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"Some like 'em, some hate 'em, and some of us really don't care bacause it's none of our business and we can all make up our own minds who we do or don't want to meet "Tell that to Mrs Rudolph  | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. " You just want feelings now  | |||
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"Some like 'em, some hate 'em, and some of us really don't care bacause it's none of our business and we can all make up our own minds who we do or don't want to meet
Tell that to Mrs Rudolph "I did... She told me to send him home with a smile on his face and an extra bounce in his step | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. You just want feelings now "Strong feelings between my legs when I have some time to spare, yes | |||
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"Some like 'em, some hate 'em, and some of us really don't care bacause it's none of our business and we can all make up our own minds who we do or don't want to meet
Tell that to Mrs Rudolph
I did... She told me to send him home with a smile on his face and an extra bounce in his step "Well he looks happy  just watch his bloodpressure, I dont like the look of that nose | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. You just want feelings now
Strong feelings between my legs when I have some time to spare, yes "I have a can of deep heat and 10mins  | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. You just want feelings now
Strong feelings between my legs when I have some time to spare, yes
I have a can of deep heat and 10mins "Just what I need lol | |||
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"suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. " Exactly this | |||
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"As a married man who's wife knows he's on here and turns a blind eye (not really consent) I'm all for it. I believe people should be upfront about it though so that the other party knows the situation. When a marriage is sexless for many years the alternative to swinging for me is celibacy or divorce neither of which are options I care to pursue. " Isn't it still cheating even if your partner knows what your up to. | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e....." Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear.... | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear...." Is she not just giving her opinion as the OP asked people to do. I dont think there was anything abusive in her post. | |||
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"Someone going to get hurt before you're true,Someone going to pay for the things you do, Don't be surprised if that someone is you. " You talk alot of poo, yes you really do. Truth is you dont have a clue, just a distorted view. Just bile lined up in a que, your mouth is always ready to spew. Sligo always has a bone to chew, execpt he never thinks it through. Im better at rhyiming than you, I'd make a better troll too | |||
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"Someone going to get hurt before you're true,Someone going to pay for the things you do, Don't be surprised if that someone is you. You talk alot of poo, yes you really do. Truth is you dont have a clue, just a distorted view. Just bile lined up in a que, your mouth is always ready to spew. Sligo always has a bone to chew, execpt he never thinks it through. Im better at rhyiming than you, I'd make a better troll too "Saving all my kisses just for you,signed with love forever true. | |||
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"suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. Exactly this" I think this topic is related to all Fabers not just man here are attached | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit!" I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex." Very good point Anon. Well said. I was in one of those marriages & eventually left. A lot of repercussions followed & still are but will eventually get there hopefully. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex." Absolutely agree | |||
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 and you're on fab without your partners consent...
that's something you and you only have to deal with 
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and let's play strip poker!" 
