FabSwingers.com forum: Can a message be too much ?

By *eebaw OP Man
over a year ago

One for the guys and girls and couples here .

I know everyone is different but generaly what do you like to see in a message I’v sent a few messages since returning. Wasnt a copy and paste job and i put effort in as well as compliments . So what would you like to see and also what do you think is enough from your own sending ?

I woulnt mind not getting a reply but few instant blocks which i found very strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose your just not what they want . I wouldn't take it personal even women get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt take the block personally some people just use it as a streamlining tool.

I tend to only message if I already have something to say, so my messages take very little effort as I am just writing whats in my head, not trying to match a message to a woman if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well whatever happens, you can't take offence, there are so many different reasons for no response or getting blocked, just move along lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ. "

Great advice. Glad the op posted this and you gabe this quality reply. I have learned a lot from your reply alone. Thank you

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I wouldn't take offense over being blocked in those instances OP, just means you didn't match their preferences. If someone has very open filters, they probably get mailed by a lot of folk who don't actually match their preferences, so its easier to block than reply to everyone.

Personally I prefer to use my filters wisely and only reserve blocking for folk who act like complete and utter twats, or locals I suspect I may know and wish to avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

Great advice. Glad the op posted this and you gabe this quality reply. I have learned a lot from your reply alone. Thank you

Is there a hint of sarcasm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally find 75% of people reply to a first message.

Normally if a person catches my eye I normally give it a few days see there posts, or if the profile text changes.

I have a good gauge if I may be what they like or vice versa.

However any time I don't get a reply it's from a text I've cold sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

Great advice. Glad the op posted this and you gabe this quality reply. I have learned a lot from your reply alone. Thank you

Is there a hint of sarcasm?

I think just a crush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't take offense over being blocked in those instances OP, just means you didn't match their preferences. If someone has very open filters, they probably get mailed by a lot of folk who don't actually match their preferences, so its easier to block than reply to everyone.

Personally I prefer to use my filters wisely and only reserve blocking for folk who act like complete and utter twats, or locals I suspect I may know and wish to avoid

Whoop still not a complete twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

Great advice. Glad the op posted this and you gabe this quality reply. I have learned a lot from your reply alone. Thank you

Is there a hint of sarcasm?

No sarcasm. It was great advice. Also maybe a bit of a crush lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ. "

Yes this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ. "

Fab should have this advice up as a sticky on top of page! Can we add "free to meet now" to the list

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

Fab should have this advice up as a sticky on top of page! Can we add "free to meet now" to the list

A lot of people would like Free to Meet Now to be a sticky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More than two lines in a message - introduce yourself, make sure you fit what they're after, tell them what you have to offer, be sensible and respectful

Definite no gos:

Anything related to weekends/holidays.

Anything related to the weather.

"Let's chat and see where it takes us"

"Wanna fuck"

Any kind of complaints about time wasters, fakes or not being able to get a meet.

Those are my personal pet hates, I'm sure others opinions would differ.

Fab should have this advice up as a sticky on top of page! Can we add "free to meet now" to the list

A lot of people would like Free to Meet Now to be a sticky

It would actually be a great idea to have some kind of an option for people to put a little sticky note on their profile when they're free to meet now.

As a person who's free time is always unplanned and unexpected I would greatly appreciate some kind of a search option of who's free now in surrounding area...

That would also eliminate so many "wanna fuck" and "are you free now" messages...

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