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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I'm here for no strings fun. I'm not looking to meet my soulmate here.

So when it comes to messaging the lovely women of fabbed, how long do you stay playing message tennis with them before you decide this is going knowhere.

I'm All for sending messages back and forth so both can get to the point where they are happy that they can trust the other to move things along.

But after a fee weeks of a couple of messages a day is it time to cut that line and let them swim away?

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By *irdnBorisMan
over a year ago

meath

Sure when they see your post they be queing up lol

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By *ortadowncplCouple
over a year ago

Portadown

Nobody can tell you how long is right for you and you can't judge how long is right for others.

It's a tough one and it's a case by case basis. We are not into long periods of messaging either but "wanna fuck" just doesn't work for us.

In saying that, the same person could message us with "I'm free tonight if you fancy some fun, here is my pic" on two different nights - one night he'll get a "No thanks" and not much else and another night, because she is in the mood or we were planning to put up a meet he's in with a very good chance!

It's frustrating for couples as much as it is for singles at times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sure when they see your post they be queing up lol"

Not really, I'm not trying to portray to anyone I message that I here for anything more than some fun.

I don't want to be your long term partner or that special person in your life that you have just the right connection with.

If I wanted that i'd be on one the online dating sites that are geared for that.

To me messages should be about establishing if you are the right fit for each other. Not build a long term friendship

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin

3 hours and 34 minutes and 14 seconds...

Its proven.

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere

Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on."

Haha! You gettin in the car yeah?

Ill give you more then 2 mins

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on."

I was thinking just this!

But honestly after about 3 weeks I cut them loose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on."

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on."

Also those two messages have to be inside that timeframe I mentioned.

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By *aucyladMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on.

I was thinking just this!

But honestly after about 3 weeks I cut them loose."

Thats so good of you to cut them loose.its like a catch and release system with you!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Thats so good of you to cut them loose.its like a catch and release system with you!!"

More the point if plans arnt a foot to make plans to meet. What are you doing?

I'm not looking for a pen pal

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By *igBlondeDommeWoman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere


"Two messages . If she doesn't hop in her car and meet you I'd give up and move on.

I was thinking just this!

But honestly after about 3 weeks I cut them loose."

Cut them loose....kinky

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By *rutus83Man
over a year ago

naas


"So I'm here for no strings fun. I'm not looking to meet my soulmate here.

So when it comes to messaging the lovely women of fabbed, how long do you stay playing message tennis with them before you decide this is going knowhere.

I'm All for sending messages back and forth so both can get to the point where they are happy that they can trust the other to move things along.

But after a fee weeks of a couple of messages a day is it time to cut that line and let them swim away?"

You might go months before getting a meet as it all takes time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've regular chatters I've never met bit others I'd meet as soon as im free . If there is a certain timeframe I wouldn't be interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've regular chatters I've never met bit others I'd meet as soon as im free . If there is a certain timeframe I wouldn't be interested "

Same as here

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By *traycats2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin

We could be chatting to someone for months before we meet . Especially with couples it depends on distance , children etc... it not all wham bam for me anyhow ... I like to build a relationship .. everyone’s different though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must be great to be able to drop all for a meet. I work shift work so obviously don't meet when working. So my 4 days off also have to do my normal family stuff etc so if someone isn't willing to understand I can't drop all, hop in a car and go meet than off with him.

I was chatting to a guy for nearly 6 Months before we met and it was worth the wait.

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By *yesgreenMan
over a year ago

north and south


"I've regular chatters I've never met bit others I'd meet as soon as im free . If there is a certain timeframe I wouldn't be interested "
yes work and timing needed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Must be great to be able to drop all for a meet.

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Where in my post did I sugest that everything should be dropped.

What I did say, was if after about 3 weeks and the idea of a meet is not on the cards yet. It's time to move on.

I get having to work around real life. But most of the time that's not the case.

Most would get out to the pub or what ever once a month. If you want something you organise it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here for no strings fun. I'm not looking to meet my soulmate here.

So when it comes to messaging the lovely women of fabbed, how long do you stay playing message tennis with them before you decide this is going knowhere.

I'm All for sending messages back and forth so both can get to the point where they are happy that they can trust the other to move things along.

But after a fee weeks of a couple of messages a day is it time to cut that line and let them swim away?"

If they're well verified and hot ... as long as it takes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm here for no strings fun. I'm not looking to meet my soulmate here.

So when it comes to messaging the lovely women of fabbed, how long do you stay playing message tennis with them before you decide this is going knowhere.

I'm All for sending messages back and forth so both can get to the point where they are happy that they can trust the other to move things along.

But after a fee weeks of a couple of messages a day is it time to cut that line and let them swim away?"

Everyone has a different approach but if after a few weeks of daily messages and still no arrangement to meet in place I would lose interest. Sadly, there are far too many who just get off on the idea of meeting but never follow it through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Must be great to be able to drop all for a meet.

Where in my post did I sugest that everything should be dropped.

What I did say, was if after about 3 weeks and the idea of a meet is not on the cards yet. It's time to move on.

I get having to work around real life. But most of the time that's not the case.

Most would get out to the pub or what ever once a month. If you want something you organise it. "

That's handy when u work Monday to Friday. I get every 5th weekend off so when I'm off it doesn't suit most to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best having an honest convo with that person. So you know where you both stand. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Everyone has a different approach but if after a few weeks of daily messages and still no arrangement to meet in place I would lose interest. Sadly, there are far too many who just get off on the idea of meeting but never follow it through."

This is what I was getting at.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick

Ten seconds

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Who was i talking to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ten seconds

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Na bie . I was not on about how long it takes you to cum.

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By *j47Man
over a year ago

limerick


"Ten seconds

Na bie . I was not on about how long it takes you to cum."

Haha ten seconds that would have being me twice with a ciggie inbetween

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk."

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well.

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By *nowy007Woman
over a year ago

Near Enough


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well. "

Exactly this

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By *phrodite72Woman
over a year ago

dublin/galway


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well. "

Brilliantly put missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well. "

Spot on

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford

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By *P_80Man
over a year ago

Waterford


"I continue chatting when the conversations are engaging and there was a genuine spark.

It's when the conversations feel like they're being dragged that I just let 'em go.

I can't do small talk.

This. If you genuinely get along with a person and have something to talk about why the hell Not?

I would absolutely hate thinking or knowing that someone only talks to me because they want to fuck me. Not looking for a boyfriend or a husband either, just nice to get along with people and make new friends with fantastic benefits. Sex is always a hundred times better between two people who at least care about each other and mean each other well. "

Exactly.

I've kept in touch with ladies from the last time I was on here. Ladies who I knew I would probably never meet due to distance and other factors, but the chats were good fun and interesting.

I even kept in touch with a man from here for a while as we got on really well and had very similar tastes, particularly music.

No harm in finding a new friend

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