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex." Anon....spot on | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear.... Is she not just giving her opinion as the OP asked people to do. I dont think there was anything abusive in her post." Thank you. It wasn't meant to be abusive at all. But there are a lot of people on here with cluseless spouses who haven't asked to be lied to and cheated on. | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear.... Is she not just giving her opinion as the OP asked people to do. I dont think there was anything abusive in her post. Thank you. It wasn't meant to be abusive at all. But there are a lot of people on here with cluseless spouses who haven't asked to be lied to and cheated on." Not abusive no but very black and white. This is very rare in human relationships, where multiple factors are involved. I was about to list them but was aware of how each would be singled out for comment here, so I won't bother and will assume the majority are aware of most of them. My list would not be conclusive either, as I would only be speaking from personal experience and that of my friends, so best not to. Some of us, including a few above, have tried speaking to partners but it hasn't reached a conclusive result. As such, we are here without their knowledge but they often know exactly what we're doing. That's far from ideal but it is some people's reality, so I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand. Effectively I'm saying Live and Let Live and everyone can choose for themselves, whether they entertain the idea of playing with married folk or not. | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear.... Is she not just giving her opinion as the OP asked people to do. I dont think there was anything abusive in her post. Thank you. It wasn't meant to be abusive at all. But there are a lot of people on here with cluseless spouses who haven't asked to be lied to and cheated on. Not abusive no but very black and white. This is very rare in human relationships, where multiple factors are involved. I was about to list them but was aware of how each would be singled out for comment here, so I won't bother and will assume the majority are aware of most of them. My list would not be conclusive either, as I would only be speaking from personal experience and that of my friends, so best not to. Some of us, including a few above, have tried speaking to partners but it hasn't reached a conclusive result. As such, we are here without their knowledge but they often know exactly what we're doing. That's far from ideal but it is some people's reality, so I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand. Effectively I'm saying Live and Let Live and everyone can choose for themselves, whether they entertain the idea of playing with married folk or not. " Well said Mr dunboyne | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e....." You don't know anything about any of these people or their personal situation so how dare you form an opinion about them. | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... You don't know anything about any of these people or their personal situation so how dare you form an opinion about them." Well as she said if they are meeting behind their partners back they cheating. | |||
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"A guy or a woman who is meeting behind their spouse's back is am adulterer, pure and simple. If you aren't getting the sex/affection whatever at home you leave. You don't lie and cheat and create two unhappy people. We have one life, don't live it screwing around. Waiting for the deluge of abu$e..... Hate to point this out but in a thread of reasonable comment the only judgement and abuse is coming from your keyboard. Sorry about that dear.... Is she not just giving her opinion as the OP asked people to do. I dont think there was anything abusive in her post. Thank you. It wasn't meant to be abusive at all. But there are a lot of people on here with cluseless spouses who haven't asked to be lied to and cheated on. Not abusive no but very black and white. This is very rare in human relationships, where multiple factors are involved. I was about to list them but was aware of how each would be singled out for comment here, so I won't bother and will assume the majority are aware of most of them. My list would not be conclusive either, as I would only be speaking from personal experience and that of my friends, so best not to. Some of us, including a few above, have tried speaking to partners but it hasn't reached a conclusive result. As such, we are here without their knowledge but they often know exactly what we're doing. That's far from ideal but it is some people's reality, so I wouldn't dismiss it out of hand. Effectively I'm saying Live and Let Live and everyone can choose for themselves, whether they entertain the idea of playing with married folk or not. " My reasons for cheating. there as good as lies can be,how much more can she take and still stand by me?...........................Its so hard for me to call her I can hardly dial the phone, I did wrong again last night now I just want to go back home. ..............................She knows that I lied,she will cry where I can't see,how much more can she take and still stand by me. | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes?" No not at all, its 100% the married persons choice and responsibility. | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes?" If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife... | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife..." How is it someone's responsibility to watch out for someone they don't know ? The only person responsible for a cheater is themselves. They chose to advertise themselves on a sex site so it's them and no on else responsible | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? No not at all, its 100% the married persons choice and responsibility." So if you know you're meeting a married woman or man your in no way responsible for the carnage afterwards. | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? No not at all, its 100% the married persons choice and responsibility. So if you know you're meeting a married woman or man your in no way responsible for the carnage afterwards. " In my opionion no your not. You can decide to meet them or not. But if they are in here the damage is already done if their paryner finds out | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex. Absolutely agree "Agree | |||
