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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just curious, how often do the ladies of fab make first contact with guys and vice versa? Also, with couples who tends to be more active on the account?

I sometimes will send a first mail but never really know what to say that doesn’t sound super cringe and cheesy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious, how often do the ladies of fab make first contact with guys and vice versa? Also, with couples who tends to be more active on the account?

I sometimes will send a first mail but never really know what to say that doesn’t sound super cringe and cheesy "

Curious....Is it Mrs or Mr posting ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just curious, how often do the ladies of fab make first contact with guys and vice versa? Also, with couples who tends to be more active on the account?

I sometimes will send a first mail but never really know what to say that doesn’t sound super cringe and cheesy

Curious....Is it Mrs or Mr posting ??"

Sorry, should have said... Ms!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just curious, how often do the ladies of fab make first contact with guys and vice versa? Also, with couples who tends to be more active on the account?

I sometimes will send a first mail but never really know what to say that doesn’t sound super cringe and cheesy "

I'll send the first mail if I see something that really catches my eye. Sometimes the mail will be sent with no intention of a meet.

I dont send a mail unless I have something I already want to say, might not be any less.cringy but helps form the mail at least.

With couples it seems an even split between genders but it always seems to be the one person in charge or the profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have made the first contact in the past a lot but not so much now in the last while.

Nerve wrecking yes but if u dont mail u will never know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female here and if we are interested I will make the first move.

Can't remember the last time it actually happened though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I sometimes send a mail just to compliment people on their pix or if they’re witty on the forums etc. not necessarily with a view to anything more. It’s nice to be nice I guess!

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By *eanbelfastMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I haven't made first contact that much but when I did it was more than a hello and an attempt to tease the mind and get them curious enough to reply. When I've been mailed Ive always replied and its how the conversation goes after that but Ive been incredibly luck with who I.ve met.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"Just curious, how often do the ladies of fab make first contact with guys and vice versa? Also, with couples who tends to be more active on the account?

I sometimes will send a first mail but never really know what to say that doesn’t sound super cringe and cheesy "

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Something like a general observation about their profile or a simple compliment will get a reply off most guys

Fab guys like to nibble but most of us don't bite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very very rarely will I make the first move... Because I'm a chicken shit

And always me messaging

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a hope would I message first even though the worse they can see is no

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas! "

Thank god for all the men with balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes send a mail just to compliment people on their pix or if they’re witty on the forums etc. not necessarily with a view to anything more. It’s nice to be nice I guess! "

Exactly, we try to reply to all messages. If someone makes the effort to message us why shouldn't we at least reply and if we find we get on then that's the bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas! "

Well haven't had a meet in months

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown


"

Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas!

Well haven't had a meet in months "

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Have chatted to this lady...

and all I can say is Sligo lads either are not into women or need to switch off their playstations and get onto Fab!

Seriously "men" ...she's lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas!

Well haven't had a meet in months

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Have chatted to this lady...

and all I can say is Sligo lads either are not into women or need to switch off their playstations and get onto Fab!

Seriously "men" ...she's lovely!

"

Thank you Tim x

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By *ailburkeMan
over a year ago

near you

I very rearly send a first message anymore

I would hate to think im some kind of sex pest plus with all the mail couples and single females get it just gets lost in their in box

Now i just try and keep my own profile interesting and up to date i'll fab a pic to show interest and if i really like a profile i'll send a wink

If they make first contact great texts will go back and over but even after that ill leave it up to them to keep them up some have said i maybe to layed back anout it but it Seems to be a better approach i think

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By *r_mrs_studmuffinCouple
over a year ago

narnia

With our couple profile it's me Mrs who is always commenting online sending messages ECT .. himself pops in for a nose now and again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always happy to send first message if I see interesting profile. I was recently recruiting for my first MFM and I headhunted the winning candidate best final interview ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my mail must go to people’s junk box as I never get any replies ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I intend to go after what I'm looking for so not afraid to send first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ahhh girls, if lads had that attitude...

Nobody would meet!

...so Let's all say "hi" for Christmas! "

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I have had a few women make first contact . Nothing wrong there is there . It's always nice to get a message from a lady .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oppps wring thread, thought it was about Star Trek, been me up Scottie

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By *arry and AnnCouple
over a year ago

Louth

Its normally Barry thats on for us, Ann does be on through the day but doesnt chip into the forums or that usually..

As for who sends the first mail when talking to people, it differs from person to person but its usually the other party that contacts us

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

Serial chatter so im always saying hi to folk, see if i can pique an interest.. probably comes across as needy but i will talk and tease with anyone..... meets are another matter...

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By *elfastDMan
over a year ago

belfast

Generally it’s me that makes the first contact and it’s usually after flirting a bit on the forums

I don’t mind who contacts who first, it’s just a chat and a flirt after all, it’s not like I’ll be hanging around, following you about and sending you constant meaningless annoying messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had several first messages from women and couples (normally about my profile or posts) but not about meeting.

I have plenty of messages from men wanting me to suck them.

I can't recall anyone actually messaging about meeting. I don't send first messages any more.

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I would think women make contact most of the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For a while I sent messages. But didn’t get any response. So then I tried to message people to compliment them for their updates or forum post but found I was outside their age range.

So now I just say “fuck it” which is why most of us are here. And pop in from time to time.

It’s nice though to get someone message you first other than asking if I wanted my cock sucked by a guy.

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By *ugs BunnyCouple
over a year ago

south Dublin

Haven't made first contact in a good while. I did when we first joined but not anymore. We prefer to meet people at socials or parties first. I can never tell if i fancy someone from a profile or messages. Gotta meet face to face Xxx Mrs Bugs

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By *s LollyWoman
over a year ago

The pub then supermacs ...

If i come across a profile that catches my eye I'll make contact might not be for play or looking to meet sometimes they might have something funny on there status or said something fun on the forum page but i have made contact for coffee to

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By *eebawMan
over a year ago

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Well if i like the profile and the pics I’l send a mail trying to put the effort into the message compliments and also try get convo started on what theyv in there profile . Doesnt work most of the time thou ..........

Iv had a few occurences where by a femalw or cpl have contacted me mostly its the female half of couple though . Most who have contacted me first were genuine and up for meet no messers

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