.

My mind just wanders all the time and when in the bed so I can just about enjoy it when feel I'm about to cum then I speed up to get there then lose it

It's fine for a bit of time but then you go in for so long it feels like I'm never gonna get there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for there private messages really means a lot for some one to reach out.

Haven't gotten down to route cause but nice to know there is understanding out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm the same, can't cum and never orgasmed and I know it's in my head as definitely more aware of it. I am trying to relax but hard to break a habit of been with a guy and getting him off asap.

Here's to a cumming in 2019 "

I think we could slowly fix that issue

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By *ifeisforliving2016Man
over a year ago

waterford

Op your not alone ,I'm similar to you in one sence,I've an issue with cumming while getting a bj. I haven't cum that way in years ,I had a long-term lover who would give me oral but never wanted me to cum that way,since then I've never been able to,irispective of how many lovers I've had since .

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

but what if your partner isnt having a good time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps you're trying to fuck your problems away but they just aren't getting there! Deep..

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By *ZfunguyMan
over a year ago

Galway

Are you taking any medication? Some can have that side effect. Antidepressants, like Lexapro, for instance gas that effect.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

When I need to cum I just imagine she is bored and waiting for me to finish.

Works every time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you taking any medication? Some can have that side effect. Antidepressants, like Lexapro, for instance gas that effect. "

Been off them For 3months

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By *ichael McCarthyMan
over a year ago

Lucan

I can't help but wonder now if this is what ABBA were singing about when they sang "The day before you came"?

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