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"Someone going to get hurt before you're true,Someone going to pay for the things you do, Don't be surprised if that someone is you. You talk alot of poo, yes you really do. Truth is you dont have a clue, just a distorted view. Just bile lined up in a que, your mouth is always ready to spew. Sligo always has a bone to chew, execpt he never thinks it through. Im better at rhyiming than you, I'd make a better troll too " top class! Kudos to you! | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? No not at all, its 100% the married persons choice and responsibility. So if you know you're meeting a married woman or man your in no way responsible for the carnage afterwards. In my opionion no your not. You can decide to meet them or not. But if they are in here the damage is already done if their paryner finds out" But surely just because something is damaged don't give you free rein to inflict more damage. | |||
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"Fab should just add married looking for married in the search box. Then like minded people can contact each other." Lol. You're probably right! Although perhaps then it becomes a site it doesn't really want to be. Just as a side note, I started this forum post not as a dig at anyone or tryimg to anger or point fingers. It's simply a debate based on the experiences I have found on Fab so far. It's very interesting to see the different dynamic. | |||
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"Fab should just add married looking for married in the search box. Then like minded people can contact each other." And end up in endless chats never able to fit their family schedules lol | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife... How is it someone's responsibility to watch out for someone they don't know ? The only person responsible for a cheater is themselves. They chose to advertise themselves on a sex site so it's them and no on else responsible " Im not suggesting anyone is responsible for anothers actions. I am saying if someone chooses to engage in a sexual act with a married person,knowing they are married and unbeknowns to their partner, then in my opinion they are culpable if that person finds out. | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife... How is it someone's responsibility to watch out for someone they don't know ? The only person responsible for a cheater is themselves. They chose to advertise themselves on a sex site so it's them and no on else responsible Im not suggesting anyone is responsible for anothers actions. I am saying if someone chooses to engage in a sexual act with a married person,knowing they are married and unbeknowns to their partner, then in my opinion they are culpable if that person finds out. "Culpable of what? | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife... How is it someone's responsibility to watch out for someone they don't know ? The only person responsible for a cheater is themselves. They chose to advertise themselves on a sex site so it's them and no on else responsible Im not suggesting anyone is responsible for anothers actions. I am saying if someone chooses to engage in a sexual act with a married person,knowing they are married and unbeknowns to their partner, then in my opinion they are culpable if that person finds out.
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"Fab should just add married looking for married in the search box. Then like minded people can contact each other." | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I am in the same position and upfront about it. I have never received any abuse on here because of it. I don't think it has affected the number of offers I get either. I would like to point out that you can be in a sexless marriage and not want to leave for a variety of reasons including love, shared history and family, kids, finances, etc. Marriage is more than sex. Here is just sex." Nail on the head | |||
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"Here's another question. What's people's opinion on those who do indulge married men? Are they as complicit in your eyes? If they are aware of the circumstances, then of course they are, some may rationalise it away thats its just sex, tell that to the scorned wife... How is it someone's responsibility to watch out for someone they don't know ? The only person responsible for a cheater is themselves. They chose to advertise themselves on a sex site so it's them and no on else responsible Im not suggesting anyone is responsible for anothers actions. I am saying if someone chooses to engage in a sexual act with a married person,knowing they are married and unbeknowns to their partner, then in my opinion they are culpable if that person finds out.
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Hopefully, you wont have to explain it to the wife "My gut feeling tells me she wouldn't really want to listen to an explanation from my side, besides that there's very little to explain. It might be regarded as morally wrong to have sex with a married man however it isn't a crime in this country. I've no obligations towards her, so I don't see where the culpability comes in. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit!" I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options " Not judging just asking here. Firstly if your wife has said find it elsewhere would you not just tell her about being on the site? | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options " Not great options for you. What are your partners options. ?? | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not judging just asking here. Firstly if your wife has said find it elsewhere would you not just tell her about being on the site?" You got there before me. Good question. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not judging just asking here. Firstly if your wife has said find it elsewhere would you not just tell her about being on the site?" Not now, who knows what the future will hold though | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not great options for you. What are your partners options. ??" The options are not good for both of us but ignoring a problem is not a solution. I'd much rather not be here honestly. Hopefully things will improve which is what I want | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options " The things you mentioned above don't seem to be as important to you as getting you're leg-over | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not great options for you. What are your partners options. ?? The options are not good for both of us but ignoring a problem is not a solution. I'd much rather not be here honestly. Hopefully things will improve which is what I want" Hey bud you don't have to explain you personal situation to anyone on here because it's none of their bloody business. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options The things you mentioned above don't seem to be as important to you as getting you're leg-over" Given this is a sex site wtf are you here for or are you just a keyboard warrior. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options The things you mentioned above don't seem to be as important to you as getting you're leg-over Given this is a sex site wtf are you here for or are you just a keyboard warrior. " Im not hear to ride other men's partners. | |||
