FabSwingers.com forum: Are Females afraid ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Morning all.Just a bit of advice or tips

we are a very respectable private couple who have tried men and couples but finding it hard to enjoy fun with a lone female.we totally understand the fear of security and trust or maybe they get 1000s of messages and we just get lost ha.Always willing to meet for coffee and send face pics (if genuine).Any advice would help

emma x

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By *ingerrrrWoman
over a year ago

Meath

Morning,

I think you need to get into the mind of a single female.

When suggesting meeting, ask your own lady if she’d be comfortable with what you are suggesting. Think about personal security, meeting two strangers... etc.

For me, I find the whole meeting couples thing very daunting. They have history with eachother, know eachother intimately and know what they’re expecting and want from the meet. Finding a couple that are fully open with no jealousy issues or agendas is difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Morning,

I think you need to get into the mind of a single female.

When suggesting meeting, ask your own lady if she’d be comfortable with what you are suggesting. Think about personal security, meeting two strangers... etc.

Oh I couldn't agree more saying that some couples are very easy to chat with also...

It's the wondering also who chatting when on here, most it's guessing game or have to ask, and lots of couple profiles not all have loads pics of Mrs and hardly and if Mr!!

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By *arcolemMan
over a year ago

Killarney

Same goes for some single guys meeting couples. It can be very awkward sometimes to know what a couple are interested in. I have wondered after the last 2 meets what some couples are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same goes for some single guys meeting couples. It can be very awkward sometimes to know what a couple are interested in. I have wondered after the last 2 meets what some couples are looking for.

Just read another tread about couples and females, but ya has to be daunting for single guys to...

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By *orinaTSTV/TS
over a year ago

Dublin

I've been around the scenee for years.. both as a couple and single. I'm single now and the type of messages I get within three messages i can mostly tell what people are like. I think that first connection either sets it or doesn't. Mostly I'd doesn't with both guys and couples. One couple we met years ago ended up with the guy beating the girl around the room upstairs as we sat downstairs. That shook us both.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Morning,

I think you need to get into the mind of a single female.

When suggesting meeting, ask your own lady if she’d be comfortable with what you are suggesting. Think about personal security, meeting two strangers... etc.

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yes totally agree it being very daunting for females and as you say the couple obv know eachother alot so it could be slightly intimidating.we understand that going to a event would make it easier but because our jobs we cant really risk it.so coffee meets and veris is all we got

like we are not desperate but something both of us find how to arrange.maybe its our profile ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the club and private party scene and do your networking with single ladies there , once ye are all on the same track, it will help in your quest to find who ye are looking for . Good luck with your search.

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By *osmicGateMan
over a year ago

louth

Women are very skittish and can change their mind very easily ..if you manage to meet 1 its an achievement so you should savour the moment because the following week youll be blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women are very skittish and can change their mind very easily ..if you manage to meet 1 its an achievement so you should savour the moment because the following week youll be blocked

Your not selling a meet with you well there

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By *rossflow daveMan
over a year ago

Mullingar

"Women are very skittish and can change their mind very easily ..if you manage to meet 1 its an achievement so you should savour the moment because the following week youll be blocked

The way you describe it puts me in mind of trout fishing !

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

I believe it's very hard to get single ladies to meet couples .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I have to know there is no insecurities with the couple

Putting yourself in a situation where the female my get a jealous fit would be very uncomfortable :-/

And then at times you wonder if they are seeing you as their play thing, rather than a mutual enjoyment for all

I suppose it's about finding a couple that there is a mutual attraction between all, and also finding a couple who you are attracted to both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got an insight into what can go wrong in an MMF with a couple in a previous incarnation.

Can only imagine the fear of the same in a MFF scenario would be forefront in any females mind when being in contact with an MF.

Suppose a building of online rapport via message and possible cam sessions would go quite a way to calming some fears. At the end of the day though there is a void that has to be jumped by all females going to be the F in anyone's MFF, FFF, MMF and so on.

Best of luck OP with your hunt, you will get there though and when you do it will hopefully result regular high quality and enjoyable fun.

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By *eijaWoman
over a year ago

City Centre

"Got an insight into what can go wrong in an MMF with a couple in a previous incarnation.

Can only imagine the fear of the same in a MFF scenario would be forefront in any females mind when being in contact with an MF.

Best of luck OP with your hunt, you will get there though and when you do it will hopefully result regular high quality and enjoyable fun.

Well said!

I've met a good few couples at this stage. I also been on the scene as a single and part of a couple so understand how hard it it is to find the right person dynamic...

Building up a rapport online is most important and of course meeting for a social drink to see if there's chemistry.

Every couple is looking for something different and every couple has their own rules. Understanding those at times can be difficult and challenging but communication is key.

I've no doubt you will find what you are looking for great profile

Beja x

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By *m35279Woman
over a year ago

belfast

Most threesomes I’ve had have been with friends. Strange couples, the thought petrifies me. I’ve met strange couples but the nerves are terrible. That’s just me though, I’ve terrible anxiety. I’m not looking to meet couples now but if you want my advice, build up friendships over time. Support the single female on the site. Just be a friend. Maybe meet up socially. Over time it’ll be a walk in the park to get naked and get dirty.

Maybe that’s too much effort for casual sex though lol

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By *m35279Woman
over a year ago

belfast

Oh I also had a couple I gave my number to and I was led to believe I was chatting to the female and all of a sudden the male tried to add me on social media. My advice would also be, be genuine and not a creepy male pretending to be a female

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By *m35279Woman
over a year ago

belfast

"For me I have to know there is no insecurities with the couple

Putting yourself in a situation where the female my get a jealous fit would be very uncomfortable :-/

And then at times you wonder if they are seeing you as their play thing, rather than a mutual enjoyment for all

I suppose it's about finding a couple that there is a mutual attraction between all, and also finding a couple who you are attracted to both "

Well said about not feeling like the ‘play thing’

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