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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's keyboard warrior syndrome !!

These guys sitting on their mobiles sending nasty messages probably have sad little lives in the real world so think it's OK to troll on fab

Or maybe they are generally just horrible people on fab and in the real world

But what I do think is trolls are usually the insecure people

I just ignore it on the odd occasion it happens

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people "

It makes them feel big and powerful and in control but only from behind the keyboard though. Most of them wouldn't dare say to the person's face.

Some people are just assholes, that's just the way it is. Thankfully we have block buttons for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They probably get their weird kicks from it... nameless wonders

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By *oghunter33Woman
over a year ago

on the hill NordWest of

Nastiness is all wrong but best is too ignore and move on.

However if a message like this tips you over the edge you shouldn't be on here. Fab isn't a good place for the faint hearted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's keyboard warrior syndrome !!

These guys sitting on their mobiles sending nasty messages probably have sad little lives in the real world so think it's OK to troll on fab

Or maybe they are generally just horrible people on fab and in the real world

But what I do think is trolls are usually the insecure people

I just ignore it on the odd occasion it happens "

Totally agree with you, keyboard warriors at work, but it did remind me that there are assholes everywhere, lest I forget lol.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small minded prat who gets a pathetic kick out of trying to insult strangers, makes their sad day thinking they have upset you. Don't let them, be confident in your hot body!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nastiness is all wrong but best is too ignore and move on.

However if a message like this tips you over the edge you shouldn't be on here. Fab isn't a good place for the faint hearted."

Oh I ignored it as usual, and no Fab is not for the faint hearted, been here a long time, but I saw something on Facebook earlier bout a girl who almost died by suicide, but a kind word from a stranger stopped her, so it made me think how negative stuff can affect us, some more than others.....just thought would put it out there....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people

It makes them feel big and powerful and in control but only from behind the keyboard though. Most of them wouldn't dare say to the person's face.

Some people are just assholes, that's just the way it is. Thankfully we have block buttons for them.

"

I do like my block button.... But I hate ignorance.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Small minded prat who gets a pathetic kick out of trying to insult strangers, makes their sad day thinking they have upset you. Don't let them, be confident in your hot body!"

Thank you, I am confident in my body, wrote this post after having a nice wank and playing with my pussy......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine "

Rejection??? I don't get you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you? "

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Small minded prat who gets a pathetic kick out of trying to insult strangers, makes their sad day thinking they have upset you. Don't let them, be confident in your hot body!

Thank you, I am confident in my body, wrote this post after having a nice wank and playing with my pussy......"

Good! And I hope you got total enjoyment from it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong "

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Small minded prat who gets a pathetic kick out of trying to insult strangers, makes their sad day thinking they have upset you. Don't let them, be confident in your hot body!

Thank you, I am confident in my body, wrote this post after having a nice wank and playing with my pussy......

Good! And I hope you got total enjoyment from it!"

Mmmm yes I did thanks.....

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas

its nice to be nice, manners go a long way to making new friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me....."

Fair one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its nice to be nice, manners go a long way to making new friends"

Couldn't agree with u more, I have made so great friends on here (never expected that) it's cos of some of them I am still on here.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is an element of some fucked up pick up artist(or some other misogynistic bullshit) idea of insulting a woman to get her attention. Can't imagine it's too successful a strategy to be fair.

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By *ad IdeaMan
over a year ago

Limerick


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people "

Those are sad, unhappy people ,flustrated with their miserable life. Beta males so called wankers. Im sorry for them ...really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people

Those are sad, unhappy people ,flustrated with their miserable life. Beta males so called wankers. Im sorry for them ...really "

It's kind of u to sympathise with them..... Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is an element of some fucked up pick up artist(or some other misogynistic bullshit) idea of insulting a woman to get her attention. Can't imagine it's too successful a strategy to be fair. "

I have put manners on a few that had that approach, but these days it not worth wasting my energy on....far better things to be doing lol....

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By *unnyfookMan
over a year ago

Naas


"There is an element of some fucked up pick up artist(or some other misogynistic bullshit) idea of insulting a woman to get her attention. Can't imagine it's too successful a strategy to be fair. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is an element of some fucked up pick up artist(or some other misogynistic bullshit) idea of insulting a woman to get her attention. Can't imagine it's too successful a strategy to be fair. "

You nailed it on the head. The term is called negging. "Negging is a tactic used by predatory pick-up artists to undermine a womans self confidence leaving her vulnerable to attack"

I get it a lot I get called all sorts of horrible things but I know it's not true. But some woman not as confident would fall for it.