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"Here was I thinking that a swinger site would be full of non judgemental open minded people but it's more like the fucking Catholic church of fifty years ago with people preaching. What a load of bollix." Hey buddy, swingers have sex with their partners knowlegde and permission, some of them even join in. Because people have opinions about marrage and the rights and wrongs of playing without your partners knowledge that differ to yours does not make them judgemental or preachy. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not judging just asking here. Firstly if your wife has said find it elsewhere would you not just tell her about being on the site? You got there before me. Good question. " I dont believe in truth for truths sake it has to have a purpose so if telling the partner would only hurt them and not change your circumstances then why do that. Is it so terrible to withhold the truth when knowing it will only hurt but not change anything. Nobody knows anyone circumstances on here. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not judging just asking here. Firstly if your wife has said find it elsewhere would you not just tell her about being on the site? You got there before me. Good question. I dont believe in truth for truths sake it has to have a purpose so if telling the partner would only hurt them and not change your circumstances then why do that. Is it so terrible to withhold the truth when knowing it will only hurt but not change anything. Nobody knows anyone circumstances on here. " | |||
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"If you are happy to lie to your partner then you will have no probs lying to me and I won't play with someone I can't trust simple as that. "Not to argue with your pov, but we all lie to friends and family about meeting people off Fab. Lying isn't restricted to partners. We lie to babysitters about reasons for nights out, we lie to friends when we can't meet up for that spur-of-the-moment drink, and to family members when we tell them it's not really convenient for them to pop around for that cuppa right now, or when they ask how was your weekend. Fab makes liars of us all. Therefore none of us can be trusted. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Not great options for you. What are your partners options. ?? The options are not good for both of us but ignoring a problem is not a solution. I'd much rather not be here honestly. Hopefully things will improve which is what I want Hey bud you don't have to explain you personal situation to anyone on here because it's none of their bloody business." It is someone's business if he's married and the person he's meeting/chatting with doesn't play with married people. | |||
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"I'm curious about the phrasing everyone is using. There are obviously strong opinions on the moral issue of someone married meeting folk without their partner's knowledge, and even strong views on those who choose to meet them. But does that extend to unmarried couples? Is someone cheating on their partner, fiancé or bf/gf somehow less shocking? What if you're dating? Do you stop having meets with other people after the first date? The second one? Or wait until after you start sleeping with your new beau? Where is the line in the sand? " Well the OP's question was about Married people so that has probably shaped the phrasing. The line for me would be that moment in all relashonships I have beem in where it is discussed betweem me amd my partner about, for lack of a better word, exclusivity. | |||
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"Here was I thinking that a swinger site would be full of non judgemental open minded people but it's more like the fucking Catholic church of fifty years ago with people preaching. What a load of bollix. Hey buddy, swingers have sex with their partners knowlegde and permission, some of them even join in. Because people have opinions about marrage and the rights and wrongs of playing without your partners knowledge that differ to yours does not make them judgemental or preachy." Actually now I don't agree... We'll said short | |||
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"Here was I thinking that a swinger site would be full of non judgemental open minded people but it's more like the fucking Catholic church of fifty years ago with people preaching. What a load of bollix. Hey buddy, swingers have sex with their partners knowlegde and permission, some of them even join in. Because people have opinions about marrage and the rights and wrongs of playing without your partners knowledge that differ to yours does not make them judgemental or preachy. Actually now I don't agree... We'll said short" Jesus Christ Jack.... you have beem around the Fab forums long enough to know your not ment to read anythinh with an open mind and change your opinion | |||
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"Here was I thinking that a swinger site would be full of non judgemental open minded people but it's more like the fucking Catholic church of fifty years ago with people preaching. What a load of bollix. Hey buddy, swingers have sex with their partners knowlegde and permission, some of them even join in. Because people have opinions about marrage and the rights and wrongs of playing without your partners knowledge that differ to yours does not make them judgemental or preachy. Actually now I don't agree... We'll said short Jesus Christ Jack.... you have beem around the Fab forums long enough to know your not ment to read anythinh with an open mind and change your opinion "Long day, plus I'm an emotional mess with conflicting views when I'm tired, ill probably change my opinion before the nights out , | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options "Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected."Have to agree with this | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. " I agree totally the same view here. I rather play in front of the wife/partner much more Of a turn on for me really. I want to try keep some morals to a certain extent. I really would not like to be a home wrecker to be quite honest... | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected."What if you just don't excite her anymore?. What if it's medical reasons?. And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.?? | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.?? "The kids would love that.. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that.. "My kids did. In fact in the end we all did. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected."In my opinion is that not justifying it and playing the blame game on the other?!. It takes two to tango. If you feel your wife has no love or respect for denying you sex then staying just for house and kids is very sad. You said you addressed the issue but how often and did either or your wife ever seek outside help for you both to try work it out. Or if it can't be then go separate ways and civil arrangements can be made for kids etc. Neither of you can life forever like that one would think?! | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
In my opinion is that not justifying it and playing the blame game on the other?!. It takes two to tango. If you feel your wife has no love or respect for denying you sex then staying just for house and kids is very sad. You said you addressed the issue but how often and did either or your wife ever seek outside help for you both to try work it out. Or if it can't be then go separate ways and civil arrangements can be made for kids etc. Neither of you can life forever like that one would think?!" | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did. "Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins.. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins.. "No one really wins either way in these situations.... But I think people underestimate Kids, their ability to pick up on tension and unhappiness in a home and their ability to adjust to seperated parents. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins.. "There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
No one really wins either way in these situations....
But I think people underestimate Kids, their ability to pick up on tension and unhappiness in a home and their ability to adjust to seperated parents."Snap. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
No one really wins either way in these situations....
But I think people underestimate Kids, their ability to pick up on tension and unhappiness in a home and their ability to adjust to seperated parents."Yes they adapt alot quicker than we do, and their certainly better off adapting to life outside of a toxic marriage | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure. "Well that's sad imo. I mean I don't know the circumstances and what the father 'was up to'. It's still his father and the reasons the parents separated shouldn't affect the son and father's relationship unless there was violence involved. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure.
Well that's sad imo. I mean I don't know the circumstances and what the father 'was up to'. It's still his father and the reasons the parents separated shouldn't affect the son and father's relationship unless there was violence involved. "No disrespect DH but you don't know any of the circumstances. The reason they don't speak is entirely between them. Trust is a big thing for my son. And FYI I speak to my ex . | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure.
Well that's sad imo. I mean I don't know the circumstances and what the father 'was up to'. It's still his father and the reasons the parents separated shouldn't affect the son and father's relationship unless there was violence involved.
No disrespect DH but you don't know any of the circumstances. The reason they don't speak is entirely between them. Trust is a big thing for my son. And FYI I speak to my ex . "You're absolutely right I don't know the circumstances nor the people involved like I pointed out myself. But in general to me communication is the key, you only have one father and one mother. | |||
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"Okay this post is fairly emotive so looking at it from another perspective (not mine made up scenario )you meet at 15 fall in love etc married at 20 promise to be exclusive etc. and for for 20 years everything is wonderful. You are both very happy have two kids Billy age 12 and Mary age 8 everything perfect and life intervenes. You end up for some reason or other their carer sex never on the table again. Your life partner who no one else will ever replace but you are only 40 would you give up sex for ever......" An excellent scenario to illustrate just one of the possible reasons a married person might be on here, amongst many other scenarios. If I was the incapacitated one in that scenario, I'd certainly be encouraging my wife to satisfy her physical self outside of the home | |||
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"Few years ago I actually preferred dating only married men (less of a chance of someone catching feelings, or them stalking me if I decide to break it off). Now - all that sneaking around, suiting someone's family time schedules, chances of drama if the wife finds out seems like too much of an effort and I sincerely couldn't be bothered with it. " All of this. I'm not going to try to fit in around someone's restrictions. | |||
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"Okay this post is fairly emotive so looking at it from another perspective (not mine made up scenario )you meet at 15 fall in love etc married at 20 promise to be exclusive etc. and for for 20 years everything is wonderful. You are both very happy have two kids Billy age 12 and Mary age 8 everything perfect and life intervenes. You end up for some reason or other their carer sex never on the table again. Your life partner who no one else will ever replace but you are only 40 would you give up sex for ever...... An excellent scenario to illustrate just one of the possible reasons a married person might be on here, amongst many other scenarios. If I was the incapacitated one in that scenario, I'd certainly be encouraging my wife to satisfy her physical self outside of the home "Ah but that would be consent, not cheating. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure.