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By *ensualandslow321Man
over a year ago

Tullamore


"It's keyboard warrior syndrome !!

These guys sitting on their mobiles sending nasty messages probably have sad little lives in the real world so think it's OK to troll on fab

Or maybe they are generally just horrible people on fab and in the real world

But what I do think is trolls are usually the insecure people

I just ignore it on the odd occasion it happens "

So true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are deeply disturbed individuals whose only way of dealing with their own pain is to attack others anonymously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is an element of some fucked up pick up artist(or some other misogynistic bullshit) idea of insulting a woman to get her attention. Can't imagine it's too successful a strategy to be fair.

You nailed it on the head. The term is called negging. "Negging is a tactic used by predatory pick-up artists to undermine a womans self confidence leaving her vulnerable to attack"

I get it a lot I get called all sorts of horrible things but I know it's not true. But some woman not as confident would fall for it. "

Negging, eh, that's a new one for me.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they are deeply disturbed individuals whose only way of dealing with their own pain is to attack others anonymously. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I didn't know about negging or pegging until I signed up here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol I didn't know about negging or pegging until I signed up here "

Fab is a great educator on so many levels lol.....

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By *ouble Trouble 1000Couple
over a year ago

ireland

Says more about them than you ,you seem well clued on tho so that's a good thing but as you said it could have a not so nice effect on someone less wise to it all .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Says more about them than you ,you seem well clued on tho so that's a good thing but as you said it could have a not so nice effect on someone less wise to it all ."

Absolutely.....there was a time when it might have impacted on me, not any more.....but I am sure there r plenty that it could affect badly.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me....."

Had the same a few months ago, guy nessaged me had never messaged before or even seen his profile. Opening line "the size of you, who'd fxxk you," or something similar. Funny thing is his two veris were from bbw ladies and a lot bigger than me.

He's still on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a good site to be fair but nastyness often follows up with abuse from ppl

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me.....

Had the same a few months ago, guy nessaged me had never messaged before or even seen his profile. Opening line "the size of you, who'd fxxk you," or something similar. Funny thing is his two veris were from bbw ladies and a lot bigger than me.

He's still on here too."

See I just don't get it.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab is a good site to be fair but nastyness often follows up with abuse from ppl "

But what's the point in being nasty to someone that had nothing to do with you prior to that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me.....

Had the same a few months ago, guy nessaged me had never messaged before or even seen his profile. Opening line "the size of you, who'd fxxk you," or something similar. Funny thing is his two veris were from bbw ladies and a lot bigger than me.

He's still on here too.

See I just don't get it....."

No need for it. We can't b too everyone's taste and I get that. I had never interacted with this person,never seen him on forums etc and boom nasty comment. I just said "block me if it bothers you that much" which he did lol

Thankfully the few good guys outweigh the tossers. Even though I could do with the break from the tossers

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By *arcolemMan
over a year ago

Killarney

I think nasty and abusive people should not be allowed to have a profile on here. Life is tough enough without having to put up with abuse from a site which is supposed to be fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think nasty and abusive people should not be allowed to have a profile on here. Life is tough enough without having to put up with abuse from a site which is supposed to be fun "

Sure even if they get chucked off the site there is nothing stopping them from signing up again with new profile, but they do put a damper on it for others....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you’ve nothing nice to say.. say nothing..

A lot of it has to do with rejection I imagine

Rejection??? I don't get you?

Abusive messages follow rejection emails on here?? I could be wrong

I had never heard from the guy before.....so he certainly had no grievance with me.....

Had the same a few months ago, guy nessaged me had never messaged before or even seen his profile. Opening line "the size of you, who'd fxxk you," or something similar. Funny thing is his two veris were from bbw ladies and a lot bigger than me.

He's still on here too.

See I just don't get it.....

No need for it. We can't b too everyone's taste and I get that. I had never interacted with this person,never seen him on forums etc and boom nasty comment. I just said "block me if it bothers you that much" which he did lol

Thankfully the few good guys outweigh the tossers. Even though I could do with the break from the tossers "

Yeah plenty of good ones on here and they do outweigh the bad ones ..

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By *illium_cobblersMan
over a year ago

swords EI & Derby UK

unfortunately its par for the course here, the attitude also spreads across the place like a cancer. All you can do is block the eejits and move on, hope you find what you after op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"unfortunately its par for the course here, the attitude also spreads across the place like a cancer. All you can do is block the eejits and move on, hope you find what you after op.

"

Thanks, I only on here these days for the banter, have all that I want in real life these days.....