Well that's sad imo. I mean I don't know the circumstances and what the father 'was up to'. It's still his father and the reasons the parents separated shouldn't affect the son and father's relationship unless there was violence involved. "Via the child-parent relationship the child also eventually matires and comes to realise what the parent is truly like as a person. Sometimes the issues that caused the breakup of the marriage may have stemmed from personality traits or behaviour that impact on any close relationship that individual may have. | |||
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"What are people's genuine view points on married people on here with out consent. I'm very honest in my approach and never chase it up if someone says they're not in to attached guys. I have a sneaking suspicion there are a lot more married women in here than they care to admit! I think more people on here are married but choose not to admit it which is there choice. I am upfront about it, anyone who meets me knows I am married. In terms of a reason to be here I think it seems obvious. Life is a journey & what may have worked previously may not in the present or the future. I have tried to address the issue of sex with my wife but have been told to get it elsewhere or watch porn & wank. So is it wrong to be here given that advice? Walking away from the marriage as some on this thread have suggested is not as simple in reality, the house is likely to be sold, devastation to the kids & being a weekend dad. Not great options Denying sex to your spouse for multiple years is a far worse betrayal....indicates you have no love or respect for them and don't give a toss about their needs. In the case of sexless marriages in my view the partner withholding is the real betrayal so if the other plays offside it is only natural and to be expected.
What if you just don't excite her anymore?.
What if it's medical reasons?.
And if you think there's no love or respect then why not go your separate ways. That way both people win.??
The kids would love that..
My kids did. In fact in the end we all did.
Glad it did work, but it dosnt for everyone, the poster above said you both win? My point is when it comes to separation not everyone wins..
There's no winners. There are survivors. I preferred my kids to be brought up in a home with no lies and arguments. They weren't told the real reason their parents broke up but my eldest has since told me he knew what his father was up to. He hasn't spoken to him in 3 years. Go figure.
Well that's sad imo. I mean I don't know the circumstances and what the father 'was up to'. It's still his father and the reasons the parents separated shouldn't affect the son and father's relationship unless there was violence involved.
No disrespect DH but you don't know any of the circumstances. The reason they don't speak is entirely between them. Trust is a big thing for my son. And FYI I speak to my ex .
You're absolutely right I don't know the circumstances nor the people involved like I pointed out myself. But in general to me communication is the key, you only have one father and one mother. "Yea you only have one mother and father but doesnt mean they are perfect either. You mention only if theres violence abuse comes in all forms not only physical mental abuse is worse. | |||
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"Okay this post is fairly emotive so looking at it from another perspective (not mine made up scenario )you meet at 15 fall in love etc married at 20 promise to be exclusive etc. and for for 20 years everything is wonderful. You are both very happy have two kids Billy age 12 and Mary age 8 everything perfect and life intervenes. You end up for some reason or other their carer sex never on the table again. Your life partner who no one else will ever replace but you are only 40 would you give up sex for ever...... An excellent scenario to illustrate just one of the possible reasons a married person might be on here, amongst many other scenarios. If I was the incapacitated one in that scenario, I'd certainly be encouraging my wife to satisfy her physical self outside of the home
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"If you are happy to lie to your partner then you will have no probs lying to me and I won't play with someone I can't trust simple as that.
Not to argue with your pov, but we all lie to friends and family about meeting people off Fab. Lying isn't restricted to partners. We lie to babysitters about reasons for nights out, we lie to friends when we can't meet up for that spur-of-the-moment drink, and to family members when we tell them it's not really convenient for them to pop around for that cuppa right now, or when they ask how was your weekend.
Fab makes liars of us all. Therefore none of us can be trusted. " brilliant | |||
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"Couldn’t agree more with this answer to it, this place is just for the sex that’s what we are here for, marriage on the other hand includes a number of factors that have more to it than sex. If a person is here they are here for one thing that one thing should have nothing else to do with anything else, would we tell the people we work with that we are here on fab??? I don’t think so, so let’s keep fab generally to ourselves and not involve everyone in our lives, just my opinion of course." Im not sure thats comparable... unless you have taken vows woth your work mates | |||
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"It's a no from me. I have it clearly stated on my profile I don't play with people who are here behind their partners back. Few years back, for an ex with a long shared history I let my resolve slip and fucked him knowing he had a gf (I was single). I eventually stopped it as I couldn't do it anymore. Then in my next relationship I was cheated on. I felt all the feelings that gf would have felt if she had found out. I deserved it. I love sex, but there's plenty of single guys to play with, without getting involved in that again." | |||
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"Until your in the situation of a sexless marriage, ( apologies, maybe 3/4 times a year if your lucky!! ), then feel free to make comments on the guy or guys that's on fab!!! There's lots of reasons not to walk out of the marriage, plus ones to leave the marriage, but it's the collateral damage you leave behind is the issue!!! "The OP asked for peoples opinions, so people gave them. Or would you rather a situation on here where people only comment if they agree? It would make the forums quite boring. | |||
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"Until your in the situation of a sexless marriage, ( apologies, maybe 3/4 times a year if your lucky!! ), then feel free to make comments on the guy or guys that's on fab!!! There's lots of reasons not to walk out of the marriage, plus ones to leave the marriage, but it's the collateral damage you leave behind is the issue!!!
The OP asked for peoples opinions, so people gave them. Or would you rather a situation on here where people only comment if they agree? It would make the forums quite boring.
"It's a forum!! People can say what they want!! Either to my comment or others!! But you seem to like my posts? You've replied to a lot of mine??? | |||
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"Until your in the situation of a sexless marriage, ( apologies, maybe 3/4 times a year if your lucky!! ), then feel free to make comments on the guy or guys that's on fab!!! There's lots of reasons not to walk out of the marriage, plus ones to leave the marriage, but it's the collateral damage you leave behind is the issue!!!
The OP asked for peoples opinions, so people gave them. Or would you rather a situation on here where people only comment if they agree? It would make the forums quite boring.
It's a forum!! People can say what they want!! Either to my comment or others!!
But you seem to like my posts? You've replied to a lot of mine???"I reply to loads of people James, just see above, sorry if I cant recall other times we interacted. Its nothong personal I just comment when O see something of interest. My only point was I dont think everyone has to have the same expiriance to share views. | |||
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"Until your in the situation of a sexless marriage, ( apologies, maybe 3/4 times a year if your lucky!! ), then feel free to make comments on the guy or guys that's on fab!!! There's lots of reasons not to walk out of the marriage, plus ones to leave the marriage, but it's the collateral damage you leave behind is the issue!!!
The OP asked for peoples opinions, so people gave them. Or would you rather a situation on here where people only comment if they agree? It would make the forums quite boring.
It's a forum!! People can say what they want!! Either to my comment or others!!
But you seem to like my posts? You've replied to a lot of mine???
I reply to loads of people James, just see above, sorry if I cant recall other times we interacted. Its nothong personal I just comment when O see something of interest.
My only point was I dont think everyone has to have the same expiriance to share views."Well aren't they lucky!!! And I hope they never have to experience it either!!! | |||
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