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By *etmebeurfantasyWoman
over a year ago

My town

The internet brings out trolls and cowards who feel there can say anything they want cause hiding behind a phone or keyboard.

If people have nothing nice to say say nothing at all.... it goes on all social media not just on fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The internet brings out trolls and cowards who feel there can say anything they want cause hiding behind a phone or keyboard.

If people have nothing nice to say say nothing at all.... it goes on all social media not just on fab "

I know, just thought would throw it out there,,....

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in


"its nice to be nice, manners go a long way to making new friends

Couldn't agree with u more, I have made so great friends on here (never expected that) it's cos of some of them I am still on here....."

Me also and your one of them X

Don't mind the bad man, I'll spank him for you

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people "

Try to take them for what they are , bitter little people who can't function in the real world , so criticise the world from their parent's basements

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"its nice to be nice, manners go a long way to making new friends

Couldn't agree with u more, I have made so great friends on here (never expected that) it's cos of some of them I am still on here.....

Me also and your one of them X

Don't mind the bad man, I'll spank him for you "

Oh that bad man don't bother me.... I am above all that.... not sure I should let you loose on him though lol...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people

Try to take them for what they are , bitter little people who can't function in the real world , so criticise the world from their parent's basements "

Ha ha ha I like your analogy....gave me a giggle...thanks.... I don't care bout people like that.... might have once upon a time but not any more..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't let it worry you. Some people are just unhappy, nasty people and will try to drag you down to their level. Rise above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure its worth the effort trying to understand the mentality beyond the fact some people are cocknuggets.......

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

You would wonder if when sending a message to someone that the ip address of said sender would appear in the message they sent... would they press send..

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By *he rover returnedWoman
over a year ago

xxx

Ive had a few this week myself and heres my theory for what its worth

1. Irregardless of age its lack of maturity.

2. Frustration at the lack of "action" they are getting

3. Insecurity about themselves, their bodies, communication skills.

4. They're just fucktwats with small cocks

5. Touch of mysoginy

Dont loose sleep over that type. Remember the only person that has the power to effect your self esteem is you...never give a faceless nameless stranger that power

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By *eankaren88Couple
over a year ago

By the sea

You would wonder if when sending a message to someone that the ip address of said sender would appear in the message they sent... would they press send..

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By *DSGCouple
over a year ago

That place in


"its nice to be nice, manners go a long way to making new friends

Couldn't agree with u more, I have made so great friends on here (never expected that) it's cos of some of them I am still on here.....

Me also and your one of them X

Don't mind the bad man, I'll spank him for you

Oh that bad man don't bother me.... I am above all that.... not sure I should let you loose on him though lol... "

Please,pretty please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You would wonder if when sending a message to someone that the ip address of said sender would appear in the message they sent... would they press send.. "

No they would not because they would never say it directly to a persons face. Cowardly fucks. Op don’t mind the see you next Tuesday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's keyboard warrior syndrome !!

These guys sitting on their mobiles sending nasty messages probably have sad little lives in the real world so think it's OK to troll on fab

Or maybe they are generally just horrible people on fab and in the real world

But what I do think is trolls are usually the insecure people

I just ignore it on the odd occasion it happens "

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With the amount of over the top compliments that are given on fab , maybe sometimes we need the odd nasty comment to keep ourselves grounded haha. Personally I have encountered very little abuse even when saying no, the thing that annoys me is guys complaining about the standard of women on the site not being good enough for them when I could guarantee they are still using that one pic from 5 years ago when they didn't have a beer gut but somehow still call themselves athletic on their profile

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By *ustin-SiderMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"With the amount of over the top compliments that are given on fab , maybe sometimes we need the odd nasty comment to keep ourselves grounded haha. Personally I have encountered very little abuse even when saying no, the thing that annoys me is guys complaining about the standard of women on the site not being good enough for them when I could guarantee they are still using that one pic from 5 years ago when they didn't have a beer gut but somehow still call themselves athletic on their profile "

Hmmmmmmm, that has gotten me thinking actually. Maybe time to do some up to date pictures. Lol

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By *emptedoncemoreMan
over a year ago

perth


"So I got a mail the other day from a newbie, his opening Gambit was, "u have a very ugly pussy, why show so much of it". Well another time I could have taken that to heart and it could have set me on a downward spiral of insecurities etc, so I am wondering why do people have to be nasty? The old adage "if u can't say something nice, say nothing" comes to mind.... None of us know what others are going through, a nasty comment could just tip someone over the edge..... I just don't understand the mentality of some people "

Dickheads everywhere and as others have said it's a very nice pussy

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